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Hallysugarcandy:
Is simply because their husbands are not satisfying them in the bedroom during intimacy.
As a married man, try and give it to your wife very well.
By "give it to her" I mean sleep with her in a way that she can reach orgasm after sex.
I know a lot of men complain that their wives lose interest in sex after some time in marriage. The reason is because they do not enjoy sex with you, either they don't enjoy it at all or they don't get satisfied or orgasm.

Sex is truly a vital part of marriage for both husband and wife and if one party is constantly unsatisfied and never gets any sexual pleasure or satisfaction then they are bound to lose interest.

Talk to your wife, let her tell you what she likes you to do in the bedroom when you are intimate and please do those things so she can keep coming back for more instead of complaining of headache or pretending to be on her period just to avoid you.

You made a very valid point. The problem now is that pride will never allow some men to accept the fact that, every woman has a way she wants her man to make love to her and make her come

Once you fail to let her express how she wants it, you have automatically delete your sex life from her, she will now be there for no benefit from sex

The next thing, she will loose total interest and there is nothing you can do to bring it back

Even if you choose to get it outside, she may also choose that route and if she gets it right there, it belongs to another

Learn to communicate with your woman and make her tell you how she wants it and what buttons to press

Familymatterss:
I'm facing a situation where my dad's accounts are being accessed without our knowledge since he passed away. The 1st wife and her children have taken control of his personal account, debit card, and even his pension. It's important for everyone involved to be aware of what's happening with the accounts. I want to approach them calmly and respectfully to discuss this matter and seek transparency. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated...

This is a very sensitive matter

If you approach them you become their enemy

I think you should report to the bank, then the bank will block the account.

Then you guys will call for a family meeting where you all will inform them that you all need to know what's in the account

Tell them in that meeting that you guys will delegate people who will go to bank to know how to process the documents from the court, I think it's called administrator if he died without a will

Then the court will issue you guys letter to the bank on how to close the account and whatever that is there, has to be shared to the number of wives your dad have

Cluckinbird:
I (29) female currently going for a second degree, due to some reasons I travelled home. Now my mum won’t let me go back to my base in preparation for my exams and sch runs she’s saying If I have to go it has to be with her tagging along which isn’t appropriate. I feel tied down cause she is used to getting her way and every decision I allowed her to make in my life has always gone south I am training myself for this degree. Tonight she raised a topic of my bf not picking her call all the time I tried to see reasons with her I don’t know the reason for him ignoring her calls besides I don’t think it’s appropriate she communicates with him so often

I am still wondering what she is calling your boyfriend for or what she has to be discussing with him

As for your academics, just promise her that you will pay her another visit when next you are chanced

NaijaCoverBlog:
Danish aid worker, Anja Loven Ringgren Loven and her team have rescued a malnourished little girl abandoned and left to die in Akwa State after being branded a witch.

Loven, who disclosed this on Thursday, March 28, 2024, said the child was found in a near death situation.



https://www.facebook.com/share/p/HdpHohT668VHGhXp/?mibextid=oFDknk

Yet they have adult witches among them still living with them and creating havoc in people's life

NaijaCoverBlog:
Source: https://punchng.com/man-held-for-allegedly-beating-wife-to-death-in-lagos/

When will men learn to walk away when an argument becomes hot, instead of staying back to prove that he is a man and can't allow her to talk to him anyhow.

You guys should just walk away and save you a life jail term

The court is no longer interested in the argument once death is involved

TheMostComplex1:
The below hmmmmmm
The real culprits will rather drink snipper than surrendering themselves to the authority because they know that they will pass through painful death even seconds

That's a fact, lol

Yelight:
As much as I agree with most of what you said, THEY ARE ALL INNOCENT UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY because he who alleges must prove beyond doubt.

Exactly

Vikalinda:
Big wahala for him.

Nothing like that
He came to clear his name probably because he is not involved in that wicked act

But he is highly needed because he may have a clue to whatever led to such killing, which will aid the investigation

For now all of them are guilty untill proven otherwise

As a traditional ruler, you must account for your community, through the informations you gather

So he did well and more heads will roll

The real culprits will rather drink snipper than surrendering themselves to the authority because they know that they will pass through painful death every seconds

Irijosa777:
Greetings, I will make it short as possible.
My marriage will be coming up next week. Day before yesterday my boss call me to his office and ask me what do I want him to do for me concerning my marriage. I was short of words, he asked me the second time what do I want from him. I felt humble, surprised and speechless at the same. He then asked me if I have bought my wedding suit I said "yes sir!" He then asked me again "so what do you want me to do for you?"

