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The most important thing is that she is happy in there

kunleweb:
My dear sister. I'm sure you can tell from the massive toll of divorces cases you come across in your field that it won't be wrong to say that lots of ladies of the younger generation have lost it

I wouldn't want to put the whole blame in the women, the men too has a fraction of the blame

But incompatible partners that lack understanding can never make a successful marriage

kunleweb:
The law. Na una our sisters no wan put head down. My mum has been complaining bitterly about how young ladies don't place value on their marriages in the past one week and it's been one divorce to the other all over the news. It's okay sha. Dakore can join the clubs of her sisters, HenShaw, Tonto, and Co. They can even have foursome for all we care. Women should take it easy on we men too

Your mum is right in her statement, some women are growing with the mentality that men should do all expenses at home

But I am against that, women have to contribute to support the men in family because its not easy to carry family load

Only the married one's will understand better

bestofnollywood:
They were so in love with each other!

In fact, nobody envisaged that there would be a separation, not to talk of a divorce between Nollywood’s actress, Dakore Egbuson-Akande, and her husband.

But like some celebrity marriages, Dakore and Olumide Akande are no more. Just like a pack of badly stacked cards, the nine-year-old wedding crumbled and the centre cannot hold.

Signs that the wedlock was troubled surfaced online when the actress posted a photo where she wore bikini! Prior to that, she was sighted at the One African Music Fest in Dubai with her brother, Timini.

“The marriage had problems a few years back but the couple tried to make things work out. Many factors were responsible but Dakore became tired of not having enough money to throw around. Her husband, Olumide, who is one of a son of billionaire businessman, Harry Akande, is broke—the money isn’t flowing like when they met, courted and married. Olu lives off his dad and the economy isn’t as buoyant. Even Harry Akande is allegedly not as rich as he was,” reliable sources told Kemi Ashefon.

Many would recollect that Dakore was romantically involved with Olumide, for many years before they were pronounced man and wife at the Guiding Light Assembly, Ikoyi in 2011. A lavish reception that had in attendance elite members of the society was staged at the prestigious KFA Event Place in Lekki. Dakore’s father-in-law, businessman cum politician Chief Harry Akande brought to bear his social and financial clout.

“Olumide sacrificed everything for Dakore. Initially, when he made his intention known to family members that he wanted to marry the actress, hell was loose! No member of his family stood by him. To them, Olu could have gotten a good girl instead of an actress, who is tagged wayward and a gold-digger. He ignored all pleadings and advice. The handsome dude went for Dakore and they were married in 2011. They have two girls as products of the union,” source revealed.

Moreover, the quest for a third child must have allegedly put pressure on the actress who quit the movies long before she married Akande and after their two kids, they relocated to the United States of America. Well, Dakore’s mother-in-law wasn’t pleased with their lifestyle and wanted them in Nigeria where the couple can work towards giving her a grandson!

Meanwhile, Dakore had maintained that she was done with child-bearing. As a matter of fact, it was due to the imbroglio in their marriage that pushed her into acting again.

Not a few fans would be worried at this development because Dakore did all she could to keep her marriage intact—at least on social media. Not known to celebrate her wedding anniversaries on social media unlike some actresses, she revealed that she wanted a ‘private marriage and not one to be displayed on social media.’

In an interview two years ago, Dakore disclosed that, “My mother always say, ‘cover your yam and how you’re eating it.’ Like on his birthday, I just do maybe some posts on Instagram but we like to celebrate anniversaries in-house with the kids. We’ve been together for 11 years but married for seven years.”

Already, Dakore has moved out of her marriage and she is allegedly dating a Nigerian guy who is into entertainment and organizes big shows in Africa and other continents. Who knows the couple can still come back again.

