Kyng1: Good morning Nairalanders, I will try to make this as brief as possible.
It happened last two week's Friday, after sleeping with a prostitute, the sex laster about 49 mins and after ejaculation I saw thick red blood all over my dick, it happened that she was on her period, and hide it from me, which she denied that she thought it has completely dried off, I'm mad at myself because I didn't use a condom. "I haven't been using condom with her though, I last had sex with her about a month plus that was the evening of my marriage day, since then I haven't called or had sex with her, until I went back last two weeks Friday.
So after everything, I went home that evening and took 3 cipro tab, next day, my groin was extremely painful and the lymph nodes on my groin swelled. Two days later I developed a mild fever, accompanied by a light headache, bitter mouth and 4 day's later I had sore throat, and swollen lymph nodes on my both under jaws and front of my right ear. Until now my throat is still sore.
I have taken full pack of cipro tab and other drugs but it's not working, I did syphilis text on Saturday and it came back negative, yesterday I went for more text but the lab attendant isn't around, so I met the Dr on duty and explained everything that happened, he told me not to waste my money to conduct more tests that what I have is chicken pox and not an STD infection, I disagreed because I have previously had chicken pox about 11 years ago, although I had just one boil close to my nose back then when I contracted it.
So he gave me these drugs below, I swallowed it last night and applied the lotion, but instead of the boils to dry down, they became more fresher and ripe when I woke up this morning.
I went to another lab this morning and the Dr I met told me that it's chicken pox, he gave me drugs and injection. I'm highly hoping for it to be effective.
Please, Dr's in the house is this really chicken pox? They're all over my face, little on my head, arms, legs, stomach, beards and back.
If you survive this embarrassment, you will have sense bye force
HelpfulBro: True that's what's on my mind seriously
No matter the condition, they will survive, but because you wake up and see them every day, in that same house, it breaks your heart
I was waiting where I can read that you are already in school but you didn't put that path, that means all the money you made goes to the family pot and nothing in place for you
This year Jamb is almost gone, get a Jamb form next year and prepare to go into school, from there, you will start living alone to plan for your future and still train yourself in school
As for your sisters, you gave them money for Jamb, who will train them in the university, do you think university fundings are like KG class
Let them go and learn a skill to keep them busy, from there they will learn social life and start meeting people and get some experience
You need to breath so that you can be strong to face all the challenges
At your present age, you have the responsibility of a married man of 40yrs
Vincenzomum: I am an African but not Nigerian based in Italy. I was married to an Nigerian man ( Igbo) we had 5 children 4 together. Our marriage wasn't perfect but I ied my best to make it work for the sake of our children. Although a lot of my friends have warned me that my husband doesn't love me that he will abandoned me one day and marry a woman from his country because that's what Nigerian men does to foreigners. I was so angry with them and I told them my husband is different from those men who bave abandoned their wives and children and I even distanced myself from those friends thinking that they were jealous of me. I received the biggest shock of my life in January when he lied to me that he was travelling to the UK to visit his brother and his family who just relocated there. He left the house kissing me and the kids goodbye telling us he will be back in 3 weeks which 3 weeks had turned to almost 4 months. The truth is he relocated to the UK to join his wife and children who has just relocated to the UK from Nigeria. I had no idea he married a second wife in Nigeria whom she bear 2 sons for him and I found when he left. I am heartbroken he left with a big responsibility raising 5 children alone without any single help from him. He doesn't even call to know about his children welfare I know I am lucky to be abroad I work and my children don't lack anything. They will grow up fine and become useful in the world by God's grace. I know the struggle would have been worst in Africa raising 5 children alone I wouldn't have been able to do it alone that's why I am thankful to be abroad but I am still heartbroken by his action. I am totally depressed sometime I feel like given up but I have to be strong for my children. My advice to Nigerian men abroad please please I beg you in the name of God if you are not ready to be with foreigners do not date or marry them with false hope then to abadoned them later. Remember you have sisters and daughters too.
