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Emodeee:
You don't have to say a word. just have a ride and a nice a apartment. Pick them up and take them to your house. That is all.

Says who

That means all guys that are mobile will be going to bed every night with different women

Until he gets stuck with a marine agent

Jodha:
Niggur said he was broke and his girlfriend sent him 100k..

Ladies can yhu money to yhur boyfriend because he's broke?

There are good ladies out there, who appreciate the value of relationship and still do what they can to keep it

If you have a man that makes you his priority, why won't you as a lady send cash to him

Not even when she knows that he has no other friend apart from her

But bear in mind, a woman can't be giving with out hope

Don't ask what I mean by hope because, you guys knows what women wants from a good relationship

donestk:
Hi folks,

Who else have noticed that our females now smoke heavily and in open areas?

Not just in clubs, but in bars and neighbourhood.

They came in contact with the bad guys and were influenced by the guys

You know, you can sweet mouth a woman because they believe in what they hear and men believe in what they see

So once they taste it continuously they become addicted to it

Most times they end up being stupid with it and Loosing focus whereas they guys thst taught them have moved in life

lavylilly:
DEAR LADIES : BITTER TRUTH YOU MUST SWALLOW :
1. Sex doesn't keep a man, if you like, turn 360% on bed, he will still dump you. Bleach until you become white, if he doesn't notice the qualities of a wife in you, he will leave you.
2. A man who wins your love with cash may not stay forever. Real men don't settle down with fake women who love money.
3. The beauty of a woman can take her to a Palace but her character will determine how long she stays in the palace. Beauty attracts men but character keep them.
4. Material things definitely has its merits but it cannot alone provide the riches of a truly meaningful life.
5. Being sexy without a character will not get you a husband, you will only get a boyfriend.
6. Sex can bring pleasure but it can never bring love, sex is a product of love, love is not a product of sex.
7. Sex can make a man stay with you overnight but love will make him stay for a lifetime.
8. There are some things that money just can't buy like manners, moral and integrity.
9. How you dress will definitely determine how men will address you.
10.Lastly character and love cannot make you keep a man who doesn't want to be kept.. Only a family built with God as the leader can stand the test of time.

All these sex this sex that, are you guys not the one asking for sex from them

Leave the ladies alone let them find their bearing if sex is not enough to offer

Who doesn't know that character attracts

What about men, are they left out ❓

Geminiman:
Good morning,

I have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 3 years. I do the little I can to support her every now and then but the issue has in most instances always been the Physical aspect of the relationship.

Having sex is a far cry from the present situation. Sometimes after making out, she would tell me she feels guilty. If we making out, she'd tell me don't touch this, don't touch that. Sometimes during the making out sessions, when we are close to having sex she'd just turn her back to me, I'd ask if there's a problem, she would tell me there isn't. Many times she would tell me we have to stop the making out thing and all. In most instances, I suck it up.

You see the whole thing is pathetic. Pathetic in the sense that I have a girlfriend and still jack off. Although having a GF and jacking off are two mutually exclusive things, the former ought to reduce or even stop the latter.

Some weeks ago we had a misunderstanding and she sent me a text message containing several things, but the most striking was "... can't you do something without always expecting something in return".

I was bewildered. To begin with it was her pouring salt on the already festering injury. Secondly, I can't particularly say we have done anything sexual per say. It was really humiliating for me.

These days, I don't even think about her in a sexual manner, in short I don't even get an erection because of her. And I told her this morning I want us to stop the making out and all.

I am not cheating on her or intending to, I jack off, it suffices. All in a bid to maintain sanity. I don't just want to get humiliated or insulted over such pettiness or her thinking she's doing me some sort of favour by making out with me. She's been giving me attitude because of that.

Was I wrong?

Cc Harddon, Ubunja

All she is doing is just shakara

But since she doesn't want to make out, leave her with is let's see how far she will maintain it

And as it goes on and on the relationship will fizzle out on its own

At times women don't really know what they want just because they have a complex nature

It's not their fault pls

callthefred:
I have to appreciate you for taking time to read this. I'm about to take a big step in my life and I need honest advice and answers.

I'm planning and hoping to really settle down this year so any relationship I have right now is towards marriage, however, I have a girl friend who also seems to be ready to settle down and I have huge respect for her. However, I have always believed that my authority in a relationship or marriage should not be up for debate. I am a very good listener and also very loving and I find it hard to double date although, I have some women I'm keeping on standby because I've seen enough to understand nothing is guaranteed.