Since I could not speak he told me to go and think about it. I'm planning to meet him tomorrow.

One mind is telling me as ask much ( since he is very rich) but it will sound greedy. One mind is telling me to ask just as much as I need but then it will appear I wasted opportunity. He is a rare philanthropist, very nice and love blessing people. Working in his company is more than a privilege...

The truth is that there's no nothing my boss can't afford but I don't want to be greedy.

If you were in shoe what will you do?

Please help me push to Fp mod

If he is that rich, tell him to sponsor a vacation trip for your honey moon in UK or America or Canada

Alternatively, let him sponsor the caterer who will handle the food

Otulaeke:
Please I am sorry if I may write this without going into much details.

So I met this my friend last year. Barely 3 months everything I gat started crashing. I didn't doubt my instincts when I finally distanced myself from him and immediately I started bouncing back. Now the probs is , I usually or accidentally jam him on my way each time I step out from home because we lives almost same street.

And so it won't look as if I hate him, if we come across each other, we tend to exchange greetings and most times follow to wherever I am going. And each time this happens , I experience one or two backwardness. I have carefully examined things and finally come to the conclusion that this really happens each time we met and exchange handshake.

Yesterday, I saw him and tried all my best to Dodge him , but las las he finally caught me and we followed to my destination. Getting back home , everything I worked for last weekend just crashed . I lost out so bad . Why must it be yesterday. For complete one month everything is going fine . Why yesterday that I met him.

A friend of his ran away from him, one day the guy told me he saw him in his dream pointing gun at him . Then I also had the same dream similar to what his ran away friend told me . He (my friend) was pointing gun at me in that dream . It was then I started being afraid of the guy , that was before my business crashed last year.

My kidbro saw him in dream serving me a plate of food . But instead of food in the plate , it was fire 🔥 burning in the plate and according to my brother I was being flogged to eat that food and I was sweating and crying.

With all this what do you think?

Note: he isn't doing better in life . Some times he asks me for help . And I feel like I really need to disassociate myself from him totally.

And even if I want to disassociate myself from him totally, how am I going to do it in a way that it won't look as if I hate him. I need your opinions

If you can afford to pack out to another location, do so, that's one of the best way to stay far from him and his bad luck

Coldkev17:
Okay. The girl had damage it face id barely 3 weeks he bought it.. Na d money e dey find now

Him never see anything, make him dey play

confessionsad:
My younger sister has recently begun spending time with a neighbor in our apartment complex, a situation I find troubling. Despite her assurances that their friendship is harmless and she understands what she's involved in, I have reservations. This neighbor, who is part of a confra, engages in drug use, smoking hemp, taking Colorado among other concerning behaviors, and my sister has been increasingly involved with his circle of friends, which has greatly influenced her behavior and character

Over the past year, my concern for my sister has grown as I've noticed a shift in her attitude and behavior, which seems influenced by her new acquaintances. Our conversations about this issue have led to tension between us. Recently, this tension escalated into a physical altercation of me hitting her, which I deeply regret. Following our confrontation, my sister sought the assistance of the boy, who, along with his friends, retaliated against me. This situation left me feeling isolated and unsure of what just happened

I have reached out to our parents for support, but so far, they have not intervened in a way that has led to a resolution. It feels as though I am being positioned as the problem for trying to address these concerns. Despite the challenges, my primary goal remains to find a way to ensure my sister's safety and well-being, even as it seems we've drifted apart since she started associating with this group.

If your sister is above 18yrs, just leave her alone

Experience is the best teacher

kereman1:
If u truly want to carry your child and you also love your wife, bro just get a second wife.

Life no hard na you wey dey pursue true love.

Stop ill advicing people who need pure and genuine advice

It could be you

Jewessgratitud3:
You won't understand.

I think you need to just be pregnant and see if you will be free that period of pregnancy

If after giving birth it continues, then you already have your own baby, you can then do whatever you want to do with your womb

At least you would have gotten a child of your own, irrespective of who the secret father will be

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Well wether you are wrong or right is not the issue now, the issue is that you should thank your God that nothing happened to her that night

If anything had happened to her, that's when you will understand that there are certain laws and rights for everyone in this country

gfelo:
The daughter is AA and i am AA but

Am glad both of you are AA, it's time for DNA test if your son is AS

Scamburster:
Your logical reasoning is top notch.

Thanks

gfelo:
Please nairalanders my girl friend had a baby for me 3years ago and I promise to marry her, but due to the nature of my work am not always around, suddenly the mother in law called me and ask me about my genotype that the school the went to enrolled my baby is asking for my genotype.

