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So he was released without his own throat being sliced

MrBrownJay1:
then separate from the demon until divorce, but you certainly shouldnt stay living with that man and cheat on him.

Bear in mind that you can't be having issues with your spouse and filing for divorce while still living in the same house

The first thing is to pack out to avoid being baisied, if you know that you are set for divorce

So she wasn't staying with him while she was having an affair

PatrioticNaija:
You are the rare kind of females we are missing in this part of the world. Very sincere, no pretence, ready to pass knowledge whether proven or not. But the willingness to share knowledge is well spotted and appreciated. I sincerely know that relationships with females like you can never be boring.

Kudos and keep it up.

Thanks very much

You just explained who I am in your comment

fineboynl:
Father stands

1, the father loves all the wife's
2, the father loves all the children
3, the father wish love among the wife's
4, the father wish love among the children
5, the father wish unity among the children.


Mothers stands

1, the mothers love the father
2, the mothers love only their children
3, the mothers don't wish love among the wife's
4, the mothers don't wish love among the children
5, the mothers don't wish unity among the children.

The reflexes of this all is that the children grows up with disunity and hate among themselves even while living in the same house and cook from the same pot.
...

From the narrative above we can see that women cannot love or take good proper care of a child that is not theirs, But a man can. If children from the same mother can grow up with same love among themselves i see no reason why they cannot love the same from different mother's if their growing up was same.

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I grow up in a family which one of my brother was not my biological brother, but I never knew. The love was like as if it was my immediate blood brother. It was when we grow up and he traveled to stay with his mother faraway that I get to find out only because he lost his father while he was a baby. And even if I knew he was not my Biological brother before hand but the way we grow up with unity in the same house wouldn't have made any difference.
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From the above context we can see that women are the primary evil and difficult to live among other children.

And you think any woman is interested in polygamous life

Go and ask married men, to manage one woman na task talk more of more than one

That's death by suffocation to the man

IBlogTV:
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This story is about a young lady who got pregnant for his finance, she didn't know that guy is an outcast though she loves him but the family won't allow her to marry him because he is an outcast.

As sent to kingsparo.com

Dear KS, Please publish but let me be anonymous, i need advice

I have been courting this guy for 1year now and we were planning on settling down but I recently found out he is an outcast and I still can't believe he hid it from me,I don't no what his plans were hiding it from me.

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And now am pregnant for him,we are not ready for kids and we agreed on aborting it and started the process. But after I confronted him after my findings and told him it won't work because my parents would disown me,he suddenly said he wants to keep the child.

Now I don't want to go against my family and now he's acting like a total stranger to me and he has warned me never to harm his baby knowing already that i have started taking stuff to abort the baby of which it has began .Please what do I do? i am confused.

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It's your choice to keep it or not

The strength of the love you have for each other will determine the out come

IyaTola:
I want to ask please, but there is something that made me raise an eyebrow. When a man gets to the hospital/lab to run a malaria test on his sick wife, they asked for malaria test only, is it right for the doctor to do pregnancy test on the woman without the couples authorization?

Well it depends on the woman's complaints

If she us ohmf child bearing age or can't really remember her last cycle, such test would be carried anyway if they are couples

May be both if them ate not even sure if what is wrong with the wife

When I was complaining of sickness to my doctor, after every drugs given nothing worked I went back, he subjected me to another test and added hiv test without my knowledge

When it came back negative and I asked him why he did it without my consent, he said he was tired of my complaints and needed to go further

After that, he kept me on admission, no drugs just food and and sleep for one week and I came out fit

I later found out that I needed rest from stress

yazga:
How can a woman be let's say 2 weeks pregnant and will not know please?

Two weeks is too small to detect pregnancy

Menstrual signs always look like pregnancy signs because they have similar symptoms

You have to wait for at least 40 days after your last period before you go for test

Naijaboy1122:
Hello Nairalander Please I know this is not the right section to post this,I decided to post it on Family section and I believe it will Gain more Audience or Views. My Forthcoming Exam is coming up Buy March which is Jamb. I'm An Art student and the course I'm Going for is international studies and Diplomacy The Following subject are (ENGLISH which is very compulsory, CRS, GOVERNMENT And Literature) when Ever I read this subject I find it difficult to comprehend what am reading.i can spend like 5 minutes on one page trying to get the Definition but still can't enter my head, please Anyway Out??

