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KINGOFHEART4064:
Please, I need better advice.
I completed my youth services last year, and traveled to where my friend base to state a life and I am staying with my friend and his family.
To cut the story shot, his wife have a sister that is staying with them and is still in secondary school, I am falling in love with her.
Please I need your advice on what to do.

Some one is squatting you, probably feeding you and you are lusting for a small girl in secondary school in the same house ?

Dey play, you hear
Just dey play

achimendy:
Only a foolish man will allow his wife take all that responsibility while he sit down and watch. If the man is having temporal business challenges is understandable , but on a normal circumstance is a big no no for me. In fact the man is supposed to be respecting the woman for doing all that for him.

😂
Actually no man wants to be in such situations
But at times, shits happens and you find yourself in that situation

Of course she is over burden and her loyalty can't be measured because of stress factor and probably pride will not allow the man to appreciate her

It does happen and only few men understands what it means to have such a woman as a helper

OfeAchi:
I started dating her 3 years ago. She is 25 and an upcoming actress based in Spain. We get to meet physically twice a year and plans are already in place for my relocation to Spain.

The challenge I currently face is my trust levels.
I've seen a couple of her movies. Some of them had intimate scenes in which she was almost naked, save for her panties. When I complained to her about the movie scene, she assured me that it was just a stunt double not her actual body. But the strange thing about her excuse was that this stunt double has the same unique birth mark on her left breasts, similar to my fiance. On another occasion, I watched a clip in which she was being "pounded" from behind by another actor. She moaned throughout the 5minute sex scene. Although on this occasion she wasn't naked but her dress appeared to be raised.
Maybe I'm being paranoid and her excuses are valid.

On the other hand, she could be quite a homely and affectionate partner. She cooks well too. These were the qualities that made me propose to her in Benin, about a year ago.

Do you think I should proceed with the relationship?

If you can stand all these scenes and complain go ahead

If you can raise the family with out her working or contributing go ahead

If you have a strong heart to bear whatever you see her doing on set go ahead

If you know that your BP can't
Advice her to stop acting, if she refuses of which I know she will

Just follow your heart

Hassanmaye:
Men have side chicks because we are polygamous

Dey play

Ask Yul Edochie how far with his DNA test and why he was disappointed when the result was negative

IDERAWOLE:
Surely not. That's not the definition of submission. Any man who calls that submission is a cramp, if there's anything called by that name.

Now, the situation you painted actually exists in some occasions. However, what's wrong with such a man that his wife will do all of those things you mentioned and is still calling himself the man of the home?

No sane man will be comfortable getting all of those services from a woman you call your wife! If he is, then he's sick heavy.

Now, a wife could be favoured with all of those good things. A healthy husband should try to leverage on that woman's status by finding out what can I do to maintain my position as your husband!

Even if, your salary monthly may not be more than 200k, and here you have a wife earning 2m per month. Something from that 200k should come as your gift to the babe of your life regularly. Definitely, that salary of the man can't maintain the life of the wife, and a sane woman that earns 2m too is not going to be expecting you to maintain her and the home. All a sane woman will be looking for is just a sense of responsibility from the man. Buy simple things for the kids and the wife and appreciate the efforts of the woman.

That woman will be happy with your 200k and she'll do all of the rest with joy in her heart.

Anyway, remember my adjective for the woman, SANE! It's not everybody that is sane o!

I love your analysis

Uten9z:
You and Devock19 and every other feminist should knw this truth. Men don't care about your how much you can afford submission and respect he deserve period.
Unless the man is there in relationship with the money attributed.
Say what ever you want and believe what ever you want , it can't change that fact about a macho

Wetin concern us with macho or weakly 🤷
We can only do what we can

lexy2014:
What are you quarreling with exactly?

I only asked a question

I think you are the one that turns it to quarrel

JeffreyJunior:
I've done that before and regretted it.

The one I bought had foundation issues and I know how much I spent to renovate it.

Nothing beats building your own house to your test and quality.

