Sermwell: I dare the president to come out and say that Nigerians to limit birth rate to two or three and see if the country will not burn starting from the North! You're making excuses for the government whose officials continue living flamboyantly inspite of the terrible condition of the country!!
This is why I don't pity the poor at all because they will always defend thier oppressors just like you're doing here!
You are the one daring the president to come out and tell Nigerians the number of children to have
I only said, give birth to the number of children you can care for
Besides, no body has ever detates for any one on the number of children to have
obinna58: Shey you get sisters? Refer them to us abeg
Lol , I understand your request The truth is that this current generation are all dreaming of sweet life without hassle
So I will advise you start from day one to imbibe them in ruining of the home, no matter the little contribution, it will give them sense of belonging and they will feel the pinch of the economy too
So, when you say plan with the little we have, she will understand the meaning
Jewessgratitud3: Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.
This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess
Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.
The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.
He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.
Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.
She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered mismanagement and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.
She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always. The day I said enough is enough and decided to pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in a bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.
I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.
We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money. When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.
Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.
Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.
he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.
What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.
I've told her to get an apartment now o.
The first problem here is lack of responsibility from her husband side and probably he is just a runs man
The second problem, which is the major problem is your sister
She is not seeing what you have seen and may not see it untill she suffers enough
Dont be surprise she will birth the forth child under this situation
Just leave her to decide anything she wants
When the shoe starts paining her, she will remove the shoes from her leg
CilicMarin: I am sure this guy is very innocent...Anyway lets wait for the full investigation..
I don't follow mob!
Did you read where he said that he paid him two million last year for his mum rememberance and he didn't turn up
When he confronted him, he told him that he is sorry he couldn't make it
And he asked for his refund he told him that he is no more with Marlian music and he has run into debt and stranded with cash Do you think he took such without a bad heart on him or hence the hunting and frustration he was giving to Mohbad
Did you also read that this guy was also dating his girlfriend
Well it's obvious they have cold war which has snowballed into so many things
Anyway investigation will prove him innocent or guilty
Popular nollywood actress, Tonto Dikeh was surprised this afternoon when she attempted to purchase a standard casket for Mohbad’s corpse at Ebony funeral homes.
In a video shared by Samklef, Tonto Dikeh was seen checking out a casket with the intention of paying for it when she was met by a staff of Ebony funeral homes that their CEO said she won’t be paying for it.
She shouted in surprise of the kind gestures she received.
This is connected to the wild reaction Mohbad’s death got especially on the internet. Several celebrities have gotten involved and Ebony Funeral homes is the latest sympathizer.
Those of you from the Yorubas that always condemn the Igbos that they hate you guys
I am glad that this move by an Igbo woman have prove to you guys that we are all one irrespective of your tribe
An average Igbo person is too busy to have time for hatred
Enugu state was the first state than barn Marlian music followed by others
With one love, me will all move this nation forward
PaigeTaylor: Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.
He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.
But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.
Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.
Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him. LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.
The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.
She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know. And those internet searches are RECENT.
I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.
He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.
HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?
Why it hurt you must is because he married you a virgin
A man will cheat if it's in him to cheat and he will cheat without remores because they see it as game and nothing else
If he like let him celebrate 10yrs anniversary, make sure he gets the best of dresses for you and your family
Look good that day and move on
The problem now is that you have lost interest in loving him
Just bear with it till you are convinced that a man will cheat if he wants to cheat
victooman: Good day nairalanders, After my Nysc in 2021, I started a Pos business that has been very profitable and gives me a maximum profit of 10k and a minimum profit of 6k a day, l Carter for all my bills and live well... The major issue is that my mother keep emphasizing on getting a job and doesn't for once regard this business as anything.. I have try to make her see reasons but she just choose to remain adamant,, how many of this so called jobs can pay me what this business is paying me? how can l convince my mother that l want to expand my business and marry without so much emphasis on job here and there l am tired abeg...
