oliverwrites: My daughters ( 3 of them ) have been through a lot this year. They are not used to daddy not being around ( Me and their mother are currently separated but I am hoping she would change and we would be back together ), so far the seem to be coping fine but I want to make this Christmas an awesome one for them and need gift ideas.
Please give me gift ideas.
I have a budget of 200k for each of them. This includes 100k each for their clothes and shoes for Christmas and New year.
And another 100k to buy them gifts they will like. They all have ulesson tablets so tablets are not options.
They are 7, 4 and 3.
You can take them to a pack for fun rides and seat out entertainment
You can arrange with their mum to take them for shopping and also shop for their mum
Then on their way home after the fun ride in a pack or eatery Let them have a take away pack each
You can do so by visiting may be a Pizza shop and get a pack of pizza each
They can now go home with fun memories of the outing
Another thing is that, since you hope to reunite with their mum in future
Start working towards that with God all things are possible
ademola2017: In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided.
I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday. I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation.
After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant
Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God.
Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all.
I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother.
It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in.
What do you guys think?
You guys have respect for each other That's one of the qualities of marriage
But not being in love with each other is what am still trying to figure out
Well I believe the birth of your baby may bond both of you
GVTAsiwaju: When I was with my wife I never cheated on her, loved her and she knows... I think the only issue was my unstable finance then and her parents ungodly attitude that really irritates me( I should have managed it better though). We have seperated and her divorce case in court but I don't stop thinking about her against all odds.i I have dated NUMEROUS ladies while she left yet it doesn't help me forget, whereas, she never look back...
Divorced persons, how do you forget! I want to feel love again. I cannot marry or be with anyone if I don't love them, sex is truly overrated. Your suggestions pls.
For the fact that the divorce case is still in court She has long moved on
Stop mourning a living being all in the name of missing her
If you don't open your heart for another relationship then you will date yourself
Another option is for you to make money since money is the only thing that caused the separation
You still have a beautiful opportunity to find another woman, but you have to let your ex go So that you can get a replacement
SeaTrade: So was bored today so I said let me go to coldstone today and get something. Got there,stood in line and in front of me was this very gorgeous girl(tall,dark,big yarnsh,fresh skin plus fine face) I initiated conversations, had small talk and told her I will be having whatever she is having.We laughed and all... She asked where i stay i told her and she said hers is close too so we can go together and she will end her ride, I told her okay it's cool. Initially she came for one cup,maybe as she come see me na wetin make she increase her order to 2 cups Omo when the bill came,the bastard weh dey counter combine all our things come give me billing of N15,500 for 3 cups ice cream that he knows very well I came alone. There and then I told the fool we are not together and I will be paying for mine only. E cone tell me N4,100 ,I pay then come wait the girl she pay N11k+ with her card while I watched So me and her come go outside so I come ask am make we go meet her bolt na so that we can cancel the ride,she say no say she's not cancelling again that I should leave it I tell am okay,jump inside my car and zoom zoom zoom.... The girl go say she jam better bastard today,make I come pay 15k for ice cream when I am not mad.
Lol But na you go find trouble
You wouldn't have just gisted her in the first place
Once you say simple hello
Na one chance be that, but am glad you played a smarter one on her
Osamudamen: A young man from Edo state bagged Ph.D degree in the same field with his wife at 51st convocation ceremony at University of Nigeria.
The wrote on his social media page on Facebook
"The journey was not easy but God came through.
In 2020 he hinted that he bought a brand new big camry spider car from a friend who just imported it to Nigeria and sold it two weeks after it came. Just so they can fund their PhD. No one knew about this not even his family member.
He said"I paid the biggest sacrifice to ensure that we saw this day.
Meet Dr. Austine Imoniche Oviosun and Dr. Mrs Ezinne Chidinma Oviosun
I was in a relationship with a guy so early last month I discovered I was pregnant. It took me unawares and I wasn't prepared for it so I told my guy that I'm not ready for such that I want to terminate it. He agreed and I took misoprostol. It worked but I bled for like 4 weeks both heavy and light.
So after the medical abortion, my guy started regretting and saying we should have kept the baby. He started encouraging me to get pregnant again that he wants the child and will fulfill the marriage plans. Surprisingly I just found out I'm pregnant again so fast. Now he's saying we should get rid of it. From the look of things he's no longer interested in the pregnancy.