Ok but I I still prefer to renovate to my taste than for my hope of building a house to be swindled by my relations of which the family will still beg me to forgive

Meanwhile I will never trust any one of them again

kyber:
I meet this lady on Facebook,,we have been chatting and calling each other for 2 weeks now, she is from abavo, live in Warri ,she said she wanted to see me, when I saw her she was older than me,

she requested that I should take her to where she can eat fish perper soup,,I bought her perper soup of 1500,, she drank two malt and requested for bottle water,,I paid,, she refused to tell me where she stays
,,she drove off with her Bike and later in the evening I called her but she refused to pick or call back,,

up till now she never picked up the phone,, she thinks she is smart,,

What do I do to get back at her ?
What should I do ?

You can never get her back, she was hungry for what she requested for and that's all she wanted

This is one of the meaning of hit and run

kyber:
So this girl we live in the same compound
On this very day she washed her clothes and went out leaving her clothes including her pants on the line, I didn’t know she won’t be coming back that day
Well it started raining and she called me to help her pack her pants and i said okay,

I asked her if she was coming back she says no till tomorrow.

Then I thought of it where could this girl be by this time of the night,she must be in a guy’s house Collecting brother john Cina and pipping some lollipop down her throat while she wants another man to help pack her pants,

Omo I didn’t pack it oo,then she came back the next day to see what I had done and got furious and told me that I’m wicked and never to talk to her again .

So I don’t know what to do ?
Did I do wrong or right?
Should I go and apologize ?

Where ever she was as at the time she was asking you to assist her pack her undies shouldn't be a problem with you because you are not dating her

Maybe the rain caught her there and she couldn't come back

She requested for your help and you accepted but didn't do that for her

She is not happy with what you did

Now that she has cautioned you, never to talk to her again, just give her a break till she gets over it

soundOsonic:
There is this girl I am trying to date, she is okay and all; I vibe with her and she vibes very well with me. She sees me as a very great friend, she tells me things and I tell her things, it's as if we are dating, but we aren't, when I mean dating I mean even physical intimacy.
She refused dating me because she is in love with her boyfriend, and he is sponsoring her education. She really loves him with all her heart and soul, and also she is very much attracted to me than him.
I will liken her love for him as a cool evening summer in a beach, and I will liken her love for me as having a passionate snow fight in winter.
Funny enough I also love her with everything, I don't want to come between their relationship, the only times we meet is in a hotel when I travel to her state for something important. We talk everyday. My relationship with her is based on our solid friendship not intimacy.
Financially I will say I and the guy are equal, but my earning will be doubled before the year runs out, and they are planning introduction by next year.
I am actually confusing her, I want to push her away completely from my life, and I believe she also wants to do thesame, but we have come too far with each other's company that it is impossible.
She is in school and I am serving and earning (I work remotely for a company) and teaching as my NYSC job. I was posted to a place with a very bad accommodation, the room is bland while the toilet is okay, but the bathroom is worse. Well it is in a village.
She begged me to invite her over, but I told declined as the environment to me is not befitting to invite a babe, and besides I haven't cohabited with a lady before even if it is just like a week stay. She insisted that's not a problem but I was adamant in my decision.
The main reason is that is dating someone, but I didn't tell her, not to make her feel down and guilty.
I thought of her boyfriend as well, though I am just friends with her, there is no way we will not be so sexually cozy with each other.
The way I described her might make her seem bad, but she is very innocent, and a very kind person, she isn't a flirt, I am the demon here, she is a woman it is normal to be attracted to my personality, my jokes and how easy and free I make people feel.
I don't know if I took advantage of our friendship and made her fall in love with me, though it wasn't meditated as I found myself in love.
She can't leave the guy, and she can't leave me.
I am tired of finding myself in this stalemate, there are other ladies around me that are showing me attention and are single but my heart is fixed on her.
Am I the ashole for hoping their relationship scatter so I can be with her?

Dey play

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

You want to fight nature
You get time
Your wife is now a fat cow

Imagine what is giving you worries

CondenseMilk:
But you write like one who has a bitter marriage!

