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Maybe just another online story to draw traffic
But if true, UNA DEY MAD
What kind of idiot person shares family problem and ask inlaw to bring 120k for son's wedding? What crazy family rubber stamps price of bride list? That list is just figurative, negotiable and can be done half with the remaining half left till further notice. The entire list of 400k can be settled with 150k, 80k or less?

Before you misunderstand Igbo wedding list or get ripped off by greedy kinsmen, ask yourself how much did the palmwine tappers, traders, motorcyclists, artisans in that community spend on their own wives?
I repeat THE LIST IS FIGURATIVE AND CAN EVEN BE COMPLETELY WRITTEN OFF IF THE BRIDE FAMILY IS SENSIBLE ENOUGH!

PDP won't work
do like Rochas or Ifeanyi Ubah and Go to APGA, AA, LABOUR PARTY, SDP, YDP etc

Or use all your machineries and gubernatorial powers in support of one of your opponents and make sure Oshiomole and APC don't win. You can always come back to run for governorship later or go to senate or house of reps

zuby4real10:
She was so desperate to the extent that even if she wants to give or collect something from me she has to kneel small. Always calling me her husband. She is more than 100% nice and submissive.she is the only lady that I have ever see that didn't wait for her man to introduce her to his family. I don't even know how she got my mum's number nd start communicating with her. I single handed sponsored her 3 years NCE education. From the comments I am seen here on nairaland is as if as I am the only man that sponsored a lady's education with out regrets uptil date. My only problem with this lady is that she and her family are so poor to the extent that they see me as their meal ticket, as if as am the best thing that ever happens to them. I thinked about the liability of marrying this girl and her family own I run. Uptil now the lady is still waiting and begging for me to come back. She is always asking what she did wrong. I beg I no fit kill myself, love and loyalty alone can not sustain a marriage cos they can't pay bills.

They can't be a liability to someone like me. I used to think like this until an aged man who owns one of the biggest bakeries in imo state counseled me.
All you needed was skill acquisition. Train she and one of her siblings on a sustainable skill direct the other siblings to them not you. If she has male siblings below 18 pick at least one for apprenticeship in onitsha or Lagos. The family will grow without you.

Amotolongbo:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2016/02/22/man-marries-wifes-corpse-in-anambra/amp/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.informationng.com/2018/04/young-nigerian-man-forced-to-marry-corpse-of-woman-he-impregnated-without-paying-her-bride-price.html/amp

https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2016/02/14/my-late-wifes-family-wants-me-to-marry-her-corpse-man-laments/

Kill yourself

Yes the person is expected to complete maybe double marriage rites before buying the corpse. Not literally a wedding with the corpse as racist bigots are painting it.

ValCon888:
This OP is lucky. She has not met a guy that will check her pant to see if she's on her period.

Even on her period, she forget say black condom dey for use on periods

GuestLog:
Make conspiracy theory kill you there! Slowpoke!

I was supporting you as if you knew something didn't know comprehension was a problem for you. SORRY

ubecharles:
. I BELIEVE YOU. DEMOCRATS WILL DO ANYTHING TO ENSURE TRUMP IS NOT RE-ELECTED

Really? And you will believe anything just to keep worshipping your slave masters.

GuestLog:
In America, you can record the cops when they're making arrests. No cop will bother you, you'd only be asked to keep a safe distance so as not to interfere with police duties.

They have no idea. Na lack of knowledge dey kill Nigerians

mansakhalifa:
Men, how do you guys come up with or manufacture all these conspiracy theories though? Where's the factory?

Quite intriguing.

[quo
Yes Bros meself I wonder o

DexterousOne:
What is this one saying now?

Trump is the one destroying Trump
No one else

Forget all these conspiracy theories

Trump is the one doing himself
And with what has happened

It would come back to bite him in November

They don't know. Imagine conspiracy theories against their own brother's death!

causimalbarka:
God bless u..

U made a very good point ...

But the stupid Trump instead of thinking straight and acting smart, he's sitting there opening his buca cavity called mouth saying nonsense

Open your eyes O slave to the suffering of your brother and stand by him! Trump and elections have nothing to do with this. Blacks have been dying at the hands of police in America everyday that people are tired of just complaining and police are more reckless cos nothing will happen to them.

ubecharles:
. You keep making reference to "your brother killed in US". Address the unabated killings back home and leave Trump's America. You think those niggard give a damn who you are or what you feel about them

Many Nigerians there have fallen victim. The fact that you think for any reason I shouldn't care about what's happening there or anywhere else apart from back of your home shows how hateful you are! Whether in Maidugri or Minnesota, they are both far from me and I'm not affected directly. But unlike you, I do care. There's no amount of distance or colour that makes them any less human!

I understand you are Muslim. Doesn't your religion support multiple wives? So you don't have to put her in the position of ex wife since there was love between you before you discovered your genotype which is your fault not knowing.

The position you have taken was the best considering your religion and it was just a week to the wedding if you guys separate now it wouldn't be shameful for her.

What you need now is money for ivf and other medical child selection methods. Don't leave it to natural selection.

If you both still can't afford to move ahead then let her be after 1 or 2 years now that she's still young.

