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Islandlady:
Nairalanders I need y'all mature advice on this issue, No insults tho

I have been friends with my male friend for over 11years now, so he is more like a brother to me! He got married 3yrs ago, But we live in the same district, I do visit them once in a while! And I usually bump into his wife at market places, malls or on the street due to the fact that we live in the same district.

My friend is hardly around for the past few Weeks due to the fact that he do travel for work. . .But recently I have been seeing his wife with a Man just about the age of my friend, I have seen them together at the mall for 3 times now for a period interval of 3 weeks, I usually dodge and escape myself so they won't see me! The last time I saw them together I took a sneak pictures of them, I don't know this man, I have never seen him when I visit them, he is not a family member! I have been curious so I feel I should call the attention of my friend to this and send him the pictures too!

Should I tell him about it or what? I am confused!

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Next time, don't hide. Make sure she sees you. Her demeanor will tell you all you need to know.

Who knows? He could be a relation.

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Bola Ahmed Tinubu's drug case in Chicago is in the public domain. Do you hear any Nigerian journalist take on it considering that he is vying for the Presidency of a nation? They are busy chasing shadows.

How did Atiku reach the zenith of his career with only 2 years Diploma Certificate? Even those with B.Sc/M.Sc/Ph.D couldn't attain close to his rank in Customs after many years of service. Does investigate journalism work in Nigeria? Of course not! Only image laundering works.
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TooNoisy:
We are in the political season again and there has been lots of conversations about betrayals. However, one Interesting betrayal that I see is between Atiku and Peter Obi.

First of all, Peter Obi betrayed Ojukwu. Obi was little known before Ojukwu offered him the platform of APGA to run on. The moment Obi finished his 8 years, he ported to PDP less than one year later. Ojukwu's son publicly accused Obi of betrayal.

Obi then gets to PDP and is very fortunate that Atiku picks him as running mate in 2019. There were 3 PDP governors at the time and they were first time governors who were focused on 2nd term. So Peter Obi was chosen. Peter Obi suddenly moved from Anambra boy to national name.

Then 2022, Peter Obi decides to run against Atiku. In fareness, he knew he couldn't win but wanted to get Atiku's attention for VP. But when it was obvious no governor was with him and he was going to be disgraced, he ported to Labour Party.

In fareness, he Hs never publicly attacked Atiku. Infact, he openly congratulated Atiku when Atiku got the ticket, and even called Atiku his leader and his elder brother. Atiku has not congratulated him though.

To me, Peter Obi has betrayed Atiku just like he betrayed Ojukwu. And now, all he is doing now is to cannibalise Atiku's votes in the South East. He is just being a spoiler.

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Was Peter Obi and Atiku born the same day?

Every man must follow his destiny.

It will be nice if some of you understand the meaning of betrayal.

Ojukwu's son should be ashamed that he couldn't take care of his father at old age even with all the resources of Sir Louis at their disposal. Public fund is not for personal charity organization.

We blame politicians for corruption yet turn around to criticize someone for not embezzling and wasting public funds on frivolities. I wish Buhari can get another 8 years. Some of you are very daft.

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The only threats that Tinubu and Atiku pose is their ability to buy voters because of their deep pockets anchored on desperation. If by popular demand, people get wiser and shun their Greek gifts, wherein is their magical wands?

APC went with their financial war machines to Anambra and even market women shunned them. Everyone is not hungry.

Some delegates at the APC Convention collected $50k (N30 million). But what can N5k do for a voter in this Buhari times?

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The APC Congress has shown them that Buhari is only as powerful as they empower him.

He helplessly watched his wishes/body language flushed down the toilet. Heaven didn't fall.

That's how it works.

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GREAT AWAKENING!

People are tired of the same stories....the same senile deadwoods.

What will they campaign with? Fight corruption, fix roads, fix electricity, fix refineries! The same bullshit since 1999.

Those who criticized the lone voices against Buhari are also gnashing their teeth these days. Even BMC suckers have seen the purchasing power of their monthly stipends go to the toilet.

Nigeria needs a reset.

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Maxymilliano:
Price of diesel pushing as high as 1500/litre

LPG cooking gas is pushing 910/kg

Kerosene is closely following at 800/liter

Electricity collapsed to as low as 9MW in a country of over 200m population

Naira-Dollar exchange rate already hitting the ceiling at N640/$1 with most local manufacturers struggling to remain in business

Security of lives and properties is a no go area as it's not existing

Pray tell, how else can a country be cursed with worthless leaders like Buhari ?