I'm planning to take the misoprostol tomorrow. But deep down I want this child. And my question is, is there going to be any health challenge for me if I should use another misoprostol this month? Seeing that I used it last month
Your life Your pregnancy Your abortion Your womb Your womb destroyer Your business Deal with it You go get sense bye force
[quote author=lavylilly post=127150954][/quote]You are the one in best position to understand if you are really making money here and doesn't really need to relocate and get stranded there
If your wife is done with child bearing and you have a good hand to assist you with the nurturing of the children
And your wife income doesn't take the family anywhere Let her be the one to relocate
If she can make it there, move her children to meet her there
Then you run your business here and still visit them on regular basis
Testiebobo: This is one of the big problems i got. My bestie is a girl, we are very close but no romantic gems. I dont want to date her, but i still get jealous of her when i see other guys around her. I think am ENVIOUS
Suncity1705: Please fellow nairalanderz..I have been a ghost reader for some now and seeing how issues are been treated here gave me the gut to fully join and seek advice on way forward concerning what am about to commit myself into... sorry for the typo error and bashing is welcome as well......So am a young man in my early 30s from the Eastern part of the country ... currently here in the middle belt...Yet married and there is this girl I have been nurturing to marry though from the same part of the country.. should be 21 by next year...I have been a family friend with the parents for years now and this said lady is still a virgin till date and hard working ... started going out with her last year of which the parents was against it but I don't really know all of a sudden the called me and ask about my plans towards their daughter and I replied by saying if all goes as planned I would love to marry her... since then they reduced their bashing towards the girl anytime she goes out knowing fully well she could be with me... Now the issues am seeing now are these***this very girl loves alcohol more than me being the man and can give her last card to the parent on their flimsy request... this particular habit of giving the parents cash assistance is no crime if only the established something for her, but no way I was the one that gave her cash on several occasions to start little stuff in other to cater for herself because am not the type that loves giving money every now and then for up keep.. reason being that all my life I never really dated..so see such a girl and been close to them I never felt any harm in trying to bring her up to speed of which the father per say is always against me giving her such amount of money reason that I should try and do the needful .... but in all this they always keep collecting the money until she folds up...even in my presence to the extent of going to borrow from random people just to meet her parents needs...I warned her on several occasions but to no avail.... currently she broke and I for one is not going to give her a dime again...they parents are expecting me to come and do the needful... funny parts is this very girl can be sturbone to the core... nowadays she flares up at any slightest mistake or joke....So house what should I do.... continue the relationship or find my way because it's eaten me up and I really plan on settling down by next year...so please help a soul
You are the one to tell us what you want as a man
Do you want to marry a drunk as a wife
Then if you are ok with that speed up your own drinking habit to meet up with her standard
If you can afford to keep sorting her parents for life
Then you are capable
If you can't read the hand writing on the wall, then you need help
codedgalaxy: Nlanders pls a quick question. My guy straffed one "ent" yesterday. He told me that normally the babe was sweet, but his concern now, is that during sex there were milky stuffs like "garri" coming out of her vj. Pls what is this, is it okay? and has anyone experiensed this before?
She is infected with candidiasis, let her get a treatment
Its caused by sexual infection and not toilet infection
Beverlyjean: According to her...she had been begging him to Bury their son...then she said after begging him, she went to the police commissioner, and the police commissioner said the police had released the corpse already....now does that make any sense??
So why did she go to the police commissioner?? She contradicted herself
What she meant was that Mohbad should be buried by both of them
That his father is withhelding his corpse and doesn't want her to know much about his plans
Psalme91: I am tired of my marriage my husband has no consideration for me or our children he cheat like there's no tommorow he insults me like I am a piece of dirt . I am tired of treating infection all the time I am scared he may infect me with hiv soon. I am just tired of the marriage I want to leave I have a business but I am scared because I don't know how will I cope with 8 children all alone my business will not be sufficient for me to take care of 8 children alone. My health is at risk now because of my bp is high and the doctor advised me to stop stressing myself to avoid having a stroke. But I cant even rest because of my husband habit and both families are aware of the situation in our house but my husband isn't ready to listen to anyone. please how do I go through this ? I need your candid advice.
Quite unlike me
Honestly, I don't have any pity or advice for you, for birthing 8 children
galileo180: Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.
My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.
Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.
Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.
A woman is threatening a guy that she wants to cancel a wedding and he is confused
He should just approve it naw
Till he gets a person that will understand that his work is where he will get paid to feed the house
Can't they just fix themselves up with a date that is convenient for him
Keepamsafe: For two weeks now, my next door neighbor who is a young single lady has been constantly bringing different meals for me after cooking. Please note: I have never asked her for food before, as I cook at home and enjoy doing my things myself.
The second time she brought me a meal she wore a skimpy dress. I didn’t mind tho, I just told her she is a very good cook and I enjoyed the first meal. Since then, she’s been bringing different dishes to me now. Sometimes she even calls to know if im back from work that she’s cooking something.
Also note, I have never given her any money for this meals she’s been giving me.
My question now is, should I continue eating? do I have anything to be scared of? Could there be another motives behind this her kindness? Or maybe im over thinking?
Rebuker: Nigerian soldiers caught a young guy wearing a short camo, asked him to pull the shorts and tear them.
In a video currently circulating on the internet, some Nigerian soldiers were seen harassing a young man for wearing camo shorts.
The soldiers asked the young guy to empty the pockets, which he did. Subsequently, he was asked to pull down the shorts and tear them.
