₦airaland Forum

Zooposki:
Maybe the reason why women nowadays don’t deal with poor and suffering men is the way they were treated in the past. I could remember once the men made it, they abandon the women that suffered right along with them and go for more polished women. Women learnt their lessons. Same reason women have multiple boyfriends today is the way they were also disappointed in the past, incase one disappoints them, they have others. Maybe you think a woman should waste her youth on you, just so you can end up disappointing her, and then have the gall and audacity to call her an evening newspaper.

Truckloads of excuses! Women have always looked for rich men from the days of Methuselah. But modern women have taken it up to a whole new level by abandoning their own supposedly traditional responsibilities of taking care of the house, submitting to their husbands and being the virtuous woman. Instead, they want to stay in a man's house and claim equality and feminist even while living off the man like a parasite.

Stop justifying the promiscuity of today's ladies! If you are dating a guy and he fails to propose, you don't start cheating on him because of that, you simply breakup and look for someone who'll propose. But we all know that the reason behind cheating is economic, sizing as many men's pockets as possible and checking who is SIMPle enough to marry that one.

badoh:
Your judgment is quite unfair. Some wives give adequate support and are pillars to their husband. What's the essence of marrying if you know your wife is not part of you when you're no more. Do you think your brothers will be able to take adequate care of your children when you're gone? A good wife will assume responsibilities when a man is gone and will take good care of the children left behind. That's the more reason husband and wife must build their home and empower each other such that if the unforseen occurs, much gap will not be really felt.

Nonsense and "support"! No woman in this age supports any man to create wealth! They only wait for a man to suffer and make his money before they come to claim the glory. Even working class ladies would rather look for a ready made man to siphon his wealth. It is what it is.
In my family, we even take care of poor late uncle's children let alone our brother's children, so forget that angle you're going.

With what ladies of nowadays are turning into and how marriages have become, If I later decide to get married, I'll jealously guard my wealth from my wife, taking care of only my children and blood relatives. While writing my will, I'll do exactly as I stated earlier.

OssyMalik:
Lazy brothers fighting over properties. His wife should engage a good lawyer.

Ndi ara

Or rather lazy wife fighting over property she does not own, so that she can use them to start flexing with his lovers!

Someone like me ehn, my spirit will be happier knowing that property and wealth are with my blood brothers than with some useless wife. Provided my brothers take care of my children's needs(that's if they're still small), I'll like it if they fight and claim my property.

Better still, I'll write my will, settle my children directly and also settle my brothers. Wife is not getting anything from me tbh, she should work for her own property!

Madam, we're in the 21st century! Things have changed. People are now upgrading to new models of doing business. This is the computer age.

I have always said it that if Igbo people are not careful, we'll be overthrown in the trading business for which we are currently known by Yorubas and other smarter tribes who value education and follow trends. I'm not talking about real business like real estate, tourism, media etc because I know that Yorubas are the owners of those. But at least the trading that we do, let us try and be upgrading and following trends.

How many "nwa boyi" does Jeph Bezos and the likes have None! They employ smart workforce and pay them for their services. But you want Igbos to remain in the analog age. Who will even agree to give out their children for such slavery when there are better skills to learn that can help them survive in this modern age Only an uninformed person will do that!

Mentholated:
Most men live a life of misery yet totally unaware of that.

A man is subject to being manipulated throughout his entire life.

From his mother to his wife and then his daughters.

The manipulation ceases on his dying bed and that is if his will is ready.

As a general rule, the partner that spends less ( money, time, commitment) in every relationship is the one in control.

And their only "reward" is some minutes of sweating and pushing in and out of some smelly hole. Until men realize that sex with a woman is not a reward but is still a slave-like service to women, they'll continue slaving their lives away to the womenfolk. I think men who m@sturbate enjoy sex even better because they do it in a relaxed position while expending less energy in the process.

