₦airaland Forum

nuzo:
Very wrong analysis my friend.
In fact the reverse seem to be the case.

I was chatting up a young lady from Uniport. . . . the young lady was just about the same age with the lady that was supposedly violated in the video. Guess what her response was when I advocated for life imprisonment for the rapists?

"No be she carry herself go there?"

To the best of my knowledge, Nigerian women have contributed much more than their male counterpart in making womanhood a "joke" in this country.
What are women doing about underage marriage. . . or is that not a more serious case of violation?
What are women doing about circumcision?
The list of how women have aided the menfolks to bastardize their self worth and turned them into objects of sex in Nigeria is staggering.

I wish you were lying

Not really suprised that johndoe is a rapist but the other two guys I seriously pity you people. Only God knows how many people you have raped. I guess a girl needs to stand up and say with all the seriousness in her face when she says no. Next we will blame the girl for waking up that morning. Hopefully your victims will speak up

ifyalways:
OP,Chin up and carry this cross bravely.Better days are coming.

You met and married his unemployed a55 so why the fuss now?

A few GO wives sold their trinkets to support their husbands during the early days,today their fly the best Jets[b],reaping where they sowed[/b].

Stay and sow with your pastor husband,church biz guarantees bumper harvest,always!

Btw,why is your husband ministry delayed?lack of funds,he is still undergoing training?Some folks here are wiling and ready to bankroll the biz,yes?

LOL. Where exactly did they sow. Nonsense. Anyway it is the people that worship them that I blame. Nigerians are always looking for someone to be their master and treat them like outcasts. Is it not hte same God they worship tha I worship. I don't even believe in that calling them Mommy crap. I have one mother. What sacifices did you make for me that I have to start calling you mommy. As a matter of fact I don't think I can attend a church were the wife does nothing. Both husband and wife better have income that I can verify LOL

blank:
Just reading through her past posts shows she is a pretender. U married him cos he was available as u were tired of being on the shelf at 35 years. He was insisting on pre-sex but u held your ground (so i wonder what kind of pastor he will make).

Now that u are married, your eyes av cleared and u av seen life as it is. It is your bed and u must surely lie on it. God forbid that you destroy "his ministry" before it takes off by divorcing him or rubbishing his testimony. It will not happen.

I know your type. I had a classmate that was so wayward in school and had 2 abortions. Her scandalous lifestyle was so well known that she ran away from Lagos to UNN to continue her studies. Now, she is 32years and wants to settle down. Saw a fine upstanding man of God and sank her talons in. God saved the boy if not his ministry would av died just as it was starting cos she still continued her ruinous lifestyle. U can imagine someone trying to seduce her friend's fiance a week to the wedding.

God no go gree o.

Blank you are way out of line. You have labelled her a prostitute because of what? Please slow your roll. Haba. It is not easy being the wife or even the child of someone who is actually called not to talk of the one that believes his calling means he should be lazy. Where there not things you overlooked before you got married? Everybody did. So why are you labellingher a LovePeddler because she is scared of what the future holds. When your husband comes out of no where and says no kids because he has no money and yet he does not want to work then you canlabel yourself what you labelled her. Is it now a crime to have regrets.

Sacarstic:
@Poster your decision to marry a jobless man is so senseless who is hoping to live on the proceed of other hardworking people,i guess you`re one of those religious bigots, i will advice you to face your marriage,sit with your husband and talk it over with him with due respect. If he does not see anything bad about it like he is doing right now then continue to feed him,it`s the challenge you will face in your marriage,every marriage has it`s challenges. Are you losing faith in your GOD?? Has he become the God that does not hear when he is called to act by his worshiper?? This is what happens when people fails to live up to reality but are hypnotized to believe in an all seeing and Miracle God.

Stop calling God. God does not reward stupidity.