Luckydubby7:
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I was totally surprised to heard u say covid19 killed your friend after mentioning all these sicknesses he was suffering from.

Yes people who succumb to covid-19 tend to have underlying illness that weakened their immune system.

Jaymoon:
Nairalanders any reviews on Oppo A5 series, intend getting one at the end of the month, I no want one chance phone.

You have nothing to fear, OPPO is actually an expensive brand not a nonsense company. You'll find that your A5 is more expensive than it's grade Xiaomi redmi 8 and blackview a80 pro

twokayeighteen:
Had to buy mine from AliExpress for around 10k oukitel C12 pro.... Took around a month to get it sha

Order parts in Nigeria from JUMIA online or AliExpress.
You won't likely find them in stores

IF YOU WANNA BUY BRANDS YOU HAVEN'T USED, READ PEOPLE'S REVIEWS OR COMPLAINTS FIRST AND GO FOR HIGHER NUMBERS OF RAM, CAMERA PIXEL, BATTERY AND INTERNAL MEMORY TO AVOID SERIOUS FRUSTRATION IF THINGS DON'T WORK OUT FINE.

I encouraged a friend to buy the very first Tecno Android T1, another friend bought innjoo fire, I used Infinix hot, Tecno Droipad 7c, I also bought a cheaper innjoo Halo for a boy after fire model became scarce and later on Tecno l8 lite. I also used leagoo m9, I encouraged another guy to buy umidigi S2 lite, thereafter i used Umidigi power, recently used Itel s15, bought Umidigi A3s for someone, used Homtom H10 and Blackview A80pro.

All worked fine and better than wasting money on Tecno and Infinix. I only bought the Itel S15 in a hurry wasn't bad but sold it after 3weeks. Only the Leagoo m9 had heat and reboot issues.
I FORGOT TO MENTION Opsson and Wiko. Small internal memory and the Opsson screen contents and touch started shaking but I managed till I sold

Umidigi and Blackview forget to put screen or any flash for their phones front camera

Best value for money was Homtom 64gb for 32k recently, Hot 16gb for 16k then, Droipad Tablet for 19k then.

Best battery Tecno L8lite 4,000mah, Umidigi and blackview 5,000mah, Homtom 3,000mah but durable in use and really fast charging

Aizen123:
I don't think this will be possible...Asin moving his corpse

How old are you? Do you have a steady job or financial backing?

Yes moving corpse is possible unless you are not the one holding the mortuary tally which you should go and collect.

Don't quarrel with them just buy your own key and lock the shop or better move it's contents. Move the corpse to a place only you know and make a public announcement in the community and possibly radio disclaiming the burial and that a new date will be announced after due consideration with the sons of the deceased.

Even if you are still too young or jobless you must still do the last one and report to the village king cabinet and block the burial until your right as first son is restored and fully observed with respect and YOU choose and fix your own date!!!

In African culture all men (p3n-is bearers) are equal. Hence the Igbo saying; Water go reach man where e reach others!

She is 21 years! That means she has full adult rights for the past 3yrs now.
DON'T BE FOOLED! SHE IS NOT A MINOR! YOU ARE NOT HER FATHER FIGURE!

You have no right to sack her because this has no relationship with your business!

Solutions: u must find a private time to tell her you noticed or heard some things about her. Don't Tell her how. and she shouldn't deny cos u r not judging her. But u r concerned for her safety!

Buy her a strong vibrator because trust me no amount of talking to will quench her sex lust now!

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Itel Don werey ni

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
All these low budget asss Moda fuckkking dog shit phones

The fact that you mentioned Xiaomi, Huawei and OPPO shows that you are maaadddddd!!

No insult intended

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I was hoping to get something better from Itel but the launch proved me wrong

stormborn28:
you a caveman devoid after letters.. Did you not read where OP said the bank statement shows the lady received the money?
It is what OP brought forward I'm looking at.. You need education





Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

Take caution. THE BANK PEOPLE TOLD HIM. What the statement only does is state the account name and number you made a transaction to or from. A debit alert was received yes but in this kinda case it's the recipient's statement that is needed but the dumbass didn't go for that. From your words you could have been more primitive if you were in his shoes.
WHEN THE BANK DEBITS YOU AND DOESN'T REFLECT TO THE POS DO YOU EXPECT THEM TO PAY YOU?

stormborn28:
did you read where OP said the bank statement shows that the lady received the money?

U have no idea what a bank statement is nor how it works

stormborn28:
did you not read where OP said the bank statement shows the lady received the money. You get blocus the nack mouth?

U r so illiterate! So how did it get reversed? If money enter account it can only be frozen not reversed. Everything u do with ur account will immediately show on ur statement. it only confirms that you have sent it. It is the recipient bank statement that can confirm if it arrived. INTERSWITCH DEY HANG AND BOUNCE TRANSFER ANYHOW!

