₦airaland Forum

BabaO2:
What are you talking about. You have to ask politicians difficult questions to probe their activities, otherwise they will continue to be comfortable in stealing and think they are always above the masses. Imagine FFK boasting of ex- ministerial position as if he earned it through passing an uncommon examination in distinction.

Now this should be the thought process. I don't understand why comments here are trying to protect FFK and put him in the right. He was appointed to serve us then, and if he now doing work of the government that nobody sent him, we have the right to know if it our taxes that's being wasted for this his stupid tour.

He has no right to bully a journalist that is bold enough to challenge these people that have contributed in making Nigeria the shadow that it is today.

emmy9500:
Note Trump is a public servant, and did you also note how he embarrassed the journalist. The guy was in the middle of his speech when he took another question

That's called ignoring, instead of insulting the journalist like FFK did. FFK's outburst was uncalled for. Our journalists need to ask more annoying questions to public office holders, both past and present to make them accountable, instead of treating them like gods when they are not living up to their mandate.

Hathor5:
I have never heard of anyone dying from menstrual cramps but I have a friend who used to faint sometimes. This is an extreme exception and most ladies do NOT faint. Personally, I need one or two pain killers on the first day of my period. For some ladies a hot-water-bottle is enough. Some ladies do not feel any pain at all.

Yeah, some are extreme. I had a friend that was always being admitted in the hospital because of menstrual cramps. Her's was intense.

Why do ladies get highly hungry for sex when they are on their period

I think I am just hearing this for the first time.


How do you manage the urge for sex when your man is not present or when you don't have a man?

Take your mind off sex till he gets back. There are other things in life aside sex.


Why do you ladies get agitated when on your period?

Definitely not every lady because I don't feel agitated or get mood swings.


What does the pain feel like?

Cramps, especially at the lower belly.

A wife should be someone who gives you peace of mind, has your back anytime, supports your efforts, etc. But your woman is not acting like a wife. She has got used to you providing everything while she just receives.

You need to cut down on the excesses you give her to encourage her to try to make an income for herself.

Your wife's upbringing might be a major factor affecting her behaviour. The kind of family she grew up in and the kind of family values the promoted.

You should probably call a meeting with her family to let them know the challenges you have been facing and your intention to leave before making a decision.

The best option is to get her a private tutor to access her and start coaching her intensively for common entrance.

Afterwards, she should continue being home schooled to fast track her to write junior WAEC. Then you can enrol her in school from SS1.

If she is as intelligent as you say, she should be able to catch up quickly.

Nothing special about bourdillon.

Tra6ix:
I don't want to look cheap

But he has made his move twice and twice, you have turned him down. How do you now want him to know that you are ready now when he cannot read your mind?

If you can deal with the kind of person who forgets all you have done for him at that moment when you are down,

or someone who cannot sympathize with you when you are coping with a loss,

someone who is only happy when you do things for him,

someone who has an acidic tongue that can lash out with hurtful words,

then go ahead and marry him.

WandaMaximoff:
Like I said, send her back home and marry someone else.

I don't get how a mother won't know what's best for her child.

Milk is good for a child. It's except she has specific reasons why she doesn't want to give the child milk, she needs to.

The fact that a woman carried a child for 9 months and took care of the baby does not mean she knows it all. Besides, the baby is also the man's and he should have a say in he/she is brought up.

micronut:
You you give me N500, I will put good food in front of your guest. Bring 400 people and send me 200k, I will serve them good rice, meat and coke.

We are talking about quality food fit for a wedding ceremony, and not the kind of food you can get from mama put.

My wedding was over 4 years ago and a plate of food didn't go for 500 naira even as rice wasn't as costly as it is presently. Besides, I am always weary of overly cheap caterers because I won't want someone to come and serve maggi cubes sized meat and rugged jollof.

That's why I said 400 people is not reasonable when one is trying to manage 500k for food, drinks, dj, attires, venue, MC, etc.

Maneq:
Just saying.

If two guys now have refused entering your car. Maybe. Just maybe the problem is you.
Just saying tho.

The problem is me? Why would you even think that? Everything was going well till they saw that I was going to drive them.

Meanwhile the one who turned out to be "the one" was not the least bit bothered. He would either recline and sit at the passenger's side or offer to drive.

