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Justina carnea

Got to know it from a thread someone opened around february


https://www.nairaland.com/4999846/what-name-leaf-please


https://www.nairaland.com/5000474/what-name-leaf/1

If you can get a good job around agbara cost of living is low around those areas, house rent very fair, food stuff cheap and Ijanikin morogbo, agbara environs have stable light.

Well I am impressed

Dygeasy:
You people complained when people were overpricing their stuff. You all said this is a clearance sale thread.

Now, someone is selling his things at not-so-expensive prices that aligns with "clearance prices," this bros is still complaining.

Anyone buying anything of high value should demand for a receipt of you don't feel secure and are scared of what you are buying. This should put an end to the issue of tagging someone's goods as suspicious because the person is not putting g exorbitant prices on them.

Loool.

People know the right thing to do, they prefer to just talk and talk.

Its very simple, if a price does not go down well with you, negotiate if he cant sell at your price then waka pass. How difficult is that?

If you feel its 'suspicious' ask for proof of ownership.

How people cant understand this is what I dont get.

Sam2310:
Good morning breathen, Please is there anywhere in the bible that teaches Christian to collect money for the first sale of the day?
I mean like u want to buy something credit and the seller will say something like "Na u be the first person of the day, i can't sell credit first, wait small make i collect money for other person hand then i sale the credit to u"

its not a biblical/christain issue its more like a culture thing.
The belief is that if you sell on credit for the first customer of the day, your good through out the day will be sold on credit.

Same way some traders wont want their first customer of the day to go without buying even if they have to sell at cost price, they believe if the first person doesn't buy, thats how other people too will behave though out that day.

Some wont even want some particular person to patronize them first for the day because they believe he/she has a bad hand and sales that day will be poor.

Kenmatt:
Laughing out loud!

Money can not do anything. With the money they have, she does not even have peace of mind. That is why she cannot sleep at night. Is she the only nursing mother on Earth?

However, let me drop this as a pill for anybody that wants to sleep like a new born baby.

When you try this, just come back and say thank you Kenmatt.

Make a tea with an ice water, if possible, a very cold water from the Fridge, use it to make your tea, when you finish drinking the ice tea, lo and behold, you will sleep like a new born baby.

I am almost certain you are not married or even lived in the same apartment with someone who had a baby.

Marriage26:
Thanks to everyone that came round...


But let me clear some misconceptions, I didn't bring this up here to convince my father or seek emotional comfort.. I have made my decisions, I opened this thread to show my fiance what is applicable and clear some doubts.And to keep record for my kids and other future purposes.


Now let me clear some misconceptions in the many comments.


1)

One year of my mum's demise ( some of us might misquote this English again, demise means that she had left this planet, I don't want to use the actual word) had already passed


One year done pass teytey abeg

2)

. My dad is very rich, I am not 0000000000000000000.000000 near him yet.


3)

I met my grandmother today (my mum's mother) and I narrated my story to her, I was expecting her to pick phone and called my dad and beg him, she didn't , she just called her children, and said, we are following him for marriage, she spoke with my in-law and told them they are coming. She told me my father never paid my mum's bride price.

4). Am not painting my father bad. He is a very good and nice man, But once he says something, you can't change him from it


Now here is it, In my lineage, they don't go to in-laws place or have cordial relationship with them. Women are generally seing as piece of paper I did lots of works to remove this ideology from my brain cos it's what we grew up to see.


On my father's part, it's more of ideology, it's more of believe system. He also advise one of my female siblings to just get Belle, even if it's for married man cos men are scarce now, you can see it's just his own believe and ways of life... But you can't remove this from him.


We do had issue with course I studied in school, he rejected a very course close to medicine and surgery. I begged him to let me continue that following year, I will write Jamb again, he agreed, I did and passed till I entered 300level, I was still writing Jamb grin.

When I finished the course, he advised me to start law. I was so short of words.. After I had Bs.c in a medical related course, you are now saying I should go and study law. I prostrated and thanked him. I never went back, just picked up my business fully grin.


So to roll with my father, agree with him quickly, infact thank him the next day, then do what is on your mind and show him the result. grin



I will surely share my wedding photo here... Thanks to all.

I think the bolded is the main challenge your father has.



Your grandmum not making an attempt to even call him about the issue speaks a lot.

Wish you the very best in your marriage.

The womans claim is true 99.9 percent

I would advise no one to have any dealings with the Nigerian police.



Mtchew.

Marriage26, you said you are the first person that wants to properly get married in your family.

You think its easy to break that jink, oga get on your knees and pray, fast, do vigil join, seek counsel, let your pastor or group members join you in prayer too pray like you have never done before.

Whatever you have to do to get his approval do it because its important to have his blessings, if it takes you waiting for sometime more do it. You ve waited for 7 years, some months more wont make any difference.

