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edunaragold:
I know some of u here would be against me,or would not hesitate to insult me,well that's life u can't like me all.
Am from lagos state and my mom is from imo state,I have started in north ,south, east and west,and I compear the way there girls are or marriage are when u marry irrespective of tribe or state,I noticed the igbo tradition is a very wicked one, except were the bride has a very good and understanding parents,see when I hear am an igbo girl,the only thing that enters my mind is how to chop her and go,
I so much love igbos because of my mom is from there,but while growing up,among the few ladies I date when I was a teenager,two were igbos ,ómó igbo na him suffer me o,I once dated one for 4yrs ,while I had a good job,this lady kept giving me diff obstacle and excuses not to see her parents ,but make we dey enjoy the relationship dey go,this lady eyes was outside ,one day I used a diff fb account and play a fast one on her ,gbem,that's how she send me her phone number,I was like no be the lady I tut was hard to get.
This lady played me,but I had a good endurance plane so I kept saving,I bought jamb for her,till she enter sch,my brother,she almost turn me to mumu,I had to wake up due to I am from lagos,I then detect that I was being use ,babe told me she want to enter sch before she told her dad about me, mostly why are igbos families always not in good term with them self,we kept on having raw sex ,this lady never got pregnant, immediately she enter sch, another lady told me she knew her ,she dey do runs well well,and even stole another guy o,as 100l student.the relationship almost made me gone bizarre,but I recovered back,and believe all woman are diff,till I finally marriage to a lady from imo state,that one was worst.for no reason,igbo woman carried my daughter and japa to her village,so they can be collecting money from me,I send 20k,she will nagg and grumble, sometimes I will head her big sister who is single at 35 laughing and saying tell him the money is small,my wife will say what stupid money is this till I will send more,then one day I came to understand that I have seen and heard of many igbo people jaingpa to east if small problem comes,I left them,the worst part was,some igbo parents are so stupid and proud,how can your daughter came home and refused to go back,no body could ask,or send her back,when an igbo lady wants to run with your child,they find one stupid excuse to run away,
1. My igbo uncle too wife too done japa
2. My father side uncle a yoruba,his wife is igbo too,took the 2kids and japa to east
3.my friend and igbo girl,uncle wife too japa with their kids to east,
5.few people I meet here in north too,told me they impregnate an igbo girls respectively, their parent carry the daughter and japa, instead of asking the man to come marry the girl,
My igbo gf big sister almost took the baby too and japa,of not for me wey lock gate before the husband came,they fought hard that day.
My naibour an imo state lady took their new born baby and japa back,what is in that east wey them dey japa.
Since then I fear anything igbo,and now their igbo guys are now waking up ,many told me why did u went to imo state na, another imo guy told me,even me wey be imo marry jos girl,our woman all they know is care and money,if u can't meet up,there will be problems
For me a yoruba lady or north or meddle belt is better ,if u see an igbo lady of one child pls do your investigation well,some had kids before and won't tell u,
They will say she is there mother last born,

Guys pls don't fall victim of igbo woman, especially when married no dey sweet again,know the igbo girl u are about to take as wife, because if u fall short of finance ,they will come tell u that their daughter is an investment object ,most poor or wicked igbo people will make sure they ripe u,and influence your wife,if u are not sending anything to your inlaw when time is hard.
My dad once said it's good to marry a bad wife with Good in-laws,than good wife bad in-laws, because when the in-laws frustrated the good wife,the wife will frustrate husband,I have seen and compear most tribes in Nigeria,and igbo wife their own wahala too much.there are many bastard child in east,they will even give another man son their father name,pls be careful,the igbo man will give u their daughter with right hand and go back to use left to manipulate the wife to return with the child.