I'm not saying men shouldn't have sex with women, but they shouldn't allow themselves to be cheated in the process. Demand something better from her or play the game without losing much of your resources aside the energy you use in satisfying her.

ma373733:
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Being redpiller alone won't put girls on your table go out there and talk to girls
TRP is just a cheat to help your game .not just sitting down and say I don't chase I don't pursue .when you see greenlight go for it with sense sha .if the girl is on you you'll know

I have approached many girls I thought they're not on me
To my surprise they made everything easier than I thought.
One even said she was scared of Me at first that why she respects herself around me .
After we do the do
I went back to my former mode .

Red pillers are of different types. There are those who see absolutely no need going after women, more so losing their resources in the process. Those are MGTOW! Some of them may choose not to have sex entirely even when it is offered free of charge while others may have sex when it is free.

Some red pillers play the games and try hard to outwit the female folk without being the ones at the losing end.

They're all Red pilled!

bepositive11:
You don't know what you're talking about. They both really love each other. Look for interviews of them talking about each other

Like do you expect them to admit they don't love each other or talk negatively about each other during an interview

All SIMPle guys deserve that kind of treatment!


Mumu boy

Op, when you initially bought the Amartem soft gel, did you demand to see the pharmacist on duty in that pharmacy to get information on how to use the drug? Of course, I am sure you did not. Like many Nigerians, you just called the drug and they assumed that you're an expert or that you already knew how to use the drug. Pharmacists give drug information free of charge, but many of you fail to demand these information when you go to buy drugs.

Now you decided to rush to a fake patent medicine store to buy the fake drugs instead of seeking professional advice right away. There's a reason why you're always advised to buy drugs from PCN registered pharmacies! Pharmacies are regulated, they are trained expert who know how to handle drugs so that a genuine drug does not become fake on the shelf due to poor storage conditions.

Also, because they're regulated and are always available for inspection, registered pharmacies would hardly stock fake drugs. This cannot be said about fake patent medicine vendors who often close shops and run away during enforcement exercises by PCN.

Besides, those selling fake drugs in wholesale usually sell to unregistered and unregulated stores because they know that those people are not trained to recognize fake drugs.
So, next time you want to buy drugs, go to registered pharmacies and when you get there, demand to see the pharmacist so you can ask questions on the drugs you want to buy. It is your right to demand those drugs information, and it is free of charge. Thank you!

This man lacks spiritual knowledge!

You cannot as individual curse those in authority because they're at a higher spiritual level than you!

Only a joint effort of the majority of people that elected them can affect them spiritually or physically through a revolution.

Femzaremz:
CURSES DON'T WORK! Who knows maybe she got married to another simp who doesn't know her womb has been damaged due to jumping from one d**k to another!

You cannot curse those in authority as an individual because they're at a higher spiritual terrain than you.

Only a collective action by majority of those that elected them, the action taken at same time in one accord, can affect those in power (eg revolution).
The above is a spiritual fact!

Boniwhite:
guess u are ghanian or afaghanistian right? We will continue to slut shame her period

Dissipate that energy in shaming and fighting our corrupt politicians and yahoo boys scattered all over the country. That will be much more beneficial to you than slut shaming a girl for dancing in jumpsuit.

Agadinaagwuofe:
Like I said Nigerians are hypocritical and Judgemental and it stinks to high heaven but when you live in Nigeria especially for young girls that are dependent it comes with a lot of heavy consequences.