Go and read my post very well

I am happily married with children and God has blessed me that's why i do respond to people on this forum when they send account details for assistance

I know what it means not to have anything

tessybrown:
This was the Attribute of the confession on my whatsapp tv.

Her message goes like this below!!! Attach to this her message is the guys respond


I have been dating this guy for 5 yrs,in the five yrs I have been pregnant twice but aborted them cause he say he wasn't ready,so the third pregnancy came and I told him about it he said the same thing I begged him to keep it but he refuse after the complications and the abortion was successful its still not up to five months and he said he is sorry that I should forget about what happened and forgive him,that he is ready to marry now,but within me I have given up on us pls should I forgive him and continue with the relationship ?

Only if he goes to your family to do the necessary things and marry you

Otherwise continue with your loose untill nothing will be left in you

How many have you done and how many is left

CondenseMilk:
Just give your husband that respect and submission and watch how he would love everything about you including your poo!

Comment on the post not on my personal life because my husband haven't told you that I don't respect him

Concerntrate on the topic and my response

Goodlady:
Yul ll come and talk in fullness of time. Meanwhile, he's responsible for most of his ordeals. Never marry more than one wife. Some men no dey hear.

His own stardom created problem for him

He lost his son

Lost the second wife, that was
turning his head like a spin

Lost the little boy he named and showed the world thinking is his son

Lost the love his first wife built for him

Finally lost his sanity

Now him head don correct, he will stay one place now

Enenim:
Just In: "DNA Test revealed that Yul Edochie is not the father of Judy Austin's son" - Investigative Journalist Kemi Olunloyo reveals!!!
investigative journalist, Kemi Olunloyo has claimed that Yul Edochie is not the father of Judy Austin's son.
Recall that a few days ago, media personality Daddy Freeze disclosed in a video that a popular Nigerian celebrity has discovered through a DNA test that he is not the biological father of the son he welcomed with his second wife.
After this disclosure, a lot of people suspected Yul Edochie because he had earlier deleted the photos of his son and second wife, Judy Austin from his Instagram page.
Well today In a fresh disclosure, Kemi Oluloyo has taken to her Facebook page to reveal emphatically that the DNA test that was conducted on the second wife of the actor showed her son did not belong to Yul Edochie.
She wrote: "I just heard that DNA tests revealed that Judy Austin's son was not fathered by Yul Edochie".

When they say stay with one wife, they will not hear, now he has lost a bigger thing than the thing he though he has gained

And equally lost his sanity too

akpunda86:
Is it possible getting a second wife that treats my first kids as her own,I'm scared.
Im opening a trust fund for my kids plus the rent from the house can take kia of the school fees incase of Demise.
My lovely wife just strayed ,changed till my family supported me to divorce her.

I just planted enuff cameras 2 watch my kids as my new nanny takes over but still ponder how can a mother abadon her kids for a federal govt job offer dat looks like scam

It will always take the grace of God to get a woman that will love your children like their biological mother

Supremos:
US-based woman bewails ‘uncompleted’ house brother built for her in Nigeria

That's why some of them who doesn't want to regret buys a house that is already built to avoid breaking heart stories

concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

That's a slap on you the family is aware

So you guys should go on break for the time being

If you experience any feelings for her during the break, then you can reignite the relationship

That's my thoughts

AllMight:
1. Toyin - She was my former classmate and friend back in school. She currently works in a bank as a CFC Agent. We met late last year during our school old student get together, we exchanged contact and kept in touch regularly. Our vibes have been good and encouraging. She had helped me very well many times since then. I'd say we are more than friends but ambigously because i haven't really asked her to be my girlfriend, though i have taken her out before on val day. Like i said, our relationship is ambigous. She doesn't have a boyfriend yet, but her mum is trying to matchmake her.

2. Sarah - Based in the States with her family for futher studies, though she's a Nigerian through her grandpa. We met early this year while playing game and since then we have become close that all her family know me. Her paternal uncle is one of my team sponsor here in Nigeria. Though this lady do give me green light steady, but because of Toyin who i haven't even get as my gf, i just laugh it off.

