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Is this not that MFM girl?

Didn't know she's still wrestling

Congrats girl.

Haaa the question during the arise one was something like this 'How do we prevent losing Foreign direct investment to neighboring countries like Ghana' and this was the also response.


Shame catch me honestly

Not really interested if this particular story is fake or not, its worrying to me because I have heard of this scenerio, its getting more common than we know.

Older well connected men who want to violate younger men before they can give them a job or contract.

Its worrisome

The only reason why peeps are talking about this again is because the man is dead, 20-25 years ago some have already discerned what they should about the ministry.

If you have the spirit of God in you, when you enter a place or even watch the person preach on TV you should know if he is under the anointing of the spirit of God or he's a false prophet. The number of miracles don't count, accuracy of prophecy, visions, even the deeds of charity don't count they could be sacrifices as far as those that can discern can discern. Lots of people can see beyond some of these things.

Jesus said False prophets shall arise and deceive many. It is a certainty that we will have false prophets among us.

Christians should be more in tune with God and you will know if a prophet is a true prophet, the spirit that lives in us will tell us but alas most are carried away by miracles.

Anyway the bible has told us

Matt 24 24
24 For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect.


It is well

Let me guess she's a well known person in church hence the trauma.


If you know what's good for you don't abort that baby, open up to the appropriate people Her parents, Yours etc.

Inform those needed to be informed

Plan the wedding ( church wedding is now out of it)



I can't even believe you are even considering terminating a pregnancy because of what church people will say, or fear of how they will now view both of you - now you want to use a sin to cover another one? Is that what the Bible teaches? What hypocrisy.

I love him dearly but the answer is no


He was a very good father to his children but not a good husband to his wives.

Why would the make up artist post this.
The bride knew
The make up artist would have been told before hand that this is what will play out.

Why is she now taking her frustration out on the church.
Didn't the bride inform you that she will rub the make up off when going to church and you will have to start all over again and didnt she pay you for this service?

Why right does she even have to post the lady's picture claiming this and that, did she even tell the bride about her intention to post her picture? Very unprofessional of her

What's the aim?

To smear MFM for a rule both the members and non members know?
Hyperventilate all you want they won't allow you with makeup / extensions for solemnization, everybody knows this so.....

I still don't get the aim of her post?

That said, I still don't know how comfortable some Christians are with hypocrisy, if you want to wed in a conservative church, its better you look the same way throughout as their rules state.
If you are not comfortable with the doctrine hundreds of bible beleiveing churches allow the use of make up, your wedding won't be less recognized if you wed in one of those I guess, so what's really the stress for. Infact there's really no point attending a church you don't believe in their doctrine sef

Not by force to attend/ wed in MFM or deeper life na shuu.

bukatyne:
I have read the OP and it is like drama.

I am still wondering what initially trigged the husband:

Is it the proverb 'money will come & go however people would remain'? Aka people are more important than money?


Isn't it a very common Yoruba belief with its sister phrase 'eyan laso' people are your covering?

Did I miss something?

I was wondering if I missed anything too, had to read the post twice.




@ topic you should have just enlightened her on the financial aspect that's all, I even suspect she needs help in the shop thats why she took this first apprentice like that, the matter no reach this level of being a G.O fagunwa on her in the shop na, kilowade. She even apologized as you said.

You now told her you would appreciate your eyes not meeting her that night, ontop wetin na , she took the threat very serious and maybe she was actually scared of what you might do that's why she called her people and her father told her to go to your fathers house which is not a bad move.


Op this matter is not up to this level at all

Ungrateful wife because of this matter ?

Nawa

I priced Ijebu garri yesterday they said 1,800 - 1,700 last price.

I was like whey for one paint rubber?

No don't let the elder brother do it on the behalf besides the system will even reject it.

Just keep trying till the baby cooperates, you can find some of those private centers ( i think they charge)around with less crowd, baby might be scared of all the crowd hopefully soonest baby will cooperate.

I can relate with this.

2k -family of 5 for 6 days with the way things are expensive, e go hard ooo. Only dinner abi morning afternoon night food?

If you buy one paint of Garri 1,200 -1,500 and cook okro 200naira twice in the 6days, for dinner Okro sef is expensive they put like10sticks 100 naira.The whole 2k is gone for dinner with patchpatch soup alone.

It is well ooo, food is crazily expensive, even sweet potato is now pricey.

I really don't get what the whole brouhaha is about, shouting simp and all what not about the thread.

OP wants to fight for his marriage because he beleive s things can still be better, that's his own view and principle.

Cheating is terrible and it hurts the partners deeply, so sorry for what he is passing through.

Some marriages have survived worst and he wants to give a chance.

