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I won't advice you to go yet

Talk with him that you need to adopt a child, preferably a daughter

If that works out, get yourself busy with the child

Stay in the marriage and watch the way things goes

If he still shows affection on you and your child, be happy

If he doesn't show affection on you, tell him to get an apartment for you that you feel pains staying with another woman and at the same time he is not showing affection to you

When you eventually pack out, live your life the way you want it

Kirinwa:
This is a true life story.

My Uncle was a trailer driver and often drives loads from one location to another. This often leaves him to the mercy of cold and very soon, he resorted to sleeping with women of easy virtues.

Whenever he comes home, his wife would perform her duties without knowing he was unfaithful. They had children. Soon enough my uncle was diagnosed with AIDS and later on died. Unfortunately, his wife also was infected, she ran to relatives but most abandoned her, some showed sympathy but the stigma and segregation was obvious.

Few years later, she too died leaving behind children. Many a time I wonder what became of the children. Are they still alive? I pray each day that God would bless me so I can search for them and perhaps bring relief to them.

One stupid man mistake in marriage can create problems for his entire family

One stupid woman mistake creates problems for her alone

TUANKU:
Not true. Your passport number does not change during renewal, it's permanent. Even your data page won't change during renewal, except you specifically apply for a change to your profile details which attracts extra charges.
The account they opened for me is not restricted, the aim of the data page is for identification and your passport number id you.

Stop giving wrong information about international passport as you know nothing about it

Passport is subject to renewal every 5 or 10yrs as the case may be

You are getting a new passport number once you get captured for another one

It's only national ID card that has a permanent number because its supposed to be your unic number as a citizen

If the country is doing what they are expected to do

It's only your national ID card that would have been used by Nigeria citizens as the only valid

Whereas you use passport as a valid ID abroad

naijazee2:
This has become a culture In Nigeria Universities, you got to play along with the lectures

That's it

If you can't beat the lecturer's you do their bidding

The essence is for you to graduate and be free from them

temitope28:
Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors[b]Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors[/b]Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors

Open up to her and promise her never to do such again

It's not easy holding on especially a man

Assure her of your faithfulness and love to her

Jones47:
I've got help already!!
Your signature speaks volume!!!

Lol

Jones47:
I thought love was simple, turns out it's more complicated than just falling in love!!!

Since last year January, when my babe travel out to start school, we never see but I dey do the normal, I dey call, dey text the send her card and money. Well things no come dey go smooth so I come cut the rate at which I the do the above.
First week of December, last year, I lost my phone since Na only my iPad remain. I no fit call her that often. Though I been dey happy because even as d phone loss, it offer me more economic benefit than if it been dey. Although I dey Abuja and she dey cross River, we plan say we go spend time during this holz but I no come get enough money to travel so I lock up
Normally, the way our relationship be, we exclude jealousy and encourages sincerity. So on a regular, me no dey jealous or feel bad when we discuss some kind things.

Yesterday, I come try call her, after much talking, she get mind dey tell me how, she and her ex been sit-out abi na make-out during xmas period and how dey guy dey even tell her say 'prophet say na she be his wife' and that 'he still love her' and all those kind shit.
It no even stop there. she still tell me say, though she never talk to am today but the last time them talk, the guy said that he will come around for the new year period and even tease to get her with him behind closed doors... That she don tell am say he dey waste him time because she want just dey cool with am make him no feel say 'anything go happen between them again'..
My fear now na say, na only this babe me don invest much for and besides the guy in question dey on more bread than me..
I dey strongly feel say my babe dey keep me on attachment level so that she fit still dey obtain from me..
Abeg I need advice on what to do..
Make I no start foolishly this year.. Thanks

You messed up your write up and murdered both the combination of English and pigin language

No one could understand you comprehensively

Since you didn't get what you wanted or expected, next time go to their houses during festive season

Shorpe:
Complement of the Season to y'all.
Good Morning Guys and welcome to 2020.

I'm having some issues with my 'wife'. Pls gimme advice.

We were together for about a month as friends, I was working though not earning well while she works in a factory to get money to further her studies. Her folks are practically irresponsible. Along the line she took in. Explained things to her that I'm not ready to be a father, tried different medication just to abort the foetus all to no avail mind you I'm an health practitioner.
Suggested D/C to her, but she rejected it with all this fallacious Yoruba people excuse of death and prophecy.
In short she moved in with me gave birth, Named the child and life continued. 1 month after the child birth I lost my Dad had no mom since 7 so the responsibility of 5 siblings and my stepmom fell on me.Dad was an only child and all my Grand parents are late no assistance besides God.

I assisted the 2 elderly siblings in gaining feet in there different vocations and they got married.Remaining the 3 kids in school and there mum, the burden which I bear on my meagre income.

I've been sponsoring my wife's education since we moved together added to vocation she learnt after the birth.Tried setting up a shop for her and stuffs, but she's always complaining of no sales this or that.