The real reason OP and the other men he mentioned here are all in the same category is because

They will date an igbo woman, pregnant her the same way they do to the Yoruba girls and never done any marriage RIGHTS and then you call her your wife, just like that as they do in Yoruba

Of curse she knows that you just hired her to bear children for you without doing the proper marriage rights and if any alarm blows she japa with your children which is more important to her and also important to you

There is no way you will do the proper thing and pay her bride price and she will return home to her father and they will not summon you to come for settlement

We have lots of bastards in Yoruba lands and they are the one constituting nuisance every where because they are stray children from improper marriages
No home, no parents just because the parents that gave birth to to them weren't responsible in the first place to do the needful

So they sleep under the bridges all. Over Lagos

So my opinion is marry an Igbo woman properly and complete the marriage rights by paying the bride price

Let me see how she will run away with children to her father's house
And her father will not call you to explain what happen

Bride price is a commitment to marriage

So if she runs home and you never paid her bride price, then she is open for another marriage

But once the bride price is paid, even if she runs home and later found another man,

For another man to marry her, the bride price you paid must be returned to you, to make her a free woman to marry

So OP, if you are sure you have done all necessary marriage rights and bride price on your wife, go to your inlaw and claim your children, they have the kind men who witness the marriage take the matter up with them

But if you skipped that part, then your inlaw will remind you that you did not do the needful and the children belongs to his family

Cruise777:




Na joke I dey joke ooo

Organize Boys and thugs to break into her shop at night and let them pack everything in her shop, so that her business can collapse

Sell it off without her knowledge , let her return penniless under your roof

Let's see how she will insult you while she feeds off you, and get common upkeep from you


.

This is never a good idea
You don't do such to your own person is just brutal

The business and shop rent is sponsored by her husband

So if he does this he is dealing with himself directly

Even nature will not forgive him

I think separating from her will create more impart

Rapture2021:
Before I say one thing my wife has abused the hell out of me,she was such a calm and reserved person before we married,but today at the slightest of misunderstanding she begins the insult,even getting close to my face telling me to beat her,I have never laid a finger on her,but she is tempting me to do that. How can a woman calls a man fool, idiot, animal? I have reported her family severally and yet she is not changing.

I opened a boutique business for her last year,now she said she wants to sell baby things,and I have done it half way,I had to just prank her that the other money I was expecting hasn't come, immediately she began the insult again to my face,as it is the prank is getting real because I will not give her the money anymore

Sorry for the insult

Both of you are not really getting along and the best option for you guys is to return her to her family or walk out or trick her home to her parents especially as they don't take action on her anytime you report her
Let her live with them and let them feel that heat


By the time it's dawn on her that she is about loosing her home, her brain will reset automatically
Forget about what people will say

Dont raise your hands on her as the whole world will blame you for her own offence just because you heat her out of anger

Any woman that will go as far as insulting her husband for any provocative reason has lost love on him

The worst of it is, once insults and curses steps in, that's the begging of a man's downfall

Akposkiz:
Hello Nlders! Greeting every one! Recently I have being seeing a strain of gray hair sprouting up in my hair,what is the cause and how his going to be prevented,pls I need your suggestion for the treatment and prevention of it. Thanks!

These days, age had nothing to do with gray hair unlike before

Gray will start coming early depending on done unknown factors

But stress and worries can release one nonsense in the body to trigger gray hair to start coming out

When nature wants to do it's job
There is nothing you can do to prevent it

So relax and once the Grey hair is bigger than the dark hair, know that it's time to go for hair dye

Most men you see on low cut are experiencing gray hair and doesn't have any other options than to clear it all

Chijeep:
It all happened like this...
I(a single man) and a married woman with 4kids who we both work in the same restaurant fell in love with each other, though we never had s3x but we use to have hot romance because I don't think I can bear sleeping with another man's wife.
These hidden relationship have been going on since 2 months now.
Like a joke, she asked me that will I marry her if she's single and I told her that yes because she's a spec both physically and otherwise.
BUT NOW I'M AFRAID OF WHAT'S COOKING NOW BECAUSE THIS SAME WOMAN HAVE TOLD HER HUSBAND THAT SHE WANT OUT OF THE MARRIAGE JUST FEW DAYS AGO AND THIS WEEK SHE HAVE INFORMED HER PARENTS OF HER INTENTION OF GETTING OUT OF THE MARRIAGE THOUGH HER PARENTS ARE NOT IN SUPPORT OF IT.

