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queensmith:
awww speaking in tongue doesn't change your person. From my understanding some can do it and some can't. My mother speaks in tongue- incredibly prayerful, she can rock the house when she begins her sessions.
You invite her to the latest owambe and she's a completely different person, she will have the largest gele and rock the most expensive belly chain. It doesn't change her at all. Even when she started working for deeper life, her character was still there it was just a lil suppressed in her display.

Your thinking too much into it, I think because of your limited understanding of the bible and the holy spirit your perceiving things differently. Your spirituality is a completely different relationship. My spiritual being has changed many times but my person is still the same.

Don't let these things affect your relationship with your wife. If she has less interest in things it's for another reason.

Being baptized by the Holy Spirit will only change your personality if you continue to fellowship deeply with Him. Nobody goes into deep fellowship with the Holy Spirit and remains the same. Everything changes! I had an encounter with the Holy Spirit when I was 14 and it changed my entire life. I would up for hours praising and worshiping God and I would be blinded by light (in a dark room) and speak in tongues for hours. I would worship and praise God so loudly and so consistently that my mum started doing the same thing in her room (across the house) and became baptized too. And then our neighbors started joining in and walking up to me during the day. I really can't and won't go into details here (too much personal info) but that encounter CHANGED my life! My grades shot through the roof! I became wise beyond my years and I was an automatic leader where ever I showed up. Yes, it changes you deeply but only if you continue that fellowship. Of course, all that "personality" change disappeared as soon as I started college in the US and backslid into this glamorous and sexy world! I am slowly making my way back, but to be honest, that kind of spiritual experience scares me but I know God's Will will be done. Amen.

jennykadry:
^^^IS it not cool to have a mum like that? a mum you can ask questions and get answers from? a woman that stands on the gap for her kids if she smeels any rat from miles away? I mean, this poster has got no idea what he's got in his house.

There are times when one prays and prays and prays and you are still not sure of what to do, what I do is pick up my phone and ring naija, speak to her and gbam I get my message.

Gosh poster,you have someone that will help build your home for you very well by the grace Of God and you are complaining? see how devil has just entered you and is ready to use you to destroy your home? o'ma se ooooo

Thank God for my spirit-filled prayer-warrior Mum or I would be a dead man by now. Nothing like a praying mother oh! Nothing on this planet Earth is like it! When I was living the life of a young, fly rascal in the world, her prayers reached God and God touched me in unbelievable ways. Her prayers and incessant supplication stood in the gap for me and I am forever grateful to God for using her in my life! (Yeah, I am a momma's boy and I am VERY proud of it because I have the best mum in the world! )

Although all of my formal education rejects the very notion of God, my life's experience with Divine Intervention and with the power of my mum's prayers stand as solid testimonies to God's unbelievable power and grace. He is The Merciful One! He is the Great I Am for real! Oh, I could testify forever and ever but not on Nairaland oh! This place is just for fun and back-sliding only.

Analytical:
@Moremi2008, seriously you mean you posted all that?       Thumbs up!  Poster, please take his advice seriously!

[size=3pt]Moremi2008, I think we need to have a chat.  I mean what happened to you? [/size]

I don't mean to insult you, but I am not interested! I can only have as much fun as I do on here if I can keep my real life and my NL screenname as separate as I can. But seriously, why are you acting all surprised? I have mentioned on here several times that I go to church pretty regularly (twice a week is a LOT of church by US standards). I don't go to church because I have to! I go because I am saved, you dimwit !

Something just got riled-up in me when I read this man coming here to complain about what is probably the most wonderful experience in his wife's life! Like Aunty Jenny said, this should be a source of joy and thanksgiving to him! Instead he is coming on here to complain about it! Yeparipa! May God not allow the devil to use us as vessels oh!

This section should be renamed: "Housekeeping" or "Good Home" or "Housewife Blues" or "Getting Your He-Goat Husband to Help with Chores". Geez! Have you tried the search button? There are at least one thousand threads on exactly the same topic.

oyb:
kanye west is strongly political, if i'm not mistaken

i remember how he was dissing bush in the aftermath of katrina

But D'Banj doesn't know this. He has never followed the news, remember? All he knows is that he is now on Kanye's label and thus, above the rest.

LOL @ TV000 with his senseless epistles!


OP, there are many ways to "test the spirits" so to say:

1) Time: Please give this relationship time. It takes a while to know the true heart of a woman, especially a woman that is determined to marry you. A determined woman can hide her true self for months and may not reveal it until the giant rock is on her fingers and she starts to play the role of "wife". Date this current lady for a while (at least a year) before you even hint at marriage. A woman that loves you will wait (at least for one year, sometimes more).