For me what she did is not right but it shouldn't be blown out of proportion. I watch the video, she knew people were videoing the whole dance, she was been hailed, first she started with short skirt and took it up the notch by removing it and dance on bikini and cameras were everywhere. She should have known this will have spill effect. Like I said "ours" is just to say our mind, personally that video should just attract "strict caution" and people should move ahead but trust Nigerians, her Father is not having it good, the same thing with the girl, she will be taunted by Nigerians, she will be woo by charlatans in the name of being wayward, she will be judged by hooligans and even lowlifes just because she made public what others do in their closet and trust me her life will never be the same as long as she lives here, her best bet is to go away from the eyes of Nigerians for long and that's what she should have thought of before engaging in the dance, it would have been different if she is an "established and independent" lady but with her life still in formation enough Nigerians especially family members will keep nudging her. There's a reason Nigerians females lives double lives and hide most of their pasts because the society will always judge you. If what she wrote is something to go with why should her father lost contract because her daughter engaged in dance? That just prove exactly all I wrote up here.

You're right anyway. She should have considered the kind of hypocritical environment she is in.

Kaymicheal852:
Let me share this

One of my girl told told me she is a virgin few months ago ,I have known her from quite a while and I have tried dating her four years ago ,she doesn’t turn me down then but we just don’t click and we have been in contact since
Just over a month ago she finally comes to my house and as a sharp guy I try to Bleep her and disvirgin her but to my surprise she start a pathetic story on how she visit her friend in Ibadan and he disvirgin forcefully blah blah blah ,I don’t even mind and I Bleep her twice and she even sleep over

After then we talk for few days then she stops calling and when I call her few times she didn’t pick so I don’t call anymore

After more than two weeks she then text me yesterday telling me she gave her phone to her mother because her mother lost her phone

I knew she was lying and she was with another guy and that guy dump her so she thinks she can come back to me ,I just ignore the bitch

You are real guy man for ignoring the ediot. Just imagine the alibi she came up with. Giving her phone to her mother bla bla bla.

Agadinaagwuofe:
The truth is irrespective of what you feel about the hypocrisy of Nigerians she will live to bear the brunt that's the society she finds herself. Even if people stop talking about it what of her lecturers, family members, relatives, village people, street and family of her friends, all will treat her with disdain that's why I always advise young girls to always be conscious of your environment. Had it been she is a Nigerian but did that in US it won't be an issue. If there is nothing you learn about Nigerian society just learn that the society is built on hypocrisy. It smells and pierce every fabric of the society, even armed robbers will be the first to put you on jungle justice if you get caught..I don't pray anyone I know to be in her predicament. Trust me even if she is eventually sexually harassed she can't be courageous to talk about it because the society has killed her morale. she caused it herself because she should have thought about all these before engaging in that show of shame.

The hypocrisy of Nigerians is very annoying tbh.

As far as I'm concerned, that girl didn't do do any wrong! The dancing held in the female hostel and female hostels in most Nigerian universities are usually restricted to females especially at nights-- when the dancing took place. Again, she didn't dance stark naked but wore a jumpsuit.

Nigerians would not dissipate energy in fighting our corrupt public officials, fraudsters and the numerous security threats we have all over the country, instead they'll be mouthing off about flimsy things that harm no one.

If this girl's parents are wise, this is the best time to show parental love to her. They should never allow hypocritical Nigerians to shame their beloved daughter into committing suicide.

This is pure wickedness on the part of those that have continued to mock her and make it look like she killed anyone. She only danced in a jumpsuit. She didn't kill anybody! Let her be! Hypocrites!!!!

AfroKnight:
It’s so sad! Imagine in the health sector, people will be gambling with other people’s lives for profit!

The gambling no be small one o. If you trace some people's deaths ehn, you'll discover that they were simply murdered by their fellow humans in the name of treating them. Unfortunately, when people die in this country, they're buried without autopsies.

SonofDevil:
femi osibona comapny has built and sold many houses in italy uk and southafrica .the incident doesn't erase that

While building in those countries, he observed all the rules and regulations and listened to professional advice. But once he came to Nigeria, he thrashed everything about professionalism and bypassed all building regulatory guidelines. After all, everything goes in Nigeria! No be naija we dey?!

AfroKnight:
This is a sad lesson for all these developers.

Listen to your consultants. Don’t go shopping for people who will agree to cut corners. There is a reason people spend years studying a course.