I think you need to seat her down and let her know what you are trying to explain to her
And assure her that your proceed can cater for you and your family wjwk you marry
That's why you are planning on expanding your business
That work is not easy to come by and what you are getting is equivalent to those working amd you still have your freedom
charris76: I lost my wife early this year under controversial circumstance, before her demise, she had a misunderstanding with her father over her late mothers' properties and the father told her that she will die before him. Now she is dead, every finger is pointing to the father as been responsible, elders in the house should I let it go since it is their family matter, or should I follow this case up to a logical conclusion? pls no insults.
Do you have an evidence to tender as a prove to that claim
Do you want to fight a cause that you too will join your wife
I think you should leave revenge for God
That man, if he is really responsible for her death, is worst than the Devil
Stay away from him as he is ready to do away with anyone that will drag any thing property with him
If he can be suspected of the one that killed his blood daughter Then he can kill anyone without remorse
I have 6 years old twins daughters who are staying with their late mum twin sister , the court has granted me visitation rights during school holidays and I am paying her children without fail.
But she is not allowing me to see my girls during holidays even on their birthday , she keeps making excuses giving me mot valid reasons why I can't see my girls.
I have been patient with her because she is taking good care of them, they are happy and healthy but my cup is full and I will not be quiet anymore.
I really want to go back to court to report her about breaching of the court order and to also ask for custody of my girls.
Your advice would be greatly appreciated please
You have to be sincere with yourself and tell us more
You said you pay the school fees, that's not enough
Do you pay her monthly allowance for their upkeep
Do you send money for their feeding
Do you pay medical bills when they are sick
Do you do random shopping and drop for them in her house
Do you really make any impact apart from paying school fees
I think you failed in those areas
You need to visit her and talk on how you have to support her with whatever you can every month
If you go back to court, she already have a good reason for her actions which is among the points I pointed above
Now if you ask the court to give you those children Honestly, you will see shege raising them up because you may not have the capacity to do so as a man and even if you decided to bring a Nanny to look after them
You will be seeing double shege because you can't really afford such service payment
I will think you should go and make peace with her, for you guys to have gone to court to settle yourself before court grant her the custody of your children Then their must be an issue with you guys
So stop misleading yourself and remove pride, go and discuss with her
If you think you are too big for that
Collect your children and deal with it
Because there is no way you would have bought things for their birthday and call her that you are coming to see the children, then she will deny you.
But does it mean you don't know her residence
Take responsibilitys of providing goodies for them and the whole house will look forward to your visits with joy and open heart
Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.
As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.
My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.
But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.
I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.
He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.
Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.
I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?
He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.
But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?
He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.
You know what, people learn in different ways
Some hard way and some soft ways
Your brother maybe the I don't care type of person, so if that's who he is, don't expect much from him
You already know that you are not from a rich home, so bear all you have complained of
Just bear it if you can and unfortunately hunger is not something one can bear
I think you can discuss it with him that you are starving and hear what he will say
If his response ate negative, then you are into a big sheet
What next, look around if you can see family's who will need you to wash their cloths, especially young guys
You go to them, help wash their clothes and dry them in their premises or wherever that is safe, to avoid theft
Clean their house and wash their cars, then it on their clothes
This can be done on Sundays, forget about what people will say, that's not your business
Now The main question I want to ask you is this I hope this is not the person you are expecting to train you in the school, I mean university Because you may face the worst hardship in school if you hope on him
DaveHarry: The eldest got married to one of the two sisters almost 5 years ago, now my immediate elder brother who was married before he divorced, wants to go on and marry the younger sister to our elder brother's wife. I've been against the decision since yesterday but my brother is telling me that there's absolutely nothing I can do about his decision.
My other siblings are also insisting that it doesn't matter so I'm the only one on my side. So here's me asking if it's okay for them to get married or I'm overreacting (like a friend said) to the matter?