Source: Kemi Ashefon Blog

http://kemiashefonlovehaven.com/?p=37924

No marriage is guaranteed, just the grace of God is all that is needed

SlimyJ:
Currently I'm in tears,my heart is disturbed...
I'm a single mother of one boy (4years old),my first relationship cracked based on family issues mainly the guy's mom,she claimed she can't allow me to marry his son cause I'm TOO EXPENSIVE,she married another girl for him,my baby was just 9months old then,after lot of patching up, everyday beating, cheating and violence,we decided to quit the marriage. He didn't bother to take care of the child at all,things became difficult for me but my mom has been there all through,I went back to learn hair making,beads making and cake making which I did my freedom and had my certificate,God has been so faithful to me and I'm flourishing,then I met a guy earlier last year...
He is a graduate,he is loving and looks calm,he do carry me along in everything he does,he even loved my son and he do pay partly out all his bills, he is free with my family and friends,behold I thought I found love.....
July last year,I had to travel out of the country for a business trip,the trip should have lasted for 6months,but unfortunately I spent only a month there cause of some reasons,I had to call this guy that I will be coming home earlier than we planned,our plans was that after I'm back we will get married,I was shocked when he told me on phone that he did a mistake when I left for just a month and put another woman in a family way,I was very hurt,I wept and shouted,we were not on speaking terms when I entered the country,but he pleaded together with his friends and he suggested that the lady will abort the pregnancy,I told him I don't buy that idea that he should just let me be and he should face the girl,few days later he came back begging that the girl already aborted the pregnancy that can I see now that God wanted us to marry, he even told me to get pregnant and I replied I can't make another mistake until he walks me down the aisle,after a long talk in days we resolved the issue and we were back together,he even do pampered me than before. Lately I discovered that any little issues always result to arguments,I suddenly don't no how to do anything good anymore,he is one day cold and the second day harsh. At mid November,I decided to call him to attention that why is he just like that,and he said he is not happy cause he is broke,we started praying together for better days, he do call me close to 6 times in a day but suddenly changed to twice a day and later he switched to calling once in two days, though we do chat.
To cut my long story short,on the 30th of December,he just called me that he will be going to his town for the new year festival,I was like when have you been planning that and he said not long,on the cross over night he called to pray for me at exactly 12:02am and we were both happy,then he stopped calling for two days. On Saturday 4th of January,he called very early to greet me,then I discovered he had cattarh ,I told him to go to the clinic and treat himself he said he doesn't have any money on him,I sent him some cash to treat himself,he chatted me frequently ,he even called me more than 10 times that day,I wasn't even suspicious and we've been cool since then..
Last night he called me that he is back and will like to take me for breakfast this morning and get me some things from the store. We were at the pounded yam kitchen when some messages entered my WhatsApp inbox ,I managed to open with my left hand,to my greatest surprised they were images of this guy's introduction on that very Saturday with that same girl he told me had aborted the pregnancy,I was so shocked,I lost my appetite immediately and I bursted out into tears,he wasn't even remorseful,all he only said was that ....I've heard and I've heard be that....
I've been weeping since then, mummies in the house,are men really this wicked??

No one is to be trusted in the surface of this earth

Just mourn over it and move on

But I bet you he will come back to you with another headline of story

Be wise

wizzyrich:
I happen to have a female friend serving in my primary place of assignment(PPA) who is more like a feminist. She always have this mentality that men and women are equal in the society(which I'm not disputing that). But the issue here is, she's also having that mentality towards any man she will settle down with.


We got into an argument few days ago and she insisted that when she's married, that the house chores must be shared equally with the husband. And that if at all she want to do these chores, that its shouldn't look as a right to the husband. She even went as far as saying after dining with the husband, that he is expected to clear the table and wash the plates being the fact that she went to the market and she prepared the meal.


Some weeks ago she made me believe she will cook for me while I went to watch ManU game against Hull city, but to my greatest surprise, I got home meeting the shiny empty plates I washed earlier on, I would have slept on an empty stomach if not for my garri and beverages that rescued me. Her excuse this morning was that she slept off. I couldn't get angry because she's not my wife yet.

So I'm throwing these questions to the guys in the house, will you allow such attitude from your wife ? Will you share the house chores equally with her ? And will you clear the table after dining with her ?


To the ladies, do you support her views ? if yes, tell us why.