Stop using connection to bypass building regulations. You can never tell when the toll will be paid.

Don't mind some Nigerians! They like underrating professionals who spent years studying their professions but would listen to quacks just to maximize profit and save cost. Then unfortunately, they end up paying dearly for their negligence. It happens even in the health sector!

The man was wrong for asking that you transfer the ownership of your property to him. Your property is yours and yours alone.

This is also the reason why no real man should make his wife next of kin nor buy any property in her name. See how all of us agreed here that you should not change the name on your property to his, I hope we'll also agree in the same way that no man should buy any property in his wife's name nor make her a direct beneficiary of his property and wealth? Not when a man is involved, you'll change tune and start telling us that in marriage, two plus two equals one.

How I wish that all law breakers in this country will directly suffer the consequences of their actions the same way this man did. My only grievance is that some innocent Nigerians died due to his lawlessness.

The guy man probably denied you because he isn't sure if he's responsible among your numerous knackers.


Pele o

helinues:
Those people are yet to experience real life..

When you are still depending on parents/siblings, one would think life is so easy until you start hustling and experience real life.

Some of those people eventually end up in the opposite of what they desire

In life generally, there are some factors above our controls. If it's by having an idea, na everybody for rich

No be by having of ideas, na by scamming people of their hard earned money and by looting public treasury! That's the Nigerian standard. But y'all will pay dearly for setting that standard. The repercussions will come either while you're still alive or your children and unborn generations will suffer it. Stacking looted funds in bank account will not help y'all evil politicians and fraudsters!

May the souls of the departed rest in perfect peace, Amen.

cayorday89:
You are right but not entirely right, it is not man's mentality alone but also of the female gender, in the form of mothers and even young ladies of your generation, in other words it is a societal decision which some both male and female will adhere to and some others will not go against, the problem now is finding who fits and have the same mindset as you.
Now, how many mothers will not raise eyebrows if they visit their sons and see him doing doing house chores on a regular just to help the wife out, imagine what will be of the wife from the mother-in-law's reaction. HUSBAND IS WILLING BUT YOUR FELLOW WOMAN IS AGAINST IT.
2nd point, some ladies of your generation(can't say your age and generation but you get the point), many of them will carry themselves by going to their boyfriend's house to spend the weekend and the only thing they show to feel accepted is to do house chores willingly in a bid to feel accepted, God help her she visits the family house and she does the little she could do, it is the females in that family house that will still accuse her of not been responsible. FELLOW WOMAN IS ENSLAVING FELLOW WOMAN FOR THEIR SONS AND BROTHERS TO FEEL APPROVED.
Personal experience, in school I lived in a hostel where we have only one female amongst 11 guys and we only have one toilet, this toilet is always clean but she traveled one time and by the third day it was getting dirty, I think I noticed on the fourth day and I washed it, when others came they were just saying I knew it is Kay(me) that washed it. When she came back she also said she knew I was the only one that can wash it, in my house I have never washed toilet before, but my dad does together with my mum and elder sister, a woman came to our house one day and saw my dad washing it, she asked why he was doing that when my mum is at home..
WOMAN QUESTIONING A MAN WHO IS HIGHLY DOMESTICATED.
I am the only son amongst three sisters, but yet I am highly domesticated, can do all what the society called female chores, helps my mum out in her shop which is in front of the house especially when it comes to thorough cleaning, women see me, they compliment me and say my wife will enjoy but not without ending it with, what about your sisters are they not supposed to be the ones doing that.
In all, many men are willing but won't do because their manliness will be questioned by women.

Don't mind the confused gender!

Even those of them here supporting the notion of men doing chores will still mock their brothers who do chores for their wives.

For me I believe that it is only normal that a lady who works and contributes to the finances of the house should be relieved of the stress of doing all house chores. How the husband would do that is up to him to decide. It could be by doing chores himself or by employing a house help to do those chores for him.