Those guys obviously had inferiority complex just because I was driving one small manual car. If it were a bigger car, they would have run immediately I guess.

mariahAngel:
Yaji plantain chips.

If you taste these, you'll never care for Pringles or any other packed chips ever

Did you make these chips yourself?

How did you dry it? Is it very ripe plantain?

Hathor5:
Dear ImaIma1,

I recreated this your sandwich. I didn’t cut it and I didn’t cut off the edges but it was very delicious. Thanks for the inspiration.

Woooooooooo....it looks awesome. Very inviting

Eat,
play,
lesson (3ce a week for an hour each).
Watch tv
Visit family

jidamsel43:
This is actually true for a very idle person. Do unemployed men have any other choice ?

Idle person? To learn to drive, fix things, help with heavy lifting? I don't think so

Kingproy:
Life is not hard, you don't just know how to manage.

That means you had rice, oil in the house abi. And all you had to buy was maggi, pepper and egg.

Because that would mean

Rice - 90 (when a derica is about 450)
Palm oil - 50
Egg - 40
Spices - 20

Ybaby:
He is the slow type.

Thanks for the heads up.

Though I figured it out when he concluded that I am the same person as tosinhtml

tosinhtml:
Every thing you said is true, First I want make a statement that there is nothing wrong with "low self esteem" in certain situations. It simply an integral part of life depending on the event & also changes with time & maturity. There are also extreme cases where a Guy can be completely stupid, which your case was clearly an example of. I wouldn't want to suffer my date by allowing her walk when she has a car. Makes zero sense!

A man needs different things to boost his confidence, Self esteem is usually tied to something of substance, people may deny it all they want.
It may be looks, money, personality, talent, exceptional intelligence etc. You need to have one else you would just be living a fake life with a fake self esteem. A lady smart enough would soon realise & move on.

I agree with you & I don't recommend a lady marrying a guy who earns less, for his own sake.

That's the truth. But some people do not understand or agree with my comment.

Some men cannot handle a woman being seemingly higher one way or the other because they will get offended at every little thing and attribute it to her status.

Meanwhile, there are still guys that don't get bothered or threatened by a lady because they themselves are confident.

Going from epl/cl/Europa, etc to NFL is like going from dstv HD channels to NTA channel 7.

O wrong now

saucecode:
Yes na, it's bias &prejudice 2 say dat women only marry up because they want a better life dan before and dont wanna suffer, not because of one nonsense consideration of hurting a man's ego Yu ppl shud keep deceiving urselves wit big big english

Did is y I like ybaby, if it's her now she will say it as it is, not dis ur yeye diversionary stories to prove wat sef, dat u dint marry man because u had a car or u still married down, which one?

Your opinion has been duly noted.

You are even one of those childish ones that cancel comments . At least you have one more comment to cancel.

sherylbakky:
This part cracked me up seriously. He obviously has self-esteem issue. Sorry about the walk dearie, thank goodness it was walk not trek.

He did have issues. And he actually ended up secretely marrying a mentally challenged colleague from a very wealthy family.

sherylbakky:
This part cracked me up seriously. He obviously has self-esteem issue. Sorry about the walk dearie, thank goodness it was walk not trek.

He did have issues. And he actually ended up secretely marrying a mentally challenged colleague from a very wealthy family.

NoToPile:
This is the major issue and thats why some ladies wouldn't want to marry a guy they earn more than ((doesnt matter if its a little difference) even if they are within the same class.

E.g Guy earns 100k, lady earns 150k both are from the same average family - they are within the same class but the fact that she earns slightly more is a big issue to some (let's say a large percentage of Nigerian) men.

Why inconvenience your self and the lady simply because you do not want a woman to drive you I don't gerrit.

Yes, even in the same class or range. Years back also, my colleague from a different branch and I were supposed to hang out after work. He came all the way from his branch. When it was time to leave and he realized I was going to drive him, he was embarrassed. He cancelled o and said another time. I was just amazed

The guys on this forum won't agree that this is a major issue for them. Instead one is there cancelling comment.

I am not saying all guys have that inflated ego but it is very common. I finally met one that was not threatened by the "small car" that was causing wahala.

saucecode:
Enn na, hw will u get it? pretending is part of female nature. Sometin dats as clear as day light,u have suddenly develop sight problem

Your obvious bias/prejudice for women is written everywhere and is covering up the sense you would have made in your comments.