You haven't made up your mind to study

Go and settle out whatever us disturbing your mind and clear any back log in your brain

Though education is nit by force

If you can't handle four subjects in jamb

What are going into the university to do with seven unit courses in a simester

Talking senses to yourself us goid but no too much but talking out of senses and talking as in walking talking is a sign of mental health issue

Get it solved now before it goes beyond medical

GodwinBlessed:
Please I need a very serious advice. I am about resigning from my work place. Here is why.
For years now I have been jobless and at home. Last year I relocated to Lagos in search for job. Few months later, I got a teaching job with one of the biggest private schools in the city and the pay is good.
I was assigned to teach primary four. I have been doing my job very fine. But here is my problem.
There is a young girl in my class who is ten years and looks really matured. She is ayebo type. She is very beautiful and I always lust over her.
Whenever she licks her lollipop during break time, I fantasize her sucking my dick. I am always tempted to have sex with this girl but I will consider the consequences and hold myself.
I used to talk dirty with her and she told me she has a boyfriend but she has not had sex before.
Last term her mom called me to keep home lesson for the child but since I know what it might lead to I gave her an excuse and rejected the offer.
I am very close to this girl to the point that other children in the class say I like her more than them.
Since the resumption of this term, I have not gone to school. My employer has been calling me. I lied to him that I am ill and will resume next week.
I am thinking of resigning if that will keep me away from the girl.
please I need advice.

mods help me push it to front page thank you.
Lalasticlala
Mynd44

Why not discipline your self, among all the over ripped laddie, it's this minor that you want to use to spoil your future

Try it and you will be jailed and by the time you serve your jail term and come out, the society will reject you

Tell your HM to give you another class and if he refuses then you can resign

That girl is not even aware of whatever stupid discussion you are having with her

You are setting yourself up and she will open up to her parents if her mum starts suspecting her

Better still get a girlfriend you will be bleeping night and morning then by the time you get to school, those silly urge will not come up

The devil wants to use you and you have already passed the common entrance by indulging her into adult discussion

She is a minor run for your life

Christmasdon:
I want to ask , is this right. ? her best friend a female colleague who came to submit an affidavit near a control post not too far from Nigeria, the day to return to her place ran out of her, she decided to find a one-night hospitality at her female friend of hers. A school course mate to mention. What am asking is that, is it right for she to allow her female friend visitor to sleep together with her on her own matrimonial bed whose husband travelled to the village for a one week xmas/New year festival.
hope you got my message clearly?
Thanks and drop your own personal opinion.
HAPPY NEW YEAR SWEET Nairalanders!
@Mod do the needful.
God bless.

There is no big deal about it, she wants to gist with her till sleep comes,
Besides you don't know how deep close they are with each other

bukatyne:
What right does the court have to dissolve the marriage when both parties still want it or have not indicated interest in dissolving the union?

Nowhere the wife indicated she wanted a divorce. She only said her husband pushed her to adultery with his aggressive behavior and disrespect of her mother.

The husband said he was still willing to stay married for his kids.

Lawyers please help me here.

When a marital issue is taken to court, the party tgat took it to court is seeking for divorce

Yes the man didn't want it but why it was dissolved was that, there was threat to life

He doused her with fuel so if he has seen matches, he would have light it on her

MrBrownJay1:
if the hubby didnt treat her well then she should have DIVORCE HIM 1st and then look for another man....and certainly not cheat. no wonder he tried to kill her.

Divorce doesn't come automatic

It takes a while and in between the timing anything can happen

Either from the man or from the woman

Davash222:
Mumu man still want the marriage after the ashawo wife confess of being a prostitute.

Why are you calling her a prostitute

The man is making life miserable for her and you want her to die, even after dousing her with fuel

Will the man swear he never slept with another woman since he married her

Mr100Dollars:
@Op... Can you increase the age to 35? Cause some of us in some months time we will be 30.

You didn't even mention to buy land sef, that's very important before 30.

Buying land at that age is not as important as setting up a family

When you settle down family wise you think of that and nit just buying land but erecting a structure there

If you don't do so, it will be sold to another person who is ready and you will be relocated to another portion which you may not like

BanevsJoker:
Awesome news. Increase it by 1000%. Only Igbo people will pay the increased fare. Awesome development from the Sai Baba government.

Instead of you to learn how to struggle from the igbo people you are tagging them for the new price

Anyway they are capable

How could someone be running from pit if hell here and meet death in a curriel way but a better place

So they are now Canadian citizens by death

rita25:
THE GIRL NA WHINCH .....SHE BETTER CORRECT HER ERRORS AND AMEND HER WAYS LIKE YOU HAVE SPOKEN.