And these are the legacy's someone wants to build on if elected ?

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The same nonsense stories they used to sell Buhari's candidature to you is the same they are using to sell Tinubu to you again. All by the same people.
Blinded by religious and tribal sentiments, Nigerians will continue to make the same mistakes. The beauty of it is that everyone buys at the same price in the market. Who dies first loses I pray that petrol sells for N2000/ltr and diesel N5000/ltr.

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FERNANDEZISBACK:
They can never tolerate heartbreak..they come here crying like kids once their heart gets broken..they tryna act tough on a faceless forum all for the likes and all..well here is one who can't take care of his nonsense..

How do you call yourself a man when you can't move on and accept rejection..hey wannabe redpillers..the time y'all kids spend on hating women can be used in preaching to ya fellow gender about controlling their emotions..
*Pukes*..

Modified:as y'all can see..some have started insulting me for calling men's nonsense out..keep hating on women till you get shot in the head..come online to vent and curse women while your momma still feeds your sorry self..keep hating and preaching some dirty babyish movement against women.. Instead of re orientating the daft men in the society you spend your life using derogatory words at women...

Bunch of overgrown babies who thinks that hating on women will make you a real man..let me tell ya.. y'all wannabe redpillers are nothing but kids and Dumbos if you can't change the current atrocities committed by men.
Check through most posts on here..it's either a man poisoning his family..or murdering his wife in cold blood..ain't that something crazy..let the issue be a lady putting on some cute outfit..the next thing they do is to drag their m**ma here thinking it's gonna make them look or sound hard..

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She should take some responsibility for making wrong choice in men. On and off relationship with a loser is not a mistake. She can't be rolling with Chicago gangsters and expect chivalry.

Most of you can do worse than the guy going by the venoms you vomit everyday...just you never had the chance nor the liver to carry it through. If you don't believe that blacks are the scum of the earth, come to Nairaland.

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9iceprince:
Na your papa help him raise the left hand here right

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Na the man standing next to him, leaning over raised it from under Tinubu's agbada. Look closely.

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Nigerians care more about the N75m donated than the incident and how it could have been averted.
This is the Nigeria you live in. Some would wish that their family members were victims so that they could benefit from the largess.

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ijustdey:
All four of President Buhari's ministers who resigned to run in the APC presidential primary lost and may now be rueing their decision to resign from their cabinet positions.







https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/536888-analysis-what-next-for-amaechi-onu-buharis-other-ex-ministers-after-apc-primary-defeat.html

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What's your concern with those who have looted enough to last for generations? They may not hold political positions but they are not starving.

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Vikkoh:
So he can hold broom well but couldn't hold the flag?

How him wan take hold this country together?

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The partial paralysis is on the left side. He falls to the left. He needs assistance with his left hand.

You will never see that left hand again in public. I will suggest some dental works as well. Man is like an "accidented" auction car.

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Image123:
It's the same hype from everyone of them till they get there. What is Tinubu or Obi or Kwankwaso's plan for electricity? What have they done in Lagos, Anambra or Kano to suggest that power will become stable when they get there? Obi for one will likely cry of frustration and being overwhelmed like Fashola did as minister of power. The rest i don't know.

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God gave us brain for a reason but Nigerians continue to mock God and expect to progress.
Yar'Adua was ill, the cabal told us he could play squash. He died in active service. Buhari is not intellectually equipped to lead. The cabal told us that he is incorruptible and they would vote him even with a bread label as a certificate. He turned everything upside down. In all, the cabal wins.

Now Tinubu is peeing, falling and shaking all over the place. The cabal is telling us that we need his brain not his fitness. Some morons are again swallowing the stupid excuses. I dare say that the only women supporting Tinubu are the perverted ones who only fantasize about using his shaky hands as a vibrator.

This has nothing to do with tribe. If you want to present a Yoruba candidate, at least bring someone who is sound. Personally I would have preferred an intellectually and physically fit Osibanjo to Tinubu.

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Moferere:
That's why he lost the APC primary

Someone that has been making empty promises since 2015

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It is not by bribing market women with N5k.

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I love it.

Sebi Nigerians love to hype nonsense. Fashola is the Messiah and Minister of Power that would transform Nigeria to Dubai. Afterall he transformed Lagos. Do Nigerians ever learn? That's the original capital of gullibility. Another Lagos transformer (in a worse shape) is warming up.