I can't really understand why the school is asking for my genotype.

Please doctors and teachers help me.

Mod please to front-page

I think their daughter and your son maybe AS, they are worried that they want to be sure that you are not AS

BUT I will advise you do your Genotype findings on her and your son

Because if your son is AA they shouldn't have be worried about knowing about yours

But definitely, yoyrwife to be is surely AS

Muyiddeen:
Hello guys I need your advice I met a girl ask her out so she told me she have a boyfriend but her boyfriend doesn't take the relationship serious reason because he tell lies and womanize alot.... she don't want to continue the relationship with him anymore...

so, I convince her that my own time with her will be different from her boyfriend and she accepted me and we started the relationship the relationship was going well smooth and nice along the line she requested for some money and also she asked me to get her a new phone because the phone was bad so for the sake of love and care I have for her I provided her the money she requested and also provide her a better phone....

recently, she begin to act up somehow whenever I called her on phone telling her that I would like to see her she will say she's busy, she's always busy so I begin to suspect her that was happening so during the weekend she told me that her ex-boyfriend is back again and both of them were together when she was telling me she's busy because she doesn't want her ex to know what is happening that was the reason so she told me was was busy with work....

so she pleaded that we should end the relationship we just started, since we have been dating I have spent money on her and I have also get her a better phone
my question now the phone I bought for her should I collect it back or I should leave the phone with her let her go with it and continue her relationship with her former guy

She never wanted any relationship with you, probably she was holding onto your relationship request while the other guy was playing foul game on her

Now the guy is back to her to deal with her again and she has to drop you to concentrate on the one she prefers

So I think you should just ignore her and wait for her as she will definitely come back to you when the other guy deals with her

By then you will still welcome her but no shishi for her again even if you sleep with her steadily

If possible invite another girl when she comes around

That's to show that you know what you are doing

I hate when ladies takes a man's gentility for stupidity

Coldkev17:
Dear Nl family, please what can you talk about this, no be juju be this?

There is this friend of mine, 20 years old, who's just won 750K bet yesterday (his biggest win this year) and he's planning to use all the money to get an iphone 12 pro max for his Partner who lives in Lagos, this guy is from an middle-class family who sells provisions, but with this economy crisis, he can't steal enough to stake bet because sales has drop rapidly, he's so broke that he don't have close to 35k in aza last week. This winning gave him a life line but it seems he's blind folded with love because he was desperate to get the phone today. This girl relocated to Lagos just few months ago so it's a long distance relationship so far
He said if he buy this phone, he won't have upto 5k in aza

Mind you he's not yet in University

Leave him, let him decide what he wants and face the effect on him

Some people are responsible for their own downfall

sacajawea:
One Strong Spirit is Just Pushing me, to lavish and spend money on women.
Squander, Lavish, Spoil..

Dey play, you are on your own

Uche7779:
Hello Guys,

I just violated one of my biggest rules in life and I have been sober ever since.

I got into Abuja on an official assignment, A bit bored, I asked my ex to come over just to have a harmless talk. The first day she came to the officer with her daughter and it was purely just reminiscing and having a harmless laugh. We had lunch and she left.

Two days later, I invited her to my hotel and she came and the unimaginable happened.

I have been filled with guilt, my head is so full with regrets. Another man's wife.

I need help to get over this, who can I talk to please. It appears I am depressed. Can someone please make me feel better. Please!

That second invitation was just for fun and you got what you desired

There is nothing like harmless visit

If you invite her again you will keep having her again

If you don't invite her or honour her request to visit you, then you are ready to defeat that urge

You are the sollution to the problem

uchennasteven74:
2008 Nigeria used Toyota RAV4
4 Plug
First body
Leather interior
Buy and drive
Location: Lagos State

If you were smart, you would have removed that sticker of V6 before snapping the picture then when the buyers comes you will now open the engine to see that it's not four plugs

Your post is misleading with wrong information

advanceDNA:
.this is 2024....not 1989....

Women fvck around like men

..Women cheat for fun too....

