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How can you be so sure? Are you in everyone's marriage? Staying or leaving is the OP's choice after weighing a number of factors but don't start forcing your opinion on her like you're the unseen spectator in every home.

Modupetemmy1:
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many people will ask you to leave but believe me they are tolerating what is more worse than yours in their marriage.

Why Do you have a word from heaven that this is the right person? Or are you decreeing cos hes Republican. Sorry, I just wanna know...

Righteousness89:
I Pray God's Healing Hands upon the Potus/Flotus
I Decree a Speedy Recovery on the President and His Staffs..
I Declare Confused Confusion into the Camp of the Haters..

I Decree that Except the Rapture Happens, President Donald Trump is Re-elected in JESUS NAME...

Amen

So na the oyibo girls or the Nigerian men get tolerance pass

Iyoocartel:
Iyooooooo cartel

Really alot of Nigerian girls lack tolerance to be honest. Marriage has never been a bed of roses and will never be. Congratulations cha cha you have successfully registered to nollywood single mothers association. You're now free to do anything you want. Soon you'll start snapping nude independent day pictures like mercy toyin lawani and buying range rovers and houses all over lekki like Toke makinwa.

Honestly, shouting on my parents is totally unacceptable.

Ishilove:
Dem never born the man that can do this ish to me. You pick up the phone and shout at my parents? Unthinkable.

My bro, I just weak

thorpido:
What wrong has your child done that you are thinking of leaving the child behind?

Oh okay, I've never wanted a guy that didn't want me. Next!!!

AnonymousRebec:
I think he isn't into me. But he is definitely not married. I'm very sure of that.

Right! First thing I thought of...

cococandy:
He’s married

Maybe, he's married or in a committed relationship. Or maybe, He's just not that into you!

As in ontop politicians who don't even know him.

ThreeEyedRaven:
Which school are you writing this dessertation/thesis for ?

God, you are a guy and you're being truthful. How can a man be demanding gifts in such a situation? I'm a woman too and try to make reasonable requests from my spouse. If she chooses to, fine. Last year's birthday I declined expensive gifts cos of school fees. There's also rent. Waoh!

But if this will break her home,
buy a gift n keep moving.

midolian:
You don't get the point I am trying to make dear. I also ask my wife for gifts..but the situation is different. By the grace of God we are both okay financially.

From the wife's post, you will notice there is hardly enough to buy these gifts..She is only doing it because the kids really need it. I think it is out of place for the husband to insist on getting same treatment as the kids, especially in their current condition.

Insisting is what I have a big problem with. it the wife chooses to buy out of her own volition, Fine.

She doesn't deserve an entitled husband. Nobody does.

Now twist this, a man works full time, has an online biz and still does uber all weekend. Now he can afford to buy essentials like shoes and clothes for the kids, who grow rapidly by the way. Sometimes, he buys snacks. Now his wife who shouts on him in front of friends from uni and always forgets his birthday is demanding a gift, maybe an 18 inch Brazilian weave. To yourself be true, what will your response be

N if he obliges, wont he be termed a simp? Just asking

dingbang:
and she doesn't deserve a husband.. Maybe if she can't water her garden, God will take it away from her and give it to another woman who has wisdom and love.

Yes o, awa ni yen.

Nairaboi:
Na dem be this .. .

She sacrifices by working 3 jobs and the house chores. It cant be that difficult to understand. Assuming, he were supportive it won't be a big deal to her to buy him gifts like shoes and clothes for the children. Does he help with her online biz? Does he hold forte while she has to do her catering runs? The mere fact that she has to create a thread should give you an idea that she doesn't think he deserves a gift. Also, go through her thread history and show some empathy.