ImaIma1:
Marriage is not a competition between both sexes or a battle for authority. Couples are supposed to walk together to make life easier and more bearable for each other.

I don't understand all these men that try to absorb themselves of responsibilities by giving it several names and theories, and shifting them to their wives.

I spent the weekend at a relative's place. She is the busier one as per banker. Her husband is so hands on. He can just enter the bathroom and see soaked clothes and wash them, cook, iron, etc. They have a househelp and children. But he'll tell you that it is his house and his responsibility.

The wife on the other hand, hardly raises a finger to do a single thing. Remain small sef, they will spoon-fed her . He will yab her from today till tomorrow and they'll laugh over it. They understand each other.

OP it's their marriage. Let them run it as it suits them. When you get married, you will understand better.

"Absolve" not "absorb"

Take note because of next time

BRATISLAVA:
First they tried culture and it didn't work.
Then they tried religion and it still doesn't work.
Now it's about likening humans to animals to make a point in not wanting to help their wives.

Future women are in trouble. These aren't men. These are escapists. They are not husband material.

Their new mantra is no responsibilities. They look for every rule to twist so that they can do as they please without responsibility.

This is why they wanted women to work, so that they would sit back and have someone giving them money while they can't even care to wash the behinds of their own children. They hid it behind "what do you bring to the" and now it's clearly, "how can I suck you dry?"

Kudos to the responders trying to talk to stones. It's been amusing, but at the same time one can see that the logical gender is far from logic.

This jorn guy sounds as robotic/brainwashed as jersahl aka bloodiedsprrrm.

Who wanted women to work

As a matter of fact, many of us would rather our women don't work so they can concentrate on taking care of the homes. The question is, will they accept being full-time housewives Without claiming gender discrimination

You and I know how confused the female gender is about what they really want.

His life his choice!

Hyerin:
Men are still stuck in the stone age. They've refused to grow and learn and actually adapt to changes that's why they keep on romanticizing and reminiscing about the past because then, misogyny was the state of things. Women suffered in silence and accepted their lot in life while they enjoyed the deification that came with simply possessing a phallus. Now that those days are largely gone and won't ever come back, they've embraced being perpetually stagnated and angry at the world now that their characters and behaviours are questioned thus, highlighting their inadequacies and deficiencies. They can no longer run under the cloak of "protector and provider" for shield since women work now. They can no longer make it a personality; they now have to actually develop one and this has left them shattered and disillusioned.

It honestly beats me how men's thinking sometimes defies logic yet, they're still afforded the grace of being seen as "logical" even by women. Taking care of a child they helped create is seen as a chore and they feel, they're not as equally responsible. It's asinine the way they treat their seed; a part of them. If they don't want to be responsible for caring for their kids then they should simply not reproduce. A child needs loving and nurturing from both parents and when it's deprived from one side, problems set in. Alot of maladjusted people won't be the way they are if they had loving fatherly figures in their lives. Not one who drops school fees money and feels that's the only requirement needed; the height of parenting. Even when they are actively involved, they think it's praiseworthy. The barest of minimums.

Men should adapt to changes and start doing house chores while women should stick to having the man provide for the family, abi

Until such a time when women would start paying equal bills of the home and stop looking for already made men whom she expects to provide for her, no woman should ever demand a man to do house chores for her. In fact, only a very SIMPle man would come home from the day's hustle and start doing house chores! Unless the man is not the one providing the family's finances, or his wife contributes equally in financing the home, that's the only condition under which a man can do house chores.

I know you'll dislike my opinion above but like those of the other guys up there who are obviously looking for a naïve lady they'll deceive into marriage, but it is what it is. Some of us don't know how to lie to you ladies that is why we'll rather state the truth.

Even though I know that Ronaldo is the Greatest of all time (GOAT), I still love Messi because he's a gentleman and selfless.


I love gentle guys, no homo.