Let's talk NL'dners

She is in a world of her's

If you think you can cope, then your choice

But all her dreams will be disappointed in real life

kelophili23:
I marry an Ibo girl God had blessed us with a child, her grand dad died in the village money was shear for her to pay because of the burial with other things she will buy for the family approximately #150,000 and my wife don't have that kind of money to pay because she is not working for now, I'm expected to pay for her being that she is married to me and I don't have that kind of money to spend for burial early this year, I'm from another tribe so my Ibo folks in the house if we are unable to pay or pay a little we can is there any consequences, please advise me

She got a share of 150k for grand dad burial

What will be her share if it where to be her own father give

Give what you have and don't promise any thing or balance

Next time, they will reduce their budget and share to your side

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

Being the first daughter, some men are scared because they will have to marry the family along too

There is this tendency that, he will be called upon on any financial matters

There are also issues of your junior one's, coming to leave with you after marriage of which he has to train them for the fact they leave with you

Poverty and lack of money has made some men to shy away from their responsibilities

Though it's not his duty to do so, but if he truly loves you, he will love and accept every member of your family

You too you have the biggest task of loving, respecting, caring and accepting his family as your too without complaining

Schoolshoe:
She just finished her secondary school education, she got entangled with a lover and she got pregnant amidst your warnings and sex education. what would you do?. will you chase her out like a mean parent would do?

Having warned her several times and she lost it, it's either she follows the guy or I will keep her, let her pass through it and see what she did to herself

Eminentbabe:
pls be mild in words that relates to sensitive issues such as this.

shes presently out but there are threats to.life dts why d call out for help. a lot is involved hence the need to get help from appropriate quaters in her location. kindly send an email if u have contact anyone who can help, say a human right office, a lawyer etc location is ibadan.

tnx

Is her own family also threatening her ❓

Why not take her in and give her succor for the time being

Omnivalent:
can a university graduate marry a jss 3 student?
please, help a brother.

Jss 3 is just at the middle, marry her after her common entrance

That will tell us that you don't have common sense

yazga:
15 STUPID THINGS A WIFE CAN DO TO MESS UP HER MARRIAGE…

1) DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO BEAT YOU:
You block the door way, then dare him to beat you up and see what will happen. A Lot of women have done this and end up regretting.

2) DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN:
You will be making a major mistake if you dare your husband to sleep with another woman. You may live to regret it.

3) NEGLECTING YOUR BODY AND LOOKS BECAUSE YOU ARE MARRIED:
“I am married; I can relax, after all who is looking at me?” He married you Slim, sexy and trendy. Next thing you become obsessed, dirty and shabbily dressed.
It is the mistake of most careless married women.

4) DENYING YOUR HUSBAND SEX REGULARLY:
You are a career woman; You are an overly religious woman… Hmmm! You feel sex in marriage is secondary, you deny your husband your body regularly, so he is sexually starved and intimacy-famished. His secretary, colleagues and girls in church are seducing and begging him to come to them but you have padlocked your Jerusalem and expect him not to lust after others. His mind will drift from you towards them.

5) LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND FOR YOUR FEMALE FRIEND(S) TO CATER FOR:
“My dear friend, please be my eye as I travel for this one week, help cater for my husband and my little kids”. By the time you are back, your dear friend has so really helped you by sleeping with your husband and expecting a new baby as continuation from where you stopped.
If at all she has not eloped with your man, leaving your children all alone.
It is very stupid to commit your husband into the hands of your beautiful and very active friend.

6) LEAVING YOUR HUSBAND IN THE HANDS OF YOUR HOUSE MAID:
Your maid is the one that cooks,cleans the house, cares for the children and your husband. You suddenly become a lazy bone since the arrival of the maid. All you do is shout and place orders. Not bad! But if your husband feels more love and care from the maid, sister, that maid won’t struggle to snatch your husband. You are the one graciously giving him to her and those that need him.

7) EMPLOYING A FULLY GROWN, RED BLOODED LADY AS A MAID:
She is fully grown up and well endowed, back and front very tantalizing. She dresses skimpily and sexily like an actress, catwalks like a model and that is your own house maid?
What a mistake!

�. EMPLOYING A HOUSE GIRL THAT IS MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU:
Employing a house girl more beautiful than you is a major technical mistake most women make. This means you are using your money to employ a rival for yourself. Don’t be foolish when getting a maid. They act dumb like maids to you for the time being but when your husband starts sleeping with them, you will be shocked they are more agile than you when they start fighting you.

9) USING ANALOG BRAIN TO LIVE WITH A DIGITAL HUSBAND:
Your husband is growing with ideas and all; you contribute nothing than sitting down at home to eat. He is dressing like a guy with jeans and face cap; you are celebrating the fact that you are a married woman to a Yuppy, cute man. Your husband is on *Twitter, Facebook, Whatsapp, Skype etc;* the only thing you know about mobile phone is receiving and making calls. Your husband is talking about stock market; you only talk about tomato market. He’s talking about Forex; you are talking about fruit and vegetables only. He will see you so backwards, local and dumb. Upgrade please!