As I said, your comment is noted.

HarunaWest:
Women only like successful men even in marriage... Hmmmn.
Most Nigerian women won't contribute their effort, yet they like to reap from where they did not sow. If she doesn't wana have a chit chat, leave her alone.. Continue your hustle shikena. When things get better, you sef form Jagaban for her. That time you will sleep in the kitchen sef, na she go run after you.
I hate nonsense.

You should wait to hear from the woman first before concluding. If the wife was the one complaining, you guys would always want to hear from the man first.

saucecode:
See this beautiful scripted nonsense,u think is only infants dat full nairaland bah. She say women dont marry down because they dont want to bruise guys ego, whu are you kidding wit this rubbish talk? . Women dont marry down simply because of self interest nd greed and wanting a better life than the one you were living as a single girl, simple and short!!!!!

Just look at how u re trying to paint one angelic model of women as people who are considering the ego of a man before dating him, well except you mean ego as in chuba ego billi billi

I don't get your point. But your comment is noted.

oweniwe:
Where is ladies dey see all those useless guys sef?

There are many humble, nice and hardworking guys out there... Why is it only egoistic, womanising, gold diggers una dey see?

You are right. The guy I met next would either offer to drive or recline in the passenger's seat while I drove. He was not petty and was perfect.

gbami:
No lady here will ever marry a man below her class. None. But they will suggest that love should lead the way when it comes to men marrying...

This is fact...Ladies rarely go back in class, lifestyle or otherwise...If she was dating a man that has a car...the rest of her men including her husband must have a car..Shikina.
Fact: Men can't go back sexually, if he has received a particular kind of sex from his former girlfriend, you the new girlfriend or wife must update your sexual menu.. because you will lose that man...

Marry same class or upgrade her to your class( a lot of hurdles)...
Love no dey pay bills..Love is not enough especially in marriage.....When you are married to a girl...her siblings or Family problems indirectly becomes yours, if not you don't love her enough, she will say.. Remember your family too..
Men...Marry a lady whom you know her family won't depend on you at least..

There are many factors involved in a lady not wanting to marry or date down. It is very easy to bruise a guy's ego when you are higher than him. And that might make the lady constantly walking on egg shells.

I once shared here how I had a date with a guy that I had been talking to. I drove to meet him while he took a taxi or public transport because he didn't have a car. We wanted to move from our meeting point to where we were going to hang out. Do you know that this guy refused to enter the car? We had to walk down there in the hot sun.

It was sooo obvious that he was uncomfortable with the fact that I drove and he couldn't just let me drive him. We didn't see after that.

Some guys cannot handle it. Who wants to keep apologising for being up if you are with a guy that has a big ego.

micronut:
Yoruba will say bi owo eku ba se mo n fi n boju " Na as rat hand small, na like that e dey take rub hin face". Work with what you have bro.

Your in-law have even made things easy for you.

200k will feed 400 people at N500 per meal. Cook rice like N250 worth. Drink of N100. Pure water of N50. Meat worth N100.

Spread 50k on your wedding attire - Get nice native & Affordable dresses. Like two styles.

Hold 50k for emergencies.

Get a hall or field for canopy, MC & DJ with the remaining 200k...

You can take pictures with phones and store in memory card and get them printed later.

Don't kill yourself with debts oo.

Meanwhile, guys check the 3D Wallclock for your home in my signature. Nice and beautiful for your sitting room, bed room and study room.

He's talking about a small wedding with few people and you are saying 400 people. 500k can't cater for 400 people especially when other things like attire, shoes, etc are included in the money.

It's except he's going to serve the 400 guests rice with Titus fish and coke. The smaller the wedding based on the funds, the better.

Hathor5:
Thank you very much. I made a similar salad yesterday with home-made dressing and it will last me for three days. I have used up the last eggs today but I will get some tomorrow and re-create your sandwiches.

Cool. I am blushing

Hathor5:
You can't post such a picture without letting me try. How did you make it? It looks delicious and healthy. The best combination in the universe.

Lol...

I pan toasted the bread.

Shredded cabbage and lettuce and grated carrots. Kinda like coleslaw but the dressing I mixed it with is "a thousand Island" dressing.

Then I took my three slices and spread the content on each layer along with cut boiled eggs. Cut the sides off and sliced it.

The sandwich is ready