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Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

I appreciate your wonderful devotion to your mother. Calm down please. Women came with a default setting to always be at daggers end with their mother in law even before they even meet her.
In your scenario, I think your wife didn't take into cognizance, the delicate nature of your mothers health, that was why she didn't adhere to the strict instructions.
I beg you to forgive and forget. Their are things I would have shared with you but this Is a public forum.
If you need to discuss, just send a PM

hopefulLandlord:
I also find it hard. although mine is energy drink. Fearless, Power horse, red bull, Monster, Climax are drinks I'm finding hard to stop. my situation gets more complicated being a teetotaler. You go out with guys and before you know it you've downed 3 cans of monster and since I'm not paying for it most times I take them not to be too odd as my not taking alcohol already makes me odd enough. It's also funny how the average Nigerian calls you a pastor once he/she knows you're a teetotaler

If I do determine not to take sugary drinks then all I have to do is avoid the present companies I keep and the benefits I get from these companies far outweigh - I hope - the health challenges I'm bound to face in the future

Too much of energy drink can kill you

mariovito:
This your brother abi na you,
More catastrophic than the asteroids and global warming put together, ona go single handedly wipe out all the fauna for Nigeria.

But then, a hungry man has no character.

You cracked me The guy na real catastrophe
What is wrong with the moderator that keep bringing these post to frontpage

nonxo007:
Hope Uzodinma shot himself in the leg by carrying out such action. Trust Rochas, he will capitalise on this to give him the Ohakim treatment, if you listened to Rochas's interview on Chamnels TV, he kept on hammering on how they desecrated the church and the easterners do not joke with the church especially Catholic and Anglican.
Rochas of course is not a Saint and honestly speaking that man did Imolites bad. He ran Imo state as a family affair, grabbing land and misusing/embezzling our funds.
Either way I think Hope should just do one term and go, his wahala is too much. Oga focus on governance and stop witch hunting Rochas, if there is something wrong that was done by Rochas there are appropriate means of doing things and it should be followed.
To me there is no right or wrong place to arrest a person, even in their place of worship as long as the person is wanted by the police he should be arrested, but give respect to whom respect is due, the church is a house of sanity and things should be done right, they should have waited for the service to be over and when he steps out he is gradually carried away. I wonder if these our police no dy watch foreign movies.

The ideal thing would have been to place two policemen seating close to him to watch him and service is over then make the arrest outside

Racoon:
"The last few days have seen a hypocritical mass awakening to the dire existential torments the people of Nigeria’s northwest face and a dramatic diminution of Buhari’s unearned goodwill in the region.

People who had constructed Buhari as an unerring, irreproachable demigod who is worthy only of worship and unquestioned admiration have started to call him insensitive and clueless.

It took the unceasing escalation of kidnappings and the deepening and widening of the oceans of blood in the northwest for Buhari’s erstwhile unthinking worshipers to come to terms with what some of us have known and said since late 2015: that Buhari is an unfeeling wretch who is also irremediably incompetent.

There suddenly seems to be an epiphany in the region that Buhari is an inept, uncaring fraud who scammed the people into attributing to him qualities he never possessed & would never possess in a million lifetimes...."

a monumental scam of epic proportion. He should have been mentioned in the 36 laws of power of how one incompetent clown was mystified to the pedestal of a demigod

advanceDNA:
You don’t even know what you are saying.... u are just using legal terms wrongly... what does “have the right to trouble” mean?

Nobody has the right to trouble another human being.... it’s called assault and could lead to fine or 3months jail....

A woman cant leave a man and still be claiming ownership like u never left.... that’s witch craft.

She has no right under law to harass the man or girlfriend until he marries her... and the worse she can do under the law is to sue for bigamy...
. u can’t force anyone to remain married to you or not date anyone they want....whether you married in a Supreme Court or court of heaven..

