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At the end of the day, you elderly siblings will have to contribute money to move out and get a place for yourselves.



Leave the younger ones with Daddy and visit occasionally.


That way, your Dad will start giving attention to the younger ones and he'll have little time left for strangers.


You guys have made things too easy for him by caring for the younger ones in his place.

I suspect that since you're working, you're also contributing to family upkeep. Odikwa very wrong.



You're doing his job for him, so idleness has caused this latest venture.


Also, you stepped into your Mom's role after her passing, also wrong.
You should leave her place vacant and the man will do the needful when the time comes. It's so sad to lose someone so beloved as a mother and wife. But please don't take her place.


Give the man the space to do the necessary things like catering for his younger kids by himself, if your siblings come to you for anything, ask them to go meet Daddy. When responsibilities pile up, he will put on his big Daddy shoes and do his duties.

MrBrownJay1:
thats what the future husband must have thought, until she dropped his cheating deluded nyansh!

Please help us tell them that sexual prowess can never replace good character.

Emmanuelcann:
You are mostly correct in presuppositions and I appreciate your courteousness. I have been on Nairaland long enough to know how to anticipate and absorb insults where differences of opinion are involved.
To your question, I must be honest and answer - no, the women of the 90s aren't the same as the women of today, but neither are the men! There are good and bad people everywhere. As a general rule, like attracts like! If you were brought up to respect (men and women) and to fear God, I believe if you're patient and scrupulous enough you will find your female counterpart someday, somewhere.

A very sensible conclusion.

I really wish responsible men like you can mentor and raise young boys too.


It's becoming an emergency.

Solosolojohquay:
I thought she will overgrown it when she see onion in her foods she will pick all the onion one by one before she started eating that's when she is small now if she see onion in her foods she will reject the foods and went on hunger strike ,she will not eat fried rice because of all the green beans e.t.c instead she will prefer jollof rice that the onions is not visible or she will hand pick eat am afraid of what might happen if she travel out will she be on one diet through out

I still pick out onions till today, if it's not sauteed.

You have two options:

1. Add your onions earlier in cooking or sautee it.

2. Cook your own way and leave her with her picking until she can control her diet.


All children cannot be the same.


Don't make a separate pot of food for her, that's not good for her in the long run.

Scarfin:
Powerful.
Attitude can change anything including hormone.

Exactly.

Why do ladies go for nice looking guys?
It simply because looking good is attractive. Unkempt, smelly bodies are only tolerable in the other room.

Even if you're not the most handsome in town, at least clean up.


This method works very well when it comes to plain sexual or primal desirability. To be desirable means how easy it is to have the opposite sex welcome you into their private areas.

Women want yummy candies too naw. A smart husband won't deprive his wife.


Even if it's only possible once a week, one hot and heavy session per week is more valuable than 20 humdrum romps.

I wish the OP good luck.

princeemmma:
I am really worried about my wife and the way things are going in my marriage recently. I need your advice guys. I got married three years ago, and i married a beautiful and very understanding wife, she is the type that always does anything to satisfy me sexually and always want to make sure am satisfied.

Just one year after our marriage, she got pregnant and during the pregnancy she still does all her best to satisfy me sexually and i also understand when she is not in the mood. But after she gave birth my wife changed a lot, 1year after birth my wife will always complain about not in the mood for s*x. She is still the good and nice woman i know but the only problem we are having is just that when it comes to the sexual aspect, she is always not in the mood. Anytime i tried to pressure her about me going outside to satisfy my s*x urge, she will accept me reluctantly and during the s*x, she will always cry and sometimes she just frown her face after we are done. Its like she does not feel her ss*x drive anymore and this has been giving me a lot of worry.

What should i do? Continue living like that because sometimes we might not even have s*x for a month. And its not kind of easy for me.

First off, you are one of the rarest of men who actually respect your wife enough to speak positively about her before stating the problem.


I applaud that.


Now, about the sex issue. Please just try to make her relaxed, take her out and overall just reduce your stress and hers.

Attract her with your grooming too. Take a bath before bed, shave the shaveables, get nice deodorants and perfumes, brush your teeth AND tongue, buy nice soaps like St Ives (1k), dress sharp when going out, give her your 'come hither' smile.

Before you say Jack Robinson, she's all over you even without the mention of sex.


If that doesn't work after 2 weeks, please report back.

Kzinne:
Most young Nigerians no longer believe in Nigeria because of its economic woes. At a time most Americans were so poor they couldn't afford nothing to eat. This during the great depression of the 1930s. Yet Americans didn't run away or curse their country

Thousands of people committed suicide.

Thousands left the country.

Please share the complete story.

ahnie:
Don't mind him....exonerating himself from any blames.people like this op are dangerous.
Don't mind the St gabriel.i would really love to hear the ex wife's side of the story.

He was only shocked that she had the guts to walk away.


That's why he repeats the words 'she packed and left' obsessively throughout all his topics.

He's going through a storm of emotions too tangled to describe.

