₦airaland Forum

Ayobiggie59:
I dont even know any tangible thing I've done since morning. This doctor after delaying after several hours came and told me to stop d amlodipine and vasoprin d private doctor prescribed for me. He wrote out some tests and said it will cost me 11k. He said he'll need to do it in another hospital but I'm suspicious cos d test can be done in the teaching hospital. He collected d money from me and took my blood and urine sample right in his office. He told me to come back on Monday for d result. I'm.just been suspicious abt d whole thing......This place is a teaching hospital I

He wrote some drugs for me and told me to get them but I can't afford them cos I've given him all d money with me. He told me to buy Cocodemol Realflex and Clopidopril.


Medical personnel in d house pls what don't advice cos I'm still in d hospital and I feel like going back to him to collect back my money.

Even d Ecg test that took me there is not part of d test.

Sorry bro.

Try to take things easy.

GboyegaD:
Some things we read about are annoying. How did this doctor advice his clients on medical issues?

Always seek a second opinion to any advice given to you by a medical personnel unless it's an emergency.


God help us.

kambili999:
A lot of people on this nairaland are very toxic. Some are even mocking her for marrying the man.

Well, here is one thing, this world is a spherical place and everything we give comes back to us one way or another.

I don't know the woman personally, but I am very happy for her. She must have been through a lot and I give it to her. She is very brave to have still chosen to get married.

Now for you people saying ill about her, you think it's easy to come online and type rubbish. Just be careful how u talk about people.

This is one of the principles for long life.

Don't speak evil.

Walkee:
I didn't quote you twice. Airtel has lost their mind. It's fine. I normally don't particularly "shame" any gender. I criticise both males and females online. In real life I couldn't care less.
It's actually both mtn and airtel

Okay, have a nice day.

She will still mess up until she gets sense.

Walkee:
I can say whatever I want. Women shame guys all the time. Broke, small penis, virgin etc. A 40 years old female has basically expired

You had to quote me twice.


Expired rich ladies want to spend their money on vacations now.

Omo, Seychelles is calling!!!!

It's their money.

Walkee:
I can say whatever I want. Women shame guys all the time. Broke, small penis, virgin etc. A 40 years old female has basically expired any man who settles for such is a morron except she's super rich and ready to care for them both

Exactly.

We are saying the same thing.

At 40 ladies are now making money except for special cases. So, marriage is now optional except for special cases!


Rich ladies prefer to have babies on their own now, no more husbands.


Surrogate+IVF is bae now.
Ask Ini Edo.


Just face front please.

Vicktorhmustjap:
what am I telling her? I didn't fvck anybody na... So it will just pass like that... I no fit for woman wahala

Any decision you make will only reflect back on you and your marriage.


I only gave you advice meant for a serious husband.


It's up to you what you want to do with it.

YourFavorite21:
if many women can adopt this method ,many people no go dey barren.

Yes o, in fact, rather than marrying the wrong man because of pressure, they'll simply wait, make their own money, choose a suitable husband or stay single, then have a child or two.

A 55 year old divorcee with 2 kids is the same as a single never married 55 year old lady with 2 kids.

All are single mothers.


It's even better sef, no drama, no nasty in laws, no messy divorce, no property fight.


Just peace.

Walkee:
plus do you even know if they have money for such jamboree?
Why not just take one of the billions of unexpired females

Whatever rocks your boat.


But stop age-shaming ladies.


If you can't do IVF with them, leave them alone to do it on their own.


Since they have expired to you, they can still live out their desires with or, most of the time, without you.

Zico777:
Oh! It's a private institution don't forget more like a glorified Secondary school.
They buy food in the school and are not allowed out of the premises.

Of course, but for an entrepreneur, there is always a way.


About your brother, buy provisions and take them to him.

Zico777:
What has that got to do with the situation on ground?

That is a business opportunity for someone.

Nicepoker:
you need serious education

Please Google it and stop embarrassing yourself.

Menopause is no longer a barrier to having children even up to 75 years of age or more.

Uyi168:
.. donate eggs.
ok,except that.

would she still have a biological claim over the child?