How market? They don begin they hype other deadwood and as usual, Nigerians are moping around like sheep. After the harm is done, they will start wailing and whining.

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Nigerians are so poor in spirit that if the Church of Satan starts doing giveaways online, most Nigerians will queue up and sing their praises. Ever heard of poisoned chalice? Nigerians don't care.

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Why is he talking?

Don't you see the morons who have been home on strike for more than 3 months still campaigning for senile, old hags to take over from Buhari. I don't see any benefits the North or Katsina in particular got from Buhari's Presidency. It has been tears and mourning.

When Nigeria is due for reset, we shall know. Why trying to save those who don't want to be saved?

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3 days not enough.

They should make it 365 days of dry fasting and prayers. Only fools do the same thing over and over then expect different results.
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Though bad but the EFCC must be commended.

Most of the times, EFCC go dey their own and these boys will be begging them to come carry them.
I don't understand why some people who show off to attract attention turn around to complain when they get the attention they seek.
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Islandlady:
Dear Men, I will tell you that having a good HAIRCUT is the best makeup for you...it makes you look more Handsome and responsible

If as a guy, you have a nice haircut and looks responsible, and you approach me as a lady, I will listen you

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That's the kind of shallow analysis that led many ladies to untimely death.

Just neat haircut? Your standard is abysmally low.

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Ohaneze didn't betray Umahi. He betrayed himself, got used and dumped.

If you sell your brothers, the buyer can never trust you.

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Nigerians are really gullible and stupid

What if PDP wins and most people from APC decamp to PDP? What changed? These morons keep making noise about political parties and basket of gullibles keep falling for the gimmicks.

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jesusjnr2020:
Winners Chapel Pastor Turned Babalawo: The Devil Lied To You And You Believed It

This is my response to the following thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7158807/why-resigned-job-pastor-winners

This is not intended to judge or condemn you, but to tell you the truth so the truth would make you free.

Being a former pastor, you should already know that the thief never comes to a man except to steal, kill and destroy him.

You already know what happened to mankind in the beginning when they chose to believe the lies of the devil instead of the Truth of God. It was the worst single decision mankind ever made, as humanity is yet grappling with the damning repercussions of such actions up til this very day.

I don't have any qualms with you resigning from your position in Winners' Chapel over poor treatment from your superiors there. You're not the first to do so, as many Winner's Chapel pastors have also complained about similar issues, including some pastors who were sacked not too long ago, to show it's indeed an area of concern the leaders of the church need to look into.

But turning from a pastor to a babalawo because some voices you knew very well were of the devil, were speaking to you and telling you that you're a babalawo by design? Haba!

You ought to know better than that!

You aren't the first person the devil would tell such lies to and you wouldn't be the last.

A neighbor of mine had suffered much more than you in the hands of the devil. She almost died herself on several occasions because of demonic attacks. They also tried to kill her newborn son.

She was told severally, that she was supposed to take the place of her late dad who was an occultist even though he repented before his death.

Once, on her way back from market last year, inside a commercial bus, they appeared and started talking to her from behind that she'd be fine and promised her many things, if she accepts to become one of them, but she still rejected their offer and told them, "NO"!

She knew that even though she was yet suffering, that it would be like moving from frying pan to fire considering what happened to her dad at the end, so she held firm.

Today, she's already reaping the rewards of her decision to reject Satan, as God healed and delivered her, and has begun to use her to serve the real purpose of her life, after she's started taking her spiritual life more seriously, which is to draw men to Himself.

It's not been easy and straightforward because the devil would always try to frustrate and discourage anyone who decides to serve God's purpose for her life, but God has proven Himself faithful and strong to her that she's grateful to Him and also encouraging others to do same.

So gentleman, you made a big mistake to fall for the lies of the devil about you.

You're not a Babalawo by design. It's a lie from the pit of hell, because you're meant to serve God with your life not the devil.

Do not be deceived by how things might seem presently because, trust me, you're surely going to regret this your decision at some point. I hope it's not too late for you to correct it by then though.

Come back to God while you still can because God still loves you.

I'd be praying for you meanwhile.

God bless.

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It is ok,

Christians hate traditional religion as much as the Muslims hate the Christians. Fair game! Let the hatred go around

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A pot-bellied Nigerian man would rather pay N20k/month to go to a gym and lift dead weight than pound yam at home. But na the same exercise and cardio. Being a big man in Nigeria means that you must do or eat things that will send you to an early grave.