I hope they both find their peace either together or apart.

ijustdey:
https://punchng.com/revealed-pharaohs-afraid-of-black-magic-ahead-of-eagles-clash/

Tell them we're worried about the unburied dead bodies they are keeping in their country.



Restless ghosts everywhere.

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

Although my wife has packed her belongings and left only a few old cloths of hers and my daughter which I stated in my previous post, I didn't force or compel her to stay back.

Prior to her leaving two counsellors/priest counselled us to both leave in peace and harmony yet she refused and left.

On the 1st of January, 2022 her parents invited me to there house for a dialogue on the way forward towards reunion, but she was still bent on going her way with flimsy excuses.

I took my leave and was told by her parents that they will get back at me.

Few days later I was asked to come back for a meeting with another senior man of God from her community and family church, this was the arrangement of her parents maybe to find a solution spiritually. At this juncture, do I honour the invitation or dishonour it?

Your good advise can be of help. Thanks

What did you do to her in secret that made her reject you in the open?


From all your topics you have not stated one thing you did wrong. Out of up to 5 topics about your wife.


Are you that perfect?

Barrister026:
How do I tell a close relation of mine that I dreamt and saw him dead last night?

The person is well respected, much more older than me.
I wouldn't want to come off weird.


Should I just ignore?

Have been sad and confused since morning

Just pray for him but keep the dream to yourself.


If you're still worried call a prayer partner or your pastor.

Don't cause panic.

Finemannerman:
What sort of infection?

You'll find out at the Lab

Motirayo2018:
Season greetings to you

This happen to someone close to me, their grandfather property was shared into two among the wives after his death.

The first wife has two male and one female child,the second has four male and one female child.

They are both late, the second wife died recently. After her death her children summon meeting among family members for the property to be reshare.

The property was later reshare ,but it does not favour the first wife children , because the largest size is giving to the second wife children because they are more.

The first son of the family from the first wife has five children,three male and two female.
The two female died within two years, one male is missing since nov 2020.

All the children are doing well

My question is how should the property of a polygamous man be shared when there is no will?

Traditionally, Yorubas share properties either per wife or per children.


But if you go to court, everything will be shared equally between the children.

Finemannerman:
I had to create a new moniker so as to maintain anonymity.

Had it raw on 21/12/2021.
She is supposed to see her period between 29-30th of every month. Today’s 5th of a new month and she hasn’t seen it yet.

She said she feels fatigue, frequent urination, yellowish urine, and breast heaviness.
So today, we did test using P-Test kit at home and the two tests we had showed negative. To confirm well well, I took her to a clinic for lab test, and the result still came out negative.

So experts here, what could be wrong ? She’s yet to see her period. And pregnant tests say negative.
Your feedbacks pls

Test yourselves for infection.

I personally don't know this woman, and presently I don't give 2 cents about her.

But if she can achieve success without having to cut corners like her overexposed contemporaries, then I salute her.


Brag on girl, you've earned it.

Womenarespecial:
Her statement might be due to insecurity..
Most people brag because they want to feel valued..recognised..and worth something in the eyes of others...
When you already know your worth and your self-esteem is absolutely poppin' you don’t tend to need to brag...Genuine confidence and success are quiet creatures...They just exist and we don’t tend to feel the need to prove them to anyone...

When our sense of worth is a little shaky either as a constantor in a momentary situation the bragging starts coming up... You start displaying
your achievements/possessions/whatever all up in people’s faces in the hopes that you will be recognised and that you feel admired.. It deals with one's psychology of "self glory"..

There is a time for everything.

A time to brag,
and a time to go low-key.

The important part is being able to recognize each season.

awesonjr:
It’s been 2 and a half weeks since we broke up from our relationship, I have just found out she is talking to
other men. I can’t even look at another women. I’m
heart broken, but suppose you don’t ask questions if
you might not like that answer. I’m having trouble
dealing with this, how can she move on so fast

Look, taking your time to heal properly after a breakup is the smart thing to do.



If she's in a hurry then she's not ready to heal.


Just focus on yourself and you'll be glad you did.

Omidanabeni:
Being financially independent is one of the best things you can do for yourself as a woman. Not having to rely on a man to do things for you is a part of true freedom. With that, you will have a say in your life, in your relationship and your partner will respect you more. You don’t ask for everything from people. Make money, hustle, and make your own money!

Yassssss

This is what I've been talking about for a long time.

Prettydevil:
Men don’t care about their deeks most of the time, we can show anyone willing to see in a second without feeling sensitive about it. Even the men with little deeks always want to show it off, and don’t even care if people mock it. But women are so afraid to talk about their pvssy even to their fellow gender, once the issue comes up they will start acting like it’s a forbidden topic, what’s the issue really? Why do women think their body is sacred or something? Even some girls don’t accept being eaten sexually in the pvssy, even some oloshos don’t like it too and will refuse your money no matter the amount. What’s really the issue? I don’t think there’s anything special about the vagina or the penisss, it’s just a body part that would turn to sand when you die so why the fuss? Women stop being too sensitive and emotional about a gaddam body part , it’s not that deep.