Ensure you sort it out with your father, wait for the customary 1 year after your mums demise. Dont lie to him that your fiancee is pregnant, dont sleep with her also just because of pressure, do it the proper way

Your fathers case is not too hard for God to handle, orishirishi cases like this one. He would crack last last.


I wonder how people left the main topic and start advicing on how hes not slept with his fiancee for 7 years, the fact that most are loose doesnt mean everybody is having sex, some still try to keep the bed undefiled and honor God with their body.

Not an advocate of divorce but they were not even married to start with.

And that man had shown signs of irresponsibility even before the fame came to them, the fame came and the cracks in the relationship began to widen. When they were broke his wife came to hustle bread with their daughter in Lagos and fame came, he should have tried to hustle too.

What sane man wouldnt use the opportunity that his wife has connections to better himself, that dude would have learnt skills, gotten good opportunities.

What is it with akwaibom and accusing innocent children of withcraft

Its simply because they have realized from experience that sex cannot and will never keep a man

A man that will marry you will marry you.

I have always been a no sex before marriage advocate anyway, saves you a lot of head and heart ache.

If you begin to sleep with all the suitors that come for your hand, how many will you end up sleeping with.

kike100:
Thanks to the people that reached out!!



Vacuum cleaner 10k


Pick up - Anthony

Is the vacuum cleaner still available?

What about ekedc and Ikeja electric, when will they engage the MAPs

Those ekedc are rogues.

Omudia11:
Too many dumb advices. Listen, anyone who can tell you to your face that he doesn't owe you happiness is a monster and is not worth your time. That dude don't care about you so good luck wasting more of your life with him.

A person who truly cares about you will guard their utterances towards you and will know that his happiness is your happiness

Nice points.

Pkingman:
On her relationship with me at home: She is a perfect partner.. Very friendly and jovial, respects me.. Despite her busy schedule, she still takes out time to keep the home running.. Cooks and does chores, without bothering me to assist.. I hate domestic chores ..we have no maid because she said she doesn't need a maid. My mum and hers take turns to visit and assist.

On Intimacy... Good.. Top notch.. Na she dey rush me sef. We play, pray and laugh.. We even watch football matches together. We both support Arsenal. We hardly quarrel.

On social functions : She isn't the very outgoing type.. More of an indoor person but we attend dew occasions together and she acts just okay... Not cold, not overly excited.. But if we take pictures together, she will never upload that but will rather upload her personal picture.

On gifts : I don't know if it's because she has her own money and can easily afford anything I buy for her.. She has never asked me for anything, even cash I give her because I believe I have to. She only says thank you, no excitement at all. Is this how independent women act?
I complained about this to her parents and siblings.. They said that's how she is.. But I don't feel good about this.. It's so not feminine. As if I am not adding anything to her.

On changing my attitude towards her : She doesn't even want me to put her up on social media as well.. So if I stop that, it won't bother her.
I can't just start giving her cold attitude at home.. No reason for that. Besides, she may just enjoy the space and shun me.. That will be to my own detriment because she sure knows how to keep to herself and mind her business while I can't .

My concern is that my friends, relatives, colleagues show off their partners and celebrate them online. They take pictures and post.. They use their spouses on their DPs.If I don't do same, won't people think my marriage is having issues? And my wife being the reason for this just doesn't sit well with me. I am uncomfortable about it because normal women don't behave like this They are proud of being married. They are usually crazy about their husbands and look for every opportunity to show them off,display gifts and all that... How many women will husband buy new car for And they won't show off online, at least on whatsapp? Even though she already has a car she bought before we got married, I thought this will be different, being a new car and a SUV...Haba!

The 1st bolded is your main problem OP.

I also don't post pictures of my husband on social media, did it only once on watsap dp very briefly and removed it, I dont show him off in anyway. I once cropped him off a pix when a friend wanted to see my wedding gown style and I sent it to her on watsap, some people still don't know I am married. I do not show him off, I have NEVER wished him happy birthday on SM, doesn't make sense to me anyways. Didnt post pictures of a 'big gift' he got recently on SM all I said was thank you from the bottom of my heart and I am crazily in love with him

Just letting you know that theres nothing wrong with your wife.

When did posting or not posting / showing off become a factor in marriages.

Joshmodest:
My bone of contention is the VC was not professional in his response ...two wrongs has never and would never make one right, the VC lacks self control and that is the main reason he got insulted, by the parents in the first instance....
All those supporting him are either jealous of parents and students of private unis, or trying to form disciplinarians..

He lacks self control?
This is someone students stoned with pure water sometimes back, the Dapo Asaju I know from Lasu is not one who lacks self control.

The parents and students asked for this, now they have it.

Loool, prof Asaju has always been strict and one that has high moral standard from his days at Lasu till he became the chaplain.