THOUGH I TRIED CLEARING MY MIND BY ASKING HER WHY WILL SHE LEAVE HER HUSBAND AND HER 4 KIDS AND SHE SAID THAT SHE NEVER LOVED HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE AND IT WAS HER MOM'S IDEA TO ACCEPT THE MAN'S PROPOSAL BECAUSE SHE WAS JUST 19 YEARS OF AGE WHILE THE MAN IS WAY MORE OLDER, AND TO CROWN IT UP, SHE SAID HER HUBBY ISN'T GOOD IN BED THAT HE PRACTICE HIS CHRISTIAN WAYS OF HAVING SEX SO MUCH THAT EVEN THE LITTLE SHE'S ENJOYING IN THE S3X OF A THING THAT SHE'S THE ONE TAKING IT UP ON HIM.

PLEASE HOW DO I GO ABOUT IN THIS KIND OF ISSUE, THOUGH I LOVE THIS WOMAN BUT I DON'T WANT TO HAVE A HAND IN THEIR SEPARATION.

You are the craft man here

If you are really serious and feeling guilt as you are claiming,

Seat her down and tell her that, if she is rejecting her husband because of you,

Tell her that you can't marry a woman with kids, simple

Then make sure you don't ever have sex with her and watch if she will change her mind and mend her home, then you withdraw gradually

My advice to you is, don't stain any of your fingers because it will affect others

Tallesty1:
I just watched a clip that inspired this post.

Imagine this scenario.......

You are married to a beautiful woman, and you have like three kids. It is a beautiful family, really.

You have a nice house, a good ride, beautiful children, always selfie-ready wife, and salary alerts keep coming. Then life happens, and you start losing things until nothing is left. No salary, no more savings, and you're officially wiped out by poverty.

Your wife has something she does for a living, makes her own money, and does whatever it is that women do with money. You never cared because you were doing okay, but now the tides have turned.

Naturally, you expect her to provide support while you work harder to regain your footing. But what you are getting from her is something you never knew she was capable of: insults upon insults, disrespect, and all. This lasts for a year or two.

Then, fortune smiles on you again and you get back on your feet. As usual, there is money now, and your wife is the woman you married at first. She is loving again, respectful, and caring.

I want to know, will you still go back to loving her like before, as if the past two years' experience never happened, or are you going to quit?

Love or no love

Give that woman a responsibility at home, in terms of bills to pay

That will give her sense of responsibility and value

Now back to love

If you marry a woman who no send you anytime you are broke

Then you are about getting drawn into an Ocean with no life jacket on you

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

I think you can take the baby to her mum to look after if looking after the baby will give you a challenge

Having done that, free your mind and start saving towards her invite for you over there so that she too will join hand to make it a successful plan

Forget about anyone telling you that she may mess up,
Once a woman loves a man and gives him her heart, such woman hardly mess up

Good luck with all plans

PeeboyDmx:
I have a friend, she is kind, she is very caring, emphasis on caring
Honestly, I feel like the heart is the most important thing in a human being, and I see her as someone who possesses a big heart
although she is very young by age
she has been the one doing the toasting for a while now and I am kinda going with the flow.

Now the only issue I have is her body size, she is a really fat person
I am not good at body shaming people, because I wouldn't want anyone to do the same to me, but sincerely I don't think I can keep up with her body size.

My reason for bringing this here is that, I feel like I am losing something really precious and valuable all because I am more focused on the outward appearance, secondly I feel like there won't be any intimacy between us even if we start dating because I am not sexually attracted to her.

I am scared that I would look back and regret, but I think I would rather let her go than to hurt her in the future


Please your advices are needed

So far you know that sex can't come into it, just keep a level up relationship and just be friends

If she is not comfortable with it, she will walk out of it

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hello all!