Just leave them and wish them well since he has insisted on going ahead
So that they will not start having issues with you, especially the wife
Man and woman matter is beyond what we see from the outside
Besides your brother maybe desprate for a wife
So if both sibbling decides to cause problems in the family, as a wife, let those involved blame themselves
LOGICALKEN: My brother met a girl two years ago at a friend’s bachelor’s eve. They were kinda dating and some months after the girl said she was pregnant, at first she said the pregnancy wasn’t for my brother, some weeks later she came back and said the pregnancy is his.
My bro accepted all responsibility and took care of her while she was pregnant. We even went to the family to let them know my bro is responsible for the pregnancy.
During delivery my bro paid all medical bills which was a bit high because she delivered through C.S, now my bro has been taking adequate care of the child and mum.
When the child was about 3 months old, a friend of my brother’s baby mama called and asked my brother to conduct a DNA test on the boy, my bro was surprised, when he told me about it I adviced we conduct the DNA, when we informed the girl we want to conduct a DNA she sounded confident and was like “una get money to waste na”. We travelled to her city and did the DNA and about a month later the result came out, surprisingly my brother is not the father.
Now my bro is demanding a Total refund of everything he has spent on the boy, the girl’s family has been begging. Should my brother just forfeit everything and move on or press charges?
I FEAR WOMAN SHA, with this experience even if I born 30 children for this life, I go do DNA for all of them one by one.
Is just a pity and a disgraceful act from his baby mama
He should just forget about all he spent
He should see it as a big lesson about life and women
Then he has gotten an experience that money cannot buy
To my story. I have been married for twenty years and it has been blissful with four children. I and my husband adopted a child years before we got married. It happened that while we were dating, a neighbor who was a single man had a daughter, whose mother ran away to another man after giving birth and life was so difficult with them, she left the man and the baby to another man. The man brought the baby to me and I was the one caring for the child when the man goes to work then he helps people in carrying loads in the market. Even at night the baby sleeps with me. I took this baby everywhere and people believe she is my child. Tragically the man died one day while carrying loads, he fell off the staircase and was badly injured. It was my husband who took care of the hospital bills even after he died. During his burial just few people came , his brother he always talked about came and buried him. We thought he would demand for the child, or maybe on the burial day the wife would come to take her child. Janet, I prepared the baby, packed few of her things that was in my house and was ready to hand her over to whoever would come for her from the man's family. But no one came. They only carry her and gave her back to me. Her mother did not come. After the burial everyone left. I came back with my boyfriend, now my dear husband. We took the baby to his brother when he came to pick some of his things, he said he doesn't even have a house of his own and he's not married. He gave us two thousand naira and said we should continue caring for the child. Janet that was how we cared for the child date. We got married when she was four years and my husband said, before she's five years and no one comes for her we would adopt her legally. She clocked five years and Janet no one came, no one ever asked of her. No message from anyone to us. We adopted her legally. She is our first daughter, our ada whom we adore so much, very brilliant. And is in a private University.
she introduced her boyfriend to us two years ago. And now they are fully ready to get married. We do not have contact of any of her father's family, not even her father's brother, because there was no phone then, he refused telling us his address. And even her father was buried in the cemetery, which the service was also conducted there.
My husband is not bothered about any of this, he said he adopted her and would not go looking for anyone. He has already given the boy's family list. But I am worried. We have never mentioned any of these to our daughter, she believes we are her biological parents. Do you think it's time we let her know the truth, though my husband is not in support of this? Personally I wouldn't want to do this, but for the sake of tradition. I need to hear others opinion. Should we go ahead with the marriage or look for her family? Is there any need to tell her anything? I love my daughter so much and wouldn't want to do things that would affect her later. Please advise me.
In my own honest opinion, that child is now your child together with your husband
Dont break her heart by telling her any forgotten story that has no trace
Just let her be, don't spoil her joy
Let her find out herself, then you can explain with evidence
Her parents handed her over to your family as if they have a premonition about their exits
specialofficer: I have been having some issues in my room, I live with my mum and sister , it's a 3 bedroom flat, we pay 1.4m yearly and we've paid 3 times, last payment was in may.
