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Unbelievable. I stopped at how much will you pay her to get you a baby. For real??

Without spending? What am I going to do? Look at his face? LOL. For me it has never been what we do but time spent together. Road trips are a lot of fun. If you like history and things like that you can take a short road trip and visit interesting places. A weekend is plenty enough time for that. If you have a week then you can rent an RV. You can do a lot of nasty things in that RV LOL. No be you get am so just unleash the beast in you LMAO

The sister is another thing. Cannot even imagine. The only reason she told her sister is because she wants the man to herself.

Of course black women get cellulite. It has to do with your diet and genes. Skinny women with no ounce of fat will eventually get it too. You obviously are not an ahewo If you have actually touched enough women you would have known that cellulite is a fact of life. I think people with a high vegetable and low dairy and meat diet will have less issues with cellulite

denzel2009:
The bank's internal control system is rubbish, he couldnt have been able to bypass the system to trade with such money without being signed off by a senior official. He is just a scapegoat, he would be rewarded abundantly after his jail term by those he covered their flaws.

Btw, this is not fraud, he is just overzealous. If he had made gains on the trades, it would have gone into the bank coffers.

It's so refreshing to see a blackman in a finacial history books and this clearly shows casino culture of investment banks. He should get a good writer to pen his biography and start teaching finance professionals about compliance and loopholes.

The word FRAUD is annoying to me. It is not fraud. Things will not change though. Until the next person gets too cocky and then he goes to jail. Makes headlines and disappears for a while. The cycle continues

I think she is just the light skinned version of Genevieve or the other way around. She came before Gene. She and Gene even have the same body type

N101:
@ Ladilgs - your sister needs to move as far away from this man as possible. He simply has an abusive sex addiction.

Remember your sister has daughters, your nieces. She needs to remove them from that kind of damaging behaviour.

But if she does not act now, and you all aware of his behaviour, the situation will get worse and he will take greater risks. The fact that the most recent assault you're aware of happened in the family home tells you he no longer cares or respects his family life.

You are right. This sort of behavior actaully progresses over time. This is not just kinky sex. It is a perversion. Soon it will not just be enough to rape them. Soon it will not just be enough to listen to them beg. Eventually it can even lead to him wanting to kill them. It does not just stop there. he does not want regular sex. He wants to cause pain. That is what he gets out of iit. He needs a psychiatrist and serious jail time

God2man:
You can remain calm. You can have a private meeting together where issues will be analysed and resolved. You can admit your imperfections and apologize. You can move closer to her, and allow the body language to settle the crisis. You can turn it to a joke. You could make her laugh. God will teach you the rest. Above all, wisdom is profitable in all things. You need the correct application of knowledge, which is wisdom, to resolve crisis in the home. God help us all. God bless you. God2man. You can remain calm. You can have a private meeting together where issues will be analysed and resolved. You can admit your imperfections and apologize. You can move closer to her, and allow the body language to settle the crisis. You can turn it to a joke. You could make her laugh. God will teach you the rest. Above all, wisdom is profitable in all things. You need the correct application of knowledge, which is wisdom, to resolve crisis in the home. God help us all. God bless you. God2man.

Absolutely. When it comes to marriage everyone really needs to check their pride at the door. There is no room for anybody's ego. It is important that both people feel safe enough to be totally vulnerable with you. If someone does not find that safety in a marriage then it will just be a waste of time. I know some people can stay married that way but in my opinion tht marriage is a fail

Good Girl:
OK. I know am going to sound so blonde right now, but am a bit lost (am not Nigerian so I don't know most of your 'inside stories'). Is that THE OJUKWU that I hear about? And is he [i]her [/i]husband? Does he have other wives?

He was married before Bianca. That marriage ended before Bianca. He also had some kids from that marriage. Yes that is the "OJUKWU" you hear about and he is much older than she is

He is a rap-is-t. What is his obsession with r-ap---ing them ana--ly. Is she sure he is not also having sex with men? Na wa. WHat does she want you to do for her. Now her childrens classmates all know that thier father rapes people an--ally. I am not sure anybody can do anything for her. she needs to decide what she wants. This is truly disturbing

I know this guy that bad mouths his wife so much he once called her aka nkita. He said her face looked like the hand of a dog. This is the one he said publicly. Only God knows what he said in private. I know another woman that would basically berate her husbands goals and dreams and now the man is doing well. When he was struggling everybody kept hearing how he was a lazy idle man. Imagine having to listen to that forever all in the name of being married. I think the only thing that can change abuse of any kind is first for the abuser to acknowldge that they have a problem and then getiing some professional help

They are bring used as scape goats. The rules are not very clear. If the deals were succesful then it wouldnot be a problem. He just got over confident.

Johndoe100:
This one already has an inferiority complex from way back. Sorry, try and be more white maybe they will accept you.

What does this crap mean - "dregs of society", "that would not have been in our inner circle", "You know that "those other people"". People who actually have don't speak like this, we were taught that saying such things is undignifying and is for the Ibo traders and people like that.
If we were to go and investigate we would find that she is a product of poor parents, you know those kids that saw others with stuff and could never have any. We understand.




Like I said before, we don't want to be white. If you have a complex and think white is right go and live with the white people. Then leave us alone to our uncivilized selves.

We are black and proudly Nigerian.