Please, as a single lady, what can I do for this married man that always come through for me. This man has really been helpful to me whenever I'm in a tight corner/condition. Sometimes, I don't even ask him directly for some of the assistances he usually render to me. Sometimes, it would be indirect, and he would just offer to assist me.

So, I really want to know what I can do for him to show my appreciation in my own little way and let him know that I really appreciate his kind gestures towards me.

Please, I would really appreciate your suggestions/opinions.


Thanks!

You already know what his intentions are

Either be ready to play to the Gallery or stop receiving those assistance from him

But keep the relationship and don't involve any thing romantic

Are you ready for the to stay off and stop receiving those things

Ask yourself

Alzwell:
Hello everyone.

I need someone to pour my heart to because am starting lose myself staying with my elder sister. Let me go straight to the point i m currently undergoing my NYSC service at Abuja which she brought up the idea although I was skeptical about it at first because of d cost of living and staying with her but i just wave it because I needed the exposure and opportunities to connect with like mind that will help my passion to be a data analyst, although I just graduated from FUTA department of physics electronics with 2.1 and my thoughts was my sister is getting close to her 40 so she should have left some of her behavior.
The issue is I never had my peace for a week ever since have started staying with her, she is always nagging, making big deals out of small things, I can't say NO to her without her making issue out of it and get angry over little things...The thing is getting too much to the extent of shouting at me even when an outsiders are there, am never comfortable staying with her initially because is very small room and parlor self contained she stays in which I sleep in the parlor, she is not married so u guys to know the settings but I don't mind, thinking she is my sister now I can manage thats what I thought but this nagging over little things, I can't even say anything to her without her terming it something else entirely is killing me, she is always right and is getting to affect d way I think as man and am always getting the vibe of her trying to pull me down and I dislike her usual statements of her making a sacrifice for me because am staying with her, my self esteem is at stake.
Have try explaining things to my elder brother without painting her bad to him to know d nature of things but his response was not helping because they are not always in good terms due to her attitude although my elder brother too get his own to 4 body and I don't want to get cut up with thier issues. My mum is dead when she gave birth to me and Dad will never support me because my sister get his button and am d silent cool headed type, step mom don't care which am use to it.

This my dilemma am thinking of renting a room at a place closer to my PPA (benger/wuse axiz abuja) and starts living alone but am considering the cost of living here in Abuja and although food was never a problem staying with her every other things I sort It out myself unless sometimes I do scope her money for small small things....allawe nah just 33k and this heartburn now and then is killing me,I just used only 2months here, currently on treatment self.. please I need ur advice/input on how to go with things without any issues with her..am 26yrs incase u ask.

Two things are involve
Get an apartment if you can and pack out of her house or

You stay there, play the fool and obey her to the last point till you leave

LithiumBa3:
I don't know if the topic I used is write but I have this problem bothering me, that I would like to seek solution for, my moniker is popular in this forum so I decided to create new account for some security reasons.

My wife is pregnant and my in-laws are insisting I bring her home to deliver, I have asked them reason for this, they said because it's her first pregnancy, that they wants to take care of her.

Although I'm against this proposal but each time they call they keep insisting on this and I'm getting tired over it.

House I need you guys to look into this, is it right for her to go and deliver in their house or stay with me and deliver.

Please I need urgent and matured advice and for record sake her bride price was fully paid.

Mynd44, r231

I think if you are not comfortable with that kind of arrangements,
Make plans for your mother inlaw to be there on or before delivery to assist her

Some newly married men are looking for this kind of opportunity, just to assist the woman as a first time mom

So it depends on your relationship with them

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.
It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.









Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

In as much as you are happy with his house warming, just attend

But for him to hide such a project from
Then he played a smart one on you

Meanwhile, start keeping some things away from him but still maintain your relationships

MyAmericandream:
Bro, they won’t understand what it’s to have a step mum especially a woman from Akwa Ibom. They are the true wickedness of the wicked.

