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dontexe:
@poster
d mum obviously supports her action as she has refused to respond to invitations frm my family for a discussion. we are actually not in good terms due to an earlier incident (she was askin for too much stuff and i decided to ignore her). she insists i come and apologize to her first b4 she intervenes. btw she's a divorcee who raised her kids mostly alone.

That's the reason why I keep telling guys to be watchful of ladies from a broken home or polygamous family.

Nigerians will always be users of other people. there is more to this than not wanting to be a baby machine. where was her mum when the school fees was being paid?

leave her and enjoy your life. just open your eyes and get yourself a smart lawyer it will be money well spent.
i have seen this too many times in england here even amongst the religious ones who are generally the most evil and manipulative.

i cant remember the thread i told the story of a friend who nearly got cleaned out by another ugly sister. his only saving grace was she couldn't produce bank statements for the money she allegedly contributed to his business and properties.

That's the reason why I keep telling guys to be watchful of ladies from a broken home or polygamous family.

just keep saying it until they hear. there is something that dont sit comfortably with me about people from such homes. i know there are the occasional odd ones but the general story i have seen is history repeating itself. i believe we can all be new creature with old things passing away but i have seen too many not improving on their parents relationships.

helovesme:
I started the thread with innocent and pure intentions. i never envisaged some of the scarcastic remarks that have been posted here.  

Even if he has nothing any longer i will still stand by him. That was the reason i went and withdrew money from my savings and gave him when he claimed he was broke and i should lend him money. Prior to this, he had not done anything major materially for me although we had started dating

I will take note of all you have said.  thank you. may you also find a girl that will love and appreciate you

welcome to NL. it is full of all sorts. people whose only idea of loving a woman is sleeping with her or buying MTN card. i will advice you to activate your IGNORE button.  i smell envy on almost every page.

there is nothing like a tried and trusted friend. like i said before men i didn'tsay boys would go all length to satisfy a woman you know is worth it. my guess is this guy was never broke he was only trying you. i did it too and most people i know did it at the last stage of making up your mind about a lady.   it is basically checking out her commitment level.

just let him know he has your back always and enjoy the relationship. make him your best friend and avoid exposing the relationship to people who dont mean you well.

Akatamba:
Now I am pretty sure that you are indeed a attention LovePeddler and a liar. Low life IDIOT!

does this make you taller?  she know herself what stops her saying it?  nawao. thank god for the druss of this world.

@ OP,

He says that he put me to a lot of tests when we began dating to find out the type of person i was, and he did not find me wanting
All i want is advice on just how to show him how much i appreciate him

in my opinion that is why he his doing what he is doing.  i dont know why showing love and respect to your  other half suddenly become strange habit.  our men really have loads of apology to do.

i like the fact you respect her mum any good man will give his arm and leg to go the extra mile for any lady that makes the effort. i personally cant stand women who think having good relationship with your mum is a threat.

as for advice, other than the good ones people like sistawoman, charminme and others have given i like to add be graceful. be very graceful and forgiving. if you have any anger problem begin to quietly deal with it now because that is one thing that scare people like the man you just described.

one more thing is begin to help him plan for his future. help reduce his spending and do  more investment. dont forget leading from behind someone said. be gentle with him and know you dont have to win every time.

do everything to protect this relationship from everyone knowing your business.  i will strongly recommend you read  garry smalleys  making love last forever.  it will be one money you will be happy you spent.

good luck and best wishes.

Geetoylaz
geez gurl u're not lady like @ all, more than half the gurls that r on here to talk abt thier man, are mostly complainer. someone came here to praise her man the least u could do is ignore the post. dont raise unnecessary insult on someone whos done u no wrong. wonder why nigerians r like this , every thread u go to, half the posters are get very insultive.

@poster, hun u know what they say. the kinda person u r, determines the kinda person u'll get. i'd say 'good for u' however sometimes u need u refuse some offers from him now n then,  that will remind him that hes the most important thing to u. not his goodies.  plus, its better to be a giver than a reciever,  i  know hes got it all but thing is, u need to randomly buy stuffs for him too. even if its groundnut guys appreciate things given to them just as much as we do.  n pls pls pls, easy on the vacation things, sometimes u need to turn things down.  u wanna thank him? [size=18pt]remain faithful, also, help save his money[/size].

very well said

wbb

SirJohn:
Why would'nt it be taken too far; compare your last post with the one that attracted so much attention, theres a lot of difference man:

you really want another man down that quick. nawao

busygirl:
@ busy body, getting married and studying abroad are different instances. I was just stating my personal observation. it's a bit odd for her to get married where she doesn't live. But above all, just ignore me. I just stated my personal opinion, it's not compulsory you agree with me. it's not even my business afterall.

