₦airaland Forum

generationz:
1 you claim you were a virgin yet your neighbours house maid had slept with you

2 secondly I do not believe all the other times your male friend raped you was done without consent. why did you continuously go to his house if you didn't want it. my guess is you enjoyed it but the guilt you feel that homosexuality is seen as a sin and a crime in Africa is making you second guess

sorry about the older lady and the house maid , those were the only people I feel you didn't consent too.

#shit_happens

There could be cases of emotional blackmail, bullying, seniority, closeness to the family, running errands, watching movies, enticements or parents' orders beyond your control that leaves you suddenly alone with the molester.

P.S: Even if a minor becomes a willing participator or 'enjoys it', it's still called rape. "statutory rape"

MrBottle:
yes sir

call them to officially postpone the resumption before you go. Tel dem u missed ur period or it's ur brother that crashed the fighter jet. Please never tell dem its another job

Mmaxix:
Babe...don't risk the relationship. Give him what you can afford to let go. If he was a husband, I will have no worries, but a boyfriend is no guarantee.
Money is one of the most potent relationship wreckers among friends so watch it.
My humble opinion though.
Personally I will not let go that amount for a boyfriend but I will gladly let go all for my husband.

franksam2009:
Don't forget he z not married to you yet, I won't advice u to give a man u are not married to ur life savings. Think twice. Sometimes love can be a scam oo

yazz09:
You are not obliged to lend him the exact amount he asked. Give him what you are comfortable with and tell him that's what you can part with as you still have other personal and business things that needs your funds

Amhappy:
There are several cases of Men who gave their life-savings for a girl education and eventually got disappointed at the end of the day. They become bitter and some do crazy things including murder. So this is not an issue of relationship but business. Do not give what you cannot afford to lose.

Whether in marriage or personal business investment never give out 700/800 (under4/8 is manageable risk). Even If somebody's life is at stake remember their survivors must need something to fall back on. Do things for posterity sake only.
A BANK HAS NO HEART.
THERE ARE NO SENTIMENTS IN BUSINESS.

THIS IS BUSINESS NOT LOVE.
case closed..

1stNumeroUno:
The irony is - the more employable graduates we have the more job opportunities would abound. I can explain further if you need me too.

please explain to me. I always wanted to agree with something like this.

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justdogitto:
Maybe oga caught him sleeping with his wife

chaei!!

Juliusmalema:
God bless u.....


Ebonyians from time immemorial has been sabotaging the unity of igboland.


Is better igbos know whom their enemies are.

Nwanne stop deceiving yourself and looking for enemies among your own tribe. Ebonyi dey carry Biafra for head but this sit at home no get as e be at all.

Owerri sef wey normal movement dey nko?
People need indepence and biafra but ipob and massob sense na for only sit at home.

Nnamdi suppose form (Ipp) Indegenous People Party use am enter power then go UN go collect Biafra. Igbo need to wise up and enter power like yoruba dey do.

No power, allignment or coalition then nothing for you.

Kiishii:
There isnt more to it, i kept it from him before marriage that's why he's reacting this way, he said it was a risky gamble, and i have apologised multiple times.

I had triplets.

I know i should join the band wagon and blame you for not telling him but honestly you already know that marriage opportunity would have flown away and you wouldnt have this home and 3 lovely kids.

Your confession is the only thing threatening your marriage right now.

Your biggest mistake was letting him know that you already knew it and deliberately hid it from him before marriage.

Many ladies get into marriage before discovering months or years later that they are barren or about to go into early menopause.

You should have gone with him to see a doctor as to why your flow stopped. Allow them to run pregnancy and then fibroid and the rest before giving the "shock result of POF". Both of you will grieve and ask for medical help even join different ministries and then use the kids as consolation not as a weapon against you as it is now.

WOMEN NEED TO LEARN HOW TO PLAY THE GAME! THINK LIKE A MAN, ACT LIKE A LADY.

Never become totally Jobless because of his threats! You must make sacrifices and adjustments. Carry him along with the new developments so he knows you respect and care for him and the kids. Find a job that is closer to your home or has more time for your kids even if you have to take a paycut.

Best option seek professional advice, source funds and start your own venture. I see a lot of big madams running their own fashion, cosmetics, grocery, jewelry, cyber cafe, agric, poultry, transport, water supply, block industry or school business. SO THAT YOU WILL BE SELF DEPENDENT AND ABLE TO HOLD YOUR GROUND WITH THE KIDS NO MATTER WHAT THE FUTURE BRINGS.