My landlord increased the pressure point of our water in the compound and now water gas been leaking, pipes got burst in the wall and water has been coming out from walls and pop, I started complaining last month but they didn't do anything about it, it got to a point when the water was too much in my room, I wanted to get my landlords attention so I had to spoil our pumping machine and I brought out all the dirts in our dustbin, I acknowledge my mistakes but it was out of anger.
My landlord confronts me and we got into an argument and we insulted each other, I know i was wrong but if I didn't spoil that pumping machine, the landlord wouldn't have called plumber to repair the issues I was having in my room, I even discovered that i wasn't the only one experiencing such thing, my neighbors too were also having that same issues.
According to my landlord, he said he's not the one collecting money from us, we paid money to agent and if we have any issues we should contact the agent, this particular agent is his elder brother but this my landlord is living in our compound with us, though he has numerous houses.
Now my landlord said he doesn't want to see me again in his compound and has threatened my mum with quit notice, he said it's either I leave the house or my family would leave , he instructed the gateman not to open gate for me again or else he'll sack him. My fellow nairalanders I really need your help, how will I go about this?
Modified; The landlord threatened to call police if he ever sees me in his compound, he said he'll win me in court and it's malicious damage to his property, mind you, there's no evidence that I committed the offence, our gateman was the only eye witness.
Just get someone close to him in uoir area to make peace between both of you
Emytexboy: Hello friends and family, my wife is pregnant and in her eight months now and counting, she fell very sick and was treated of malaria, including drips, she got better a little bit and always complain of severe headache, I've spent so much money on her drugs and treatment and she still complain about the headache, this afternoon, i pushed home when I received her call because of the acute headache, i invited a man of God who prayed for her she got a bit better but still complain about the headache, my Puckett is not even helping matters but I left all in the hand of God, please family, do remember us in prayers and other Wise, i can't even sleep or eat easily because of thought
God healing hands will be upon her At this stage of her pregnancy, she needs bed rest
Meaning you take her to hospital and they will monitor her till delivery
Alternatively, keep her indoors and let her do nothing more than eating and resting with sleep
Till she delivers
Last option, get her mum to come and watch over her making sure she doesn't life a finger at home
Babypal: Is it possible for a biological parent to get jealous of a child's success? Using mobads dad for an instance some claim he may be aware of the circumstances leading to his child's death.
How possible is this friends?
Any real life experience, kindly share?
Only an evil parent will be jealous of his child success
Peter532: Hello all, My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.
This is someone who after he travelled only came back once and never bothered about the affair's of the family.
Their father my grandfather died 2005 he was no where to be found. my grand mother died 2018 still nothing from him.
No contributions whatever even while their parents was still alive.
He cut all sort of communications with them and now he's back to lay claim on the properties.
The family is angry but some of the elders in the extended family are getting on is side claiming he's still the senior he was never disowned but they can't say it out though.
It's obvious he came back with almost nothing and felt laying claims on their parent property is the back up plan
No will was written and some of the old buildings has been reconstructed from the scratch by my father and yet someone is laying claim on it.
I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him
Honestly speaking, according to tradition, he is still a member of that family
The best option is for you all to gather together and sell that property
Then share the proceed
If any of them reduces this property to be sold, they will fight to finish ans one person may enter six feet
Yet the property wahala will still get worse
As for him not taking care of his parents before they died
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DonLala1: I have been married for 17 years and have 3 beautiful girls. Lately my business had some issues and I ran into some serious debts that for the past 2 years my wife have been the one taking care of the house expenses though I chop in bits sometimes. Crux of the matter,, for the past 15 months my wife have starved me of sex and I haven't had sex with nobody since. I am being honest. Some weeks back my wife says she wants me to give her space for 6 to 12 months so she can sort herself out if she will still continue with the marriage. I lately found out she's having a discreet affair with her friends husband and unknown to them I have serious damaging details about their affairs. I kept this to myself because I still love her and had even forgiven her in my heart and coupled with the fact that I don't want any scandal for her and shame to my girls. She doesn't talk to me at home any more. Please what do I do? Do I confront her? Do I tell the guys wife? Hell will break loose. Do I confront the guy in question? Do I just walk away and pick up the pieces of my life and forget ahead? Please no abuses, I have enough on my mind .already. just your candid advice. A part of me wants revenge for the betrayal and another just want to put everything behind me. Please advice.