2) Use your brain - Love is blind is a saying for fools. Love with the ultimate goal of marriage is not blind at all. In fact, it has the sharpest eyes of all. Please, study and examine this woman well. She isn't going to be perfect (nobody, not even you, is perfect) but make sure that you can live with her flaws. Most important, take special pains to observe her when she's in a bad mood, unhappy or under a lot of stress. It is in these "non-ideal" moments that her true nature comes out.

3) Surprise her - Yes, do something she does not expect. For example, get her a relatively inexpensive but thoughtful gift for Valentines or for her birthday. See how she reacts. If she gets angry and complains bitterly (or even threatens to leave you), then you should see this as a red flag. A woman that truly loves you and is in the relationship for the right reasons would be rightfully disappointed but she would keep that disappointment to herself because she would hate to lose you over something so trivial.

4) Listen to your loved ones - They can see things that you can't see because you're blinded by emotions. Be especially careful if she dislikes your family and long-time friends and tries to keep you away from them. It might mean she has something to hide or sees you as a prized cash-cow that belongs only to her.

5) Pray - God still answers prayers oh! Pray on your own for guidance and pray that God should reveal the depths of her heart to you. When you're getting closer to proposing, organize a few weeks of fasting and prayer together. A relationship that's founded on prayer and God is the type that can endure the challenges of marriage.

Always remember that no job, no matter how wonderful, lasts forever. Think ahead, spend judiciously, save, avoid flashy "owambe" real estate but invest in income-producing properties that can support you in lean times and remember that cars are not investments (they are expensive machines of finite shelf-life and rapidly declining value that require maintenance and repair).

Good luck! May God grant you the grace and the wisdom to make the right decisions in this crucial time of your life.

dayokanu:
odikwa risky

What does this mean?

cap28:
^^^^^

exactly - and instead of being grateful to the people who made him rich he has the audacity to plead ignorance on an issue as important as fuel subsidy removal - what kind of ingrate behaves like this?

what stopped him from showing solidarity with all those people who came out en masse in ojota park to fight for justice? why wasnt he there along with Femi and Seun Kuti, Sina Peters and many other illustrious nigerian musicians who actually care about moving nigeria forward?

honestly this guy is a complete write off.

I think he feels above those musicians you have mentioned. After all, he is now signed with Kanye West and is a bit above Nigerian riff-raff politics.

ileobatojo:
The fact is he never said he was born again but gbam to the rest of your post. We were just trying to tell him gently 

But he is claiming Baptist! I am pretty sure you need to be born-again to be a regular member at that church! The most born-again, spiri-koko person I know was born and raised in a Baptist church and she has been a spiri-koko sister since I met her in secondary school. Anyway, you are right. By their fruits you shall know them. Not everyone that shows up to church and calls out "My Lord, My Lord!" is truly serving God.

Abeg, e don do! The crisis is over and the lady is now happily reconciled with her husband. You bitter ladies need to move on! Yes, I am talking to both of you: Ugly Thief and QueenCellulite.

What has light got to do with darkness? How did you two become equally yoked? Bros, are you sure you're not possessed? I have never seen any Christian husband complaining that his wife is now filled with the Holy Ghost and his house is no longer "fun"! You mean "fun" in the worldly way, right? Are you sure you are a born-again Christian? This is the strangest thing I have ever heard from a Christian husband and the replies so far are full of all manner of dead works.

This man is resentful of his wife because she is now baptized with the Holy Ghost and instead of rejoicing and seeking this baptism for himself, he is complaining here on Nairaland and seeking ways to stop the flow the Spirit. Here is the good news my friend: you can't stop the work or the move of God. If you are a born-again Christian like you say you are, then you will know that your only recourse is to get on your knees and seek God's face for your own encounter with the Holy Spirit. I am sure your wife is also praying for you. Why don't you pray with her everyday for the next month and see what happens? Do you now want to start resisting the Spirit in your wife's life or start making her life miserable because of her fellowship with the Lord? Do you want to become a stumbling block, thus inviting a visitation of God's wrath.

Have you tried following her to her church if only out of curiosity? Have you asked the Holy Spirit for your own baptism? Have you gone to see your own Baptist pastor for advice? Do you think you can find good spiritual advice on Nairaland? There is so much wrong with this thread. I don't even know where to start from. May God give you the wisdom and grace to do the right thing. Amen.

Me too! I want my conjugal rights! That man was my best friend in the university!

What is Nigeria turning into? Why are men so quick to abandon their wives? The man should approach his wife in a conciliatory way and beg her. Marriage isn't easy and the man should be able to tolerate occasional beatings from his wife.

A impending disaster in every ramification. I am pretty sure the IMF's dirty hands are behind this. Look at the Euro Zone crisis and tell me why any sane country would want to join a currency block? So Nigeria will be expected to bail out Togo? Hahaha! Total disaster!