For the past 2 years now I've been trying to make her independent and contribute to at least the kid upkeep but it seems the academic gap/Different value system/Upbringing makes it difficult for her to see things my way.
And this is seriously limiting my progress. I spoke with her parents on what they want to do for there child its always one excuse or the other.

Taking pics with a female colleague buys me threat of poisoning at home from her.Not leaving out destroying things in the house whenever there is misunderstanding.

She's giving me serious heartache

I'm thinking of separation.

Nb: We have not done introduction or anything of such.[/color]

And you are calling her your wife

Pls it's not too late to follow your heart

If no marriage rights has been done and she is behaving this way, what happens when you commit yourself

You can separate for the time being and evaluate things

Beosten:
I married a very mature, educated woman. But as a person who grew up fighting many battles -- financial, spiritual, physical threats from land grabbers etc -- there is almost no sphere of life I have no adequate knowledge of.

I'm a very libral person and will never force my opinion on anyone. So, my wife always gets away with taking decisions that will affect both of us--affect both of us in the sense that they were life threatening decisions; I will only get hurt for losing a loved one. In all the cases where she went against my advice, she regretted, wept profusely and I spent a fortune because of her folishness.

I love this woman more than anything on this planet. But it seems she is not ready to learn her lessons anytime soon. There are some decisions that even if you consult Socrates and Plato about, they would ask you to go ahead; but I have this gift of astral premonition and presaging dreams, and can tell, from miles away, the decisions that will backfire.

So, should I start forcing my will on her to avert dangers?

Forcing your will on her is not the problem

Since she doesn't listen to you, take your decision and stand on your feet if you know that you are doing the right thing to the benefit of the family

That you loved her more than anything, doesn't mean that you should allow her to keep messing things around

Unless she is the provider of the resources, then you have to work hard n convincing her at any point

Chinyerelove:
I am 19 years old orphan , we are 4 children 2 boys and 2 girls , dad died 14 years ago and mum died 8 years ago. Am currently staying with my brother , his wife , my younger sister and their daughter. B4 my brother got married life was so good that he was taking good care of us and made us not missing our parents , he took care of all our needs and we were all going to school but ever since he got married , everything was completely wrong, after finishing secondary school , he told me schooling the 3 of us is consuming lots of money which he can’t afford to send I and my other brother to university at the same time , I have to stay at home until he get the money to send me back to school meanwhile I told him I want to learn handwork like catering or tailoring , he agreed but told me to wait and I have been waiting for 3 years now . When his wife had the baby , he told me to take care of the baby until she is at least 1 year and 6 months when she start school so I can go and learn tailoring too , which I was okey. I am not doing anything, his wife turned me into a maid , I take care of everything in the house , cooking , washing , cleaning , babysitting the baby from morning to night , I don’t have any free time for myself. The baby doesn’t sleep well at night so I have been taking care of her all night while her mum is fast asleep , I wake up tired every single morning and sometimes I don’t even have the strength to clean and if I don’t clean the house by the time she comes back from work , she will start insulting me and calling me names and even if I do the work she doesn’t appreciate me and she will always find faults. I was excited that my niece will be turning 1 year 6 months by May so I can go and learn tailoring so I can be happy again but my brother wife is pregnant again and they are expecting to be at home again when this new baby is born , they don’t care about my life , all they want from
Me to be spending all my life taking care of their children and they want me to be useless in the society. I just hate my life , I just want to leave the house and go far from them. Maybe he is treating us like this because we don’t share the same father , maybe if we were same father he would have treated us much better. I’m dying in pain and can’t stop crying

As it us now, you have to endure and please them especially the wife for you to achieve your goals

If you must leave, make sure you don't come back to tell them to take you back, it will be worst than before

Try and talk to your uncle behind his wife, he will listen to you

Success410:
The sugar in sugarcane does not have effect. it is naturally harmless

You did not get the gist

He said my brain is frozen because of my moniker and I used his moniker too to yab him

Follow the tread to understand it

highbee02:
Published December 31, 2019
Daud Olatunji, Abeokuta

The self-acclaimed pastor of the Cherubim and Seraphim Church, Solution Chapel, Ikoyi-Ile, Osun State, Segun Philips, said he was paid N210,000 to use the final year student of the Lagos State University, Favour Daley-Oladele for money rituals.
His action was after Favour’s boyfriend, Owolabi Adeeko, had smashed her head with a pestle.
The pastor confessed that he was the one, who slaughtered and removed the breasts, heart and other vital organs from Favour’s body.
Philips disclosed this in an exclusive interview with PUNCH Metro at the police headquarters, Eleweran, Abeokuta, on Monday.
He stated that the organs were used to prepare a concoction for Owolabi and his mother.
He, however, said the concoction was prepared with human parts without the knowledge of Owolabi’s mother.
When asked if he slaughtered the victim, Philips said, “It is true; I slaughtered Favour with a knife. I was the one, who removed her heart, breasts and other vital organs, so that we could use them for rituals.
“But, I was not the one, who smashed her head with a pestle. Owolabi did that.”
He, however, exonerated Owolabi’s mother, saying they deceived her that they would do something different.
Philips stated, “She was not aware that we used human parts for the concoction I gave her.
“I prepared the concoction for her and her son because I was broke and I needed money. I demanded N250,000, but I was paid N210,000.

