I only discovered backing my baby about 2 months ago when she was 7 months and i tell you it is a lifesaver. When she's getting cranky, overtired and in need of a nap, i back her and its like sleeping tablets..she just goes....zzzzz. When im trying to cook in the kitchen and she wont let me get on with my chores, i back her and she feels secure by being with me whilst i can get on with my tasks without any disturbance. I even find it more convenient backing her than when i carried her with the baby carrier on my front. I couldnt carry the weight after she turned 4months but when you carry them on the back, you carry them until they are toddlers as mentioned above.

I cant speak for other babies but it certainly works for me even though i started late...she loves it. And for us abroad who dont have anyone to help us look after our babies, backing your baby will come as a great help to you. Try it. I just wish someone can come up with an innovative way of designing some cool carrier for this, im sure it would be a best seller.

SICK SICK SICK. I feel like throwing up. Look at his evil face!

Great ideas you have there....

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@ dominique, that traditional method is so crude from what you narrated. Why would anyone putt their life and that of the baby at such high risk?

I used Johnson baby products when baby was born but she developed serious rashes after 2 weeks. I took her to the GP and was advised to stay far away from ALL Johnson baby products as they are too harsh on a baby's skin. She also said they use very clever marketing to sell their products. The best product for babies is olive oil, shea butter or pure coconut oil. I now use epaderm + sheaa butter and oilatum for baths. Myy bubu skin is as smooth as silk.

Congrats Diamondlove...thank God baby and mum are doing fine. ITs not a joke what women go through during labour. Have a good rest cos the next few months is going to crazyyy....my Bube baby is nearly 6 months and growing little teeth...its a miracle.

@ Otokx, i was in uniport for a bit na....i know the school and Aluu wella. Infact, i was robbed at shining machete point there sef. The school was fun by i found that the students (boys and girls alike) were very prone to violence.

The more i look at the pictures, the more angry i get. What sort of beasts are we breeding and becoming The criminal justice system needs a complete REVAMP but the Nigerian people will not allow because we prefer things the way are, we dont like the law working because it may interfere with the way of life we live so we sabotage it, we weaken it, we reduce the courts to a place for weddings and swearing affidavits. The government also has a lot to gain from keeping the judicial system in darkness, because if they fix it, the hammer of justice may fall squarely on their head...so they leave the police to run riot, the court system is useless and prisons are another story.

In absence of civilization, human beings become animals, resulting in madness/frustration/pure wickedness. At the end of the day, every action deserves a consequence but where there is no cilivised system to address issues like cultism and armed robberies, i guess, we will continue to see more of these sick scenes multiplying around Nigeria.

I believe its obvious that these boys were not robbers...i do believe it had something to do with cultism.

Judging from what majority of the ladies have said so far, its obvious that we women refuse to be subjected and dragged into needless arguments and barrage of insults. I urge the "sensible" men still remaining on this forum to take our responses seriously and make a change for the better before NL becomes a men only forum cos thats what is inevitable bound to happen. seun pls take note.

look at my id/profile and see im one of those from the old skool nl...things are degenerated badly since then. even my husband who used to be a regular contributor has stopped coming here altogether for the same reasons.

i used to be a regular contributor on NL back in the day when there were loads of professionals and mature minded individuals until the forum was hijacked by those who choose to turn most threads into a boxing arena trading sexual innuendos,racist and tribal slurs, brazen insults, narcissist and chauvinistic views. I cant have a conversation on those terms so i choose to be a passive participant these days limiting myself to reading interesting or making a comment on threads specific to my immediate needs/circumstances. Plus i comment after studying the trends...observing to make sure its not one of those that attracts the hawks that want to force down their views/insults down my throat.

hi yummy mommies,

i read this thread everyday...even though i dont comment..wishing all expectant moms safe delivery.My baby is now four months old.. she is adorable and i fall in love with her more everyday. its hard work though...

I have tears in my eyes.