For my father to tell me secretly to always choose food randomly when the wife dishes food so she won’t poison me.

MyAmericandream:
You don’t know what it is to have a step mother… if you were in his shoes you won’t be writing all these epistles.

You that is use to having step mothers, give him a guide

But meanwhile go back to my post to read more and know my stand

winner37:
Since she said we are not helping her children meanwhile her first is living with me that is why I want to send her son to village to stay with her ..
My brother that is staying in the village is living in a separate apartment but on the same roof they are not sharing any cookies, this woman is very troublesome even when you try to be at your best behavior with her at the end of the day she will accused you of something you know not ..

That's why i suggested that you guys should face her anytime she starts her Drama

When it gets to the point that you no longer wants to have anything with her son

Send him to his mum and draw the curtin there

VULCAN:
You have made so much sense with post.

Thanks dear

SharingIsLife:
This is my second time in a few months. I suddenly see my 2-year old baby girl holding this inside our flat.

I don't know where she gets it from. I don't know what it's used for. But, I think I've seen this with some street boys at a work sight some time in the past.

My daughter attends a kindergarten close to our residence. She came home with her older siblings some two hours ago. No one saw this on her all the while. Then, suddenly, she has it.

Sorry if I'm being alarmist but honestly I'm a bit scared to see this out of nowhere in the possession of such a little girl. Please, help me with genuine mature responses only. Nlfpmod and everyone thanks in advance.

You said you live in a flat, that means your family is not exposed to public compound

So where could she pick it up from

It can't be from school because children knows nothing about it

If she comes back daily with her elder sibblings, they should watch how that stuff got to her

winner37:
We are four males, is over two decades now losing our mum at a very tender age so our dad went ahead to get another woman ..
This woman has caused a lot of troubles in our family since stepping in even to an extent of poisoned our food but God saved my brother and I during the darkest days of my life , this woman has committed many atrocious acts but my dad still have a room for her in his heart..

This reason of my writing goes this ;

My brother who in the village due to shortening down of his work reported issues to me how my stepmom accused his wife of stealing eggs going farther reminding of the past due to her dubious attitude my elder brother beat her up and sent her to their family some years ago but after some while my dad brought her back for peace settling..
From the report my brother told me the woman went on by saying some curse on us that she as no benefits deriving from us after she had taken cared of us now we showed her no favor ,meanwhile her first son is living with me over two years now in south-western part of this country with a little am having I do placed my dad on a monthly allowance which from there she will gain some stuff . Traveling home I will buy some clothes also go along with my clothes that I consider outdated but still nice for her two children who are in the village and during my staying with them I will take care of the bills which my dad will not be comfortable with it... my elder brother's wife is a nurse , she's always there for her on all ramifications, my second elder brother's wife
do take care of her but to my greatest surprised our stepmother still have the mouth to say we have done nothing for her ..
From my brother's words ,the woman said alot of words which I don't want to put in writing..

Am thinking to send her son back to the village and stop responding to any help ..

It has not gotten to the stage where you will send her son away, he is so innocent of her attitude

I think you guys should face her any time she starts her Drama

Meanwhile if you guys are cooking in the same pot, you have to start cooking separately

Maybe feeding is causing another wahala

The summary of everything is that, you guys are blocking her ways for reasons best known to her

So you people should not beat her but face her

Tonero5200:
No matter how useless a man is, once he dies the household of the family strength changes. It might not be financially rather emotionally and physically.

Here are my reasons

My dad is a man who drinks alot to the extend we the children are embarrassed for him because we can't go to functions he goes to... because as he goes, he comes back in a different way.

So we do everything possible to avoid where he is at, but on some occasions we cant..depends on how close the celebrant is. Then we bore it in mind that that day we might get to hear something that offends us.. the shame and embarrassment and might retaliate or ignore.


