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wonder233:
Okay.
Good sex means you as an individual, you're good in bed, you satisfy your partner. But because it is the same you over and over again, your partner becomes bored, the excitement is no longer there.
So, they meet another person, not that they want to leave you for that other person, not that the person is better than you in the sex, but there is this excitement that comes with meeting a new person. That is the variety.

Perfect

So why is it that when women does the same variety stuff men gets mad

But men does same

Mccallistas:
That strategy you dropped there can't come from underutilized brain.

You know a psychologist can read humans and animals, depending on the special field of study....

Good morning 🌞

Ok good morning

wonder233:
You're naive. Good sex can't keep a woman. Women need variety.

Pls tell me the meaning of good sex and varieties

Also tell me the difference between the two

ejitest1:
A married woman has expressed her desire to sleep with other men as she is now bored with her husband.

"Am maried but another preeq don dey hungry me, faithful maried women pis hw una take dy do am abeg, my husbnd no to get my time he no dy too last 4 bed but he's nice."

Forget about the part that she is married
Some married women also thinks the same way just like her, especially when their spouse can't do the needful

We don't have to pretend when a fact is said out

Assuming she is properly handled by her husband, she won't send this out

Sex is one thing that must be fulfilled and once you don't get it right, it creates problem especially on women

The same way men wants to enjoy sex, women wants it too and even wants it more because the urge doesn't really come all the time due to some factors

But for the fact that they have the ability to suppress it, makes it look as if they don't want it

She just said what is in her mind, it's not for cloud chasing

I wish her hubby can step up and make her feel like a woman

Though I don't support her getting it out

Mccallistas:
You study psychology for school?

Pls can you tell me why you were asking me if I studied psychology in the university

Benrosaria:
it starts with "80"that's true thank you for showing my stupidity

Lol, not so
Probably your mind wasn't really centered on the figures

nedekid:
Well said.
Couples can have separate rooms, as in for formality sake. Eg, you build your house, have oga, madam and kids rooms. Cloths, relaxing time, thinking time, chilling time etc can be in those separate rooms.
When it comes to sleeping at night, there should not be separate rooms. Couples should sleep on the same bed. It is not all about sex. Afterall, after so many years it cannot be like before. Then imagine how worse it will even be if couples sleep apart? Quarrel nko? Plans too. It is said, big decisions have been in the bedroom.
When you fight, the fact that you must sleep on the same bed has solved 50% of the issue.

Exactly

Mccallistas:
I'm happy your experiences made you a strong woman.

Although it's easier for me to type that because there are some things in life that's better imagined than going through it...

I'll be needing your help always. Hahahaha..

Have a wonderful evening!

Is alright

Mccallistas:
You study psychology for school?

No dear, lol

I don see shage wey give me plenty experience

Especially from marriage and family

Now am on top of my game I no dey shake because I have gone pass the worst stage of a woman's life

Am now comfortable as God made if for me and my family

Hardly a thing I don't have experience of

I have gone through the burning furnace and came out stronger

DyshApp:
What makes a woman physically unattractive?

Her attitude on the spot

Obisbetter:
I don't know if I am the only one facing this. Constant billings both from family and friends.

I am 34, yet taking responsibility of my mum and elderly ones . Their billings no be here .
And again billings from other people.

Omoh is getting messier and I am tired already

It may be because you are not married yet

Once you get married and start having children they will stop automatically especially the other people

They will know that you have uoir family bills to pay

tobore4u:
3201591418

Ikp coll

Thx alot.