@ GenBuhari ,,,im so saddened to hear about the loss of your baby. Pls let your wife know we are all praying for her fast recovery. The Lord God will comfort you and fill your home with a cry of a baby soon.

Hello all...how una dey? i still read every single post on this thread and i wish all the expectant mothers the very best. To Avatur, dudugirl and nekkyrules...a
massive congratulations on safe delivery. We thank God ohh for it is not an easy something. Welcome babies...we love you and have been expecting you.

@ avatur, my baby was born with full and curly hair as well and just like you she didnt get it from me!

@ Otosd...thank God for safe delivery. Baby we love u!

@ Dudugirl.....to tighten the koko, you have to do your pelvic exercises..my mum's family tradition is to sit in hot water everyday for 2 months....my mum and her sisters swear by it. they say it goes back to normal.

Ladies....(and gents) im here...im alive!!! i made it! i had the cutest baby girl ever on tuesday 8th may( 2 weeks today). Gosh it was tough! it was hard! it was 48 hours of labour from first contraction to the actual birth. I cried out to God so many times..i prayed like no mans business through every contraction. kai....but as all mothers say...it was worth it in the end. When my baby was put in my arms..i was going crazy with emotions of joy, pain, gratitude to God, the midwives, my hubby. My husband! he was my rock! he was with me through all my contractions and during the birth, he was the assistant midwife encouraging me to push out our baby...(although he was an asshole during my pregnancy), he rose to the occasion on the day.

Now baby is here, the work begins. my sleep life has gone out the window...my baby sleeps through the day Then at 1am, her eyes open and you know this is it! no be small work! thank God i have a husband so we share the night-shift, he carries small, i feed, we work together.

Life has changed. i used to be able to up and go when i pleased, that is no more! i would miss my old life! but im glad i rocked every stage of my life to the fullest so im looking forward to what this phase (motherhood) brings forth).

To all the preggers ladies...stay safe, stay healthy and to all the new mums...lets enjoy the ride cos they grow so fast! i would put a picture of baby up once i get a chance. im so lazy lol.

agiboma, how u dey??

the daddy action go hard becos he doesnt seem interested in that dept with me for now.....midwife said to bring him for next appointment so she can tell him its doctors orders...lol. Meanwhile i had a membrane sweep today - the midwife put her hand right inside to my cervix and twisted inside ..urghhh it was uncomfortable! Im now having severe" lower back ache and cramping down below. Hopefully i'd go into labour sooner than later because i dont want CS.

Hi all...Im now 40 weeks + 5 days and baby doesn't seem interested in coming out! how can i induce labour naturally (except sex)?

Ladies, do you think being pregnant in naija is harder than being abroad? Ive observed that more ladies complain of headaches, extreme nausea, high bp and other ailments. Is that the case or am i being silly. I know that woman abroad go thru difficulties in pregnancies...im not naive but it seems that in naija, its even more stressful.

@ mogbomoya....nightmares are perfectly normal. I had the most ridiculous nightmares from hanging out with aliens to having sex with Rick Ross...lol. My husband marvelled at some of the nightmares i relayed to him, they were so random and spooky. Just last week i had a dream that my mucus plug came out in form of an 8-legged slimy creature urgghh!

Ifeoma by felix liberty.

Tears streaming down my face. Your wife is the strongest woman ever but you...you deserve a medal. How you stood by your wife, how you prayed, how you sacrificed sleep,money, time, effort. Not many men like you around anymore. your wife is the luckiest woman.

2mch:

Yea sure, as long as it concerns you there should be cleavage. But when fight start or it is time to share property you remember you once came from a family.You wan enjoy the spoils, you no wan bear the responsibility. Madam cleavage.

errmm mr 2mch ...i dont understand your point and pls i dont engage in nairaland useless insults so that sarcastic tune of madam cleavage is very unnecessary. count me out of that nonsense.