So, you're looking for recruits into your new year fornication spree.

Why don't you face yourself.

Women want to be successful this year.

The man has already been married with four children.


Why is he now jealous over his second wife?

I'm surprised.

As for you OP.
You have lots of time on your hands, else you would have blocked the couple and faced your life.

aktolly54:
When a man died , the wife assume she owns everything he left behind because she borne him a children. Well, if they(husband and wife) struggle to build their wealth together, 80% of man wealth should be allocated to wife and children while family can take 20%. But if that woman marry already -made man,there is nothing like she owns thing everything husband left behind because we all know she married for the money and in no time, she will be fuc.king another man soon after husband death. That's my own opinion but I stand to be corrected.

Is there better way to handle such?

Wives usually don't inherit their husbands directly.

Properties go to all children either legitimate or illegitimate.


But if the children are young, the mothers will take care of the properties until they are old enough. This applies if the man left no will.



Now, for siblings and extended family hoping to take over their relative's property after his demise, can you explain why you feel like you have the right?

Did your own father leave nothing to you?

Did you not achieve anything with your life?

What do you hope to leave to your children? Your brother's house?

This is a new year. Please and please, let us become better than last year.


Our children want to be proud of what we have achieved, not what we got by force.


Focus on yourself this year, you can still make it.
My 2 cents

Optimistguy1969:
When I say Ya,
You say?

Hoo

Acidosis:
Yes, dear. I'm your fan

That's cool

[quote author=realmatters post=109081660][/quote]Game?

I don't play games.
I don't mince words.
I don't fear opposition.
I stand out without cowering.
I make my opinions clear.
I make my own path.
I don't follow the crowd.
I don't follow trends.
I am one of a kind.
The first of my name.
I don't simper.



Oga let's not go there.



I respect how hard you've worked to become financially strong, but I'll never demean the work it took to get me here.


I know where I come from, I also know where I'm heading.


Let me feel myself small:

The matriarch herself
Trail blazer
Mama get it done
A thousand women rolled into one
Obinrin bi okunrin
Wonder Woman
The Amazon
Perfect specimen of beauty, brains, and vision.

Phew, let me stop here.


Games?



Don't need no games to get attention.

I transcend basic consciousness.

I AM THE ONE
THE ONLY.

Made a Saint
Purged of fear
Strengthened
Favored
Her Major Highness.
My Crown is more valuable than the purest Gold.

I am more valuable than 10 countries' foreign reserve.

Kings marvel when I open my mouth to speak.
I am above petty little games, I focus beyond immediate rewards.


I build
I grow
I add value
I turn dust to gems.



Somebody tell me to stop naw.

Acidosis:
Lol. Okay. Your loss.

Acidosis rooting for me?

I'm wowed, thanks.

DrFunmisticGlow:
So you are a community dick and potential STD carrier.

I wish you success in your endeavors. May you truly find what you are looking for. You could try instagram. This is 2022. Pick your battles wisely

If you're in love presently I'm so happy for you.

Wishing you all the best this year.

realmatters:
She doesn't have what it takes. I am not going to lower the bar because no lady will do it for me.

I almost got offended at your opinion of me, but I remembered that I have prayed to God that I will never be good enough for a man that will bring me pain. In fact, they will never see me, I will not attract them, neither will our paths ever cross.


Thanks for being an answer to my prayers.


2022 is already becoming a beautiful year for me.


Hahahahahahahahhahahaha.
I'm blushing already.

realmatters:
I won't my dear. I am mature than you ever thought.

Maturity is a continuous process.

No matter how matured you are, once you see more of life, you'll understand that there's a lot you still need to learn.


I wish you all the best.

[quote author=realmatters post=109076741][/quote]Don't worry, you'll change your words after some years.


That's what maturity does to you.

Anigreat:



Stupid and useless women everywhere

When you're posting after taking weed.

This is what you get.

realmatters:
No, my brother, I will not. Let me make something clear, very few women will stand by you when you are nothing or you have nothing. They show me their real color when my dad died, our family business collapsed. I was in my final year. The girl I sweat for left, other girls left because to them a man without money is a monkey. I went through hell and God bless me in no time.
I have met a lot of ladies, I sleep with them and give them my leftover, If they ask me what next, I told them plainly they are not in my league. I intend to marry based on interest, not love. YOU CAN'T LOVE ME NOW WHAT ABOUT THEN? I could have married a few ladies in my workplace(I have slept with a few of them) but most of them get the job by fucking someone so I CAN'T BE WITH A LEFTOVER. WOMEN ARE KEEPER, they have no right to have a body count.

Try to calm down.

Yes, you've been hurt, lots of people have been hurt too and they survived.
Still, you have the right to decide the kind of woman you want.



I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for eventually but going round hurting people who have done you no wrong will not help you.


Peace.

liya11:
What do men want?
Seriously! What exactly do men want?

Please don't stress yourself about what men want.

Look deep within yourself, find what you want and make it happen. Then you'll not be distracted about men's desires.