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You are overtly entitled. If your boss was this generous to everybody, do you think he would have amassed the wealth he has today? Seems like you two have something going on.

seunmohmoh:
Even tho the thoughts occurs, I don't think I can ever end my own life.

Babe, guard your thoughts! All will be well.

Sucre6:
You claim she is your girlfriend yet u weren't sensitive enough, if truly she's your girlfriend u should have noticed that from the way she spoke that something was definitely up, so u calm her down and get to know what the issue was, any small thing u don vex, u could have averted her death u know, yes I want u to really blame your self, u bleeped up.

Not even talking about my girlfriend, a friend of mine called me one day and was sounding funny, the dude told me that he's done, he's leaving this night, I didn't quite understand what he meant at first but I decided to equire more, he was withholding information, I had to call people around to go check on him, they rushed and saw the guy, laying lifeless on the tiles inside his room, he took snipper already, they force two bottle of red oil down his throat and rushed him to the hospital, thank God he was saved,

Turns out dude was owing plenty lapo and online loans, we gathered money and cleared the bill even before he is discharged from the hospital, dude is happily married now and doing very well financially, thats what friends should be all about, you should be sensitive and observant, it very important

God bless your heart and that of your friends. Honestly, if op had towed that path, that lady wouldn't have passed. There is not need crying over spilled milk. This should serve as a lesson to all of us.

helinues:
Speedy you are not an attentive bf. I am not blaming you for her death, but you could have pay more attention.

Sorry for the lose

Funny enough, I don't blame him. He may have acted dismissively because he paid too much attention to the redpillers here. In no time, people will come to realise that feminism and redpill-ism are demonic agenda.

May her soul find rest.

Therepentant:
As ridiculous as it sounds, this is my current predicament right now.
I wanted to transfer money from my zenith to my opay account, There was a mistake in one of the number, so the money entered another person's opay account instead of mine.

I've been calling the number(opay account number us phone number) since yesterday, at first she picked and when she heard what we were talking about she cut the call, since yesterday she hasn't been picking.
She's blocking the numbers am using to reach out to her

This is the number of the person 09057750943
The amount is 14,800.
The money is not mine and the owner of the money is already on my neck.
My good nairaland family, I will be very happy if you can help me disturb her life with call and messages, she should even return part of the money if not all

Cc
Chatinent

I am not surprised. Noodles generally are not so healthy and have been fingered to be a leading trigger for cancer.

Evestar200:
This one is from my childhood friend.

This person begged me to send this money to him in 2015 because he is stranded in Borno and doesn't have anything on him to transport himself to Port Harcourt.

As a good person then, I managed to send him from the little one I have even when I was struggling then.

I reminded him in 2021 when I was sick and in need of money to buy drugs but this is what I get back for being kind.

He didn't pay and blocked me last year.

The other person I lend paid half of the money and the other half is history 😂😂😂😂.

Some people are wicked, Imagine someone I lend 20k on Monday is asking me to send her my account number so that she can send me back my money while some people don't want you to even remind them not to talk about requesting back the money you lend them.


Life.

Wow!! Your frenemy is truly entitled.

Sixfeetbelle:
Sit who down? And leave the man who is clearly the one with the problem?

Please, sis, open your eyes to see the real truth here.

Op has never imagined he'd be the one raising his daughter. It's quite clear from all decisions he has taken till this point that he doesn't know how to take care of his daughter and has no plans to learn either. He:

*Remarried a year after wifey died so he won't be alone with the kid.
*Saw his kid being maltreated and offered to send her to her grandparents instead of sending the woman packing.
*When that failed, he came here asking nairalanders what to do as if anyone of us would ever advise him to stay married to a lady who does not love his child.
*On top of that, when he responded to a comment, he asked, why are women like that? Obviously hammering on the fact that Op wanted a "nanny for his daughter".

I think we are both on the same page. If you understood what I wrote, then you would realize that my emphasis was on the man upping his game and doing what is right.

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

See how quickly you remarried without even getting to understand this woman's character.

You better stand up and put your home in order. The excesses you cannot curb now would soon become a monster that would hunt you for life.