10) FAILING TO COMMIT YOUR FAMILY INTO THE HANDS OF GOD:
A wife won’t do well if she fails to commit her family into the hands of God regularly. Don’t make such mistakes of thinking you are in charge of your husband and marriage and you can handle things. Be prayerful, hand over your family to God daily. May you never labour in vain and another reaps where you have sown!

11) FIGHTING YOUR MOTHER IN-LAW CARELESSLY:
You may fight your Mother in-law dirty and think you have won especially if she’s innocent, you will end up losing. Her son and herself have been friends and lovers for years before you came; may be before you were born. She was the first ‘wife’ of your husband and also the first ‘girlfriend’. Her son cannot divorce her and she is more experienced than you in matrimonial battles, in fact she is a veteran of many conflicts. Yes i know that a wife becomes a priority and number one and some men try to place their mums above their wives . That is stupid and sickening! Apply wisdom and talk to God and your husband about it. But don’t come in with the intention to separate mother and son. Respect a worthy mother in-law. Not all of them are wicked. Not all are witches. You meet a wicked one, apply wisdom and avoid her ways.

12) TELLING YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE:
When you tell your friends about your sex life and how your husband rocks you, you are indirectly telling them to go have a feel of him. They can size you up and know whether your husband is hot or not, whether he is sexually fulfilled or not. They may even know your Husband’s “turn on” and use it against him then grab your husband. Most women have carelessly lost their husbands as they boast to their friends “my husband is too sexually demanding, he is an expert when it comes to sex, he is a horse, he almost kills me in bed, he has a horse size” etc… Your friends will pick information like this and cover things up where you have been failing.

13) REPORTING YOUR HUSBAND TO HIS MUM:
It looks beautiful to report your husband to his Mum, but the end result will hurt you. Most mothers will support their sons any day; children are always right before their Mothers. Seek counsel in the right quarters, never report your husband to his Mum unless his mum is so god fearing, honest and impartial.

14) LETTING CHILDREN TAKE THE PLACE OF YOUR HUSBAND:
Many wives abandon their husbands, denying them of love, care and attention as soon as babies begin to arrive they transfer all affection to their kids. To sleep in bed, they put the Baby in between themselves making the man feel lost and the bond divided. No warm hugs, caress etc.

15) USING SEX WRONGLY:
Sex is supposed to bind you both together, it is supposed to create intimacy and love but in many homes it is the bone of contention. Some women do turn sex to a tool of manipulation;
Some use it for trade by barter. *Some wives will suddenly become commanders at home when their husbands touch them for sex, ordering the man around, “go and off the Fan” “go and lock the gate” “go and check whether our children are sleeping” “How about that money I asked you to give me?” Etc…*
This is just too bad.

Some wives sleep like log of wood in bed while some even wear Jean, knickers to bed.
Nothing sexy
Nothing erotic
Nothing romantic
Nothing Inviting!
If you continue like this you will hurt your marriage deeply and you may destroy your future also. He will start lusting and chasing sexy daughters of Jezebel out there who may fetish him out of home to themselves

A smart wife builds her home, the stupid ones are careless. I know you will be like…. Why can’t he have self control and stay faithful?

Forget it dear.

We are all humans and things push us to do things we never planned.

Be wise!!!

You think there is a single sense in what you just wrote

So if a woman avoids all the trash you mentioned here, there will be peace at home

Go and get married, as a chronic bachelor, you can't be advising married people, you don't have any experience of what goes in and out

But if you insist on this dustbin garbage, you will end up being a puppet to a woman

kodix:
Abeg go sit down,husband or no husband girls must live, make I hear joor!

He is just exhibiting how he was trained to be a stupid husband

johndan103:
Background
I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.


Statement of Problem
My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.


More Details
She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship).
She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.



My Point of View
I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.

My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.


Hauwa's Point of View
Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.


Mom's Point of View
The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home).
The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.


Family point of view
My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.


My Question
What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??


NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person.
Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.

Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.