My dear, not an agent of witches, a witch her self, live one

This is what we call enemy within

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

What happened is like pouring a liquid milk on the sand, it has sinked and can't be recuped

The best thing is to buy another tin milk

Pay a visit to her boyfriend if you can and ask him why he called off the marriage

Hear from him, if he say he has gotten so many calls threatening him of her relationship with her and how he was told about her way ward life

Ask him if he still loves her, if he said yes he is but tired of reports about her

Pls tell him to follow you

If you are a Catholic, take him to the nearest blessed sacrament and tell him you want to reveal something to him but he should pls keep it a tight secret

Open up to him and vomit out all you did and why you did so

If you are not a Catholic, take him to any available church as you walk down with him and do same confession to him

Forgiveness is from God not man

If you don't do it

You will never experience peace

You are the architect of your sister's misfortune and she is going to tackle it by asking God to punish whomever that spoilt the plans of her marriage

If she dies of depression, you killed her and she will make sure the person that did this to her will remain miserable

As for you, you have already tolled the wrong path of life by opening your leg to a nuisance

As far as am concerned, your guy is a liability to his family and if you don't take are it will get to a stage you can no longer withdraw from him and if you do, consider yourself gone below six ft

Your sister was right insulting your guy because he brought burden to her

Now everything has spoilt just because you allowed devil to direct your path

You are living a stupid life with a stupid fellow who has no plans for life

Your sister lost her suitor because of your attitude

She lost her job, I will still attribute it to you

Your father is sick, she can no longer contribute money for treatment, it's still your fault

The whole family is not happy the way things are going, it's still your fault

You don't have anything tangible doing, it's your fault also

Run to God for mercies, he is the only one that can put things right in your family

lalasticlala:
Please use the 'Report' feature to report porn images and spammers whenever you come across them.

Don't Quote them because quoting them is tantamount to spreading them.

Once you come across any of such images, spams, kindly report them without quoting them so that the moderators will swiftly act on them.

Thanks

Pls just ban them for life, we have minors in this forum that do stumble on our topics, such sites or pictures derails their senses

I come to this forum regularly to gain knowledge, nothing else and am sure likewise every one

Cheato64:
I and Oma have dated for more than 2yrs, I intend getting married to her. When we started dating she told me from onset her genotype is AS. I taught I was AA because I did the test when I was like 10yrs.

We decided to go for HIV test just to be sure even though we had unprotected sex. On doing the HIV test, the attendance whom we didn't ask, checked our genotype, performed all the test because she taught we were couple and since it's an Anglican Church hospital and we came together, it means we are planning to get married.

The result came out HIV negative for both of us, blood group O+, while she's AB and genotype we were both AS. She insist we call it off, 2yrs courtship just like that.

Oma is a nicest person I have ever known after my mom, she takes care of me, I eat healthy, I don't repeat clothes both inner and outer wears. She makes sure I work out regularly, I don't do house chores yet my friends envy me whenever they come visiting.

Name any good thing Oma has it. Now Oma has moved on but I can't, I kept on looking for a lady like Oma, now I understand why most men talk trash about Nigerian women (no offense) and when I meet a lady the first thing I ask is her genotype.

I can recall I asked a lady her genotype even before asking for her name. I can't keep a relationship all I think about is my sweet Oma. She has moved on so she claim but we still talk and she told me she has a man right now even though we still sextexting, we talk how much we miss each other it's been over 6 months since we last saw, she relocated to delta while am in Enugu.

I invited her which she decline but invited me which I accepted I intend going this weekend and I will ask her to marry me, if we get married there is a possibility our first 2 children won't carry the sickle cell anemia. My friend is telling me not to do it but my mind is made up.

Love is strong

If you follow the detects of love, you may swim in an ocean with out a life jacket

You have two options

It's either you marry her, on the agreement that a surrogate mother carries your pregnancy with the surrogate mum's egg, that's lots of money

Or you marry her on agreement that both of you will have children through adoption

In the absence of these two, with time the relationship will fizzle out but the love will remain there even if she remarries

You may or may not get anyone like her but you have to accept things the way they are

As it is now, she is the one that will accept the marriage base on the above two options if she feels deep and true love the way you feel

Starboytwo:
Good day all,

It's pretty simple, can I be forced to sell my inheritance?

My late pop passed away 4 years ago, he had 11 surviving children from 4 wives, me and my younger brother were the last kids from the last wife...

He left a house in Lagos which we presently reside in but in recent times it's been the topic of sale by other siblings.... our stance remain 'NO SELLING'

Additional info

1-Me and my bro are in our early and mid 20's,we live in one of the apartments

2-The remaining siblings all have families of their own outside Lagos

3- Money is obviously the Motive for selling, but its emotional and psychological for us, dunno if this count, but id also add that my younger brother is a 'son of the soil"here, schooled here and erythane before pop passed, 3 of the siblings have never been here before. Older folks call popman "Baba Shade" we only met at the burial...

We had a Family meeting/reunion mid last year and the house was thrown in a debate, while majority of my siblings choose to sell the house, me, my brother and our eldest brother(2nd born) were against selling...

