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It is advisable to taste all type of garri in the market before you buy anyone

Next Tim she calls, give the phone to your wife to answer.

Let her discuss the issue with your wife so you and your wife will pay her a visit.

Let's see How she can pull this through

Help people from a distance. Do not let them come too close. The closer one gets to you, the more they know you finish and can harm you.. Roommates are disaster.

I prefer to live in a self com that is not well furnished than share an apartment with a roommate.

It is a good thing. A rare gift

Something must kill a man

There are many source of livelihood abroad. You cannot be jobless

This has to do with the way the society feel entitled to a woman body.
Women who have been raised religiously have been taught in some way by socializing influences, that they do not exist for themselves. They are to keep themselves holy and covered up, and to wait patiently in their fathers’ houses until a man approaches said fathers for marriage. It is in all the biblical stories and anecdotes describing model women of faith and religious principles.

This is problematic because not only would the woman lack individuality, there are no boundaries of consent. There would be nothing that says that she can say no to her husband. In Nigeria currently the law does not recognize marital rape as rape. So even when it feels like rape, when she knows that it is rape, when there is physical evidence of rape, she says nothing because she has been conditioned to think that the man has only taken what was his in the first place.  

Good girl/ Bad Girl Binary

Purity culture divides women into two groups ; the good girls and the bad girls and pray to God you don’t fall into the latter group. When a girl who is seen as a bad girl is abused sexually or physically, people see it as a punishment for her behaviour

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/08/the-monster-we-feed/

The society encourages women to be a simp while encouraging men to be Alpha.

A woman simp is seen as a good wife material
An alpha woman, hardly gets married. Men avoid her like a plague. Men love to be in control and Alpha female cannot be controlled.

Many feminist have some alpha trait , They marry late.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/08/the-monster-we-feed/

Be specific. Most marriage.
There are men who marry up the ladder that benefit from it.

The assumption that one can only be fulfilled while married is false . Many propeller of this fallacy quote the Bible to back up their claim.


It is not good for man to be alone

It is not good for anyone to be alone . Eve was to be a companion and not a marriage partner . One can feel alone while being married . The verse only validates the fact that no one is an Ireland. We need someone to lean on . Marriage is a concept created by man to bring order in the society. No one has been arrested for choosing to remain single.


Many of us get married because we need kids. There are many orphans down there craving to get married. Go adopt them . Except off course you are searching for your own child to shower selfish love .

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/19/why-is-monogamy-considered-natural/

Female involvement in  education at an early age especially science and  law improve her reasoning abilities (masculinity) . Female take part in competitive games like the male counterpart. This improves their aggression.These women ended up as heads of organization.They took  decision and gave instructions . These women began to have a thirst of power . Their masculine qualities were awoken.

Girls  who enjoy highly competitive games with a desire to win also increases their aggression (masculinity). We tag such women names like Tomboy. They are ladies with highly developed masculine side and poorly developed feminine side.. Such masculine girls are attracted to  the beta guys. If a man is more masculine in nature,he will be attracted to a very feminine woman who will compliment his energy

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/23/sexual-imbalance/

SocialJustice:
Talk true, you either have hormonal imbalance or your pipi no dey work.

It has more to do with mindset. Little things irritates him

doggedfighter:
Stop combining your cheap weed with fake codeine

Does expensive weed make someone high differently?

Igbo boys be like

Buy your sexy bread here

The girlfriend thinks she is entitled to his money.

Which one is he has not giving you that amount of money.

You, have you given him that amount of money?

For now, we do not know if the ex has once given him that amount of money.

At the end, it is his money

One great mistake we make is trying to force everyone into monogamous marriage.
Many men do not like it. Like someone said, A wealthy man who has a billion naira will grab at an opportunity to add a million naira to his wealth.
His wife may have everything but like Oliver twist, he wants more . Call it greed. Call it need to explore .

While married, I decide with my partner whether to make it open relationship or monogamy.

Marriage is not for everyone. There are people who are happier single. I mean those who are do introverted that they cannot tolerate a very long time without feeling drained. There are people who prefer long distance relationship with few visits and frequent absence rather than continued presence.  those whose high attention sexual urge cannot be satisfied by any one individual. There are others who dislike the boredom of sticking to one  partner scares the hell out of them. Variety is the spice of life.The fun of experimenting with various sizes and  types thrills them. There are yet another group whose need for independence and freedom makes them dislike the idea of  consulting with another before making decision.  There is another group that  love to be in motion. They wake up one morning and decide to relocate to another state only to explore another culture the next year. Traveling is their hobby and getting married with kids hinders that . Settling down is like a death trap. Flowing water is cleaner. Stagnant water attracts mosquitoes and other microorganism.