I don't think most Nigerians even know what airbags are. Prolly never even seen one before.

chamber2:
^^^

In fact, this has been my view on NL ever since. Those who attend(ed) state universities are not necessarily average students. Most of them could either not bribe their ways into the so called BIG 9ja unis or are/were made to go to state unis based on numerous other reasons.

In fact, someone just informed me that she even made a 2.1 at IMSU but graduated as overall best at the law school. I don't know if this is true but i will contact her personally to verify that.

It's really not about UNILAG, UI or OAU, she also surpassed graduates of other prestigious universities in the world who also attended law school with her. I am sure there might be Harvard, Cambridge and[b] Princeton graduates at the Nigerian law school this year[/b].

Princeton doesn't have a law school! Dodosh!

Ejiekwu 1:
She is indeed a true daughter of Imo State. Its in the blood.

Right on cue!

Praise to all the Igbo people in the whole wide world! Our daughter has done us proud oh! Praise be to Biafra! Ojukwu's spirit of excellence lives on in our daughter!

*dances ojuju Igwe dance in raffia skirts*

Thatdave:
moderators deleted my earlier post in the first page
but am glad many others have seen what am seeing.

D'Banj handled the interview perfectly well.
He started nicely but when the interviewer turned silly, he finished the chika of a person and called off the interview ASAP!
'. . . My publicist didnt tell me this was a political interview. . .i have a concert tomorow GBAM!!!'

^^^^ This is why Nigeria is upside down. Human cells walking around without an iota of cognitive capacity. A tragedy of epic proportions.

Thatdave:
moderators deleted my earlier post in the first page
but am glad many others have seen what am seeing.

D'Banj handled the interview perfectly well.
He started nicely but when the interviewer turned silly, he finished the chika of a person and called off the interview ASAP!
'. . . My publicist didnt tell me this was a political interview. . .i have a concert tomorow GBAM!!!'

Who gives an interview @ Sahara Reporters without expecting political questions? The guy is mentally challenged jor! So embarrassing!

I like Ify's suggestion. The ultimate passive-aggressive solution! Just do it! However, be prepared for your landlord to feel empowered going forward to screen all your guests and visitors.

queensmith:
Its funny my boyfriend is the opposite and made it very clear that if work were to part us for more than 6 months then we shouldnt bother continuing,
If work takes you away for the week then sure, what if he was in the army? Or if he was a pilot or an aircraft attendant? Certain jobs don't allow for the parents to be around much so it makes sense there.
otherwise the dude probably wont even have a choice and is just running his mouth? Hows he gonna live like a divorced man paying alimony? Hows he gonna afford it?

Ok. But seriously, things happen and given that a decent man's priority is providing for his family, a job might move him away from his family temporarily. It's a difficult situation, sure, but I have seen many families deal with this successfully. The important thing is that it isn't a permanent separation (one year, max) and the couple see each other regularly.

Unfortunately, this post makes no sense. What does Sodom and Gomorrah have to do with the pic? When did grinding become so scary and evil? Abeg, vamoose!

davidylan:
boring.
1. Your wife shld be ur partner not a weekend roomie
2. Would you be ok being apart from your babies that long? I cant.
3. S[i]e[/i]x is a must every night.

Abeg! I never get pikin, until I do, I won't know how it feels like being away from the kids. Staying out-of-town during the week does not preclude nightly sex oh!

Sounds like the perfect arrangement to me! Party/work during the week; and family & church on the weekends. Rinse and repeat!

violent:
Good thing this has been resolved on OP's terms.  Hopefully there won't be a next time.

Your brother is quite peaceful tho, i hope God may give me the level of patience to "only warn" a spouse who's being abusive to my sisters.  In my world, warnings take too long a time to deliver the needed result, a time that i can't afford!. . .US has been warning Iran for ages, and guess what, the assho[i]l[/i]es are still hell bent on manufacturing nooks.

GBAM! You beat my sister, you're either getting beat-up or you're going to jail. Pretty straightforward type of deal.

ronkebp:
And you are saying all these because you are a man. if it was a woman that slapped the husband, all you men here will tell the man to kick the woman out of the house. Marraiges will only survive if we all practise empathy.

I swear I was just about to post this. The same "rational", "practical", "be a doormat to save your marriage", "allow-one, two, three or four-slaps-maximum" folks on here would give the opposite advice to a man that was slapped by his wife.

It's so sad that their education has failed them woefully when it comes to critical thinking. That they can't see the hypocrisy in their arguments/advice is just tragic.