## NEVER FEAR DEATH OR DIVORCE BUT DO NOT ASK FOR EITHER.

luckygeee:
i opened this thread and i havent shared my experience, i think its time i do

waiting

dorriss:
In other news, i have 100k, i need ideas on a profitable business i can venture into. I'm a lil confused right now

depends on ur location, skills, background and current ideas.

100k is too small nowadays..

In some locations u can only go into okada or hawking petty goods with that amount..

Or

Pay for a computer based skill acquisition..

ladies accessories e.g cutex, lipstick e.t.c.

OR phone accessories chargers, earphones e.t.c.

Maybe try catering or making small chops

or

Agric biz
#better_ideas_coming

MrMacinterchi1:
Lol. I'm a Nigerian bro. I was speaking generally on the uncut stuff. I know how we perceive thing here in Nigeria. Just like u are now, I was bewildered when I first heard about others from different race and countries not being cut.


Some whites are not, same with Indians too. The guy from Zimbabwe said that they do not cut babies when they are born; that they are given the chance to choose whether to get cut or not.
It's weird but things work differently in many place.

I'm cut and I like it just fine and it's more attractive to me than seeing those uncut. it looks weird to me but I guess not so to them.

Yeah, i just do not want to give my kids a permanent scar. Let them choose for themselves. I have researched health and biblical records. It was a sacrifice for jews who lived before Jesus to gain access to his ransom. It is not a must for christianity and has no health advantage. Many have deformities or erectile dysfunction from circumcision. I DON'T HATE BEING CUT BUT WISH I KNEW WHAT UNCUT FEELS LIKE THEN I DECIDE.

MISEDUCATIONS:
im Zimbabwe we dont cut foreskins of babies. the boy must choose to when he is of age.

Really? Wish my wife and society can understand leaving a kid to decide and not think i joined a cult or using my kids destinies for ritual or whatever comes to their mind.

MrMacinterchi1:
He once mentioned being from Zimbabwe. And, most male are uncut. Don't see it as a new thing.

[quote author=MISEDUCATIONS post=70957441]Are you also from Zimbabwe? Uncut is not usual over here. Nigeria people think u r primitive or from an abominable religion

MISEDUCATIONS:
i was barely grade 5 when two older girls forced themselves on me and my friend. i remember i bled because they tried to pull back the foreskin but it was too tight around my pènìs head. may God help men.

Foreskin? Which part of the world is this and how did you manage to remain uncut?

Earthbound:
I was molested too by older babysitting family friends













But I realised much later, it was more or less consensual. Women have been telling me from a young age that I'm huge. I've grown to love it.

What do you mean by huge? How dat take be excuse for molesting you at such tender age?

Mynd44:
Well actually, its her body and she can decide not to have any children sef.

The flip side is that it is his life, he can decide to walk out of the marriage to go have more kids.

These things shouldn't be binary. Childbirth isn't easy and a lot of women after going through one dont want or are scared to have another and they should not be blackmailed into it. But women should also not blackmail men into staying in a marriage where she has refused to have more and he refused.

A better solution is surrogacy. Her eggs, his sperm and someone else (paid or whatever the arrangement is) carries the baby to term. Everyone is happy.

Childbirth does a lot of things to women, a lot of women have to stop their careers, have to give up dreams, have to watch their body go through (sometimes irreversible) change so please do not blame them for not wanting it.

But is it selfish? Of course it is. But is it wrong? No.

I used to think i was the last person remaining with sense on earth.
Nicely worded.

Partnerbiz:
What's your authority bro?

Those oils sellers are ripping you off.

Walelavender:
Nice one Op

There's an instruction at the duct of the gear oil-"No need to replace ATF under normal working condition,if you need to, check the Owner's manual'

However I change the the engine oil as at when due, but recently on the dashboard,it reads- "maintenance required". Could it be that the ATF needs to be changed coz the gear oil is no longer sticky?

Don't ask me about the Owner's manual
E no dey

brunofarad:
60% of Nigerian car owners are using the wrong transmission oil.