GET SENSE!!!

stormborn28:
you are small boy. Things like this get me angry. First of all bank didn't ruined your relationship rather it is the lady Jezebel that wants to play a fast one on you. After all, bank statement proved it. See if you be my brother na slap you go just dey collect for seven days... That lady studied you like the way a program computer will analyze individuals entry a company. And she dealt with you

U send SMS, ur phone tell u sent, network charge u 4naira but after 3days the message bounce back delivery failed. You come dey blame d recipient for wetim Im Neva see. U head get nyash?

stormborn28:
but he confirmed that she received the money by the bank statement..





Throughout that day she claimed not to have gotten the money. Then throughout the next day same story so the third day I went to the bank to receive the statement of account. lo and behold her name was boldly written and the bank people told me she has gotten it. I got very angry and sent it to her but I didn't tell her anything I just ignored her call.

If she received the money how did the bank reverse it?
A bank transfer reverse is like bounced check it did not pay the recipient.

hardon1:
see this one, she say make u leave her and you dey worry yourself mtchewwww. if you like make you go mumu send her another money. she is not willing to talk to you is because of guilt. she is just trying cool of or shed of the shame. is she is a reasonable lady, after some time she will call and apologise

Are u mad or high? What is she guilty of to be ashamed? U send her money wey she never receive u come call police on top. Before one week ur bank come return the money to you say the send no work. Are you not a fool? Will you allow your mother, sister or daughter to stay close to such a non-entity?!

abelswife:
did you or did you not say nasty things to her? I;m sure ingrate and scam where part of the things you said

Agbagbaregoo:
No at all. I saw their chats. He asked politely

MrBrownJay1:
stop trying to impress good for nothing ungrateful women with money... count your blessing you got your money back., and just send her what you owe her, nothing more then forget/block the animal.

Did you try to get her own bank statement? E be like say u never get this kind issue with POS people whether u go dey flex ur mouth and police friend like dis. because say na gal wey gree u friend u don dey denge dey pose. Why she no go run from wahala like you. If to say na wife wey u send money to pay landlord wey dey ur neck dat night, ds thing come happen for one week, you for don stab am cos say u dey patronize am. Animalia

Emmymarvel:
Nopes! They won't block his account. The bank will tell you that, you were not threatened or forced at gunpoint to do the transfer. So it's was a willing act from you. Bank only block the receiving account if maybe your fone was reported stolen and transactions were made from it.

Oga they will. A young guy's family recently coughed out 450k to bribe his way out of a 150k fraud he committed similar to what op posted. He got arrested at the bank this past Christmas period.

Hestywhyt:
Dtz what I did...i sent the account number to my bank online and I also forwarded the phone number, the email, fb account and bank details to efcc report centre

Be very fast and serious about it. Contact cbn and efcc fraud desks with screenshot and all such evidence of the communication and transaction with the person. If you can, go further by having his phone line tracked and arrested by police on location. Court order is not expensive if needed.

Report the account and have the bank block it with the bvn linked to it. Anyone attempting to access any account linked to that bvn gets arrested and any funds within all those accounts remain frozen.

Starboytwo:
thanks for your input, I reason that side too, at least we dey wash yoruba film, we dey see as things dey go....

But I strongly doubt things would go messy.. my siblings are all decent folks, I'd like to presume... I'm not gonna say No to any money but same time I'm not gonna sell my home cuz I'm strapped for cash...

My dear forget sentimental attachment. For your own safety, stop saying no when you have been so outnumbered.
The elder ones from first, second and third wives have more rights than you.
1)Can your own share (or maybe with your brother's share) reach like 3-4mill at least?
So that you get yourself maybe a plot or half and site something to substain you and run from polygamous brouhaha before it starts turning messy!!
2) If they're such decent or learned folks, then you should implore them to come together so 11 of you enter a legal partnership agreement as a consortium or cooperative and then lease the land and/or property. Depending on the location, banks, hotel, school, plaza might be situated on it. Outright sale is loss. Lawyer, bank manager can advise you better on this.

ceeroh:
African mentality is totally fuvked up! Fuvked society!! BTW don't ask me

It's not like I want to ask but, who's the boy?

Through private school or a more sane environment you could even still bag a doctorate by 30.

Did you know 19-25 is the normal ssce age for many in this part of the world? Me that completed secondary more than a decade ago I never decide when but I'll still go back school I'm just building myself. Nothing to worry.

phunbyt:
Yes bro.

The fueling will be done by the company. All i have to do is pick customers when there's a request. Obviously I'm paying for any damages to the car

I too went into the transport sector after working in a school. It pays hugely but it has many life changing obstacles. Are you bullish enough?
What time do you resume and close daily?
Do you sit at a park and they load the passengers?

If it's exactly ride hailing service like Uber, bolt or airport taxi or a trans company like rtc, gig, aktc I would support you. But if it's town service like danfo or taxi drivers, I doubt if you can cope with the tours and passengers insults and you may not have time for your program during the days.

Hope777:
Bro I have visited at least 4 specialists, they seem to just think my problem is psychological because they don't have a solution.

I'm going back to lagos to explore more though

I will keep on praying about it. Thanks

Stop thinking it too much to avoid depression. Seek more medical help.

Hurry now and get some girls pregnant. You may start thinking you are young and can't take care of the kids, but I tell you they won't die of hunger. As you get older you may not have thirst for more sex but you will miss not having kids.