Absolutely. She's 100% the legal mother.

ufotty2001:
Your education is a total worst to d country.. why will someone else donate eggs to someone and the d person will claim biological mother

Is it this BAD?

Nigerians know nothing about IVF.


Please google about it and stop embarrassing yourself.


Even loooooooong after menopause, lots of women are carrying pregnancies to term. And as long as she gave birth she's legally the mother regardless of where she got the egg or sperm cells from.

Is the school far from town?

Uyi168:
.

do u even know how IVF works?

at 61,she is most likely not ovulating. so, where are the eggs coming from??

Someone can donate eggs to her, even at 75 women are still having children.


People need more education in this country.

Oh Kaffy, my heart breaks for you.

owlcity88:
Good day all

pls pardon my write up. i hava been dating this lady now for over a year now and i plan to wife her anytime from now, we both stayed together for awhile till she got her present job in an hotel in the eyebrow area of lagos state. we both in same state. the problem on hand started when a family member drew my attention to the fact that she was smoking shisha at work and she posted it but she rushed to delete it before i could view it. i was full of rage i called her immediately and she started giving some flimsy excuse of its her first time, she has not done it before and all that shit. i talked to her in a very harsh voice for her to feel my hanger.

but since that incidence i have been looking back, she just love posting any slight exciting move she makes, if i move to a new apartment for example she starts to snap next thing its uploaded on whatapp, i am a very conservatives person, i dont like either me or anything associated with me displayed in the show glass of social media.

i have talked to her over time about this but its seems not to be effective, no matter how much i scolded her she will still come back begging.

and i will like to ask this question is it advisable to marry someone that works in a hotel, mind you we both matured am 34 and shes is 27

Break up now.

You're not compatible and your family stalks her on social media.

Vicktorhmustjap:
. I don't wanna break my home bro.. it a good advice and actually the solution.. but you know women and how they react.. next thing na she will think I have been doing it. And asking how many women I have cheated on her with and those thier many funny and emotional questions

Your feelings already broke your home.


Only with the help of your wife can you put it back together.


At this point you have to decide which is more important:

Getting the side chick or keeping your home intact.



I hope you'll make the wise decision and I wish you well.

P. S. If you're afraid of her outbursts, see a counselor first to sort out your feelings, then get a mediator to come with you before confessing to her. Then you'll have to be transparent with her.

If you don't have a skeleton in your cupboard, you will bear it until things clear up and your marriage will come out stronger. You'll be surprised by how much she'll trust you after this.


P. P. S. You have to move that lady far away from your workplace and home before your wife designs her face out of anger.

I wish you the best. You got this.

Vicktorhmustjap:
I'm not here to talk about my business.. but trust me is far from the bolded. I have 32 full time staff aside part time staff... Focus and the challenges I have and give practical advice

You want practical advice?


Tell your wife you're falling in love with your employee.

Then see the speed at which she will solve your problem for you.



P. S. I don't think you have a problem.

E ti yó tán, È nwá békùnbékùn kiri.

Translation:


You are already full, now you're looking for someone to burst your belly.

kaffy4bill:
❇️ Thinking of having kids? If you are a man, there’s nothing to worry about, right?  

❇️ There are a lot of misconceptions around men’s fertility and with so much information out there, it’s hard to know what to believe.

❇️ So, i thought we would clear up three common myths.

Myth 1: Fertility, or infertility, is a woman's problem

It’s a common belief that infertility is a ‘woman’s problem’, but this simply isn’t true. In fact, men contribute to around half of all fertility issues. For about 20% of infertile couples, the problem lies solely with the male partner, and for about 30% of couples it’s to do with both partners.

Myth 2: It’s only the woman’s health that matters when it comes to having a baby.

This just isn’t the case.
There are a number of things that can harm the production of sperm, including:
• Smoking
• Drinking too much alcohol
• Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
• Heat stress from tight-fitting underwear
• Steroid misuse
• Coming into contact with harmful chemicals.

Myth 3: Men can continue to have healthy children throughout their lives

Another common myth around men’s fertility is that age isn’t a factor. While it’s true that men in their 70s, and beyond, can still father children, fertility, particularly sperm quality, is affected by age.