One of the soldiers was heard asking his colleague to bring scissors from the car. Another soldier instructed him to tear the shorts after the young guy had pulled them down. The young man was filmed making efforts to tear the shorts with his hands.
However, this has sparked mixed reactions as many blame the Nigerian soldiers for such an act.
sheldonbbt: As a married man, what do you do when you realize your wife is self centered? Marriage is just a year old.
She is quick to question when I need to send money to my family. I transfer 40% of my monthly salary to her for savings as I am not so good with money, but when it comes to her family, she is very swift.
I intend to stop giving her the savings.
If you go by your last statement, then start saving by yourself so that you don't come here with another story that the money you are saving with her can't be accounted for
At this point, you have to stop telling her how and when you send money to your parents, it's not even necessary she knows
As for her parents, you are not owning them But anytime you wish to send to them also do that behind her
The less she knows about your charity gift the less self centered she will be
NdubisiCharles: Good day pals, I have a sister whose husband abandoned for the past 8 yrs now, with kids, male and female, the boy is now 9yrs, while the girl is now 8 yrs, my sis was abandoned after giving birth to the little girl. She single handedly took the children far away and keep raising them up till date, now this is happening.
Yesterday, I received a call from my young sis, saying that her forgotten husband just called and was pleading for her return, that what will she do, that she needs my advice as senior, for me not to fall into conclusion I gave her 48 hours to reply to her, .....
Today I called the man (husband) he sounds so calm, "he said he need them back, he told me that he never chase my sis away, that it was my sis that carry her bag and left his house. Ran away with the 2kids, that he paid my sis bride price, he has visited my family for reconciliation but sis said she ain't going back that hunger is in the house, he admitted that then he was broke, "that he is not a drunker, womanizer, fetish, or never lay hand on my sis, and that he is God fearing man" only that he has no money when asked my sis she confirmed it.
Please friends advice me on what to do
That man never shown any sign of seriousness for the fact that up till now he can't fix up himself
He is expected to sound calmly because he is looking for a way to come back since he is not different from a wonderer
Now he said he never chased his wife out, that she is the one that packed out
Ok it that's the case, what efforts did he make to bring them back
Maybe nothing, then he relax and enjoyed his freedom and hope to start another half marriage life with another unlucky woman
Ok, at the end, he just woke up one morning and realize that he has been lost and wants to find his root that's why he is seeking to come back as a *chaff not a wheat*
Your sister must have given heart out to another person but keeps the relationship coded
Will he be able to be the slave of the house while your sister remains loyal to that person that kept her going all these while she was in trauma
Will your sister shelter him and feed him?, of course he will pretend he is looking for a job, but so far your sister can afford to feed the family, pay rent and school fees, what makes you think the man will ever hustle
He will say to himself that, there is no need for him to stress himself since she is capable
Is he coming back to her to monitor her life and eves drop on all her calls to know when she is speaking with other people who stood by her during those past difficult times, there by suspecting all her movements and calls
Is he now coming back as a liability or as a father, who the children already knew that he abandoned them and has no impact in their lives and was never there for them Or he thinks the children doesn't understands because they are kids
Then tomorrow, when the children remains loyal to their mother, he will twart it by saying that, their mother taught them to disrespect him
I think that man should fix himself up,
Pay there school fees upfront for a whole session
Get accommodation for them and come back properly for them to reunite with him
Alternatively, if she wants to accept him back and continue carrying her cross *Na she Sabi*
Lady intentionally destroys TV during argument with husband. The lady who was aware that it was all captured on video, told her husband that she is doing it to piss him off. She said "Daniel (her son) video me"
Pamfresh: He borrows from friends and loan sharks. He was in seminary school so ppl thought borrowing him money was contributing to God's work not knowing he was betting with the money.
Now that he is out of seminary school, what does he do to help himself
There is a man living with 3 children, a teenage daughter and two sons. His wife is late. He's about 45yrs old. He does all kinds of menial job.. I mean anything, from riding okada to clearing grass or labourer for bricklayer..... anything at all to put food on the table for him and his children.
He's someone that usually come to me sometimes for advice. Last year I advised him to put his children in public school and he did.
Most times when you see him, he is always thinking and talking to himself now and he wasn't like this before.
Everyone have noticed that he's depressed.
The last few weeks have become worse, u see him walking up and down asking everyone if there is anything he can do to get paid.
Saw me yesterday and he just said " kini mo leshe oti su mi".
I looked at his teary eyes and I told him, I will get back to him.
I don't even know what to tell him anymore, cos I know almost all his struggles.
What advise can I give.
He needs a woman who will be a mother figure to the children and a companion to him.
He is lonely and suffering with no woman to calm his nerves down
Family › Re: What Are The Pros And Cons Of Marrying A Divorced Man by frozen70(f): 1:47pm On Nov 30, 2023
.... continue the relationship or find my way because it's eaten me up and I really plan on settling down by next year...so please help a soul