In that case, anyone that wants to cheat, let him or her cheat

Its their private life business not ours

I don't know why they are cheating and I don't want to know either

lordnkem000:
I agree
Men cheat for fun and ego, that's why a woman shouldn't be bothered about her man cheating because it means nothing, though i don't advice cheating, but you see women cheating in marriage, wahala dey because you have said it all yourself. I just wish cheating wasn't part of marriage issues.
Thanks a lot for your input

Welcome

lordnkem000:
Exactly my dear, like someone mentioned down there, it's good for people like myself to know what we're getting ourselves into, that's why we seek help from elders here. Because I am shocked at the rate at how married couples are miserable these days

Yes,
But people will still marry and still survive the challenges of marriage

Men cheats and to them is just for fun and they see it as a game

When a woman cheats, she cheats because her emotions are being troubled by probably her man and so may be ♥ broken and wants to be with another man to fill the gap for her

But whatever the reason for cheating is best known to those that cheats

lordnkem000:
I have been observing my married friends, colleagues & even neighbors around and I noticed deep down their marriages were all lacking discipline, they cheat on each other, lie, they pretend and most of them are so miserable.

Funny thing is two of my friends are not even up to 3yrs in marriage and they are so tired. Yesterday I met an old classmate of mine and he told me the girl I saw him with wasn't his wife, just for knacks, that he's been married for 1yr and 9months but he's tired of his marriage. It made me scared because here i am thinking of finding a wife and people in it are wanting out.

So I'm asking, what could be the problem with staying married these days?

People who have been married for 10+ years what is your secret? I'm curious to learn a thing or two

People rush into marriage with out being prepared for the challenges that comes with marriage

Testiebobo:
I promised my brother that i will assist him to get a laptop for his design business by contributing half of the money. Th HP system cost 120K, so i should pay 60k.

But it's over 2months now and the money i was expecting did'nt arrive. He called me yesterday to blame me for being the cause why he had already spent half of his contribution.

The last text he sent to me on whatsapp was"thanks for the delay!". And this morning i discovered he had already blocked me. I only saw my messages on his dm and none of his texts were there.

Just ignore that message from him but don't take it lightly with him

Since he has blocked you, just save your money and when he unblock tans still need the laptop, send that money through any of your sibblings to send to him and keep prove of tranfer

Let that person be your witness that you assisted him to buy laptop

soulhelper481:
You are right.

Thank you, for reasoning with me

Mimicle101:
Lol.. take it easy. you dont know nothing about the man. and i beat. you have never seen a beast before

Lol, it hurts me when women can't see danger and take decision

Uzorbaby:
Good evening house, I opened a new account for this issues. This is my ninth years in marriage with 3 kids and since the third year till now the problem I keep having with my husband is infidelity, when ever I catch him he apologises but still continues. Recently I found out he is into a single mother who claim to be a deconess and he opened a business for her and doesn't feel apologetic about it, this same lady when I had not discovered their affairs he sends her his last card and begs me for money. He calls her everyday , video calls her and sends her money frequently.right now I feel faustrated and depressed. I will really love to leave him and rent a house close to my shop but the amount to do that will greatly affect my business if I do that because I just started it 3 months ago. I just need someone I can talk to, gist about normal stuff of life so that my mind can move away from him pending when I will be able to rent a house. I just want to be happy

I think the way to go is to forget about the idea of packing out

Stay there so far he hasn't chased you out

Secondly he is living a flirting life and there is absolutely nothing you can do to stop him until he is tired of such

Lastly, you have to over look that thing he does that breaks your heart
Just assume he has a mistress, obtain anything you can obtain from him through your children to start saving incase he finally leaves you for that other woman

So many women in marriage are enduring shits

Take charge of your emotions and take care of your children

Jewessgratitud3:
My line was barred last weekend and I've been receiving warning on other one I'm still managing at the moment. I did my NIN some three , four years ago and linked my both lines ( or so I thought) but for some stupid reasons and the Nigerian factor, my line was barred. I was later told that what I have is not valid that it was BVN generated. I was annoyed. So after I got barred, I went to the NIMC office and was given an appointment for next month.

Now, since the other network is seriously warning me to get my line linked and this time I don't want to be caught unawares because the appointment date is still far, I told my idowu to help me use her NIN to get a line I can be using in case anything happens before I get my NIN issue resolved, she outrightly turned me down claiming my immediate elder sister told her to avoid doing such things because of fraud and that if any issue comes up with my line, she'll be the running around to resolve it and she doesn't have that time.
I now said my elder sister was referring to outsiders abi shey na me wan defraud you nii.. this girl said no. That she doesn't want any fraud connected to her. I just told her to forget and stop explaining I don't wanna hear it.

Please does she have a point or Im the one not being reasonable here? I mean.. Im her sister and she knows I will never do anything shady that will implicate her. Omo I just weak.

Does she really have a point here? Are they valid?

Whether she has a point or not
Just use your mum NIN to register for another line pending when you will be sorted out

Her decision can be a conspiracy between her and her sister to keep you in distress

One day she will need your help in distress then you serve her breakfast