So I told my girlfriend I want to meet her family, she insisted I see her Pastor first or forget about it because she is scared if she takes any man home it must surely be the man she wants to marry.

My challenge is I am not a fan of Pastors these days because I know 80% of them are criminals and I can never have my wife respect her Pastor more than me or even discuss my affairs with her Pastor. Many of these clowns take advantage of women so I have always had my reservations and she knows.

Now she wants me to see the Pastor or forget it in her own words. I was furious with that statement because I have no time to check time but I've also come to realise women are so complex and from experience you can loose a good one for a simple mistake so I don't want to judge her by that statement as it could be out of anger, there's no guarantee the next one I'm meeting will be better off.

I told her let me speak to your Pastor over the phone she said NO. I'm not subjecting myself to any man of God to start thinking he's guiding my life or anything. I was raised right in a Christian home and when I need God I seek him myself.

I need help on what I must do in this case and how I can convince her to see reason. I hope this issue won't end our relationship but I won't from onset become a slave to a fellow man in the name of spiritual father...

I won't pretend to know it all so I need advice please. Marriages is no joke.

I like your stand on the pastor issue

You are supposed to meet her parents not pastor

What if the pastor, approves and her parents reject, what happens

Some ladies are into their pastor and that makes it difficult for them to act without the consent of their pastor's

But bear in mind that, if you wedd her, take her to your church because she will likely be taking orders from pastor when you start treating her bad

I will say give her time and see if she will appreciate you seeing her parents first and where she insists

Then replace her with those on standby

By the time she gets her senses back, if their is still vacancy, you can reconsider her with lay down rules and if there is no vacancy its her fault not yours

dukeprince50:
Op, sorry u are a lady, the thing is that, what we enjoy is unexplainable, it feels so good and the sensation is heavenly, though I won't advice u to have a dck, its a bad thing u are a victim of circumstances.

Women fell too, just that she has not been fortunate to get a guy that will help her get the feelings

Huawei101:
I'm going to make this short.

Please I'm doing this for a friend.



My name is Damilola, I got into relationship with this guy six months ago. I didn't wanted to start the relationship with him but he kept pestering me and I had to give him a trial and as it goes on I fell in love with him.

After two months I discovered I was pregnant and I called him to inform him but he denied and afterwards he r fuse picking my calls for about two weeks. I had no choice than to terminate the pregnancy which I had. o choice of. ringing to this world a fatherless child.


He came back later and apologise and told me he was sorry bla bla that because he is still in school and had no means to cater for me or the unborn child. so I had to forgive him and move on. we were together again and just last week I found out I was pregnant again. I called him to inform him and he has not picked my call since then, I'm confused. I don't know what to do. I'm really devastated right now.


please your advice. insult is allowed.

Why are you confused, keep opening your legs for him and for the doctors tgat will perform the D&C

It's your life not his

He only has his dick and it can't be detached neither can it be spoilt

You have your pussy and your womb, the more the abortion the more damage

So after the first error, you can't insist on condom to prevent the second error

More errors are coming in as much as you are not going to caution yourself

Wetin concern the guy, he will come again after the second one and subsequent one

Fareee123:
Hi elders in the house,I'm a Lady, I'm 21 years old,there's this guy I've been dating for about 3 years,we got along so fast that it feels like I've known him all my life, he's in his final yearbow and I'm in my third year,not in the same school though ,he used to call and text often until middle last year, he stopped calling like he used to ,I still do the calling, but I got tired,he wasn't reciprocating, when I complained, he said he's always busy,I feel that if he loves me like he claims, he will always check on me ,whenever we're together, the vibes of the relationship is still there,but when we aren't together, he's a differences person, there was a time I broke up, I blocked him, he found a way to reach me and wironed things out,he changed for 2 weeks before he went to his normal self. He answers to my needs guys,he has been paying my rent since my first year in school, he gives me 10k every 2 weeks,he pays for my hair when I need him to + other stuffs too,do you think be can change or do I just leave the relationship?? Please ignore the errors,I'm not perfect

You have a caring guy like him and you want to let him go just like that

Well he may be busy, he may not be

If he has found another girl, them he is really busy

But I suggest you pay him a visit and dig deep into his mouth to find out why the sudden change

It takes a thin line between love and lost love

Assure him of your loyalty and promise him you did make him proud

Though he alone knows what's up, you are just trying to let him know that he is your jewel

msmon:
Hey Naira landers,

Pls lemme have you thought on this question;



We'll continue to have this conversation until this school of thought changes.

See Twitter response on the same question below.