Chukwuka319: So terribly horribly horrible news. But let's analyse. Let me drop family curses aside, Witchcraft activities and other Satanic operations aside. Who knows how many abortions the lady committed in the past during her days of fast lane life? And the man,who knows how many girls he impregnated, abandoned with the babies, even encouraged the mothers to abort, gave sufficient funds for the abortions. Who knows if the lady has given birth before out of wedlock and dumped the baby in the bush or refuse dump, leaving it to the mercy of the elements of the Weather and wild animals. Oftentimes men and women commit atrocities in the past and then seem to forget. Later when judgement for sins of the past come knocking,they seem to be lost as in how the problems came. Forget all the Nollywood crappy storylines Aborting even a single baby can bring devastating consequences because the Word says in EZEKIEL 35:6"Therefore as I live,saith the Lord GOD,I will prepare thee unto blood, and blood shall pursue thee: sith thou hast not hated blood, even blood shall pursue thee. He who has ears,let him hear. Life doesn't go like Nollywood craps portray it.
You are just a waste of personality, just go back and read the useless and senseless write up you posted. You lack sense of reasoning.
Work on your intelligence because you don't have what it takes for one to reason before talking
LegendHero: What is Governor of Osun state thinking before doing this public display of affection. Is this to certify Titilola as the official First Lady of Osun state?
I feel sorry for Ngozi Adeleke right now coz after Osun state governor spokesperson there her under the bus, the governor himself is now certifying it that he indeed gave that statement about Titilola being the only recognized First Lady.
That's one of the bitter side of polygamous marriage
0lubuk0l4: Help. That's what I need, I really need help. At this point, I am completely fed up. I graduated from school last year. While I was in school, my parents especially my father controlled my relationship with other people and made sure I had no friends in school to 'distract' me. Well, since they didn't stay in school with me, I made some good friends and well, just never spoke to anyone when I was home on holiday. Now I have finished school, I have nowhere to hide, I don't even talk to my friends from school again. I am lonely, really lonely. If someone as much as says hi to me, they become bad people. For my NYSC, my dad paid a really huge sum to make sure I served in Lagos, then he made sure I got posted to his workplace for my PPA. I didn't say anything, just let him have his way. I made three really good friends in camp, they were really good and easy going people but my dad decided that they were ritualists and only wanted to lure me out to cut my breasts and my private parts and use me for rituals or prostitution or even kidnap me. So I didn't talk to them again because I just wanted peace. Till now they still try to call and text me to check up on me. Now that I'm working in his office, I can't even talk to anybody, because apparently they are all bad people. We had an hangout planned and my dad made fun of me and refused to give me permission to go at my age of 21! I'm honestly fed up and I don't know what to do anymore. This is really affecting my mental health and my social life.
Wait, what stops you from chatting with your friends at least it shouldn't really be regular calls
Secondly, you have to find a way of relating with them because your dad won't marry you
Thirdly respect them but seat them down and let them know how you feel about them caging you
Because when it will be too late they will deny that they weren't the one that brought this upon you
You can still go for your masters and use that opportunity to wise up
immortalcrown: Okay. Now, I have gotten a better understanding of your situation. I do not really know what to suggest regarding the loans.
But can you go for a proper bank loan to settle the loan companies and gradually settle the bank? I believe microfinance banks have better interest rates and friendlier payment methods. Those loan companies operating with apps are better in terms of quick processing of loans. But their payment options are harsher.
Since payment is your major challenge, consider using microfinance banks.
Who will guarantee a Debtor to take a loan to pay loan, he should just take this to his immediate family there is no way they will not do something, even if it's half of it
I think you are making mockery of God for creating a beautiful being like you and if you don't love yourself the way you are, then science have made it possible for you to change your present look and if you can't afford the surgery then appreciate the way God made you to be because your are beautiful in his euesy
Meanwhile you can be putting on a touch of make up, a light one to spark your beauty
pvirus: Sometimes last year i met this lady and we started dating a few months. The thing is she honestly summarized her past to me in the early days of the relationships; as i was madly in love, I didn’t bother to ask her for details. Several months later, talks and my personal curiosity led to me knowing the full details of the past, and since then it has been VERY tough for me to digest, been depressed. The past is not that bad, just that she has been in three relationships before me (two of them are with people that i know in real life). The thoughts of her escapades in those relationships have just been disturbing my mind since then. One of her ex is someone we both always see every Sunday and since the revelation of the details, it has been tough for me to process that such person has sampled my woman before. But in general, i love and find happiness in this woman. I kind of see the future with her. I want to be with her but this thought just disturbs me and mess with my head. I recently start seeing her as a leftover of some guys
I need yall advice on this dilemma that i am in. What should i do?