You have to let her know that you are aware of all her escapeds
Tell her in a cool manner that you already know everything and you have prove
Then at that point it's left for you to leave and start a new life or still stay under the sane roof to know how everything will end
Meanwhile she already told you to give her time to decide what to do with you
Am very sure she is set to leave that marriage
So prepare yourself for the worst
But let her be aware that you know what she has been doing before she butts you out
Settings365: My elder sister is close to 50 yrs. I'm in my mid forties. We had a very rough and terrible past that I survived only by the grace of God. Only God sustained us. Due to the problems of polygamy and parental separation, we suffered too much. But the suffering was ten times more for me as a man.
We were abandoned by our parents. At many times I wanted to commit suicide but God didn't allow me. More than 20 times I wanted to, but God saved me.
I finished my university about ten years ago. I actually slept under the bridge here in the city for some years before I struggled to get to the university, doing all kinds of menial jobs and hustling. Even after my university the suffering still continued. But later God was faithful to me and showed me great mercy and blessing.
Now I decided my sister should also go to school. It doesn't matter her age, there's no age limit in education. So I got her the school and she's just started and about to complete year one in the university. I believe that even if she finishes school at 56, it's better than not going at all. So all things being equal, she should finish at 56 since it's a professional course of 6 or 7 yrs.
So I bought another car and got another driver to be driving her to school everyday for her lectures. She's studying a professional course that everyone wants to study, the same course I studied.
But after about eight months of my driver driving her to school to and fro, she started plotting and planning with one of my drivers on how to sell my car and claim that it was snatched by armed robbers at gunpoint. I was shocked because she didn't know I was monitoring her.
This is despite all the allowance she got from me and all other things of her needs well taken care of.
But unknown to her, I actually bought that car for her, to be given to her after one year, or if after one year the car is no more befitting, my plan is to buy her another one and give it to her as a surprise gift. That would be when she finishes year one. Just 4 months before the end of her year one, she started misbehaving and planning to sell my car at my back. Can you imagine this??
So I've collected my car back and stopped the driver from driving her to school henceforth. Let her enter bus to school. But I will not stop sponsoring her in school. But she will never have the luxury of being driven to school anymore.
So why are people so ungrateful?
Have I done wrong by collecting my car back and making her enter bus to school??
And even the car I planned buying for her, she will never get it anymore. Never. Let her go out there and struggle and know how it feels to make money in this harsh economy. If not for the fact that she's my blood sister, I would have stopped her education entirely because of this treacherous behavior, but I won't stop sponsoring her since she has already started. But I will keep her at arm's length until I see a reasonable change of behavior in her.
Have I done anything wrong??
Let me know what you think, but I will only read the comments, I won't have the time to reply anyone.
Thank you.