Honest advice please!

Just marry a friend so that the friendship will hold the marriage together

Marry the one in the state and have little say in the marriage because of her status

Islie:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/04/woman-sues-husband-for-allegedly-failing-to-take-her-to-saudi-arabia/

If am a guy
Instead of me to provoke a woman

I will rather Provoke a man

If this woman mean this man and doesn't get justice, she will remote this man and one morning he will pack his things home and that's the beginning of his frustration

Dont ever promise a woman anything, they don't forget things

Just do whatever you want to do for her

CondenseMilk:
For a marriage to be successful

-the woman must submit and respect the husband.
-the man must love the wife .

This is according to scripture. As a woman, it is not required of you to love your husband rather you are required to respect and submit to him.

While the man is to love the woman.

Naturally, when such qualities are not found in a woman wether successful or not the man would look elsewhere.


As for the provisions for the home, money can come from both, it doesn't matter who has it more.

How many things in the Bible does men obey

Including the one that says love your wife

Did the Bible say have side chic

UniversalGee:
Can't believe I'm creating a thread about this. I'm in 200 level without a single female friend. I'm an introvert and prefer to stay by myself, but I'm starting to feel like I need to make female friends.
Is that a bad life, if it is, how can I change that?
Share your experience on how you made female friends in the university.
By the way, I'm in Engineering faculty and we don't have Feminine girls in my faculty.

Where you told about female friends and it's negative side

Have anyone told you anything bad about having a female friend or friends

So how will you study the life of women and their crazy behavior before getting married

CondenseMilk:
Most successful women lacks submission and this is the reason why they are single.

It depends on what you mean by submission, especially for those who are married to a man who cant provide for his family

She pays the house rent, school fees, hospital bills, other bills and probably feeding

These are the things a man that married her can't do and she is doing it all,

So is she not submissive enough

Or you expect her to work for the money and hand it over to the man

That's what you call submission abi ⁉️

Sponty600:
I had to create this anonymous account to make this post.
Okay so around last year,exactly this time of the year.I don't know how possible but I observed that flies are following or are attracted to me.
At first it was very minor,I only see them in one or two places.
Fast forward into the last year, it started increasing . I see flies everywhere even in very clean places like churches or banks.
I doubt if its a hygiene problem,because I wear clean clothes and maintain personal hygiene. And plus they're dirty people in the society and none of them have never experienced this.
I have experienced this for a year now,despite trying to find a cure to it,it leaves me deeply confused anytime I think of it.
If anyone has experienced similar problem or has any suggestion,please let me hear

In your past relationship, did you offend anyone

Be it family members, friends both boys and girls or business associates

Diego35M:
Sometimes you may have to wait forever haha

Honestly 🤣 🤣 🤣

Simply because women have the ability to surpress it, unlike men

Diego35M:
I blv this ur comment

Lol, abi naw

emmanuelewumi:
If man no request for it, na wahala.


Wetin man go do

Lol
That's why they would have to keep requesting

Hassanmaye:
Once a woman starts ovulation after menstruation that's the correct time to hit

What are you hitting

We are talking about sexual satisfaction not getting pregnant

They are too different things

wonder233:
Its wrong on both sides. I can't speak for other men. I only know myself. I don't cheat, I was faithful and committed to my marriage. No sneaking around, no hanky panky, no hiding to receive phone calls. I'm not a campus boy. I'm a grown man, that was 100% faithful in his marriage

That's great
Since you can be this discipline

Why can't others practice such decency to in marriage

Even women too have started misbehaving like men

Do we now stone them to death or the men should reason with them

Sex is all about choice and discipline

You alone can decide to play around or respect the sanity of marriage

Its so complex that it's difficult to handle

Fearyourcreator:
I saw the ovulation thing ... Choi! Mehn ... Am short of words ooo... Wetin her family talk

victorVIC1:
The question is, is her husband aware about her dissatisfactions? Some couples don't discuss about this and it's a major gap

If you read my first comment very well you will where I said her husband should step up