I think the reverse is the case here

Men do go to women for sex, so it simply means that he is giving sex to a woman and when the woman responds back for the act, she is collecting what the guy is giving her which is sex

When women have orgasm, it starts and ends with them but when men have, they poured it into her.

Now tell me with this analysis, who gives and who receives ❓

geraldinai:
Nairalanders, this is a long post but please read till the end.

My bf just broke up with me over what he termed incompatibility. This guy and I have been together for two years and we both loved each other. It was a long-distance relationship, he stays in Lagos while I schooled in another town in the west. I had no problem with the distance because I'm not the attention-craving type and I like my space.

He's a complete extrovert, while I'm an introvert(not to the extreme though) and this has been an issue most of the time. He complains that I'm too quiet and not on the same social level as him. I don't do social media like that while he's uploading new pictures every minute. I also didn't like the fact that he relates too well with girls; he had a lot of female friends and easily socializes with new ones. Well, I blended with that so well as I didn't see any trace of unfaithfulness in him.

Fast forward to late last year, there was a breakdown in our communication, he stopped calling and chatting as he used to, I asked him what the matter was but he said there's nothing. I was a bit scared if something went wrong with him and I asked again after some days, that was when he said he would tell me when the time comes, so I stopped asking. With all the signs he showed me, my mind was telling me he wanted a breakup but I didn't ask him further as I was preparing for my final exam and him breaking up with me that period would leave me devastated so I focused on my exam with the hope that after then, we would talk about it.

After my exam, I sent him a text apologizing and asked us to continue as we were but he didn't reply. He invited me over to his place and that was when he told me he's no longer interested in the relationship, that he has no feelings for me again. He gave one thousand and one reasons for us not to be together anymore. He said I'm less expressive, I agree with anything he says and does and that during the break in our communication, I didn't make efforts to find out why he did so and challenge him. Funnily enough, I didn't react when he told me, I just said it's all right as I envisaged it earlier. With the reasons he gave me, my heart was broken and felt there was no need to push further. He was surprised with how calm I was when he told me, personally, I don't believe in forcing someone to love me.

I moved on well but after a week when I was alone and reflecting, the feeling of guilt overwhelmed me that I probably pushed him away with my seemingly “not too caring” attitude. I see myself with him and I never thought we could separate. I showed love and care in my how way and in the best way, I know-how. I did love him wholeheartedly and he knew it but he seemed unable to cope with my private/ less emotional lifestyle.
Nairalanders, did I actually push him away?

Let's not talk much about the relationship

Let's concentrate on you

You have identified and accept some areas he pointed at

Work on yourself and those areas
Leave your comfort zone and learn to socialise
Be smart and talk intelligently, men loves women who give them brain challenge

Be open and bold, speak out rather than keeping quiet, you can't impress a man by being too quiet, men are active by nature and appreciate being with active women

When next you have a boyfriend, make some sacrifice to the relationship, keep him busy with fun chats and he can't stay a whole day without looking for a chat from you

They don't get tired or retired

She just want to follow her heart instead of polluting her self under the disguise of being in the convent

She may have not be willing to go into it but family pressurised her to go into religious life

Those who have the calling hardly pull out

NwanyiOkpa:
Good day,

So i was having an argument with my friend today, She insisted that she is still a virgin even after she has had anal sex but not Vaginal sex.

I was of the opinion that she is no longer a virgin since "anal sex" is still sex even though her hymen is still in tact.

I can't say i am totally right, what's your opinion on this?

Virginty can be broken in any careless way

Be it sports
Washing of the pussy by insacting her fingers
Even ordinary fingering is enough to break the hymen

Some even break their virginity without even being aware

The best thing is staying away from any activities in that region be it anal or what

Candrevah:
I'm currently searching for a matured single responsible working class lady whom we can run a small scale Investment together here In lagos. My location Is a plus for Investment. My location Is among the Infrastructures Ambode created while he was In office "Ahmadiyya Ijaiye precisely around abule-egba. Most of the roads has been tarred now. I'm looking forward to open a "Sharwama Outlet" My enviroment has a lot of business pontentials. PM me for more details...