Being one of the senior men alive, they always come to pay homage everytime despite being the way he is..to settle dispute and to also pray for them.. and also tell them about history how we related and mention names of our forefathers, tracing back their Roots step by step..he knows all..because his father also told him. so they respect him for that as an elderly man even though dry gin is his best friend. all they can do was to talk and laugh behind his back. When he's sober they dare not make jest of him.
I repeat they dare not.


But now he's been dead about 4years ago and I tell you we that normally get the first invitation of marriage ceremony or any functions happening in the extended family no longer gets invited.

Nobody has come in to ask hwfar from us the children since he was buried. They see us as not important since the elderly man is no more.

Our family house that used to trooped in by different new faces almost every week don't see it no more


I am not talking about money here, I am good... But even if I don't have...my elder brother who is a graduate the back bone is there...but I am just stating the obvious fact...

THAT everybody has use no matter how useless you perceive them to be and one day you might get to realise that.


The thing is that during those period we don't even take it as anything. Instead we the children gets angry whenever they comes to inform him for a function because we know that week we will not sleep at night...but as it has its advantages so those it has it disadvantages.

What you should understand is that information is power
Any one that has knowledge of certain information is a powerful person, even if he is just an ordinary man

People will still go to such person for information especially when it involves traditional setting

So now that he is gone, no need for such recognitions and loyalty again because the source has gone with him

Its nothing to blame anyone for

Cowbell521:
All this stress because of dustbin gender. Na the iiidiot wey marry weytin e supposed 4ck and dump I blame

Marrying a woman is inviting problems into your life. Men be wise

Take it easy
A man's life is evolved around women

Na you dey make am look difficult

Ayodeoba:
Hello Nairaland, pls I seek for your opinions about this isssue affecting our marriage life.
We re young couple, we just got married.
My wife had always been shouting of pain whenever we re having sex, I believe sex is meant to be enjoyed btw two party.
Any one with remedies or medication to use. Kindly help

I think you need to ask her how she wants it done then follow her ways

Is she still a virgin

Do you think your pen is big for her

Do you use force flow or gentle flow

Or you use speed on her without considering that she is a human

If you rule out the above, just ask her what's the way out of the predicament

She has the solution with her, unless she is not interested in it

Jbleenk:
Now you can choose to bury your loved ones in a coffee table and see them as long as the coffee table lasts. This is a new method of burying your loved ones as agains the conventional method where we dig the earth deep down and place ig them in their final resting place.

Will you do something like this to any of your loved ones when the pass away?

To me it's not even necessary, just get them buried and let them rest

GabrielYulaw:
As in, she can start saying the lady is helping her so to steal her destiny and those of her kids. Seen and heard that kind of nonsense too much.

Honestly

GabrielYulaw:
As in, she can start saying the lady is helping her so to steal her destiny and those of her kids. Seen and heard that kind of nonsense too much.

Honestly,

Childfree:
Background check on the moniker you provided. In (2020) you were 23years, suddenly now (2023) you turn 28years abi?

Also, you are in 500L since 2019 according to one of your begging post but today you are claiming clearance money abi? Lol

All your post since you created the (Oluwapluto) moniker are littered with different begging stories and the likes. In fact you are a seasoned beggar unfortunately some people have been falling for you baits.

To make it worst you trolled people here by saying they should drop their number for 100k giveaway of 1k each.

99% of beggars are on nairaland are scammers. Take it to the bank.

cc Sybergy Samakus

You did well to investigate this begger

We will keep exposing them so that we can know people who are Genuine

I stopped assisting people here when I read where one idiot said that he tricked people on this forum and begged them for money with lies and people believed him

You did a good job

Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

Can you just end most discussions and visits to her family

You can get into trouble assisting her

Besides don't pity her for having six children and living in that condition

She will still bear more kids and live a life of pity

Isokoson1:
Mehn this is beyond local man logistics

Dat isoko man is here again...

Bro step up small.. I no say e no easy.. Woman get one kind character, them go like make them buy something for market make change follow them come.. So that they go pocket am..

Try to they give her like 1thausand 500 naira.. Or 2k.. Nah them really know wetin dey sup for market...