Nawa, once you sort this out try not to have dealings with the security forces, especially the army, most times it ends up sour ,they always have the belief that the uniform gives them the right to be a law.

A sane person would have taken the offer of negotiating the cost of that correction like you said but he will not do it.

GerogeI:
Bros, be truthful.
You started the whole thing, with your "it's my money attitude.

1. Your wife does not know how much you earn? How then will she size up or manage her expectations of you? At least if you do not what to tell her the truth , tell her what you want her to think.

2. You swallowed the red pill? Are you married or just dating her? You think marriage is about red pill. You have been acting quite stingy for a bred winner, not for what you did not give, but for the suspicion that accompanies everything you give.

3. So tell me, your wife, a tailor says she wants to open shop as a priority before getting married. Knowing she needs are career and to earn money. You said no no no, let's spend 1 millions plus on owambe. Effectively she got her people to open the shop. Probably with what you paid as bride price. Now you are going to Facebook and whatsapp snooping trying to control that income that you refused to help establish.


I think you are immature and not ready for marriage. Poor lady is responding to what you are moulding her to be. Money conscious. Money means a lot to you, and she is learning to match your attitude to survive Do you know how many men that pray for a wife that says give me money to start some work. Most ask for money for hair, dress, or even ask you for a house for her family, but yours asked for something that could feed both of you in hard times, yet you acted like a jerk.

She is not your responsibility till marriage, you said so bluntly and hurtful. "Very legal Bro." But now she responds in like manner telling you she is not the bread winner to spend on the family, "Very Legal too" you now come to nairaland to seek advice on the foundation you laid. I think you are a simpleton masquerading as intelligent.

I salute your submission,



You get the whole drift, he started it she is continuing it, some women don't let go of stuffs like this, they will now clearly define your roles for you. ' Sebi my family open shop for me shishi I no go contribute from that shop to the house ' sounds harsh but that's what she's doing . Is it wrong maybe maybe not but peeps forget what you give is what you take whether he bought fan/ furniture for that same shop she wont even remember again.

You don't tell her how much you earn and you are monitoring her account balance like a monitoring spirit? It doesn't make sense. He's busing whining about 7k wife dashed somebody

He doesn't even have any right to complain she's only giving him back in full measure abi is he not the head again? Is he not meant to provide again? Oya dey provide dey go naau.

Some peeps are harsh like that.


That aside its because of this small issue that he wants to send his wife packing, instead of sitting down with her and sorting the matter out. Loool. He doesn't even seem ready to get married. I also find it strange the OP mentioned ' my pastor pastor said' several times on this thread, is that how his pastor told him to be relating with his wife at home?

Instead of being open to his wife he's busy giving an example of his sister that bought jeep for her husband, if his sisters hubby was behaving like him will she buy a car as a gift for him? He should better go and learn from that his pastor how to be a better husband.

Loool, welcome to the world of toddlers


Nothing is wrong with the baby joor

Enjoy the phase while it lasts

Been seeing this over watsap for 2 days now, nice story I hope couples learn from it.

I doubt he was sacked for disclosing salary.

Is he a full staff of ministry of Env. Or a casual worker?

Is the amount allocated to those workers more than 35,000? If it is then we have a story, if not there's nothing more to it then.

His degrees are not relevant in this case because we all know he didn't use his degree to apply for that Job.

The original title i read before it hit Fp just mentioned her birthday, whoever moved it to front page had to add cleavage so some set of people will click.

Was thinking its another set of pictures apart from the one I saw initially.

I was watching a YouTube clip about the journey from conception to birth and one thing the narrator of that simulated clip stated is
An egg, a sperm and a miracle is needed for pregnancy to occur
I kept wondering about that statement, it was a scientific simulation non religious then I realized that achieving pregnancy itself is a miracle, all other factors maybe constant and pregnancy may not occur.


So keep on having sex , before, during, after ovulation and pray/ hope for a miracle to occur.Hopefully all other factors are constant.

It is well oo

savcy:
You're quite observant. I'm not saying that the manner with which kids were raised in those days was particularly perfect, but this tilting to the Western way is dangerous. The results are there for all to see. Our family system is fractured and, I don't even think there's a way back from here. The change is irreversible. It's only a matter of time before a 10 year old would address his father's mate by his first name. The difference in social orientation between Nigerian kids born in 2000 upwards and downwards is so different that, you just don't understand it anymore. 80s and 90s kids know to greet seniors, stand up, if you're sitting down, before shaking an elderly person. They know to leave the room when elders are engaged in a discussion. 2000s kids don't know anything about these things because the system that's supposed to introduce these etiquettes to them is destroyed Parents now just want to buy every gadget available for their kids so they can be distracted enough to give them some peace and quiet.