You did well with all your intensions for her and how you now change the game for her
The issue now is that, since you have known that you meant well for her but she has another thing in mind
You have to be extremely watchfull and stop giving her a soft landing spot so that she can't read your mind
I prefer she doesn't understand you Than her knowing you and predicting your next move
Whenever she makes demands, give it to her after 24/72hrs so that she will assume you don't have it
Dont be to close to discuss any personal things with her but don't be far so that you can watch her from any any angle
Look, you are not owning her anything So whatever you are doing for her is a privelage not a right
If she is not married yet advice her to go into a relationship and introduce a man of her choice to her
uwuana: Good day fellow nairaland, please I have some Pressing issues on my neck that am trying to laid off, but the more I tried the more a new chapter will open. 5 years ago when I married My wife, my life was in total mess, things was so difficult for me as of then, I was working under contract in a company and the salary was just a peanut, I was staying in a face me apartment, that was when I get to know this family, when my wife give birth to our first child everywhere was rough and tough for me I couldn't even afford the hospital bill because I haven't received salary for two months with the company new policy, well it was this woman my neighbor wife that borrowed me the money to pay, I was so happy and pray for her that for this good she did for me God will answer her secret prayers.well things wasn't going well and my wife suggest I should quit my job that we should relocate to her place in the Niger Delta, I told to have patience that I have a feeling that the job am doing will pave way and things will work out fine, things started to get better and I was able to get a self con apartment and we moved in and left my neighbor in the face me compound, after two years my wife said she going to her place to start up a business, I tried to persuade her to stay but she refused,by December last year I gathered all I have and gave her to go. Well things changed and by January this year a new announcement was made in the company am working, it's no more contract, the contractor was sacked and am the new person in charge of my session and there was huge increase in salary, I was so happy and rejoicing, me that was collecting 35k and now 120k, I called my wife and asked her to come back but she refused, she said business is booming she can't leave it and come back, that she can only visit when the kids have holidays, well by March this year I was able to get new and comfortable place, I moved in. On Easter day I had a visitors, it was my former neighbor wife and one of her sister, she said she has been to my former place but she was informed I parked out and my former landlord directed her here, I was so happy to see her,we exchange greetings and I offered them what I cooked, she asked about my wife if she has made up her mind to come back, I said no, after all the jolly and merriment they left, I went their place the next Sunday to greet them, everything is not alright, I can see the anger in her face, I met them on a family meeting, I had to leave, she later came to my place in the evening and explain everything that's is going on to me, she said she has been living in sorry and pain see I knew her in that compound, she asked me if wife didn't tell me anything about it I said no, she said she was the bread winner of the family, she the one paying the all the bills including rent and the children school fee's, the husband is a okada rider,he collect the bike on higher purchased, and he doesn't bring anything back to the family, this has been going on like that for all those years and she can't continue again because the Man want to kill her before her time with four children, that was why she called for the family meeting, she was telling me all this things things with tears rolling from her eyes, I told her to stop crying that everything will be alright, after she left I called my wife and asked her if what her friend said is true, she said yes,I was shocked and I started thinking what to do to assist her, I called her and she came to my place, I gave her 20k, she was so happy and thanked me very much, but I didn't inform my wife about the money I gave her friend, later on I started feeling lonely since my wife is around the thought of this woman is always on my head, I tried to fight it but e no work, she came visit one day and she told me she not a kid that I should tell her what's in my mind, I was confused, I thought about the respect and other things I said no to myself,I couldn't say out, she told me she has the same feelings for me, that am the source of her happiness,we both kiss each other, since then our relationship has become something so strong that I can't even break, the more I tried to break it the more it becomes stronger, she has been coming to me steadily and giving me sex, she said her body is mine, and I have been assisting, I helped to pay the rent and children school fee's last term, I talked to her yesterday that what we are doing is not good, how does she feel sleeping with her best friend husband, she said she thought about it also but she can't control it that she doesn't have any feelings for her husband again, that if I leave her she will die, because I have been the one carrying all this burden for her, please advise me what to do to stop This so that she won't get hurt,
Since sex is now involve and your wife is far from you
You are already in a big sheet
You can still be helpful to her especially financially but bear in mind that she is another man's wife, untill they divorce
stanlink: Hello I'm just think if I will get salvation if I indulge in sexual activities early on a Sunday morning before going for service, the thought of guilt is all over my head although I'm married someone please advise
Do you know that, if you or your wife needs sex and you are already preparing for church
You have to go back and attend to yourselves
Then go for your service, so that you can be relaxed and concentrate on what you came for
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