the only reason she would have married there is because her husband lives there.
we did that too. dont forget there are always other people you take into consideration.  in my opinion, marriage is never about just 2 people. there  are extended families to make happy.

shapey:
@ poster,

This is a tricky one my dear. It may be quite difficult to convince them, especially if you do not have strong evidence such as a letter from the hospital stating that the mostake was theirs. Another thing they wil most DEFINITELY hold against you is the fact that you had your baby here when you put on ur VAF that you were coming for sight seeing and shopping ----sight-seeing and shopping when your pregnancy is 7months?? YOu may need to convince them. I have a very close friend who works in the home office somewhere in the UK. I will speak to her and get back to you. One thing is sure,your getting that visa is on the balance.

this is like a case where a certain lady was ''caught'' with prov. license, NHS cards and oyster card as a visitor, You have to convince them my dear.

Have a good day.

oyster card as in the new london transport tickets. cant visitors buy that? nhs and licence? that is nigerians for you.

i will advice u remove your email address from your profile becos of this statement

I have a very close friend who works in the home office somewhere in the UK. I will speak to her and get back to you. One thing is sure,your getting that visa is on the balance.

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she mean u well. chill and understand

tboy1:
Criticism is one thing but calling someone a 'ho' is another thing

very sad. cant believe women knowing weight battles can yab others

afam4eva:
Later, one white guy will say that the IQ of Nigerians is very low.

they wont say so. it is what we have to show productivity for the IQ they mostly querry. you cant blame them for that

@ OP, where are u? not even my ma inlaw will ask this question

OMO IBO:
the interesting thing is the same pple bashing her can't afford to do half of what she is doing?
they can only wish to fly their families from naija to yankee or wherever
the same people bashing her will buy her next movie then bash her again.

swines!

busy_bodi:
oh thank u very much jare,wat a coincidence,d girl did her wedding abroad and so Bleep what?its her decison for heavens sake,why pple wont mind their business is wat i dont understand

busy_bodi:
since u can stay in naija and do ur wedding,i wonder why u pple run out to the uk and other countries to further ur eductaion,why not stay in naija too?

too plain,and u said she shouldnt have done it in texas cos of the money they will be wasting?so where exactly r u stationed in her marriage?nowhere

even if she wants to hold d wedding in mercury,wetin consaign una for real,like seriously did she ask u pple for money?

d last time u checked there is nothing wrong wt getting married in nigeria,and d last time i checked there is nothing wrong wt a couple planning for a wedding overseas or wherever(which is d happiest day of their lives),as long as u no contribute kobo for flight money for family and friends,then chillaxxx,ur one naira no dey inside

na waoooooooo una be bad  belle like crazy

abeg save ur congrats for better pple jare,"u hope her wedding lasts" of all d statement dis one,so obvious u wish it does not last

busy bodi, this is nigerians for you.  mostly  bad belle people. our people know how to make you feel guilty over what they dont pay for.  she done what she wanted good luck to her. the cameras and make up person failed her. they could have retouched the pics before release.

afam4eva:
All i'm saying is that they are different from Urhobo,Isoko, Ijaw or Itshekiri

true but they are not always good and natural bed fellows. now let nobody run here and tell me they are all igbos

what are we talking about here. hope we dont count posting on NL as chatting.

emmadox:
hello fellow nairalanders,
               
                         av been dating this girl for almost five years and we av been going through the ups and downs that try to come between us,but  two weeks ago when we are veing fun she  told told me that we should stop veing sex that all this while that we av been veing sex she does not like it,that she want to stop it until she is 30 yrs old and now she is 20 and that if i cant wait we should forget it.
                                                                                               
                                                                                                                         what do u think

do u see anything wrong with her opinion?

cant believe people do this things for fame

sleeping open eye as they say

afam4eva:
@ Tpia

    If you say Deltans are the most Liberal and detribalized, then you are including the igbos in the south-east, because there's no difference between the delta ibos and the south east ibos. deltans really have nothing in common except that they found themselves in the same state.

   Maybe if there was a state named "WAZOBIA", you would have said they are the most liberal bearing in mind that the three major ethnic groups are in this state.

you are asuming the agbor igbankes, kwale, ibusa, ogwashi & okpanam folks are all freinds of asaba people.

lets not do urhobo, isoko, itsekiri and ijaws just yet

a very clever optimist.