“I was called by God, but I think I have lost the calling because of what I did.”

The 23-year-old Owolabi reportedly connived with the 42-year-old self-acclaimed pastor to kill Favour.
Owolabi, who was arrested by men of the Ogun State Police Command in Ikoyi-Ile, Osun State, was said to have confessed to the police that he sought Philips’ help for money rituals.
The Police Public Relations Officer in Ogun State, Abimbola Oyeyemi, had said, “The deceased was reported to have left home to an unknown destination since December 8, 2019, and had not been seen since then, hence, she was reported missing by her parents at the Mowe Police Station.”
Copyright PUNCH.

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https://www.punchng.com/icymi-i-was-paid-n210000-to-use-lasu-undergraduate-for-money-rituals-pastor

These people should be buried alive

Punchline33:
The way Obama's wife supports the man is a reminder that good women abound even in western civilizations. Our wanna feminists should emulate this woman and be humble to build a home for themselves. That is an honourable thing to do.

If she is a Nigeria woman with just two daughters

The husband would have played away match to get a male child from another woman

Her husband protects her and in all areas of her life

But you guys will not protect your wives before your own family

Those one's knows what it is to love and share

We are here struggling with frustration and depression

deltateam:
The title is clear. Is it possible in Nigeria?

After getting approval from her parents

Monitise everything and transferred the 200k to her parents

Carry go they are the one that owns her not the public

boiz2men:
Sugarcane

You are welcome

I was quoting his moniker, his moniker is (surgakane)

okechukwu101:
yes we know that but why do a bunch of ladies go for married men i mean the primary aim

You will get the answer when you get married

Experience is the best teacher

funum:
I don't really know the size of my testicles.
Yes I have had sex before
Since the first day I started having sex, the problem is a can't maintain it for long not that I don't have it at all, and sometimes before I penetrate I will just cum
And for the Early morning erection I only have it sometimes

Thank you

Stay away from sugar, minerals and sugary things and watch if there will be changes

Ayanfeoluxyz:
I have noticed of this late that I experience constant feeling of dryness of mouth and throat. I don't know if this is due to harmattan or some other health issue. Though I have checked several write ups associating this to diabetes but I don't have any of the listed symptoms of diabetes. Pls what could be the cause of this issue

Go to hospital by 8am with out food or water

Have a fasting blood sugar test (fbs)

Just to be sure it's not diabetes

Jayskit:
Thank you. But did you read the part where I said he has not started puberty at 15?

It is that same deficiency that is delaying the puberty signs

You guys should pls leave him, with time he will top up

As brilliant as he is, let him get it in academics what he wasn't getting in growth

uninspired07:
Women do not give a hoot about anything other than money.

Then work harder and give it to them

For me, I think women date married men for somany reasons

Good sex if he can perform

Money to take care of her

Companionship for those who are heart broken

For solace

But married men date women probably their home is not warm enough to make him happy

Every man needs to be happy and they get that satisfaction of being happy in the warm embrace of a loving woman, even if she is going to be his mistress

uninspired07:
Women don’t like good sex. They only like money.

Why are you thinking like this

Look let me tell you, sex is designed for women

That's why you see a guy adopting new skills on how to satisfy a woman

Give a woman good sex that will take her to cloud 9 and watch her adore you

You think its easy to achieve that

You are bothering yourself with an issue that is simple

Since the mother is the only one that approves his spending, get close to the mother

Alternatively, get a job and stop depending on him

Mansions:
There is this girl that usually visit me in my office . she comes likes three times a day , she is social and jovial, because some how we are family friends. Im thinking she likes me . But she haven't told me and me I'm just forming a big guy minding my office work.im the owner of the company so she can come at any time she like cos there shop is close to mine. But the problem is that I'm a jealous type and I don't do female friends or associate with girls. Unless the girl is someone I'm fvking or someone I have fvked before. Now yesterday I close from work and I see this girl with some group of guys laughing and gisting and then I drive off. I want to warn her to stop coming to my office or she stop associating with guys . Advice is needed what do you think I should do

You gave her room to those countless visit

Tell her that, you will like her to stop her frequent visit to your office

She may feel bad about it but its better than you being jealous of her in the midst of guys

If she ask you why

Tell her your girl friend comes with out notice and you don't want to witness any embarrassment

If you can't take this simple decision then you are not matured yet to face a woman

Family tussel

Every one is tormented

The dead is not resting

The living are not having peace

Life is what me make of it

Share your problem here and view different forms of advice you will get

But first of all humble yourself and God will help you

white3663:
Lol , abeg make ona no vex, I have never made a post on here, this is just a test and I have tried to delete this post

So you don't know that this forum is a big family with solutions to every comment

Anyway that's funny