Done

Urheadmaster:
Even after spending your money, you still need to wait till she request for it

What did you spend
Where you forced to spend it you did because you are expected to do so

That's where the problem lyes

Once men stop asking for sex, the women too will stop seeing it as a favour

SuperBlack:
I have been in a Relationship with this Particular Girl for a Long time now, and I have grown to Love Her so well, She's from Benue State ( Idoma) while I'm from Abia State,

Now I want to Marry Her, when I told the elders of my meeting that I want to Marry Her, they ask me if I know much about their tradition,

I said No, they said I should find out before proceeding, when I start making research,

I found out they have a culture that when their daughter is married outside, any time she dies her body will be brought back to her father's house for Burial,

I called her and sat her down and asked, she said she doesn't know much about that,

Then I told her to help ask her mum, maybe her mum will also help ask her father,

At long last, it now happen that it's true, I still said I will like to meet her father to hear from him direct,

I went to their house yesterday with my brother to meet with him, after telling him my intentions and the enquiring that I came fore,

The Old Man Said Tradition is Tradition and Nothing will Change it, that I should still do more research and ask questions too,

That he can't do anything about it,

SINCE THEN I'M TOO CONFUSED if I should carry On Or Back out!

Some people have that tradition and it has been there before their fore fathers were born

So it will take the grace of God to break such tradition and no one wants to dare such because of the consequences

You should have asked for more tradion so that you can weigh your options

We can't advice you on this particular issues because it's not a new tradition

Its the level of your relationship with her and the love you have for each other that will determine what you will do

Akinzo2121:
Why do ladies act as if having s*x is like doing a man a favour!
Open talk
🤌🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️

Because you requested for it

Wait for her to make the request

tobore4u:
first bank

Sorry for the late reply.

Send the account number again

Benrosaria:
so it depends on your phone number I could decide to use my uncle's MTN number 0803836

Then it will start with what number

Mccallistas:
If say you no be woman, I for bow for you.

This is a fantastic way of ending any fruitless relationship.
That's if won't she won't seize you, kneel down and start begging...

Lol
so as I be woman, you no go bow for me, lol

Anyway, there are ways that you can end a relationship and the other party will develop tension headache immediately

Benrosaria:
obviously a phone number without it's first zero.
opay palmpay moniepoint kuda baxi all of them like that

Go through it very well, all these online banking never had 3 as the first number

Gamesmart:
Look at the typical shaming tactics.

So he has "trust issues" because he wants to be sure he is not marrying any girl that belongs to the streets.

You women will go to any length to ensure you are never held accountable for your actions and decisions. You should just be accepted and worshiped because you "deserve" it, abi?

He is the one with "issues", not the girl that has slept with the whole street and has had multiple abortions?

You are 100% a typical woman. Selfish!

I don't even see where I wrote that men should worship women

If you decide to worship your woman, who will question you

You lack decorum, so deal with your stupidity

efficiencie:
My hope is that all foolish, simple and overgrown boys who plunge into marriages with hoes suffer terribly until they learn their lesson and quit being maritally stupid. No hoes should be gratified with a marriage and anyone who does deserves to suffer terribly until they get sense.

You are so bittered and now you have started fighting yourself

Very soon people will isolate you

Go and trace where your problem is coming from

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

As it is now, three things are making you sick

Loneliness
Absence or wife and child
Lack of money

You know what, you just have to keep calling to say hello to them and assure them that everything will be fine

Concerntrate on the job you are learning so that you don't come out half baked

By the time you find your bearings, you can look for you family and bring them home

You barely feed, so why do you want to bring them back and end up not providing for them

You rushed into marriage at a very early age, when you don't have family's to support you

Learn from that mistake pls

Relax she will not marry another man without her family informing you

Just keep calling, even if they don't pick your calls or communicate with you

To avoid any one blaming you for not reaching out to them

BeStroNG:
Man got to be wary with the way things are. No man would want to marry a woman who had destroyed her womb via abortion. Some girls have committed more than 5 abortion and may have destroyed their womb in the process. Imagine getting married to such a lady. If the womb is intact and the man is fertile, pregnancy cannot be an issue.

I'm trying to take that bold step by asking her if she had committed abortion before.

What do you think guys? Is it going to bring "wahala"?

Should I ask her or not?

What if she says no that you can take her to the hospital to confirm

Is there anyway to do such medical test?