In my opinion, i feel that the issues in this marriage has to do with the fact that both parties esp the husband do not understand this important requirement for marriage: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24 KJV). Other translations render “leave and cleave” as “leave and be united” (NIV), “leave and be joined” (NASB), and “leave and hold fast” (ESV).

To “cleave” means “to adhere to, stick to, or join with.” It is a unique joining of two people into one entity.

If either spouse fails to both leave and cleave, problems will result in a marriage. If spouses refuse to truly leave their Parents, Friends, Extended family, Sometimes a sport or hobby or activity, Our selfish ways or Anything else that might come in the way of our ability to bond with one another, conflict and stress result. Leaving your parents does not mean ignoring them or not spending any time with them. Leaving your parents means recognizing that your marriage created a new family and that this new family must be a higher priority than your previous family. If spouses neglect to cleave to each other, the result is a lack of intimacy and unity. Cleaving to your spouse does not mean being with your spouse every moment or not having meaningful friendships outside of your marriage. Cleaving to your spouse means recognizing that you are joined, essentially “glued,” to your spouse. Cleaving is key in building a marriage that will endure hard times and be the beautiful relationship that God intends it to be.

I dont mean to go all church......however, if partners understand this very key concept, this situation would not have occurred.

nekkyrules: Please who can help with the hospital list, the things you need when going to the hospital. Thanks and congrats to all the new mommas and papas. God will do our own soon oh.

Nekkyrules, this is the list i was given by the midwife
1. Toiletries
2. Bath towel
3. Hand towel
4. Pyjamas or nightdress
5. Slippers/footwear
6. old underwear/disposable underwear
7. Maternity sanitary pad
8. cloths for u to go home in
9. juice/snacks for ur energy and for ur partner to keep you guys going esp if u have a long labour.
10. camera/camcorder
11. Aromatherapy oil (for massage by your partner)
12. Music (if you want)
13. Tens machine for pain relief
14. paracetamol (my addition)


for baby
1. 3x baby vests
2. 3x babygros
3. clothes to go home
4. baby hat, mitten, show
5. cotton wool to wipe baby
6. 10 disposable nappies

for ladies wondering how to put a baby into a routine, a lady at church who has the most behaved and calmest baby boys ive ever seen, she is an ardent follower of Gina Ford who writes books and materials on baby routines.

http://www.contentedbaby.com/index.htm

for more info.....she is an authority on the subjectmatter. eGoogle her to read more...i intend to implement some of her advice when my baby comes because i cant allow my sleep life to suffer like that!

@ Ayobarmy Hip hip hooray!!!! Congratulations to you and mummy. Such a wonderful joyful thing to happen. Im glad baby and mum are doing ok. Did you say 30 minutes after water broke? or 30 minutes of labour?? Na wah ohh....your wifey na hebrew woman oh. So blessed to have such a short labour. I pray that for myself and all expectant mums.

i had a prayer shower organised for me at church today, it was very nice. Im 38 weeks today so baby can come anytime now, ive been having the braxton hicks contractions and was getting anxious that baby is coming, baby is coming but now ive decided to chill out and take things easy, baby will come when it is ready to come. Besides there's a party coming up on my due date and i want to be dia to wack rice and mineral so im not ready for baby yet.

what else...dudugirl...take it easy oh...you can share your worries with us and we can talk it thru and most importantly pray.

@Diamondlove....you could try taking your pills just before you sleep instead of taking it in the morning. It worked for me!

Osikhueme and Dudugirl.....a massive congratulations on the birth of your cuties....i have goosebumps reading the stories of your birthing experience. i'm 37 weeks on saturday and the way the baby is jerking in my tummy plus the period-like cramps at nights, i just pray i dont go into labour soon cos im so not ready for the baby yet. I need suggestions for english names for boy or girl cos i didnt check the sex...thanks loves.

Thank God the truth came out as it did. that girl is a home-wrecker, she has a mental disorder.