❇️ A couple’s responsibility begins before pregnancy, because both the egg and sperm are affected by both partners’ medical history and lifestyle choices. When you’re considering starting a family, you need to be in the best possible health and making smart choices around drugs and smoking, weight control, and management of medical conditions.

❇️ Men’s fertility generally depends on the quantity and quality of their sperm. If the quality of your sperm is low, it can be difficult or even impossible to get your partner pregnant.

❇️ About two-thirds of men with fertility issues have a problem with low numbers of sperm and/or sperm that doesn’t work as it’s meant to.

❇️ In the other third of cases, the issue is related to how the sperm travel, sexual problems (like erectile dysfunction or low sex drive), low levels of hormones, sperm antibodies or genetic problems.

❇️ There are issues associated with being an older father that could impact their children. There’s a higher chance in children being diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) or mental health issues as a consequence of their father’s age.

❇️ Infertility is a couple’s problem. If you and your partner have been trying to get pregnant for 12 months without success, even if one partner has a child from another relationship, you should both be checked by a medical professional.

❇️ Whether you’re thinking about having a baby or not, it’s always important to separate the truths from the myths when it comes to your health.


Your favorite Nurse

NurseKhaphie

“ when I leave this world, I hope to have emptied myself and be a blessing to my generation and the world at large”.

For the patience to type this educative topic, and for clearing the air on such a controversial topic, the ignorance of which has brought immense pain to women all over Nigeria.


Thank you.

Thank you so much.

aboyaji:
Thanks. You're wise. That's exactly what I'm doing now.

I only wish him well.


Guess what happened 2 days ago. Mom called and said "let your brother not repeat what he did some years ago".

What happened years ago? He had impregnated a certain young lady in 2014. Same person. Same occurrence. Who settled the matter? Family. And he's 3-4 years older than I am. Guess what? I wasn't close to him when it happened in 2014 and the girl in question came from an irresponsible money driven and alcoholic drunk family.

This new girl smokes weeeeeeeeeeeeeed. Story for another day.

And that punk assess of a kobo.junkie is talking thrash.

Anything to bash a female.


kobojunkie and I are not best buddies but since she responded based on the limited information you posted, don't turn this on her head.


From your posts, it looks like your brother has a pattern going on here.


Seems like he has two kids now, outside wedlock, and he has a penchant for women on the fast lane.

Your focus should be on him, not on the women. He should be the one to refine his taste in women. Good luck.

Danjikanbauchi:
Op let me gist you.

First go and make money, money stops nonsense. We are three boys in the family no girl, my elder brother married a lady from Kogi state, very rude and ill manners, little thing she get angry and words can escape out of her mouth, then God pick my call during the covid they where in lack I send 400k for my brother to start a business since his work stopped then. My brother make it obvious that we are his back bone she have no choice than to be calm.

This Xmas we all came home (kaduna) in the family house no body give a Bleep about her we can take our elder brother out and make sure he is happy, if she want to do any how to him and she saw me she will mellow.
Bro make more money. Money stops nonsense or you guys should avoid your elder brother.

This is so true.
Money stops nonsense

Rachel98:
I'm nice to her, sometimes I try to bring up things we could just talk about, but she replies me like I'm forcing her to talk.

She's too full of herself, probably because she's a PhD holder. Honestly I don't understand.

Try not to criticize people who are ahead of you.

Once you get your Ph.D, and you're properly married, you'll understand why she's feeling herself.

However, she's a little tough in my opinion but give her space. Obviously she's way ahead of you so if you show a little respect, she'll soften towards you.

Selecting food in your brother's house may seem rude to her. Watch her well, if she avoids doing what she complains about to other people, then maybe she's asking for the respect she is giving you.


Please reduce entitlement mentality this new year and focus on your personal achievements. Good luck.

Rosement:
You have no right to question God, you are just one of His creatures, you are a mere human being created from dust. You have not finish telling the president of your own country how to live His life, you are here trying to dictate for God, the greatest authority of all, you must be high on something. You did not enthrone God so He is not asking you for permission to continue reigning or ruling.

The president of a country has authority over the citizens and he has every right to give laws and punish law breakers. God is even more than the world president, He has authority over all of us including the presidents. He is the one that will determine your fate whether you like it or not.