You have trying to be forward and you have trust issues

What if medically both of you are ok
Who will you blame if she doesn't become pregnant on time

I think you should get her pregnant then take her for a pregnancy test and then marry her

Instead of asking a question that will embarrass both of you

advanceDNA:
He should still go and buy drink for her..whats that supposed to accomplish??

See...entitled women that jump from one man to the next have no sense of loyalty, they are never considerate and always consider watever they exploit from u as their right

....they never feel bad for using men for their gain.... all this ur advice will amount to nothing.... she will not feel any regret... she deserves the payback she got...

Ordinary can malt of 300 is not too much to give her and say good bye

Once she takes the first sip and he delivers his message to her, the shock will not give her appetite to finish the remaining one

Who do first no dey pain

Na who do last dey pain person

CandidAdmin:
What are the advantages of learning a foreign language in the university and which language would you advise a person to learn?

I think Chinese is ok

There are places you need to translate their language and writing to English

But it depends on which one you have interest on

tobore4u:
good mrn ma.

Pls I need to photocopy my credential to my new place of work.i don't have cash. Pls 500 will help my life. Thx ma.

3201591418. Ikp coll.

God bless u.

What bank is this

advanceDNA:
He should still go and buy drink for her..whats that supposed to accomplish??

See...entitled women that jump from one man to the next have no sense of loyalty, they are never considerate and always consider watever they exploit from u as their right

....they never feel bad for using men for their gain.... all this ur advice will amount to nothing.... she will not feel any regret... she deserves the payback she got...

You read my post upside down

This time around, read it with understanding

Anusiemgood:
Good evening and happy weekend to all of us, please I have this burden which I needed some matured advice, Am from the igbo clan of the south East region,and as a young man who has desired to get settled maritally, of which I came across this beautiful woman from Ogu town in okrika Rivers State,...what would you advise me as ibo man going to Ogu town to get a wife, coz people has Said some kind of story concerning them but am just following my mind coz she seems what I want in a woman...my people,I like you to put me through so I can have more better ideas about Thier culture and how Thier girls behaves when they married outside Thier town

I think you will have to travel for a secret investigation so that it will confirm whatever you have heard about them

Secondly find out if they request for their daughter body incase it happens

You just have to be fully aware as people from Riverine areas have a culture that is quite different so that you will not come back here to start complaining

Every woman is beautifully made by God

But some cultures makes them to just get married to persons from the same tradition and culture or someone that understands their tradition

Example is Fulani people, you can't manage their tradition and culture hence they marry within their same culture and tradition

Good luck

Lee99:
So I'll be brief.... My ex and I got into a nasty argument last month and we broke up... We didn't talk until my birthday last week, she reached out and said we should fix things, I said fine, we got talking and met today abi yesterday, Sunday sha, so I took her swimming at a nice hotel with a nice pool, bought what she wanted and stuff, while there I don't have an ATM card but she did so I sent money to her account and used her card to pay, because she was in the water she couldn't type her pin so she told me... Here's the turning point, while in the pool I caught her giving one guy her number, I just lock up like I no see, we left and I said I wanted to buy fish, she said let her drop some things she brought at home and she'll meet me there at the fish spot, I said ok, while waiting this girl started taking time, I called and she didn't pick, I kuku took my fish and left, then I texted her and told her that so she left me to go see that guy she gave her number and her reply was I'm sorry, well I no too send, I just went to a POS across the road and withdrew the 15k I spent on her today from her card.. and yes it's from her own money, babe wey I don already relegate wanted to come back and wreck me, as a guy man I no dey dull, I've taken my money back sha and I'm very happy, I even took extra 3k for the fish I bought making 18k... When she's ready she can come and pick up her ATM card. I blocked her on WhatsApp too... If that isn't instant karma then I dunno what Karma is 😂😂😂

I think you have to return the money back because you took her out

Return the ATM card back to her if she comes for it

Just go to any joint get a drink for both of you, return the transfer

Just tell her to her hearing that you can't cope with her and wants to end the relationship

At that point, walk away from her

This alone will cripple her that she can't even find her way back home

For the rest of her day she will regret that action

This is one of the ways you can make a woman feel bad for taking you for granted

Johnholt909:
My girlfriend called me but unfortunately another girl picked it up. She’s very angry with me right now and I feel so sorry about it.