Outstrip:
JJYOU. I think the family member's bathe their loved one's corpses in nigeria. I don't believe that we have funeral homes in nigeria. Families plan the whole thing

thanks my dear sister. i mean do naija people run or work in funeral homes in the west? i know the west indians run some in london i never heard of a naija one.

I will generally support anyones right to go about his daily job without molestations. this moroon gave himself away when he said he has right to invade privade places of worship because they were not paying tax.  that is stupid.  when did we start opening our borders to cameroonians to harrass our people in their places of worship?

I will still go. But there is something I want the National Assembly to do for us. They should make it clear that the churches and mosques are public places. That is why they don’t pay taxes. They are making millions and they don’t pay taxes. There should be freedom in places like that. That is why people are advocating for the Freedom of Information Bill.

Maybe they think you wanted to write a negative story,

would this guy go do this in a mosque? would he go into ogboni and the other cults litered all over nigeria.

he even went to the man's father burial. that is absolutely vile. what do you hound a man for?

@ david, you still havent told us your church so we see how david oyedepo and the others differs from your ministry.  talk and criticism is so cheap in faceless NL.  loving the brethren is part of every christian duty. Christianity has always been bigger than anyone single church or denomination. loving the Lord and hating the brethren is not of Christ dont you think?

shapey:
@poster

YOu may want to move this post to the travel section if you want pataki and the others to take a look at it. They are more active in that section.

shapey na u be this? how u dey? how baby / amsky and co?

chaircover:
Another thing is accommodation - Not many people want to or have the space to accommodate a pregnant mother and a new born screaming baby in their homes for the duration of the confinement.

The minister’s wives etc you mention almost always have their own houses here in the UK and are not depending on relatives & friends to accommodate them for the 4 weeks.

It also crossed my mind (I may be wrong) that the hospitals way of ensuring people paid their bills in time may be not to release relevant important documents required in order to register the birth at the local register office meaning no birth certificate can be issued. No birth certificate means the child cannot travel out of the country not even on mum’s passport.

I wish you all the best which ever decision you go for and wish you a safe delivery. A gbo ohun iya a gho ohun omo Amin.

you will be shocked to know how many so called naija rich people went ahead to collect council flats and child benefits. our people dont know how to use other people property without abusing it or spoiling it for others.

sistawoman:
I guess cuz some girl managed to have cyber sex with one of them all women who are chatting must be doing the same thing.

we all know that all women think and act the exact same way all the time.

u see why i advocate for charging for access to this site.

minto:
The poster is not alone, there are more frustrated guys out there who after several futile efforts of securing a visa will resort to talking rubbish about life abroad. If doing menial job here makes me happier than roaming the streets of Lagos with a bag full of certificates and resumes, well, it's my life. I'm presently home now attending to a little project and I give glory to God for giving me the grace to travel when I did.
   Another funny one; just last week, an uncle's wife wanted to know if I also clean up the corpse for a living   , as if the whole streets of Canada is littered with dead bodies; that was after a gift of a brand new generator set for her hair salon o. orisirisi, like someone have just said.

she didnt refuse the generator. do nigerians work in funeral homes in the first place? this is a first.

nigerians with their fertile imaginations. cyber sex ke! go sit down jare

Lagosboy:
Solomon grew up in the household of David and became a great man himslef, Joseph grew up in the household of Jacob and became a greatman himself, Judah grew up in the house of Jacob and had a whole tribe called jews.

i know if you can stay in lagos any hell would do. dont you remember the mayhem in these homes. you only saw the glamour you didnt see the pain and betrayals the children from this homes suffered.  i dont like the smell of polygamy.  one of the things that taught me islamic religion cannot  be right is my grand dad packing women he couldnt afford.

behold the magic of NL. you are permitted to talk in some thread and not others. why do people find it easy to accept things they argued against on other threads?

tpia:
thanks for the education. Hope you can rest now.


I really dont want to get into all this with you, since [b]you seem to be of those people who call everyone east of Ondo state, Igbo. Ijesha in Oyo are from which state?  [/b]Geez, I hope you're not one of those "Yorubas" who like to give the tribe a bad name due to their ignorant attitudes. What a meaningless analogy.

you are funny. you are right  though.

Lagosboy:
Moses,David Solomon,Abraham all had more than 1 wife yet they were great prophets of God in the bible and God never reprimanded them in the bible. I also dont know of any statement of Jesus prohibiting the marriage of more than 1 wife from the mouth of the master himself in the bible.

it is like you would have been happy to grow up in their household as a son considering the wahala. am i right?

funny

people still use beads?