Fact

ttshems:
And pls don't even make any of this mistake with A CVT

strangest:
Na so my guy go change his transmission oil for the first time... the transmission knocked the next day... if you do not have the right transmission oil available.... postpone changing the transmission oil until you get the right one

What is the right fluid for Suzuki Every Small bus automatic? I have 3 on the road now. I no want story.

sunnedee2:
Even the rich man knows beer is not sweet

strangest:
Na so my guy go change his transmission oil for the first time... the transmission knocked the next day... if you do not have the right transmission oil available.... postpone changing the transmission oil until you get the right one

What is the right fluid for Suzuki Every Small bus automatic? I have 3 on the road now. I no want story.

moscobabs:
My route is prone to traffic and I hate driving in traffic, I only drive the car to bar on Sunday and it's close to my house

Do you need help driving it? My route is not prone to traffic. Can it be registerd for business?..

Sebastine1994:
This one is your cup of tea oh. The problem with you nigerians is that you want to deny everything even in the Face of daunting evidence. Forget this your preaching, the short of it is that there is no job. Why must you always make excuse to justify everything. So I should go and take up a job that pays 4000 a month, just because I want experience. My friend the short of your long tale is that people should get these experience from school. Why should you even work for someone if you are so smart

If you have certificates without skills; THERE IS NO JOB.

If you get handwork; you will be begging your job to give you chance to do other things.

Argue with clarence peters and footballers, even aba bag and cloth tailors or nnewi fabricators not forgetting your daily food sellers, drivers.

[/b] No matter how big or small or how Posh or dirty the job looks. Handwork is the future. It is everlasting.[b]

CAPSLOCKED:

HOW CAN YOU BUY LAND WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE MONEY?

i wonder o!
All these bloggers and twitter vixens with their fake and incomplete stories.

We currently live on a land bought by my mum in the state capital and she has tenants too. My Dad and his own lands are in the village.

P.S: A woman should not go to sell or buy land alone. But Should have have her son, brother, cousin, father, husband, friend, agent e.t.c [/b]FOR HER OWN PROTECTION AND AS A SURETY OR WITNESS AS THE CASE MAY BE. NOT AS A FRONT LIKE THE TWITTER NINJA IS CLAIMING. THE LAND WILL BE BOUGHT IN HER NAME.[b]

This way she doesn't get intimidated, robbed, raped, duped or blackmailed perhaps into buying a fake property or selling at a loss. Any land sold by a woman without a witness her kids can claim she sold it to you under duress or that you snatched it forcefully without compensation and such transaction will be revoked by the village cheifs or customary court. LEGAL DOCUMENTATION HAS REPLACED MOST OF THESE FCCURENCES[b]

Kog45:
Andrew444 baba i quoted without checking 444.

Yes you are right that not only naija dey get the Yoruba name cos I remember Obadele Thompson of Trinidad and Tobago who was named by his Dad after a Nigerian professor.

Also Serena Williams sister late YETUNDE Williams which Williams failed to address on how she got the name.

Andrew444,try and roll pages back on our Arena where i explained in details about Mbappe.

Popular american singer Ne-yo full name Schafer CHIMERE Smith. No relationship with Nigeria. Parent had a nigerian neighbour and loved their kid's name.

CollinsWeGlobe:
My woman is currently in Greece right now and I am in Nigeria so she want us to get married in Nigeria before we can do the needful. Can somebody tell me what is the requirement for her to come here in my country.

Please, Nairalander

Does she have a daughter or granddaughter even if a bobrisky? Lemme know

eddyghali:
Its not lies...most men get erection while asleep and unconscious. Remember what happen in the bible bw a man and his daughters.

dat man was drunk(drugged) by his daughters so he didnt know what he was doing or couldn't get stop them.

If the sweet sensation no wake you then the weight of anoda person bouncing on you will wake you. Abi una no go release? She go lose control when she dey come and your own rush go wake you.

williamdeluxe:
The incidence of rape cases in the country is
alarming and absurd . Something drastic and
urgent should be done to check the trend . The
trauma suffered by victims cannot be
overemphasised . I think there should be a
harsh legislation that would serve as
deterrence to people who engage in rape . The
minimum jail term they should be given is 35
years . Also , rape cases should be given
accelerated hearing . In the same vein , our law
should also frown on any form of sexual
molestation . When you go to the market , you
see male traders sexually harassing female
buyers, forcefully holding them and dragging
them. This is where it begins . When you jail
people for touching girls , ladies and women
illicitly , rapists would know that the game is
up

Supported..

Legislation is for if and when you catch the culprits and you have evidence in court abi?

As for me i say we should start training our girl child in a hardened way more than the boys starting from primary school age. They should be able to beat up two hefty with one hand tied behind. And should handle weapons deadlier than a terrorist.