Bless you. Nigerians are too sentimental/emotional. The ignorant ones are usually the loudest

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

Go to the police station. Explain to them. Let them give her a restraining order. Let her sign that she will not come near you again.
The only thing I see after this is her going diabolical if she is that sort of person.
Furthermore, in that regards, let her sign an undertaking that if anything happens to you or your girl, then she will be held responsible

dogooder:
Any achievements that the masses are not feeling the positive effects is not achievements.

End of discussion

Righteousness2:
GOD Bless you my Brother. I received your message.

You are welcome

Righteousness2:
When I see or hear things as these, I see nor reasons to appreciate GOD for the Privilege HE gave to I and my siblings to Have Parents who didn't put us through things as these.

Young man! I Have seen reckless Homes mend together again.
I Have seen almost radical homes come together again in Love.
The Rallying point of these Homes was JESUS Christ.

The Missing link in your Home is JESUS Christ. I can tell you that for Free.
If you can embrace JESUS Christ and Stand in the Gap in Prayer for your Home, you will be Suprised how GOD will mend every Broken walls and restore Love and Unity in the Home.

I Have seen it Happen and I Believe Same will Happen in your Father's house. But Somebody needs to stand in the Gap.

My beloved brother. God bless you. Keep up the good work, never slumber. Quote me if you see this message

ignis:
I know this since 20 years ago.

Same here. We don old be that

Mood11:
How you are feeling right now is exactly how guys feel when a lady they don't want to marry forces herself in.
I suggest you go and see his family and do small things on his head
This one is Nylon Bag husband

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Chai! You are wicked

alizma:
Shot that stinking hole on your face that you call mouth, this woman has been up and doing in respect of Nigerians in diaspora. In fact she is one of those in Buhari's government that is making positive impact. If you are not ok with her effort, you can move to US.

Well this is a faceless forum so imps like you can afford to bandy insults around. I still maintain that the government did too little and too late in this particular case. Go and read up.
You are still holed up in some cave in some remote village. Go and ask nigerians in diaspora what they go tru in the hands of Nigerian embassy. Even to renew documents is a herculean task. Something other African countries do for their citizens seamlessly and online with ease.
It is goats like you that makes this country remain the way it is when you praise and idolize these failures in government. In a working society, these mediocre would have been stoned and chased away.
Don't bother quoting me as I am done responding to you.

So na now F.G wake up abi?

Government wey no value dia citizen. Sometimes the way US go to extreme miles because of their citizens in other countries baffle me.
That was how they send special force to rescue their people held by terrorist org in Nigeria. Nigerian government no even know Wetin happen until the team were already airborne.

Elsueno:
Nairaland is really amazing woh, see someone in the extreme corner of Nigeria trying to educate me on what I have experience several times . Boko Haram & Iswap does not have SURFACE TO AIR MISSILE, if they did the military jets & helicopters would have not even be able to operate...even with thier RPG they struggle to hit tanks & vehicles tallkless of a flying chopper.
Do u have any idea how many helicopters hover around that state daily? pls do not talk about what u do not understand, Iswap/BH do not just wake up & attack a military outpost( terrorists get decimated at bases). Pls stop getting swered by thier propaganda. fact is, if not for save heavens in neighboring countries, the armed forces would have wiped out these guys a long time ago

Lol. My brother. No take your life play kalokalo.
RPG no be beans. It can do serious damage and for correction. These NGO workers move mostly with hiluxes and trucks.
I don't want to argue anymore as I can say that you are prone to defending your area.

Exjoker:
A 62 year puna na your mate

Lol

What a lifeless fellow

God abeg help us remove this man

Elsueno:
She ain't the only NGO worker thier , each outing to the local govts areas is being done with a chopper. They will fly u thier & bring u back, during that time, gud security will be provided. When visiting IDP camps, u get security & also the camp is totally sorounded by security forces.

Nigerian NGO workers with their crooked ways sometimes decide to ditch work & travel by road, NGO WILL NOT PROVIDE SECURITY FOR YOU DURING UR LITTLE ESCAPEDE FROM WORK. while iswap hardly harm civilians, they do not let military, police & NGO workers free.