If you really care about her, apologies to her and if she says she needs a new space just respect your self for the time being

Later you go back to her

Bekeey:
Good morning my people, please pardon my grammatical errors and long writeups. I'm curiously in need of your help to help me decide if I should confront her or not. This is the problem, traditionally I got married to my wife this January 2023 and by grace of God our wedding is coming this July 2023, our IV is already out, we have got 45% of the Wedding needs already, like Asobi clothes, her own clothes and my clothes too, we have also booked for Decorations, DJ, MC etc.

So, here is the issue that I need to confront her or probably council the Wedding because since I got noticed what has been going in my absent, I wasn't myself for past 3days, I am emotionally exhausted. Here is the problem, there is thus guy that always call her late in the night from 10pm, whenever I asked her who was that, she always tell me is just a friend that they have known right from secondary school, that she knows her girlfriend that nothing is between them. I asked her,did he know that you are married, she said of cause, he is aware. I said OK, that day passed, so the call kept coming same time 10pm but not everyday. Later I began to notice that the guy doesn't call in the night again maybe because she have asked her not to call her by that time again. So 3days ago, I had access with her phone, my brothers and sisters, I was shocked, behold the person that told me she has nothing to do with him that is just a friend. All there conversation in that chat was sweetie, sweetie, that's what they call each other. Though, I found out my wife doesn't give him that chance that she's only interested to eat his money because I saw a receipt of 20k he sent to my wife. The guy was seriously asking for her nude videos which she didn't send to her but she instead sent him stickers. The guy will send her some videos showing her how he will sock her breast, and one hot round of sex, my wife will just replied him OK. Last chat my wife chatted him was where she is begging him for 50 to 100k to pay back by June. She don't have anything doing, I wonder where she will get the money to pay him back. Till now the guy have not replied him. I can say she has not started cheating on me because, she just relocated from Awka to Abuja where I leave and she doesn't know anywhere yet. She is always at home. So where I'm confused now is, is she sending him her nude and delete it at instant or she is just playing ▶️the guy? Even at that, as a married woman 👩did she suppose to engage in such conversation with a man? And she is already pregnant, 16weeks pregnant precisely.

Please house, what should I do in this situation, should I confront her or to keep monitoring her but the fact is, it still disturbs me why my wife a married woman should be having such discussions with a man.

Honestly you have to confront her and if she refuses to give you full detailed explanation how she got that 20k and what she intend to do with that 50/100k she is requesting from him

Just suspend the wedding let us know if she is ready for marriage or she has to be freed to go and finish her unfinished business

When a woman is married and still have plans to collect a guys money

One day she will pay in one way or another
By the time she develops this bad attitude, she will upgrade to another level

You married her in January this year,, is she not supposed to stop such communication assuming she has know the guy before marriage

If you don't stop some certain nonsense at this stage you may be in charge of your happiness

Quiteparrot:
I'm married with four kids (5/13 years), my wife is from Edo State while me a Yoruba. There was a little misunderstanding between us lately when she told me that she will soon start to teach my children her language , I objected to this which made her feel bad . My children barely understand my language and can't speak at all because we all speak English at home but my wife understand Yoruba at least by 30% . I won't like it when they start speaking a language I don't understand under my roof. I'm trying to teach my kids Yoruba but my unavailability at home isn't helping matters. I don't think I'm being selfish in this case because it will be lovely if all of us speak Yoruba than only me being left out, this is one major thing I don't like in an intertribal marriage

Incase you don't know or understand very well

By nature your children will hear and speak mother tongue before your language

Get that straight

So it now depends if you will join them or left alone

As for your language
You have to be the one to teach all of them

But if you are feeling too high at home
Both your wife and children will frustrate your language both teaching and earning