If someone breaks into your compound at night make una light it up like say na u be the armed robbers and dem be the victims.

NO TIME FOR SLAYING OR SEXINESS

jibolarazor:
what business or investment can I go into with 1millon naira.

Preferably I want something I can start making good profit on within a short period of time. Please business gurus your help and advice is needed.

Go into town very close university, poly or besides a popular extra mural centre or along a popular road students pass in crowds to and fro.


Rent a space, buy 4.5kva generator, one big OX fan (or a/c), 6 televisions, four ps3 and two ps4 game consoles. Start making average 18k daily for a very slow start.

If you need more add any or all of Snooker table, Betting and viewing centre. Start Raking in huge amount of legit money

2)Shawarma

3)phone and system accesories

4)Barbers shop with more than 4 workers for big boys

StaffofOrayan:
Sowore, Fela and Moghale and the Young dude from the North
Lets close this chapter on these old names...

Okay..

StaffofOrayan:
This list just shows how enslaved we are as a nation!
Especially the youth who can't rally behind a new face
Even before these thieves come in we already know they would be useless
If you ask me SOWORE2019, but of course if you have not destroyed Nigeria before, Nigerians won't vote for you
Fela already told us our problem, we keep voting the same old clueless folks in and expect some miracle

Don't get it twisted. I was only trying to point out that even among the old folks there are more capable hands to replace Buhari. Many of them have done exceedingly well deserving to be tried at federal level.

As for a fresh face nobody has stepped up so far apart from Sowore. i support youth 2019 even if it is Yusuf Buhari alternatively let's manage any of atiku, donald duke, orji uzor kalu, Rochas, Dankwambo.

QuotaSystem:
Opinions on the validity of the question is much less important than the actual answer to the question.

Interestingly, you still failed to answer the crucial question despite opening a thread on it.

Vote out Buhari and vote in who?

Please state your alternative candidate.

A few names from the recycle bin:

Namadi Sambo, Fashola, Osibanjo, Amaechi, Donald Duke, Atiku Abubakar, Tambuwal, Kwankwaso, Rochas Okorocha, Orji Uzor Kalu, Ike Ekweremadu, Emeka Ihedioha, Bukola Saraki, David Mark, Peter Odili, Oshiomole, any of the current and former governors or their deputies, senators and members house of reps

OUTSIDE THE RECYCLE BIN: The list is endless. Any of the over 50million youths above the age of 35 who are graduates or enterpreneurs.

baba o.. i no wan talk say that u were just doing ur job as their picker but u 4 just use the money build inside the college by ursef if to say u no want make the money loss

Makarfi and others dey PDP, Buhari and others dey APC. ATIKU SHOULD LEARN TO GO TO SDP, ADP, LABOUR OR ANY OTHER POPULAR PARTY APART FROM JUMPING BETWEEN THESE TWO RIVALS. ATIKU NEEDS TO CONTEST IN THE MAIN ELECTION TO ACCESS HIS CREDIBILITY NOT ALLOWING URBAN THUGS TO ALWAYS END HIS AMBITION AT THE PRIMARIES.

MedellinCartel:
I am actually not stationed In a location presently. My job takes me between ph, lag, enugu and owerri.

It might cause headache if you are not around to run the business.

phone accesories, Betting shop, video game house, viewing centre, barber's shop e.t.c.

Ad: if u need a driver for your taxi, bus or van. Contact us via p.m.

diebuhari1:
That was a rough tackle on Amaechi there.

Yes Amaechi is a minister, Peterside is D.G of NIMASA while they couldnt get up to 5,000 votes for buhari against pdp 1.2million votes. Yet Rochas delegate was made a deputy minister of education working under a journalist as the main minister despite being a prof and a former university v.c

Kyri:
Hmmm...September 26 1992, if you know you know

On 26 September 1992 a
Nigerian Air Force Lockheed
C-130H Hercules crashed three
minutes after take-off from
Lagos, Nigeria. All 158 people
on board were killed,
including 8 foreign nationals.
The aircraft was taking off at
high weight and three
engines failed. The aircraft
was serial number 911

ashjay001:
Mine did. More than this sef!


First real sex experience, I was coming out of d room to receive tips


Olu d Great!!! 1luv

ARE YOU SURE? Was it a party or u bribed him. That doesnt sound like a nigerian brother. Can u gv a detailed explanation?