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Are you serious, freshkpomo come and educate this one. Are you aware that boko haran has the capability to shot down helicopters with RPG and other surface to air missilles? You were not aware that a jet fighter not a chopper o, was shot down abi? Be there fooling yourself.
You are really a baby, I guess.
You mentioned security, you haven't read that these guys do attack military formation and base? Even governor zulum convoy was attacked twice? Who can be more guarded than a state governor?
Pls don't make this thing light. Taking a job in maidugiri is a big security risk. Anyone going should know it is a risk venture.
Because I used the word NGO you presume it is some local stuff, we are talking about international organizations from world bodies. They don't cut corners

freshkpomo:

I still have the photo of one NGO guy killed, he was an Urhobo guy, his younger brother was a family friend. The guy cry tire. Imagine watching the way your brother knelt down before he was killed, all on camera. Even him mama dey alive to watch that horrible clip.

Very horrible

Elsueno:
Nope, u did not, that city is a fortress, there are already millions of people living there. Thousands of soldiers, mopol & other security personnels. she is safe inside the city, Also if u story is true, multi national like that would have thier workers housed in a prime location. There are even no bandits in that vicinity. The only problem currently I know of is lack of electricity. but security wise only Abuja is better....so yeah..U fuvcked off man

You didn't hear of NGO workers that were kidnapped and killed?
That job is certainly an NGO job and it requires them visiting idp camps and remote places

matrix199:
If 10% of Edo youths converged, a local government would not contain them, how much more a hotel, how much more 65.7%.

A small faction of youth does not represent the entire youths.

I just tire my brother. Does the writer knows what 65.7% translates to? 4 football pitch cannot contain them

visijo:
Anytime I remember the Fasting & Prayers in January, I make sure I add another plate of rice �

U no well o

Salliet:
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myfantasies:
Lagos apapa

Owh very far. I'm in the South...warri

Victorclean1:
Fake life is worst than death. You went and downloaded all the food displayed on internet and claim it was what you wife fed You on.

Pls post prove. Show us pictures evidence

MALIGNANTGuest:
She does that too.
She does 2pm-10pm.
Our Oyibo neighbors don mad oo.
Their husbands have mandated their wives to visit us for update courses concerning Coconut rice, Fried Rice, & Jollof.
We all shall be hanging out at Xmas.

Tell your wife say I dey greet her. No forget o, you hear?

She is making us proud. Nigeria to the world!!!

MALIGNANTGuest:
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I'm suffering from FOOD ABUSE now!

Bros take it easy. This thing you are doing is not good.


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We that are away from home and home alone this Christmas. You come dey post all these delicious meals.


See the way I perch near my nephew wife wey dey arrange chicken stew.
As na only me go village this year, na the only way to secure my stomach be that

myfantasies:
Abeg who they cook Xmas rice, na food they me important..... Nothing else

Lol.
Where ur location na

CrownOfClay724:
Sadly, this thing is everywhere.

In fact , na their kind mindset I wan take enter 2022.

Aswear. Billing for any body wey cross my path

Joysticks:
My nephew carelessly pressed the sleep button on the tv in our house.The screen went blank but the red power on button was showing when I switched on the tv.I tried all techniques to make it turned on but it didn't.So I took it to a tv repairer.He charged me #1500 and asked me to come back the next day.After repairing it I took it home.
As i was using the remote to search for channels.I mistakenly pressed the sleep button and the tv went blank but the red light power button was on.I pressed the sleep button again the tv screen came up.That was how I knew that nothing serious happened to my tv.

I dey for ground dey laff since
Chai nigerians are wicked
Ignorance bad sha
I watched TV late into the night and press the sleep button and went to bed. Madam wake up in the morning on TV the thing no gree come on, na im she come wake me say TV don spoil

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I still couldn't do it.pls