This is one of the reasons why people keep things to themselves and allow you to find out by yourself, which is more hurting
You are also someone left over and everyone is some one left over, unless both male and female are virgings when they met
So you either choose to loose her and get an unknown lady and not find thr peace you are enjoying in this present relationship
Or you keep her and cherish her that others were not able to discover what you saw in her that made you to keep her
You owe no one any explanation about your choice of partner as a matter of fact, they will respect your choice of her and keep the distance
We must learn to go with what we want and not what people will say about what you have choosen
My own contributions here is that, if you really not ok with the past when you don't even know how beautiful the future will be for you guys leave her to find her way
Like I said, every one have had a relationship before being in a present relationship and there is nothing like left over
Illegal1: i've wondering lyk,wats actually is the cause of stagnation in a person life...
its stagnation a spiritual thing or its cause by our own way of life?
i mean...u will see a hard working person,working frm january till december,year in and year out,but got notin to show for all his work at the end of the year...
it seem lyk working in vain and been in one spot for several years
i'm a victim of stagnation,and am tired of such life,dats y i came here to seek for advice and possible step to take to librate myslf..
Pls elders in the house,i need your input in dis matter,i'm tired of working in vain,abeg make una tell me wetin i go do to move forword in life..
Sorry for the situation you find yourself, but I think you need to discuss with your mom. Only mum's knows the Genesis of a child pregnancy and birth and how the child life started
Have you been doing anything useful to sustain you, other people doing the same job with you, are they progressing far more than you
Have you ever look deep into your life and hand it over to God Almighty.
If not then it's time to go close to him to submit yourself to God
Have you asked your dad questions his father's family history and background
Have you by any chance made a vow or promise to anyone or God and yet to fulfil it
Well, your mother can join hands in prayers with you because what affects you affects her too
Agozskey: Me and my bae have been dating for 2years and we have quite a normal happy relationship, we fight, we argue but we also love each other but my problem is her family, especially her parents they don't like me because I am not rich but I am a graduate into Iron rods and building materials business and I am quite okay for myself... My Girlfriend's mom hates me so much, because I don't give her money or I don't spend foolishly on her daughter. Now, here are the reasons, She begged me for money one time and I gave her but before giving her I told my girlfriend to tell her mom not to call me and ask for money again, Now, according to her she didn't have any problem with that but, my babe never enter school and her family isn't financially capable... While in our relationship a pastor from their church came for my babe's hand in marriage surprisingly her parents agreed mind you my girlfriend is 21years of age, but my girlfriend refused. Her mom called me again talking to me about her daughters school, if I can sponsor my girlfriend in school, I declined I can't take such risk she tried all possible best to convince me but I refused I told her I had other plans for myself to grow financially and before I can consider such I'll have to marry my babe first before training her in school... And that was the last time I saw this woman o. Fast forward to this year, a Yahoo boy have been disturbing my babe, my babe refused and this guy threatened to rape my babe, she told me about the threats and I told her to consult her parents before we take any action and I suggest we report it to the police... This woman blamed her daughter for the threat saying she was being too harsh to the Yahoo boy, I couldn't believe it mehn... Now, she is furious her daughter is still with me to the fact that she even swore for me and said I won't prosper, She said all sorts, now her Dad on the other hand is a weak man that can't stand his ground in anything, he was also indirectly cutting through corners trying to convince my girlfriend that I am not good for her... Now, I discussed this with my girlfriend and she's trying to convince me dat she loves me and she won't listen to her parents, but I am not convinced I told her if we end up together that I won't be in a good relationship with her family especially her mom, I told her I will be strict I asked her if she is okay with it, she said Yes... But, just yesterday my girlfriend changed her WhatsApp profile picture to her mom's picture, I am not against hating her own mom but for the fact we are having a matter about her mom and she did dat really made me sad.
Advice pls
WhatsApp dp speaks volumes, she may have done that to please her mum and to show her, that she remains loyal
Now back to your real matter You already have a trade that can feed you and also feed your girlfriend, but I don't know how you will be able to feed a baby, incase she becomes pregnant for you
Her mum doesn't like you, that's number one red flag
They can't afford to train her in school, so they want you to train her but don't marry her.