I don't think we should be so hard on the OP. Starting your ministry does notmean that you cannot work. They just did not do their homework before the wedding

Caliente:
[size=13pt]One thing is very certain that incident did NOT happen inside any ABSU hostel. I think that's the point the VC and Governor are denying and not that it did not happen at all. I went to ABSU, the hostel rooms in the campus are nothing at all like the rap3 room in the video. Nevertheless the real culprits should be brought to book and not some hapless innocent scape goat.[/size]

They were not trying to make any point. They are pointless vagabonds. It was done by ABSU students. A responsible person will say we do not think that it happened on the premises but we will fish out those students because we cannot endanger or compromise the safety of our female students. Please don't make excuses for them

LOL. God please forgive me but I had tolaugh at the fact that this craze woman said they literarily beat the baby out of her. What a joke. You know this people are so stoooopid they think the whole world is also stoopid. Oh geez

bengreat:
@ OP how come you reply every comment made on this post, does it mean you keep a daily watch on it?

She gets an email everytime you post something? How else did you know to come back here and respond to obowunmi's post

bleeping bastaards

Orikinla:
If we follow legal terms, majority of Nigerian men are rapists, because they do not know how to accept NO S-E-X, NO VEX. Majority of them forced their girlfriends to sleep with them and DATE R-A-P-E is common in Nigeria. They even boast about their intimate exploits of forcing girls to lay them.

You are right. I remember when I first joined nairaland from some of the things I read it was clear to me that young Nigerian guys (I am assuming they were young) do not understand that NO is NO. I remember a specific topic where a guy was mad at a girl and he came on here to ask if he could just go ahead and rape her to teach her a lesson. Even the responses he got from people shocked me then. In another case another talked about how he and his friends had forced a girl. My friend also told me how it almost happened to her too when she was in UNIBEN. I happen to know some of those guys and honestly you would not think of them as rapists if you see them today but unfortunately they probably raped girls in their college days. Some of them think it is just for fun and at the end of the day it is a man forcing himself on a woman against her wish which in one way or the other is what these men see on a daily basis even right from their homes.

He is simply lazy. That is the short and long version of it.

These pastors need to focus on winning souls. 21st centruy ladies indeed. Should they be 16th century ladies.

My little sister got married last year. They do not want kids right now. She is still on birth control. Everybody has their reasons. As long as you both agree

You don't even have to tell us. It is obvious that this "friend" is a spiteful human being. Even if were true a normal person with any ounce of sense would not do such a thing down to even the persons place of work. SMH

The OP needs to get a life. Why is it your problem. You need to grow up and face your own house. This is some serious agbayaness going on here. Why did you not put the name of the childs school too. Joblessness

jennykadry:
No you are not harsh Outstrip. You hit the nail on the head. When I read her post I was like. . .naaa, I won't reply this thread, Seriously? A 3yr old only eating cerelac? Does she want this child to have malnutrition issues? If anything happes to that child, the mother will be held responsible for it. Even @ 8 months, mums are beginning to try out solid food on their babies. That child is still eating cerelac because the mum is allowing. I started with well cooked pumpkin and correct naija well cooked soft beans, then I graduated to rice.

Stop the cerelac, when she is hungry and does not see cerelac to eat, she will eat something else. Tears cannot kill a child.

Seconded

This is serious. Your child is probably malnourished. You are the mother. You need to train her to eat right. If she is eating only cerelac it is because you are allowing it. no child will starve themselves to death. Cook rice and stew and feed it to her. This is stubborness. Barring any major food allergies there is need for your child to refuse food. Honestly the only time I have seeing kids eating like this has been times when parents just did not invest the time to make sure the kids ate right. At 3 years of age the excuse of first time mother has expired. I hope I did not sound too harsh. Just take it like it is coming from your sister.

fateavon4u:
D major problem we ladies have is selfishness,impatience and lack of self confidence.i hv always depended on my self and my family if they dnt have to give,thats it.people say am too proud,always indoor,dnt visit and all that.upbringing nd peer-pressure(wanna bes) cld sumtimes b d problem wt ths gals.we all no dat ladies always want 2 look good and all that bt if u cnt afford it,u rest!!!.i went 2 c a guy,stayed d night nd left for sch d next morning.d first questn my big cousin asked was HOW MUCH DID HE GIVE U?.Omg!!!!.she then went on to give me a 1hr talk on hw nigerian man/guys r useless nd hw sum oda gal will eventually take d money frm him blah blah blah blah, It wasnt funny,she wnt to d piont of answering my call nd insultd d poor chap wt her sharp mouth/loud voice,i was so embrassed that i changed my sim nd moved 2 a friend's room till she left my room for good , basically,there is no difference btw u nd a LovePeddler if u always expect money after sex.thats just my opinion.