Your new bride should be made to understand thst your daughter's welfare and stay in her father's house is non-transactional and that if anybody is to leave, it'd be her. This new bride should be made to understand that your daughter is top priority (or isn't she?). New bride should also be made to understand that the next act of unwanton and unwarranted wickedness towards your daughter would matched with unequal and greater level of consequence. Nobody can make her understand these things, but you.


Good luck!

Blupen969:
Lols igbo girl

You should take your apprenticeship more serious.

Blupen969:
You are fair in complexion, and you are in your final year in school a 4years course

You are right to some extent. I am at the verge of rounding up an 18 month programme, which summed up to about 4 years, no thanks to ASUU. So are you an (apprentice) prophet now?

Blupen969:
of course nah should i tell you something personal about yourself julian?

Go on, I am all ears!

Blupen969:
Oga na she been the hold your blessings

You are sure of this because God revealed it to you? Haba!

Ibukune:
I saw her and pity her. She was a shadow of herself, how did things change in just 1 year. She looked broke and unkempt, searched for her account details. Couldn't find it again, could have rendered my little help. Just few months she left me, God gave me my big break, I wished she waited a little while, we were together in the rough time, she left just at the eve of our breakthrough as struggling guys. I remained grateful to God, I had to pray for her. So emotional to me. But I wish her well in life.

This is really sad. Don't you have mutual friends? Please find a way to reach out to her "anonymously".

Eyinju112:
I had done this before, but for the wrong person.. That bastard was a liar, a very good one… I thought I was being kind I never knew I was been played. He had different fake stories to hit me then😂😂😂 if guy man hit me story, he’d burst into tears and be like he’s tired of living, and he wanna take his life… you see those statements are my weakness. I don’t wanna hear die😂😂😂 I’d send him money even to flex his friends so they won’t know he had lost his job and broke😂, infact I don’t have a car but I was fixing his car anytime it developed faults. Ano get car but I Dey buy tyre, Mention any car part wey I no know 😂😂😂 Omoh I don mumu oooo😂😂😂😂
Well God loves a cheerful giver, he was extorting me then but God never made me had the feelings, he kept blessing me. I wasn’t hurt because I spent on him, I was hurt because he lied about so many things that I can’t forgive. Till tomorrow he’s on my dm begging for forgiveness.

Lesson learnt is I don’t bankroll men anymore. I’m gonna spend on you if you spend on me. You’re broke, I’m also broke…. You’re generous damn it I’m spoiling you.

Wow!!!!

Farfalla:
No doubt about that. I have been on both sides of the table (as an interviewer and as a candidate) and I can attest to that fact.

However, I still insist that it's only those interviewers who've got their arses far deep into the 80s that employ rudeness and contempt as an interview strategy.

Your second paragraph is more like it. Surely, no modern employer would want to tow that path.

ChybuzzDD:
The plaques and scales look more like those of Scalp Psoriasis and not Dandruff.

See a Dermatologist for the accurate diagnosis and treatment, although psoriasis is difficult to treat.
But getting the right diagnosis is the first step in the right direction.

You can't treat Scalp Psoriasis with those anti-fungal medications you listed above.

Same thing I said. It's surely psoriasis. It cannot be treated, but can be managed.

7david7:
Good morning my people, I am writing you people at this delicate hour of 12:39am because my son's condition, it's getting worse by the day.

Dandruff wants to kill this beautiful boy, I know it's weird because we all know, myself included that dandruff doesn't kill, but watching myself lose a part of my son everyday.

He's been suffering from this condition for over 6yrs now, we've gone to the hospital and after buying and using all the prescribed drugs (Nizoral shampoo, selsun blue, head and shoulders, tea tree oil, miconazole cream, ketoconazole cream, terbinafine cream, fluconazole tablet, terbinafine tablet: almost killed my son, griseofulvin etc) nothing has changed, instead it's getting worse by day.

From complaining of headaches, to weakness (my son that was filled with energy and plays all the time now barely moves, he is always one place complaining of tiredness and pain), to joint pains, to confusion.