Her mother needs you to be giving her money, you may not be able to do so because it may affect your business
That's another red flag
Left to me, find a way to end the relationship with out making a drama out of it
HopeSpencer: This guy has shown overtime that he is so much in love with my sister. But once he joined EFCC as a high ranking officer, cadet course, he's now always picking up fight with my sister saying she's cheating.
Once your partner can not trust you, that relationship will keep having problems untill they quit
So it's up to her to continue explaining and defending what she didn't do or end the relationship gradually
[quote author=Oyindamolah post=129539490][/quote]The truth is that you have a legitimate source of income, but you just have to look for your level when searching for a woman
Probably the ones that you are seeing are the one that have tasted life and can't go low to your level
What you should be looking for in a woman of your class is a woman that is prudent and less expensive
Not all those girls that prefer a man to lodge them in a Hotel room no matter thr number of days, where life is sweet and they don't care how those guys makes their money, to be compared with you, who may be living in a single room
Obainoman6: I am a married man with 2 kids and i have not been paid salary please help me with anything that i can use to eat. My children are hungry and we haven't had a proper meal since a week, we are nearly running out of gari supply in the house. Please i don't want to end my life but i am thinking about it on Sunday since i cannot provide let me die. Please anybody should help me with anything so that i can be able to manage to sustain them before the month ends. Thank you very much
I think is best for you to commit suicide so that all these your lies upon lies will stop affecting you
Having read all people have posted about you and your false life, you don't deserve any pity or any help
Why not grow up and reason your life
There are lots of errors in you, probably from a bad upbringing or from a bad lifestyle you taught yourself
Now, all those silly things you brought upon yourself, they are all fighting against you
NairaOcean: Lady Sparks Outrage After Sharing a video of her cute infant with Pierced Nose
A video of a Nigerian infant with a nose piercing has gone viral, sparking debates and raising concerns about cultural practices and parental responsibility.
The video, shared widely on social media platforms, depicts a cherubic baby adorned with a small nose stud. While some viewers found the infant's piercing "cute" and "adorable," others expressed shock and disapproval, questioning the appropriateness of such adornment for a child.
Netizens, appalled by the act, swiftly condemned the mother's actions, expressing deep concern for the infant's welfare and the ethical implications of such an act. Many voiced their outrage, emphasizing the vulnerability of infants and the importance of safeguarding their well-being.
Does she have the right to do whatever she wishes with her baby?
CartelKenneth: So Because of ordinary chicken marriage has developed fault na wa o😂😂😂
Just reason why this man should tell his wife and child no more meat at home till occasionally times because things are hard, yet he east the best outside and never brought any home for his family
So, one fault will keep leading to another issue or issues untill he either packs out if the house or she packs to her parents on her own and that will automatically end the marriage
The man will even dash her their child because he doesn't want any responsibilitys
Man 26 yrs, wife 28yrs Husband gone and his family in Nigeria will never see him again
Mother maybe jailed for mam slaughter and may be there forever
Children can not trace their father's land and family in Nigeria because they are too small to start enquiries
Every thing was just a total lost
Nigeria men should stop arguing with their white wife, they dint take shit and they don't care if you are the man that you do the way it's done in Nigeria
They white ladies already knows that getting married to them is for you to secure your documents
FRANCISTOWN: It pains to the bone marrows where one encounter foolishness and frivolities where wisdom is expected (ibi to baye kati ba ogbon, taaba ba omugo nibe , aama dunni yeye).
Look at what a lady wrote. See what some idiotic men taking a stroll in women panties wrote.
So, sense come leave all the men wey comment head. The sense come go visit a woman head. Chai!
@frozen. Kudos and respect to the man that raised you.
By the way, @frozen. You were able to use your common sense because the issue doesn't concern you. If you were to be the ex wife or the single mother. Your greediness will automatically override your sense.
Thanks for the comment in second to the last paragraph
After the easter break I went back to school and I saw her for the first time she told me about her been pregnant.
She'd tried to abort it but e no work, I took her to ultrasound for scanning and the result show she's 11weeks gone.