Cheers

You can use prayers to bind your mum from turning down your girlfriend whom you intend marrying

Meanwhile, your mum wants you to present a medical doctor to her as your wife to be not any other occupation

She is not even concerned about where your heart is but she is more concerned about her interest

Keep your relationship with Hauwa time will tell and if she becomes pregnant in the process, keep it one day your mum will give up and you will have your woman after all

kodix:
I wonder why this complaints and question asking, so your mom decides for you Wat you want or not? Is your life no body decides for her who she marry,abeg leave her and face your life otherwise you'll enter into troubles and she will not be there to rescue u.

It doesn't work like that, he has to trade with caution

Some mothers are something else's

johndan103:
Background
I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.


Statement of Problem
My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.


More Details
She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship).
She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.



My Point of View
I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.

My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.


Hauwa's Point of View
Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.


Mom's Point of View
The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home).
The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.


Family point of view
My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.


My Question
What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??


NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person.
Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.

Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.

Cheers

You can use prayers to bind your mum from turning down your girlfriend whom you intend marrying

Meanwhile, your mum wants you to present a medical doctor to her as your wife to be not any other occupation

She is not even concerned about where your heart is but she is more concerned about her interest

Keep your relationship with Hauwa time will tell and if she becomes pregnant in the process, keep it one day your mum will give up and you will have your woman after all

KingEzo:
Hello Nairalander, please I need your advice. I 31years and my fiancee 29years have been dating for the past four years. she discovered that she's pregnant on new year's eve. we discussed the issue throughout the new year and we agreed to keep the pregnancy that she's going to write her nursing Council exam later. I told her that she should give me some time so that I can go and discuss with my parents and organize introduction then do the engagement in a little way but she said her mom won't be happy with her that she need to do big wedding because she's the first child of her mom. she later told me that she's going to inform her parents before taking any step. to my surprise she called me this evening that she is going to terminate the pregnancy because her family has been raining insult on her since she got home. she said her grandma is even coming to the city with her so that she can terminate the baby. but I told her that I didn't support it that I can't terminate pregnancy, I told her that she can write the the council exam after delivery but she insisted
sir-ma should I support this their action.

She has chosen her family decision over yours

It's possible you will go into a marriage where your in-laws takes upper decisions over yours, there by making you a puppet

She wants an elaborated wedding of which economically, that's not what you want

How are you sure you can really fit in

Just tell her if she terminates the pregnancy, the relationship will be terminated

It's now left for her to obey you or her family

Make your stand clear and don't be a push over

nlPoster:
Suggestions please.

Well if you have a listening partner then ist down and iron it out

If not, you look for who he or she respects most

But make sure you are not at fault in the first place

lickylicky:
Please help me o! My mother in law has taken over my wifey duties. It all started over two years ago when I just gave birth, I noticed my husband doesn't bother about taking breakfast or lunch to work. I thought he didn't want to stress me, it was later I discovered his mum who doesn't live with us has being cooking lunch for him though he didn't tell me. I was thinking it will stop but it has started again this new year. I want to confront him but I want to seek opinion first probably it's no big deal. Maybe it's me that is taking it personal. A marriage of over 4years and my mother in law thinks it's right to still make food for my husband to work everyday without me knowing.
May I add that I have two kids now and my 1st girl is in KG2 and I do make food for her every morning including lunch. He leaves home very early in the morning to go and pick the food at his mom's then come back to pick my daughter at home before going to work knowing fully well that have cooked already. When I tried packing lunch for him this new year he was pleasant the first two day but on the 3rd he came up with the argument that he was running late and can't wait for me to pack his after packing for my daughter.

Pls to avoid issues of blame on you, just ignore them, when she can't cope or he can't continue, they will stop it

My concern is let love reign in your marriage

Must mothers don't joke with their son's welfare, even if he us overage

Even if you confront him, he will tell you that he sees nothing wrong with the mum preparing his lunch

If that single act will make her remove her eyes from your marriage, pls let it be

Mother in laws are the most problematic people in marriage

rtdCivilservant:
E pain am! Bitch, how was the fuccking last night? Better pour liquid air freshener into that stinking pussy before you go for tonight's work. But my candid advice to a useless prostitute like u is to turn a new leaf, see how slackened that dirty pussy of urs looks like. Bastard!