Thankfully, I am a big fan of evolution. It's my prayer that in 1000 years, eediots and their defective genes would have completely died out. Amen!

tkb417:
u dont know Fhemmy on Nairaland?

haba

I know he's a car dealer and it's part of his job to famz and ranka dede to build business. Are you by any chance in the market for a new car? That might explain all this enthusiastic praise and adoration!

PS - Bros Femo, abeg carry on oh! I am just saying my own. Please don't let any man knock your hustle!

Fhemmmy:
Thanks again for this great thread . . . .

Bros, you too dey famz, haba! Kilode?!

adelegan1:
See talking about agriculture in paper is very interesting. It is jst like a fary tales. I have nigeria politician for friend that is  former minister of nigeria and presidential candiate of nigeria he told the only thing he regreted in his is to invest in agriculture. It keep doing it because he is stuck in the bussiness.

I want to help you and please my question straight. What state do you live in?
Invest in production of cassava starch the farmer will harvest and bring the product to you.a tonne of cassava is 7000 naira.

Do be the farmer be the proccessor. The processor will always cheat the farmer. There is no price regulatary board.


If you need cheap processing machine go futa or fiiro in oshodi they will help to  build washer,piller,chipper,drying machine, hammer mil and bagging machine.
A tonne of cassava starch is sold for 120k. That is alll for now. A man without experience is an optimistic man.

Uncle, a family friend retired as a top exec for a big bank and then used his retirement savings to start a cassava-processing business. The business flopped big time. I don't know why or how the business flopped but not all cassava processors print money. The guy knew the ins and the outs of business (he spent most of his career giving out loans to big Nigerian businesses) but he still failed.

PS- Your friend fell for the Obasanjo Farms fallacy. A lot of people actually believe he makes lots of money from that farm but I highly doubt it. It's just a giant hobby and money-laundering scheme.

chaircover:
Maybe I am soft in the head but what is all this going to achevie? My problem under the circumstances will be to deal wih my husband so that things like this do not repeat itself. The girl insulted me because my husband allowed it

As for me ooo I leave these kinds of fights to God cos I trust that He will do a much better job than I can ever do.

Besides if the husband is the type that says hen hen shebi that was before me married nko? that was then; this is now or what if the girl had alread confessed to her husband about the relationship? Its slim but there is a possibility that he already knows.

Peronaly I will spend my energy putting my house in order. If there was no gap in my wall no lizard will get in. The lizard has gone now so I need to start filling the gaps in my wall rather than spending time going after and trying to kill the lizard that has already gone.

I agree. There really isn't anything to gain from beating up this woman besides a petty sense of revenge. But but body no be wood and sometimes revenge can have a really sweet triumphant taste! But there are other ways to exact revenge that doesn't involve physical violence.

chaircover:
See this one trying to pour sand in my gari . . . . do you know how long I have been on this matter?? 

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-568603.0.html

Comot from here before I pour the sand in your eyes 

How did I miss that thread?!!!!!! But honestly, I strongly considered the X5 but I find it too big for me and I am a guy! How can you even get an X5 through London streets? Or do they manufacture a different type for Europe? The X5s in the US are a bit on the huge side! Have you considered a Mercedes M-Class? That's my mum's Sunday Church Car in naija and she loves it to pieces because it's the perfect size for a lady. She only uses a much larger Prado for day-day runs with a driver. But then, my Mum is dainty and pretty so it makes sense that she hates driving large SUVs. What do you look like Madam CC? Are you tall, hefty and muscular like Ujujoan?! If yes, then the X5 might be the perfect car for you!

*runs to go and hide*

ronkebp:
Dayo you can say that again, again and again,  you know i thank God for where i am today, maybe i would have joined in the ''runs'' stuff, and that is only because i have big aunties and cousins ''runsing'' about, iAnd i don't mean some cheap ladies, i am talking about highly placed ladies. that ought to be financially independent with the type of money they are making at their jobs, 3 of the ladies i am talking about have already built houses and well furnished in lekki, and they have been calling me to come home that we will ''hook'' me up, i just look at them and laugh, because i feel they are empty inside, that is why they  are into all these nonsense runs.

Most big society ladies give sexual favors in exchange for money. It's the sad unfortunate reality of Nigeria. I personally know lots of big women that made it to the top with sexual favors and jazz. One particular woman is the most spectacular example of the big-time runs game. I knew her well when she was a broke, uneducated "business" woman living in a 3bedroom flat in Ikeja because she was my Mum's really close friend from way back in the day. Now, she's probably worth at least $20-$50mm from stolen national cake. She hustled hard and slept with the right people at the right time to get to where she is. I know this because we spent a few days at her place in Abuja and early one morning Uncle Segz himself was lounging in pajamas in her sitting room chewing pako! Before Uncle, she probably slept with half the Yoruba senators. You can't knock her hustle oh! She is one premium obanje pussycat, old as she is.