She says she won keep am. On my side I de confuse weather to convince her to do abortion or not. She's considering to defer her last semester before graduation.
In all this, my parents don't know and her siblings don't know too. What will I do........i don't want the stress and I have been having headache since I saw the scan result.
Save her life and that I'd the baby as you don't want to be a murder
Let her keep the pregnancy while you discuss with your family
If she has a good character it's a plus for you
If she is not a good girl, then you learn from your mistakes
Islandlady: So I saw this story somewhere, posted anonymously and decided to share it here!
Good day house, I am a 300l university student, I have been sponsoring myself from my 100l days, but with the situation I am in and the unpleasant situation of the country, it is either I drop out or take the option I have to remain in school which i am afraid of.
The option is, there is this rich guy that have been asking me for (friends with benefits) i.e we will not be in a relationship but he will be sleeping with me and in return be giving me specific amount of money after sex
I turned down his request severally, this guy has a questionable reputation and i have heard alot of stuffs about him like police constantly arresting him
But with the helpless situation I am in right now, I am about to lose the good girl in me and accept this guy's request but I am scared and at the same time I don't want to drop out.
TooResilient: What I wrote in the original post was a description of myself, never gave a standard for the man except the yoruba/igbo part. And that's because I've never had luck with them.
I'm working towards visiting first before relocation but I've travelled out once before. My experience, when it comes to finding soul mate, you can find anywhere, you really don't have to wait till you go to another country.
Salami234: Please I'm not proud of this but that have become my reality..mod please move to the right section..
I need help, and urgently guys..
Today is the worst day of my life which I wish I never experience,before I continue please pardon my grammar..
I'm in my late twenties,I never had sex with anybody before till today, though I have been masturbating for years now,but never had sexual penetration before,so few days ago there's this girl,(we work in the same place) we started chatting, having some kind of sexual chats,we also do video calls where we masturbate together..so today she pleaded that I come over to her place,I insisted that I'm not ready for it yet but she insisted,I already told her that I never had sex before,after much persuasion I agreed but on a condition that no penetration which she agreed too..
So I went there,we did the romancing,and she started pleading that we have real sex.. before we started I'm already in panic mood,my heart was beating faster,I finally give in to her demand..
Bredrens before I could even penetrate, I have already released.😞😞😞 My god I was so embarrassed I forgot, getting a full erection was also a full time job...
Please I'm emotionally and mentally down, what should I do to overcome this?
I already know that I don finally cast because that girl will surely tell her friends everything,I'm really down mentally..
Someone should help me please 🙏🙏🙏
Till further notice nothing concern me with girls again..
I think the mistake you made was having an affair with some one who is far from your acclaimed virgin standard
Some very matured girls are too much for you as a beginner
Look for a starter like you so that you guys can be on the same level of speed or pedal
When a woman is demanding for sex, she doesn't expect a learner to crash her ride When women are hot, they need an erotic man who will handle her properly and with enough experience and stamina on handling women
Assuming you have that experience of handling women, just ordinary romance on her will solve that problem, if you really don't want to penetrate
But you acted as if you can operate a crain machine and you end up making it worst
You can't just start climbing an upstairs from the middle, you will have to start from ground level
So take a full break and go back to the board to know more about the cooky jar
Doveheart: Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways. My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down. But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that. What do you think friends.
I think you should ask your ex wife family to return your bride price, that will really be the end of that marriage so that you can start another one
But bear in mind that your new woman responsibilities on her children will be handled by both of you for a peaceful relationship
Those children will regard and take you as their dad if only you will accept them with love and care
ayjay45: Please advise my self esteem is dwindling by the day, I feel ashamed of myself everyday.
I am 26 years and broke, whenever I see a girl I like these days I don't do anything about them because I don't have money.
I'm scared of thinking how to make a relationship work without money.
And I'm also scared of being broke shamed by these ladies. I wish I was born into a rich family like dangote or otedola.
Please advise me
Your mind set is already programmed that a lady can only accept your relationship with you having money
That means don't just go into any relationship till you get the money
But let me tell you that every shoe have size, so look for your class and tune her according to your level so that she will not demand of something your account balance can not afford
Health › Re: What Kind Of Brutal STD/STI Can Cause This, (graphic Picture) by frozen70(f): 9:51pm On Apr 26, 2024