No blame her bro... Try step up for her... One love

Since you already stocked up every thing at home and you are sure you give her pocket money

Just use that 500 and get that perishables and she will do the cooking

Case closed

YourBestWriter:
So I mishandled some information and costed the hospital that I work in a lot of money. I took the responsibility, approached the managing director and told him I accept the responsibility and ready to pay the prices. Surprisingly, the director went straight to his computer and immediately told me to go, that my sins are forgiven.

But what could this mean? Did he really forgive me just like that? I have a bad feeling about the entire thing. I mean, he didn't even show his anger towards me, and he was straightforward.

I think he already made up his mind to clear that cost even before you came for apology

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marvellous2222:
My wife calls her family for everything, once I'm broke she calls her mother to send her food items, I have begged her to stop, I have gotten angry yet she said she can't be hungry in a man's house when there's excess in her parents house, my wife can't manage 3k to cook for me, a family with just 2 kids, she'll call her elder brothers and tell them I gave her 3k to cook immediately they will send money for her.

Can't a woman water down her taste to keep her marriage? They don't insult me but I feel not man enough, I feel less of myself, my wife is from a rich home and the house we are living is a wedding gift from her brothers, she's an only daughter and they over pamper her, they don't allow her ask twice.

I remember I bought a car for her when she delivered our first child my brother in-law knew about it before the car arrived cause I ordered through his company, he changed the car to something twice the one I could afford without my knowledge, when they brought a car to the house I said this isn't what I ordered my brother in-law said their Ada can't be seen driving such after marriage.

They are planning to open a business for her and they didn't involve me in the plan, my marriage is not what I wanted cause I feel like I'm not man enough.

My wife doesn't appreciate gifts from me like when it's from her family, I got her a 75k watch she said thank you and for months she didn't use it, I had to remind her that there's a watch I gave her, but when one of her brother sent her a watch worth 260k she danced and used it always.

How do I handle this?

She was spoilt by her family even before marriage

So I think you should just do what you can and leave the rest

If they want to open any business for her, let them go ahead

Just maintain normal relationships with her family and don't feel less a man if they dont involve you with their plans
You can't even fight them

The only issue here is her calling to her family for financial assistance

I don't think there is any issue if her family wants to raise her up by empowering her

Though I think they should carry you along

Thonyboy:
https://.ng/2023/10/18/why-gov-akeredolu-is-working-from-ibadan-ondo-govt/

What a defence, 😂

dopamean:
From jumia stores. (#15,000)

Ok thanks

Olaronke2478:
I know that the Romance Section is the appropriate section for my post but I feel I will get mature pieces of advice here.

Here goes my gist;
I am a lady in my mid-twenties and in my final year at one of the Universities in Nigeria. It happens that I have never been in any relationship because I've been fleeing from premarital sex and chasing a path of sexual purity. My decision to flee has never been propelled or fueled by religion but morals, safety from STDs, and peace of mind.

I have met many guys who wanted to be in a relationship with me but I turned them down because I know none of them would want to be in a "sexless relationship".
However, I met one recently and he seems to be really interested in me, and vice versa. He wants a relationship with me, and I do too but I am not ready to engage in premarital sex.

Sex seems to be the bane of romantic relationships these days and I'm afraid no one wants to be in a " sexless" relationship.
Am I being too rigid or uptight concerning the issue of not having sex in a relationship? I feel tempted to lower my guard on this aspect.

I need mature advice, please

The choice you made is to guide yourself so that you will not experience nonsense from any relationship

The real truth is that you can't run away from it

Whenever you are fully prepared to go into any relationship, make up your mind and start one

But if you insist till the right person comes, no one knows who the right person is

And it's not easy to get a sexless relationship now

If you get one then you are just lucky

NaijaCoverBlog:
Source: https://pmnewsnigeria.com/2023/10/15/wife-pours-acid-on-husbands-face-over-n15000-in-rivers/?amp=1

Maybe we have to add psychiatric test for intending couples