In fact let me place these curses on u;

-May good things cease in ur life, in the life of ur loved ones and ur entire family.
-May u never succeed in anything u lay ur hands on.
-May u never achieve anything meaningful in this life and the next.
-May famine ravage ur family.
-May badluck forever be ur portion.
-U shall never make headways even in the simplest task in life.
-U shall remain wretched all the days of ur life.
- Lastly u shall die in the business(in active service) of prostitution.
N.B. If u like u report me to the mods, I have just passed my message and I tell u that a week from now and see if these things won't start manifesting in ur life. This words(curses) are not from me.

Even the devil will not approve this because it starts and remains with you

Am done with you, ode first-class

Favoritefarmer:
I met my beautiful girl through facebook last April and we started relationship after meeting face-to-face.

With immediate effect, i told her my future plan that all things being equal i will be a pastor and this relationship is NO SEX TILL WEDDING (I am 30 still a virgin thou and she really told me she isn't a virgin again, of which i have no problem with). She has visited me five times spending atleast a week yet no sex with her, knew all my family and as to caring for your girl, i am trying my best but here is the problem.

1. Spiritual: I pray and fast to know God's mind, but no yes or no but my parents went to pray and saw negative though i wish to damn the consequences and marry her but her behavior towards spiritual is bad. No prayer and reading bible. She can sleep eh na from 8pm to 8am.

2. Competition with my family.

3. Ineffictive communication. More like interview.

4. 'Unfaithfulness.' I have caught my girl agreeing to meet one man in hotel for sex and that one asking him if she moans

You need someone who will support your pastoral and spiritual life

That's what you should look out for

rtdCivilservant:
A dumb prostitute like u will never understand anything and that is why I tried to sink it into that empty skull of urs that u are a nincompoop, a scallywag and a bitch with stinking pussy born of a prostitute cos ur dirty and useless mother is/was a prostitute. Bitch

I never knew your mum gave birth to you through prostitution
No wonder you are familiar with the words

Jentle244:
https://www.newtelegraphng.com/parents-beat-teenage-girl-to-death-for-dating-yoruba-boy/

Untimely death from careless parents

Every one will go and rest now

rtdCivilservant:
U are so senseless and unreasonable that ur points do not add up cos I don't see how a prostitute would call other girls prostitutes. My point is if u are not married, has never been raped and u are not a virgin (cos u engaged in premarital sex) who the hell are u to call any other girl a prostitute? Are u not equally a prostitute? I know u are too dumb to comprehend this, so fucck off and burn in hell. I'm done with this dumb prostitute

All you just wrote are senseless statements

Godhead4:

Lol
Na this bungalow be massive?

Aki you can do better

you called a duplex a bungalow,
Look very well or get your glasses

Even the 24hrs return of double money is a great sign to show that you are about Loosing your money

Well if you know the man, engage soldiers and be ready to give them 1/3 of the money instead of Loosing all

MISSCONGENIALITY:
His type can't only propose to a secondary school kid because is ego won't even let him relate with a babe in his level. Once a babe is independent whether she's rich a not, this type of guy cannot go near her.
All his comments betray his fear for independent women.
He thinks I dependent women can't be happilly married.
I pity his daughters

Exactly

Timekeeper:
Show me one guy dt showed he dick on social media and I will. Show u 59 ladies dt exposes their boobs and pussy for men to view and msg them for sex.

Am done with you

Roadtorecovery:
I am very serious with her and she is very open and ready to help. I just want to do the right thing before this ruins me permanently.

Be determined, go to God with prayers

You already know where your problem is

Get married and settle down quickly

By the time you have school fees, house rent, utility bills to pick up and feeding

Your dick will go flaccid

From there you will be too busy to go out to meet them

You are behaving this way because you don't have responsibilities that waits family men

If you like, three months after your wife puts to bed, impregnate her again and again

When those kids starts their wahala, your dick will be calm

DonFreshmoney:


But to be honest, if you are poor, why eating like a rich person?. The children are thieves, you take food without permission and doesnt belong to you. Who gave them the right to eat? Do you know the planning and time table the woman must have done for the garri to go round the house.. The 2 children are just wicked. But again, I blame poverty

You lack sense, I mean you were born without senses

Just listen to yourself

Timekeeper:
But truly, what ladies have to offer is just their common pussy and u no dt... Only pussy.

Women are sex object, check Instagram and so on, see how they objectify themselves...

Men too are, they are the one that goes to them

Men should stop demanding and they won't have any to give