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temitope27:
That's how they hype him and atiku in 2019, yet buhari still won with larger margin to 2015, but now he can't even has 2m vote

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He declared his intention to contest. Perhaps you should give him the opportunity to do just that. If he gets only 1 vote, it will not be the end of his life.

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Samunique:
I watched with bemusement while El Rufai was promoting Muslim Muslim ticket tactically on channels tv on the basis of capability rather than religion.

While this may sound intelligently but rather manipulative, considering the nature of the personality that is talking. We all know El Rufai is a serpent!!!

My question is, what has Muslim Muslim ticket achieved so far in Kaduna, security wise, socially, economically etc ?

If El Rufai talks about capability, he should be able to tell us what his Muslim Muslim ticket capability has benefited the Kaduna people so far, most especially security wise, so that we can take him serious .

We are talking about national politics not state, would El Rufai have said same thing, if it's Christian Christian ticket that's being projected?

Would he be talking about capability over religousity ?

Nairalanders over to you!




https://www.thecable.ng/el-rufai-on-muslim-muslim-ticket-fixation-of-nigerians-on-religion-is-pathetic/amp

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It makes sense. That's why Southern Kaduna Christians are being slaughtered everyday.

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Romanoff:
I can't tell but it was exactly like this.

He had to be away for months. Luckily,his folks are rich.

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Bell's Palsy is very common and easily treatable. That's why I ask. It causes facial paralysis too.

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Demigod22:
My mom have a friend, a very good one. The woman really like me because I am a boy and she doesn't have a male child, so she holds me in high esteem. She has five daughters, my senior, my age mate and my juniors.

Since I returned back from school after my final exam, the respect is becoming too much, my mom started complaining about me being single and her friend becoming more friendlier. Her third daughter just graduated too, and my mom is trying everything for two of us to date. Recently, the started chatting me up frequently and I discovered she is not my spec. She is this spiritual and religious Bible kind of girl and I am a liberal. When I told her that I am not spiritual nor religious, I can see the shock on her face.

She doesn't wear trouser, no earrings nor necklace, a very decent girl by appearance of course, and that's the kind of girl I want. She is even complaining that I am too unstable because I am always traveling every now and then and she doesn't like it.

I am not ready for any relationship right now and I don't want any relationship that involves two families. I will get a girlfriend for myself whenever I am ready. So I told my mom to bury that thought, it won't happen and she said I am too stubborn and rebellious and radical, I smiled and said nothing.

So has your parents ever try to match make you with anyone before? Please share your experience.

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Don't sleep with her. If you do, you will marry her.
She is just being pretentious to please her parents. Ladies like that are crouching tigers in bed. Be warned!

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Romanoff:
It is possible to recover from this. I know someone who did, happened to him in his early twenties but left a little side effect.

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I hope you do know that there are many things that can cause partial paralysis. So what was the diagnosis of your friend's condition?

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God1000:
I'm fascinated by these masterpieces and edifices in different parts of the world.

Do our civil engineers have the required expertise to construct such?

Though we have some similar structures in Eko Atlantic city, but not up to the standard here.

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Nigerians can construct something similar but it must be limited to a bungalow or one storey to avoid stories that touch.
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Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

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The blame lies solely on your parents. They overpampared their first son. They are reaping the results.
Take solace in knowing that the millennials are worse.
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SweetOnugbo:
Run for your life.

Run away from domestic violence.

It's so sad that she's not even up to 30, and she has been sent out of this world in such a manner.

Wether husband or wife, run away from domestic violence.

Witnessed a patients death today in A&E( Accident and Emergency). A young Lady that died from hypovolemic shock due to traumatic brain injury as a result of assault (domestic violence). She had 4 cuts on her head with cutlass that caused tearing and bruising of brain tissue and blood vessels( especially middle meningeal artery) You could see the brain tissue, that means she had a skull fracture.

Please leave for your life in you're in an abusive relationship/marriage. No Dey form Jagaban abeg, say u sabi fight back (because they said she was with hammer). Save your life first.

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Nothing is wrong with marriage.

These days people are marrying for the wrong reasons. For some, it is a poverty alleviation program while some do it because of the societal pressure. There is no more due diligence because people believe that they are too "woke" to carry out proper family background investigations before marriage.
What do you expect? Exactly what we are witnessing these days.
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