sapporo:
why not stick to the story and put sentiment asides, Op might av insinuate making more money buh she insinuated anytin that relates to sacrifice, there collective income sustains d family , also from her story her xtra income are spent on herself & kids. that a woman makes more money doesnt mean she foot more of d bills sometimes
sacrifice is what you forgo @ your very own detriment just to make someone happy .... so from all what Op said where did she sacrifice for d man, if she buys c'mon mr biggs snacks for her children n can't include her husband what sacrifice could she possibly made. if my wife comes home every day buyin eatables 4 d kids & herself, i will joking remind her am her baby tew .. no hard feelings that is how it should be. speaking of gift i don't see why OP needs to open a thread or she planning to buy him a car or house. gift could be boxers & byc singlet

Irritating local woman

Anyway @op, sometimes you gotta choose your battles. Buy him a gift, present it to him with a flourish with sweet words and save future income like crazy. Best of luck!

I can't imagine. Assuming, I were him, I'd be appreciative of all her sacrifices. She's a saint in my opinion. There's going to be so much pent up frustration but for peace in her home, she can buy him a gift. In this Buhari economy, with school fees to pay for 3 kids, house rent amongst other costs, don't even understand why a gift is warranted from a woman's 3rd hustle.

pocohantas:
He isn’t entitled, he is a USER! The only reason guys are not seeing it is because he is a MAN.

That is why I pity women who use emotions to follow Nigerian men. You will stress yourself and help him save money. Money he will use to pursue girls that haven’t stressed away their youthfulness and feminity.

OP had a baby last year and here she is, doing 3 jobs to provide for herself and kids. I can imagine her blouse dropping off her shoulders. She has been seriously complaining of this same husband. He doesn’t give her money, except she asks and he doesn’t buy her gifts. She also stated that she is beginning to resent him and that is not surprising. Any man that allows his wife/woman do what OP is doing, would definitely get RESENTED. She might succeed in hiding her disgust, but the passive aggressiveness would be there.

Men provide for women because men expect women to have kids, take care of the home, submit, support, position in bed...etc. It is not because they are nice. The only nice man is your father!! After him, if you don’t behave well to a Nigerian husband, you go collect.

Why e pain you like this?Take time out to reflect and if you are doing anything similar to your spouse or significant others, please note that you can do better. The woman is practically financing her home and so far she's giving her husband peace, he should not push it. He should help out with chores and be extra supportive too.

Ebenezer2021:
[s] read the first three comments by ladies and come back and read your posts now then tomorrow Sunday you better go to church and pray for sense.
iranu
[s]
Thank God you said your own opinion.
Now after seeing your inconsequential opinion doesn't matter, I'd advise you write your opinion in a sheet of paper, fold it like a ball and shove it deep your arse'
NONSENSE

Well, reality will most likely be different.

Lastmankc:
I am impressed by most comment of ladies here.

Yes he's entitled in my opinion.
His wife works a fulltime job, part time online biz and now catering maybe on weekends. I bet you she's still responsible for child care and housekeeping. Again, I doubt there'll have been loose funds to buy 'gifts' which are actually necessities if she wasn't been sacrificial. Not once was it mentioned she's been on a shopping spree herself.

2ScrewsLoose:
No be boyfriend o, na Husband... Ofcuz he is entitled...

My pleasure

boiz2men:
I was shocked I wasn't going to see an odd statement. You didn't disappoint

He sounds entitled in my opinion

Ok thanks

Brachaa:
Not in this area. Maybe somewhere around Sango you can get that.

In June, same FFK said:


Ladies are like race horses: they must be mastered, tamed, trained, exercised and regularly serviced. They are like race cars: their engine must be revved at least twice a day.

So Egbon, I believe your account. He was only treating her like a race horse.

700k for room and parlor in Yaba is surprising sha. Can't someone get a 3 bedroom for that amount?

Yeah, you were attempting to quote scriptures or at least I assumed you were by saying spouses own each other and so she should have no issues with anal sex. So I disagreed with you and I still disagree. No sane person should have sexual pleasure without the implied or Express consent of a partner

Mystic969:
Sure... I don't believe the Lady, and as for the holybook opinion on the sexual aspect, let Me Righteousness89 give us insight.