According to him, this dandruff has ate up his scalp so much that he can now taste his bathing soap on his tongue the moment he washes his head. We are now scared of washing and applying anything on his head because he will complain of tasting whatever we put on his head in his mouth and he will start having reactions. It's almost as if the skin on his scalp no longer protects him from outside soaps and other ingredients.

The moment he washes his head, his lips and tongue will swell up and he will start having reactions. My once active and lovely boy is now a shadow of himself. He's refusing to play, always complaining of tiredness and pains.

Pls help me my people, I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried every hospital and everything, I've done all I know, and now I'm watching my son deteriorate gradually before my very eyes without having a clue what to do, pls I beg you, help him, help me.

This looks like psoriasis. Please consult a dermatologist.

Mabizeka:
Thuggish woman. You have shown your dirty hands and people now know exactly who you are. Adamawa people dodged a bullet.

On this, you are right.

Ladyhippolyta88:
You made the allegation you prove it. In the court of law you don't give excuses as regards your sauces I mean "sources".

LOL! Sue me to court and I shall do well to defende my case, but only after you prove to the court that my "sauce" is far from being plausible.

stopthecycle:
So my elder brother just got married to the Love of his Life. I got to know his wife's family about two months before they got married. The lady has a younger sister who is super attractive, intelligent and nice. We've been talking for a long time and got close and we really like each other.

But I feel we are doing something wrong. Is it okay to date my Sister in law? Some people keep telling g me it's a taboo. I need advice...

I doubt if it is a taboo, but enquiries to be double sure.

Ladyhippolyta88:
You don't have any "sources". I did not say anything that concerns the bolded you made the allegation not me and you read it online.
Nigerian politicians don't earn anything on a clean slate so try not to put women to high moral standards that men don't set for themselves.

We shall continue this dialogue when you prove beyond reasonable doubt that I do not have any sources.

sonssyo:
well ,i'm very much aware of the write up above.
However, i have drafted the policies that will be guiding the company in line with the line of business.
It doesn't mean that i will give them free hand, you work alongside the policies.
But the truth is that everyone will maintain his or her lane and do the right thing at the right time.

Good!

Farfalla:
Allow me to differ! Displaying toxicity to test a candidate's patience? C'mon! That interviewer displayed pure nonsense. Very unprofessional behaviour.

An interview generally serves two purposes for both the interviewer and the candidate;
1. Is the candidate a right fit for the organisation?
2. Is the organisation a right fit for the candidate?

1. As an organisation you want to know what skills the candidate has that are relevant to the post. Do they have the relevant experience? If not, do they have transferable skills from their previous work? Are their salary and benefits expectations within your budget? What is their approach to tasks? Do they have a clue about what is required of them? Have they done their research about the organisation? Can they explain the gaps in their CVs? Are they switching careers? Are they switching industries/sectors? If so, try and find out why? Do they respect people's time (punctuality)? How do they communicate -- how do they pass across their points? Do they come across as abrasive? Unsure? Timid? Blunt? Diplomatic? Shallow? Intelligent? Level-headed? Are they the think-then-respond type? You also want to know what drives them? What motivates them?.....etc.

2. As a candidate you also want to get more than just a glimpse of your potential job and employer. Are you being interviewed for a new position? Is it a replacement? What is typical day like in that role? Is it an ambiguous role? Do they value people's time and money? Do they conduct themselves professionally, or do they conduct their affairs like agberos? Are they casual? What is their tone like? Do they weaponize fear? Do they display "muscles" during interviews? if yes, fear is probably a tool used to drive their organisation. What are their working hours? What are their working styles?.... I could go on and on.

Any employer who uses bad behaviour to "test patience" needs to review their HR policies. I'm glad she turned them down. If someone shows you who they are, believe them. I am an example of somebody who walked out of a toxic work environment. Yes. I resigned. Let those who get turned on by toxic people seek them out. I have also turned down a job offer because they were dishonest about their renumeration. They displayed a particular juicy figure in their call for applications, only to turn around and tell me that the salary -- which they themselves announced -- does not fit into their budget. Those 1969 interview tactics administered by semi-illiterate village champions need to be completely eradicated from the face of the Earth (along with those long, fake fingernails that resemble miniature swords).