Can't you see your pride is worthless? You cannot even go to the presidential villa to question your president and you think you can question the Almighty God. Have you forgotten that you are ordinary dust and you will surely become dust again? You are just an ordinary, powerless being that has no power to decide his own fate. You, an empty barrel actually think God will have time for your childish ranting, even Presidents don't have time for daily ranting of citizens.

I implore you, please focus on yourself and your spiritual life, lots of people are blinded by the veil covering their minds so they can't perceive the Truth.

Don't argue with them please.


We are in the last days, people will be getting married, having kids and doing life like nothing's wrong.

One shall be taken, the other will be left behind.

I repeat to you, we are in the last days.

Hunker down and pray hard.
Clean your dress, get ready, don't be caught unawares. May God help us.

Steep:
As a Christian I have eternal life through Jesus christ, atheism only offers hopelessness and death.
Even when things are rough on earth but I know I have eternal life which is far more than my temporary earthly trial.

May God give you more strength.

I hope you know that things are about to get worse. The devil is spreading unbelief in copious amounts and thousands of people will fall away.

Only by the Grace of God will we make it. And also the days will be shortened for the elect's sake. He that has an ear, let him hear.

Nevertheless, there are lots of God's children who are still untainted by this corrupt world.

In a short while this currencies we are carrying about will become useless, don't be caught unawares.

Please pray for more Grace for yourself and your loved ones. Pray more.
God help us.

Pablo9090:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders!!!, I will be brief and precise to the situation . It all started 19yrs ago, when my father chased my mother away and married another woman , I am the first born and I already have three other siblings , now we are ten , the second wife gave birth to six and she is still pregnant. My dad was financially buoyant to cater for the family because he deals on drugs and due to high demand money flows in but in the last six years things have changed especially when he had problem with Nafdac people , he was banned from selling drugs and he switched to motor parts business which is not as lucrative as drug business. Seeing d situation of things and having known first hand experience of bboth business , I choosed the drug business, since two years now I am doing well but my father usually gives me unnecessary expenses which am not comfortable with , I cater for my younger sisters in school to him it is not enough , he wants me to sponsor my step mum children too citing that am the first born and it is my responsibility , I am really confused , am yet to start my own family and this man is here giving me headache like as if I was the one that brought my step siblings to this world , please if you are in my shoes what will you do ? Please moderators take it to the front page

So, now that you are getting better financially, what have you done for your mother?



Let's start from there.

dacblogger:
The worst part is I can't tell him he actually sucks at it just to protect his ego...

It's the "protecting" for me.

Why protect his ego?

Burneracct:
Hello everyone. I intend to get married this year. I would like to have an idea of how much a simple wedding catering to 150 guests would cost. Note its in ogun state. I live in lagos. We would be travelling to her parents and intend to rent a hall.

You should be discussing this with your fiancee and your family.

Redman44:
Ondo State or Oyo State. They are viable states where you can settle down and start a Snacks business

Especially Oyo State with so many secondary schools and primary schools there. It is a biscuit factory's target market.

Just learn how to make Cakes, Chin-chin, donuts etc and settle in one of them. Cheers.

High cost of living will suffocate your allawee. Especially if you can't get a better PPA.
Most likely, you'll end up in a school where you'll get paid peanuts.

Mayyvin:
I'll be going for service in a few months and I've got someone who has offered to help me with my posting. She asked me to choose practically any state of my choice except Abuja.

Interestingly, Abuja has always been my first choice (I've got family over there--feeding & accommodation won't be a problem).

But since Abuja is out of the table, I'm a bit conflicted as to which state to pick.

First, I don't like Lagos. That's out of it.
Secondly, I don't want to teach.
Thirdly, I need somewhere with a considerable cost of living (cheap food and housing).

So basically, I need a state where I can begin life as a bachelor and hopefully, get a job or start a thriving business.
This means my preference would be a state bubbling with economic activities and a low cost of living.

I need your suggestions, guys.


Where would you suggest I do my NYSC, going by my aforementioned criteria and your personal experiences?

Pick Nasarawa. It's close to Abuja and you can have easy access to FCT benefits and be close to your family.