Both the parents and students must have really pissed him off for him to write this.

The students and parents are in for a very long ride if they think he would reduce the standard. At worst he would resign.

Lots of indiscplined children everywhere nowadays.

How will a student be taking indian hemp in a private school for that matter.

At least you should not be found wanting in 'learning and character' as a graduate. These ones have stoned prof asaju with pure water before.

I find it strange that people get angry over 'she didnt tell me she's pregnant' matter.

Its not compulsory your sister tells you shes pregnant neither is it compulsory you tell her you are pregnant. Shikena.

I dont even believe in announcing pregnancy.

You tell oo, you no tell ooo last last when you born we go hear.

Much ado about nothing.

Chai seems something hit her head. Lord let there not be any permanent damage ooo, let them all come out safely.

Easy for people to judge sha.

She might have been overwhelmed with a whole lot of stuff on her mind.

I didnt even know it was released in 2015, just started listening to it last year.

I agree with crackhaus



However, let your desire for your father not be financially motivated. You are right to want him and you should, just not right now

You will still find him last last but let it not be now that you need his financial help.

Its well lighteast

Sometimes I think the reason some come to this thread is just to comment on the prices people place on their products.


How difficult is it to state what you think you can offer for the product or waka pass.

Nawa oo

GraGra247:
I've lived in Lagos and other states for donkey years. Visited Ikeja, Festac, Surulere, V.I, Ikoyi and all others more than a thousand times.

There's no where in there places women are feeding men.

If it ever is happening by any margin, it'll just be an insignificant 1% of households.

You think they will carry placards with ' I AM FEEDING A MAN' boldly written.

Hmmm

So if you get pregnant again and its a girl you ll continue trying according to him. What if you dont have a male child after 10 girls what will happen?

Besides dont think its the male child issue thats making him cheat and do all sorts, those traits have always been there it just had the right excuse to be expressed.

mightyokwy:
The question is were you living with them?. Put your self in that guy shoe. Imagine seeing the woman you are living with disrespecting you all the time. The worst case is this issue of coming home late at night without explanations. Don't you think that the guy deserve explanations. It's over two years since she turn celebrity but she couldn't use her connection to get the guy a good job If it's the other way don't you expect the guy to carry his family along. Pray you don't find your self in such condition. My advice to the guy is go out there hustle like other guys and provide for his kids in a little way he can. He should just forget Jumoke, both of them are no longer on same class.

The question should be 'is the guy ready to hustle.

Jumoke hustled her way to fame,

Is he ready to hustle or he wants to be collecting money from jumoke.

Getting a good job might not be easy because I dont think he has paper qualifications but he can always hustle, sell building materials, learn handwork, plumbing materials even transport business as long as its legal hustle.

Coming late at night is expected and how do you know shes not explaining to him, even 8-5 female workers come late too.

You are talking about respect, how many women will respect a man that cant go out to hustle something. Even if na ordinary chop money he brings he will be respected more.

A whole man not doing anything for 2 years.

Abeggii

The man should follow your advice, let him go and hustle shikena.

mightyokwy:
Was she disrespecting him then. When the guy was the bread winner he wasn't a gold digger now few years after the lady has made he become a gold digger. Bro pray you don't depend on a lady for survival.

Bros even when jumoke was a bread hustler, the guy wasnt even the bread winner.

Who leaves his wife alone to come all the way down to Lagos to hustle to fend for herself and baby was it not when she became famous that he came back.

Even when there was nothing he wasn't really there which might not be his fault because maybe he was poor, what I cant seem to understand is why now that his wife can establish him or even connect him he hasnt made use of that opportunity. Heared he does aluminium window(dont know how true this is).

Why wont he work for two years, if jumoke didnt come to Lagos to hustle will she get her big break.

How will you sitdown for two years doing nothing thats unforgivable.

What job was the guy doing, at least we know jumoke came to LAgos to hawk bread from her hometown. She was hustling.

How will he not work for 2 years, which kain thing is that, now that she has connections shey he cant use that one to promote his handwork?


Some people dull sha.

Now its the womans fault she is famous,he should siddon there and not use his wifes fame to improve him self.


Lots of Nigerian men cant handle their wives success.
The blame the woman crew are already having a field day.
Nonsense

4tunebest:
Ole l'o mo ese ole e tò.

Eni ile mo ba ni barao

Hmmm deep.

Reptyle:
The man has achieved his aim...he has got everyone talking about Babajide Sanwo-Olu.

The man's campaign strategy will be a case study in universities very soon. How he turned a hitherto unknown name to a household name in just about 4 months.

Genius!

Pheww finally someone says whats on my mind.
Sanwo olu has campaigned very hard, if quality of campaign equals being Governor then hes governor already.

I didnt even know there was an app now I might check it out.