The picture you painted here is ideal, but you and I know it's not always the case. Often times, interviewers throw offsetting questions at prospective employees for whatever reason known to them.

sonssyo:
imagine the MD carrying herself as a goddess, that's how they make some staff to be engaging in diabolic act in order to get favour.
I will sure become an employer of labour this quarter but my staffs will be my friends, you will hardly know who is who

What if it backfires? I think your environment (staff) disposition to work should determine whether you would be an aristocratic or laissez-faire leader.

pharmezee:
I went for an interview. Got the highest mark, I was called for second round and with the grace of God I got the highest mark, only for the HR to say I don't have any experience for the role I applied for 😂 😂 😂

Their loss, I guess. I am on a job that I have zero experience on prior, but presently one of the best staff.

Hamachi:
I once had a very terrible interview experience. I applied for a HR position in this organization and I was invited for a first interview which turned out okay. They reached out to me and scheduled a meeting with the MD of the organization and that was where it all started.

On the scheduled date, I went there as agreed and waited forever for the MD to arrive, she finally did and I expected to get called atleast after 10mins but that didn’t happen.
After about 30mins, she came down with her entourage(Members of staff running around her to get done whatever she wanted) which I figured included her P.A.
I stood up to greet and she answered in a very busy manner and told me she had a meeting that was going to last for three hours and asked me to go, she’d send for me when she was done with her meeting.
That was 3pm already and my meeting with her was scheduled for 11am.

I left feeling sad and disappointed.
I got a message for another meeting with her, scheduled for 2pm the next day.
I showed up at about 1:30pm and she didn’t. I left again.
I really wanted this job because one of their cores is Learning and Development and I was going to be exposed to training people, which was an area in HR I needed to work on.

The next day, I was having lunch at about 2:30pm when I got a call to start coming, the MD was ready to meet with me, I booked a ride and went there immediately, I waited a while and she walked in.
She had a first meeting and I was asked to go in afterwards. At last! I thought to myself.

I was before the beautiful, elegant and well spoken boss. She carried herself like a goddess and that was super cool.
She asked me to sit and said it was going to be a very quick and unusual interview.

She was so cold and I got nervous , I lost answers to every question and I wasn’t allowed to land before getting interrupted for the questions I had answers for. It was a disaster.
It wasn’t up to 10mins and she said we were done.

The worst part now!!!
I walked to the door(an electronic door, with an inscription “do not touch” on the button.) I was certainly not used to this one.
I asked politely if she could assist with the door, atleast tell me what to do… Then she goes “FIGURE IT OUT”
I did figure it out on the next trial and I left�.
The next day, I was asked to come in for an offer. I replied by pouring out my heart. I told the messenger I wasn’t interested in working in a toxic environment.

Getting your dream job is great but a toxic environment will kill your dream for the job.

What an experience! What if the delay and toxicity meted at you were deliberate to test your patience?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Do you have proof of the allegation and is it everything you read online you believe?
Who gave her 2billion that she will waste it to only bribe the REC and not the entire INEC or Judiciary. Lol

Madame, that is my state of origin and you don't expect me to "out" my sources here for security reason. You also, should not believe everything you read online. As much as we would love to have a female governor, it would be better to earn it on a clean slate.

Ladyhippolyta88:
You think both parties didn't rig?
None are saints either mandate could be stolen.

"All fingers are equal, but some are more equal than others". The said winner br*bed the state electoral body heavily (2 billion naira). Surely, if rigging alone would suffice to earn one the governorship seat, she would have done that.

Esortigress:
I so much want Binani to win

We all do, but not on a stolen mandate.

Esortigress:
result of dating multiple men while single. Well, some women are polygamous(polyandrous)in nature

This might not necessarily be the case, reason why couples are advised to be spontaneous.

farous:
Please is there anything wrong that husband,wife and children all have and sleep separately in their respective rooms and bed.

Must husband and wife share same bed and room to define intimacy/closeness and bond between them or what can be called martal bed.

Personally, I love the idea, but I don't see it thriving because an average Nigerian partner would consider it mundane.