Human needs are various. the concept of getting married does not fit into their ideal future. They are better off single or in an open relationship. imposing  monogamy marriage on them will choke them. Their partner and children would suffer . Cheating is bound to occur. The fact that cheating still exist means we should question the effectiveness of monogamy and possibility of open marriage

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/19/why-is-monogamy-considered-natural/

StacyO:
When you need your life to improve,what do you do??
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In what ways do you try to improve it?

One cannot just aspire to be famous.
One may aspire to be a footballer,musician,broadcaster,singer. In the process, fame comes.
Fame is not pursued as an end.

I see you are enjoying your region. Keep it up.

Password, so you can nail him more. Smart guy

Since he joined APC, he is scared if his life. Igbos do not like APC

thatsleepboy1:
What a fiction. Believe it at your own peril.. no be tobechi74 be this? Story writer.

stories are based on true life experience. You got no Idea how far a lady goes to get attention of the one she loves.
Google the name Errin Pizzey and read her books where she shared. Stories of victims of wife battery.

This is reality in Africa and nigeria . It is not fair though. ....As If Life is fair.

I pity the girls. They are not free to express themselves sexually like the guys

when girls are taught that they become worthless after they have sex outside marriage they live with guilt and shame and it is even worse when they experience sexual violence because the victim automatically assumes it is just a punishment for the way she behaved or even dressed. What I don’t understand is how people expect women who finally have sex after they get married to just shake off this feeling of shame and guilt they’ve associated with sex because of what they were taught.

Nobody throws chastity balls for boys asking then to pledge their virginity to their mothers and the church, nobody makes women the gatekeepers of the sexuality of men so why then do people do it to girls? Double standard much?

Girls should come out openly and say I WANT Bleep.

Shey dey want gender equality.

Wait for your own birthday and check if she sends you happy birthday

You failed the interview and you were do dad that your Johnson did not rise. �����

I cannot stop laughing

StacyO:
Hi.


Nowadays,no man wants a full housewife any more.
No lady wants to be turned into a full housewife neither.

Every Tom Dick and Harry wants to contribute to the family in any which way they can.


We ladies aren't left out, as some of us have become breadwinners in our homes.


As a lady, who would want her name blazing in the future, what plans or goals have you laid down so as not to get caught up in a fast lane, when you're finally ready to settle down??

I know some of us ain't even thinking of getting hanged on a family tree. Lol



Mine: Before some years to my mid 20's, I would actually want to create a famous name,which won't only be recognized at home but,anywhere you think humans live.

I don't know how Forbes list works but,my name wouldn't get missing.




All this things can't be achieved in a day but then,efforts need be made.

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Nonetheless, what big goals do you as a lady plan to achieve??

You just want to be famous. What do you want to be to bring that fame?

Your guy should tell us about himself so we k ow if he is good for any of them.

Tub palm oil in the morning . Every month, apply her blood menses to your lips.

Economy is bad. Is it not bad for guys too?

I see women mechanic hustling, who says there are no jobs women can do. The fact is most jobs are technical and slay queen lack the intellect required. Only good on stylist and design.

The school their papa sent Dem did not improve her intellect, it only increases her perceived value making g her feel she is too big to sell in filling station.

You need to claim your power back.wait until she has shared invitation card,

Fake a call with your best friend, tell him you have called off the marriage over lack of sex, let her hear the discussion.

Meet her female best friend, tell them the same thing.

Watch how she will make her self available for daily banging.

Warniy: after marriage,she goes back to square one.

According to him, he paid for sex

This is Prostitution.

She cannot say the truth because Prostitution is illegal,she got to hide behind rape.

If Prostitution were legal, ladies will reduce false rape accusation
If Prostitution were legal,she would bring evidence of negotiation and get Justice in court.

prostitute are victims of the society and do not deserve to be punnished. Imagine standing semi- naked in the middle of the night exposing ones body to cold not go mention the various incident of non- payment and rape. The job is illegal so they cannot report to anyone. When they do, society turn a deaf ear.


Criminalising prostitution does not help the victim. A law should protect the victim from harm. The prostitute are not harming anyone.

Holland ,one of the few countries go legalize prostitution reports a thirty percent reduction in rape- reported cases. Would plying the route provide a glimpse of hope for the oldest profession in the world?

https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/25/any-hope-for-the-LovePeddler/

Erin Pizzey, a vocal feminist spoke strongly against domestic violence. She founded a home for victims of women abuse. On one occasion she interviewed the victim and realized that she was equally abusive. She interviewed the rest and discovered that over seventy percent of the victim she rescued were equally as violent as the men. She made her findings public. She was suspended from the group she founded and was threatened by the victim she rescued.

Whenever you hear cases of domestic abuse, do not be quick to blame the man. Investigate the character of the girl first.