Why not get someone you know very well of her character

This is a business that will involve money and I don't know what you want her to do for you or the role she will be playing for you

Then, there is the tendency that you might date her, unless you want to be the boss and all you need from her is service to customers not her finances

SpyAC:
The qtn should be, y do girls enjoy/prefer mouth action more, even when the hardly wash their smelly local government

Forget about the fact that women are always wet down there

They are extremely neat in that area

Body Odour is quite different from pussy odour

The real pussy odour doesn't smell bad, it's fragrance is made to arouse a dick

When a man loves a woman, he pulls down her undies and suck that area without even asking her if she has taken a bath

It's only when you date a pigs, you suspect that the area is dirty

If a woman doesn't wash her pussy a whole day, she will just be uncomfortable naturally

Date neat and clean girls and you will be rest assured that she is neater down there

What you need is to understand her body language, that's all

Yes she can ask, but most times they are off due to some emotional things bothering them

Yes she has the right to ask and must not be misquoted

Those who says women are nit supposed to ask are actually giving her room to look quite but more dangerous than acid

MyVILLAGEpeople:
Hello house.

I will just go straight to the point. Please what does it really mean when a lady ( in this case someone u are planning to date ) Makes this statement. ---- "JUST ACT LIKE A MAN, THAT'S ALL."

Does it mean one is being immature??

I really need your responses on this. Thanks.

No matter how junior a woman is or look, she expects maturity from a man

When a man acts childishly it make a woman to regard him an incapable of the relationship

Be gentle
Listen more talk less
Don't don't be desperate
Don't lose your tongue
Be guided
Be smart and sensible
Work in accordance with her ways, don't give her undue pressure, be patient she will definitely fall for you

An average woman is as wise as a serpent

marvelck:
Is it cos Owerri girls are too beautiful, intelligent, domineering and sophisticated. Or is it cos of their exorbitant bride price?

No matter how gorgeous a woman looks, no man wants a domineering woman

Owerri women have that as inborn

Kennedyiheme:
Call it crazy but its reality... a successful woman wouldn't want to date down, she wouldn't want to date someone she makes more money than, aslo wealthy men don't want to marry a woman of equal status.. so in reality if you're a woman you cant have both.. you must sacrifice one for the other.. its either you sacrifice family for your career and riches or you sacrifice career for family... its your choice to pick one...

Example of successful of successful nigerian women without husbands and a traditional family...
MOST NIGERIAN FEMALE CELEBS

You are just being intimidated for nothing

What's wrong with a woman being successful

Most families looks up to their successful daughters to finance the family budget

No matter what they are doing or discussing, they still look up to their daughter's approval because she is the one bearing the cost of it

A woman can never be lonely, there will always be someone who admires her and what they want from her is her approval

Stop having low self esteem when you see successful women, the wise men drops their ego and pride to grab them

Haba ❗❗❗

For him to do this to his daughter, he will do worst to another person

tstx:
Okay then... How??

Lol

Kelechi009:
Hello baby

Lol

As if the men are left out of it

Do you think as a woman, it's easy to survive in that industry without compromise

Timekeeper:
We don't have women again, what will have are listed below;

Bitches
Leeches
Mami water girls
Slay mamas
Olosho
Men hater
Corporate prostitutes

Really and you still go ahead and sleep with them

That makes you one of them

tstx:
How Cynthia Morgan went into extinction still amazes me till today..

As for collaboration. Just forget it. Forget all the smiles and giggles.. NIGERIAN WOMEN are their own worst enemies.

You men made them to be enemies to themselves

Don't ask me why

She should just remain with Benue state University, before they will make her a scapegoat in ABU

Her exams script could be subjected to monitoring spirit

ghettokid1:
She is not sexy in my eyes.
She looks more like an old woman

Someone some where is dying for her

felong:
Please I Need Detailed Advice In Starting A Filling Station

Good evening nairalanders. please I would appreciate it if I'm given a detailed breakdown of what it would cost to open an run a filling station.
also someone a friend advised that franchising would be good I would be operating with a branded name. so which independent oil marker in Nigeria is the best for franchise.

My location is Abakaliki Ebony state. I will also like to know how many tankers I call sell on an average per month in a place like Abakaliki.
thanks.

Why not make your research in your locality where you intend establishing your station

What you will get from here us a guess advise

Go round your area of concentration and get information from first hand people who are experienced in it

Rogosa:
U earn my follow

Thanks

Happy birthday to a man with a gold heart

One is only assured of his or her own meal prepared by self

Any other meal in a buka is as dangerous as drinking sniper

Viking007:
I used to have such misguided thoughts like the op some 3-4yrs ago, not until something illogical, unexplainable, totally impossible happened to me & my family.

To anyone still with doubts, I laugh. It's for your own good you better believe there's a God. Don't wait till you experience something extremely evil like me before you believe. You might not be lucky.

Am grateful to God for giving you a good opportunity to believe that he is supreme

You know the devil is good at misleading and that's where the op is hanging out with the devil

He will have an encounter very soon