You see the bolded is so true, I cringe a whole lot when I see the way lots of kids born from 2000 behave to the extent that when I see a well behaved teenager nowadays I am always in awe and yes we still have them around, on closer observation I realized their parents took extra effort not to allow those children drift away with the current reality and I salute them.

Those of us that have little children, now is the time to instill those values, once they are 5,6,7 ( children these days learn fast) the character is already formed, all the morals you will instill between the early ages matter a lot and most parents get it wrong here.
You teach a child basic things when young,

You really want to start teaching a 10year old to knock before entering or Greet elders? Good luck.

It is well oo

I don't believe in sharing clothes with siblings/ family/ friends but since you and your brother do share clothes he could at least have allowed you to wear the new shirt before he wears it, its commonsense it doesn't matter if he bought the shirt or was a gift from his girlfriend.

It doesn't really make sense to me to rent an apartment now when you will be serving in September .

Continue running your business for now mobilize for NYSC , grow your busniess and savings then decide if you will get the apartment. A whole lot of factors can change .

Why the rush? I don't get it.

If its Tunde kelani its going to be a good movie.

obimag:
if he travels to US he might end up washing dishes in the a restaurant. However, it is all about pride and lack of business IQ. Also a lot depends on your approach. There is absolutely nothing wrong for him to wash the dishes and even join you in transforming the business .

I dont know why I find the bolded amusing

Some men are actually praying for a family business they can run with their wife to feed the family, peeps are ranting about a man washing plate at a ( his wifes) restaurant? in this Bihari economy where peeps are looking for how to survive, the money she would even use to pay an assistant can be saved sef if hubby is there assisting.



I can't relate abeg.

felix10:
I feel for the lady.

The man joblessness is not an excuse not to assist the wife in such manner.

What stopped the man working with the wife for the expansion of the business,where both of them can partner together since he is jobless.

And he can still continue his job hunting.
After all in my area,there is a restaurant called Toko/Taya cool inn and restaurant.Which is operated by both husband and wife.They cook all manner of food and people like us eat from there.

Whatever work we engage in,the endpoint is to make money as long as is a legitimate business.

I will advise the lady to search for him and apologize to him, discuss the possibility of running the place together and if he says no,she should get a helper who can assist her in the restaurant.

God bless.

@ bolded thank you for that.

People are looking for means to survive in the country,one person is vexing because he doesn't want to wash plates for the business that feeds his home, issorait.

Don't really get what the whole write up is about.

Churches have a right not to wed pregnant ladies,some won't even wed you if they hear you have had sex with your intending spouse and its not like the groom is exempted from the blame, why making it seem like its only the ladies that are blamed or did she impregnate herself, the churches know the couple in question.

That aside, churches have their rules a lot of churches will never wed a pregnant bride and some will. If you really must have a church wedding find the one that will wed you with pregnancy.

bukatyne:
If you cannot vouch that your wife (since we are talking to men) is 'different' and geninuely loves you, then do your findings properly before bringing her to the West.

Understand the laws and loopholes to your advantage and disadvantage. Understand how you are expected to conduct yourself and study around from other's mistakes on what you should and shouldn't do.

The above is a grim situation and I can't survive in a marriage like that however if the bird has learnt to fly without perching, the hunter has to learn to shoot without aiming.

You see the bolded is where the problem is, lots of Nigerian men still have not learnt how to conduct themselves over there, for some it still business as usual as if you are in naija where anything goes.

Looool see drama.

Senior olori possibly didn't want junior olori to cut cake with them argued with Oba elegushi about it ,when oba signalled for junior olori to come , senior olori actually made attempts to leave the stage about 2 times, elderly woman intervened and she stayed. Junior olori knew better and jejely went to her husbands side, didn't have any interaction with senior olori.

Just this small drama oba is squeezing face , the ride is still very long ke?

Is the elderly woman the obas mum?

Nothing much just normal polygamous home drama.

Didn't see anything wrong with the clip I just watched.
The AGF was the one that goofed, Seun asked him the question that led to that answer.

You guys should leave the guy alone jare

Very unnecessary conversation

You were bragging that what if you bribe this and that to what end? What were you hoping to achieve with that convo. The energy you used in trying to 'joke' as you put it would have been channelled into saying ' I have been here before , I am actually next in line'

Very careless talk that has landed someone a query. You do not joke with bribe in some institutions, you could have 'joked' with something else.

Imagine if it was someone else that might have the power to open an investigation on the branch and the staff that you discussed with.

You are also having a feeling you did a wrong thing probably why you opened this thread.


Finally, you left your money with the cashier and stepped out?