Are you upset that I referred to a wife beater as the dreg of society. If it annoyed you this much then I am obviously right. If you were not taught to respect women then what the hell were you taught. What do you know. Who cares if you are older than methuselah. You are trash. It is just the way I feel. Nothing can possibly change that. That is how I view people like you and it will never change. I am not white and I was not raised white. The fact that you are labelling people who do not condone demeaning another human being "white" makes you trash. Basically you are so delusional that you know something is right and you attribute it to white and then keep doing the things you do trying to justify it with your culture. Don't cry over anybody saying anything about your wife. The way you described the treatment of wives here is the way people treat a stubborn donkey. LOL at calling me the product of poor parents. Like having poor parents is now a sickness. I never wanted for material things. I never even craved them. i was not raised to place value inthose things. My parents emphasized value in morals not in the cars we rode in or the money in the bank. I know for you that is a big deal for me it never was. okpo. Don't respect yourself. Who knows you are probably married and she whoops yoru ass on a daily basis. there has to be a reason why your are so mad at women. Remove yourself from that abusive relationship and stop being so bitter.

I think this should be made a sticky on the front page at least until after the 24th. Goodluck on getting your loved ones back home

Ridiculous. I know someone whose brother in law was her OBGYN. It was not her choice either. I can vomit just thinking about it. Ewwwwwww

All cultures have wife beaters but it is culturally accepted in Nigeria whether we want to admit or not. It is not unusual to see a man beating the crap out of his wife in public and it was not even until just recently that a woman could take her husband to court. That is just now becoming mainstream. It is simply the truth. I have never seen anywhere in the US were a man is beating the lights out of a woman and nobody responds. In Nigeria when people respond it is usually to beg the man not to be too harsh. It is Nigerian culture to keep your wife in her place by any means necessary.

we also had a neighbor like that in Nigeria. The man was a drunk though. I just assumed that it was drunks or people that were the dregs of society. You know that "those other people". It was actually after I left Nigeria and met other Nigerians outside of Nigeria that would not have been in our inner circle that I realized that not everybody lived like us. The truth in what Johndoe is saying and I agree with is that Nigerian culture is born from a place of oppression and slavery. He has the mentality of a former slave that now owns his own slave. The effect of Nigerian culture. If any of us think differently is because we had that sort of guidance as children and our parents chose to ignore that part of the culture and raise us their own way.

I will not recommend going for the adoption without your husband fully supporting it. FULLY. Not the kind of support you will get because you kept bugging him about it and he gave in for the sake of peace. I have seen where this even ended in divorce. Why not try to wait a few more years. I feel for you but don't rush into this both for your sake and the sake of the child.

splitnaija:
WARNING! WARNING!!WARNING

No cheating by any woman (under any guise) will be tolerated!!! Only men are allowed to cheat so they don't wade the big stick of taking a 2nd wife

You're warned!!!

Abi o. If we go by the reputation of Nigerian men in bed then all Nigerian wives should cheat. LMAO. In/out does nto mean making love

This is sad. Just a waste of people's lives. Rest in peace

Those vehicles are so overpriced it has to be a joke

If miss france was more pretty I will get her point. Angola is by far much more pretty than she is

When someone is that ignorant you don't even get mad at them. Just pity them. The highlight of his life is probably the fact that he gets to scan people at the airport

Shoving around is never acceptable. A woman who gets that physically agressive should not be married. If she plants herself in the way after after hiding the key then she might start hitting if the man gets spare keys and just leaves anyway. I feel that is a step closer to hitting him if she actually plants her body in the way when he is clearly trying to get away. It is better to be divorced than in jail

The topic should not be changed. Domestic abuse on women is a huge issue in Nigeria. It is a national embarassment.

divalishis:
@Ileke IdI
The day some men die, their wives would dance a little jig of freedom in the sanctity of their rooms; the way we all danced when Abacha died. . .nuff said. You don't need to acknowledge some posts. . .not all post requires you to go through the stress of typing, k?
Just ignore. . .in this case, ignoring is golden!!!

Already happening. How many Nigerian men have fallen sick in the US and died here. it was obvious what the women where waiting for. So disgusting. People in Nigeria are very good at suffering. The way you see some of these old widows behave is crazy. As soon as the man dies they act like they just broke out of jail. Don't worry though they earned it. They have their "suffering" to show for it

Nayah:
ronkebp, you know reality and fairy tales are complety different, marriage is a marathon
I've never said I 'd leave him having an affair crossed arms but come on my sister, being a Mrs is an everyday fight, but a spirit fight my dear, not everything is achieved by shouting or agressivity, sometimes subtility is better

1 Knowing and observing your husband
2- Making him having shame of himself

No marriage is not a fight. If you want to sentence yourself to a life of struggle then put on fatigues and go off to war. This whole idea of a mistress sharing his bed and you sharing his life is hog wash. Who told you that you share his life. Please this is just a lie women tell themselves to accomodate their failures. If a woman does a better job than you in pleasing your husband sexually while you pat yourself on the back because "you are sharing his life" then you have failed as a wife. The woman sharing his bed does she have two heads. I don't even know what philosophy you go by. It's like you have that mentality of letting him fail and then he will come back running. That does not only make him a bad husband but it also makes the woman weak as a human being not even as a woman. If the only time he wants you is when he is ashamed then he is definitely better off with the mistress