Sad but true. In Nigeria that they place so much emphasis on listening to your elders and not thinking on yourown. That is why so many young people go astray. I know someone who will struggling with school and was having a hard time getting by. He had other adults around him who felt he was just lazy because he was not spending cash like other family members who everyone knew where doing fraudulent things. Sometimes I feel that that generation spoiled Nigeria. The kind of advice some "elders" give young men and women is scary sometimes

Can only speak for myself. ALL HELL WILL BREAK LOOSE

It's weird that this just started all of a sudden after two years. Did you cheat on her? Did she cheat? Maybe she wants a stronger commitment like say MARRIAGE. It's been two years. How long do you really need to know if you will marry someone or not.

Da Doctor:

U GO TOO LIKE PRICK BE DAT OH! NA WA OH! SO NO MAN DON EVER SATISFY YOU BE DAT?

Why are you helping my case . Who told you all men only do in/out LOL

The bank is to blame. You told them to deposit the money into the account with your name and that account number. If they deposited it into an account that was not your name but the account number you gave them then they are still in the wrong. I hope you get your money back

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=763082.msg9188197#msg9188197 date=1316573424]Couple of questions:

Are all the girls/ladies you guys date/marry jobless or orphans?

Why do you guys make it your responsibility to supply them the material demands?

Why, pls why, do you complain and shed tears, after giving them their material requests and cash?

If this assertion about Nigerian girls is really true; then when on Jupiter will you guys realize that this is a CYCLE?

If one of the parties involved doesn't stop doing what they're doing--the cycle is gonna remain as it is.

The receiver won't stop receiving. Who doesn't want free money? The giver, on the other, can always stop giving.[/quote]Personally I think that men who are quick to give cash simply have nothing else to offer. They do not have game o jare. A confident man knows he has more to offer. If she is not feeling that then he moves on to more substance.

Don't you think you are being unfair. Granted she was 18 years old when it happened but the man was her teacher. He took advantage of her. She could have said no of course but he was in a place of authority. He took advantage of her innocence. I am sure she probably fancied herself in love with him. Honestly it sounds from her post that she might have spent many years imagining that things will be normal. It does not sound like she is a man eater or a fast woman. She was young and made a mistake but the man really is the irresponsible one here

Nayah:
Oustrip sister, re read I said "like other African sisters", means I know this is not a Nigerian trend and I used to say it here

I get what you are saying now Nayah. I was reading with my feet

Nayah:
^^ like others African sisters they should less be demanding

It is not different for other african women. I know Ghanaians and senegalese girls who live the same lifestyle. I rarely speak of other africans because I have not really lived or dealt with from an early age other africans. I am sure Nigerian females are not the exception

She needs to also take responsibility. It is your responsibility to ask and make sure that you are his next of kin. She dropped the ball on this one. I am pretty sure that Nigeria has no laws that say that the wife and children are entitled to at least a minimum percentage should a silly situation like this happens

Sometimes I wonder if african parents do not contribute the most to troubled marriages. On one end youo cannot get married because dad is on vacation. On the other end the parents have no boundaries. smh

For the average NIgerian female I think it is impossible

First of all your child is not a bastard. Was not a bastard and never will be a bastard. Just drop that line of thinking. This is were a diasgree with everyone else. I believe that if he comes tomorrow and wants to be a part of her life you should protect her. When she is an adult she can go looking for him with your blessing. Don't let him come in to ease his guilt and thenleave and carry on with his other family and your daughter will be devastated. She will want to know about her father one day but I believe it is not a good time now especially with his history of being a dead beat

I don't follow the man and I don't really know his teachings but this story is obviously not true. Why would someone own 30 vehicles? It's not like they are collector or vintage cars or something. Just basically 30 of the same cars. Not true.