However, my elder bros and i spoke on new year day and i got to know his stance had changed concerning no selling, he cited heavy pressure from other siblings and he is very tired. And maybe he needs money too...

Which prompted my creation of the thread and asking "can our house be sold without our consent" considering we are in the minority for team "no selling"

Can we be forced to sell? despite having no intentions to do so, and how does the legal system cover for us...

N/B- there is no discord or fight or anything among siblings, we all live in peace and contact mostly through phone calls sometimes.....

Is that the only property of your dad

Was there a will indicating it belongs to you and your siblings

Where is the documents to the building, is it with your mum or another person or unknown

Your mum is the last wife, so it's possible he married her after those acquisition

You said the whole family lives peacefully, I doubt, there are underlying issues which will start prompting up, the house for sale is one of them

My advice is, find out the formula for sharing, which is supposed to be shared among the four wives, irrespective of how many kids they have for him

So sharing ought to be done in fours not number of children

What about other properties are the going to share those ones too or just the one you are occupying

Well for your own life and peace of mind

Give up, let the share it

It will make you struggle to have yours

Polygamous family is the worst place family politics are played

They target the stubborn one's to eliminate them or render them useless while those who behaves like mumu are set free because they don't interfare in their dubious act

Finally, join them because you can't fight them

This will teach men a big lesson to keep just one wife

Offpoint:
Doctors In The House Please What's Solutions To This?

Have a friend who have been battling with rough palm for long now.

According to her, it happens like 8 years ago. She used to have a normal palm, until a particular day she helped someone to applied Relaxer without gloves. Ever since then, her palm started peeling and cracking causing her severe pains and pricks.
She taught it was just something that will go away in few days, but till date making 8 years she's been experiencing crack, hard and and peeling palm.
It get worse every harmattan seasons, there are days she can't eat she had to be fed by someone due to the pains.

she has applied all sort of treatment but they're not effective.

She said she has been to a clinic once but they couldn't specify what's wrong with her, they only gave her some drugs which ended up not being effective.

Please anyone with similar experience should please share whatever treatment they applied.

Doctors in the house, please your help is needed.

Please help me push it to front-page for wider audience.

Let her go to Ikeja general hospital, doctors will look into it properly because they have teams of doctors

Meanwhile, let her be wearing hand gloves any time she is in contact with anything that has chemical component

Or11:
Guy up your game man. Look at the hand of the girl. Is this this type of girls you hang around with. No power in the house sef to turn on light. You will now be coming online to yarn off point like you are a G.

Why is your brain to weak to the extent that its affecting your ability to see things and assume you could be the next victim

Senseless slowpoke

Just give me one reason you left your laptop and travel for break

Who does that

If you have gotten waec and Jamb is your problem

Go to Ghana or cotonou and get admission pls

Well I think he just made that comment for comment sake not that he will do so

Just to massage Iraq's ego

uthlaw:
once he makes the money,women will be nothing Again even without spending they will follow him like puppet!

Let the women follow him like puppet when he finally puts a ring on any of the women's finger,
he becomes her puppet

ukoblo:
It's possible for any man to ask for sex in a relationship, but is left for you as a lady to know that sex, can't keep him..(Sex isn't enough)

There are two major factors ladies complain about sex in a relationship:
√ After giving him my body he left me..
√ He left because I refused to have sex with him..

NOTE: Both those who gave and those who refused to give are complaining...
( Whats the difference)

Ladies Listen, Sex isn't enough, its not the only thing you can offer a man.
If You Don't Have Anything To Offer A Man Outside Sex, Please remain Single...

A man can't stay with you because his having sex with you....

Relationship is not buying and selling.
There are much to life than Monkey style, Doggy style, Missionary style, Apple n juice style, step pillows style, etc ...

Are you sound intellectually? Spiritually? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally?

Men love intelligent ladies...
Men love ladies with ideas..
Men love respectful ladies...

Sex is very cheap these days, anybody can buy it.

You need to build yourself beyond sex.
Leave make-ups and be a productive lady.
Men are looking for ladies with ideas and solution not those who paint their faces with different colours.

What a man wants is beauty with brain not make ups with boobs or hips....

All these requests on a woman

Just to be accepted by a man,
Hmmmm

okechukwu101:
I CAN'T WAIT BUT I NEED TO UNDERSTAND A LITTLE WHAT WOMEN WANT.

Be friends with them, you will get some ideas from your experience with them

madone:
help me reason it. I get things for my lady and I ask questions from people around I had to know her bra size and other so I don't make silly mistakes. Had to kw colors And stuff she likes.. .i don't see why people should not get this details about their spouse. ..its only selfishness that cause most of this error

Am glad you said spouse not boyfriend

Stupid man, both of you lost and left the children for who ❓