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Upton:
Hmmn. IT guys, shey there's a way to check when a domain name was registered/activated or something? At least let's know if this website has been active over the years or if they just put it up yesterday.

You nailed it.
My thoughts exactly.
Mr Hundeyin's checks showed that the website was redundant.
Also, he never claimed that Mr Kufre Effiong is a staff of the NGO.
I see a lot of last minute cover ups.
Nigeria is synonymous with injustice, especially where bigwigs are involved.

MejiLoyon:
I help out in a hospitality business. For weeks I have noticed a sharp decline in profits. Despite the fact that patronage has increased noticeably. Projected profits not met despite the increase in consumption.

Wetin dey happen. I investigated every department everything dey go well. This week I faced the bar and restaurant. Told the waiters and barmen to write everything sold. Even to bottled water. I didn't tell them why I just explained that I needed to know how every drink is being consumed so that my suppliers will increase the quantity they bring.

I collated the sales and instead of profit I lost over 50k. Hehehe thief no dey tiff tiff. Entered statement of account from the bar accounts and saw it was balanced with the figure projected. Nice one. Called the staffs. Who owe una....no one. No problem. Collected the pos receipts and boom, caught the thief. You see what she did was she prints a receipt twice. Let's say you bought stuffs worth 20k. She prints it twice. And keeps the merchant copy for two. when someone else pays she tells them POS is not available and then provides an account number. Once the amount is up to 20k she takes that her copy and drops it with the accountant. How she edits it I'll never know. I asked her to go home as if nothing happened. Today she has been picked up. We are still collating her theft. As at one hour ago E don reach 500k. So disappointed.

Make una dey careful out there guys. Some people aim na to destroy you.

The exact reason it is difficult to run small businesses in the country.
Apart from govt doing their best to stifle businesses, theft from staff is the number one killer.
Damn!!

helinues:
Fulani [s]herdsmen have disappeared, some of the security operatives manning the check point have deserted yet UGM are still attacking and killing security officers.

I thought ESN was created to secure SE region as a whole? ESN supposed to be engaging with UGM for bringing unrest to SE...

That's only if ESN are not UGM.

Whatever the case may be, UGM can not last long in SE.

It get why

No reasonable Igbo person would support terrorism to strive in his region

UGM don't even have enough ordinary operational vehicle not to talk of having excess of ammunition.

The miscreants called UGM members are not even up to 1,000...

South East as a region is too small for UGM guerilla tactics as they can be easily flushed out with just air raid.

Is it not hypocritical for some people to be condemning Bandits, Boko haram but hailing/supporting UGM.

Only enemies of SE , enemies of peace, enemies of development would still be praising those miscreants UGM .

To the Igbos who have been opposing the UGM views, praying for peace to reign, kudos to you all.

History will remember you people as heroes who safed their land during UGM madness

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On your best days and even when you try very hard, you still sound like a dolt.
What scum in your situation doesn't sound like he wasn't fitted with a brain from birth?

Stop trying to think, or act like you are thinking.
You lost that function with your first breath.

JungleJustice01:
I'll be succinct. I've messed up and I take full responsibility for my actions. All I'm trying to do now is save those close to my heart.

I'm married 2 years with an 8 month baby. I'm a faithful husband at heart but I just lost focus and landed in this deep mess.

My first stinct at adultery was late into my wife's pregnancy when I could not hold body. This situation was further compounded when I relocated due to work and come home every 3 weeks or so. My carefree attitude also contributed to this but I'm not staying them as excuses. I did what I did.

I met this deeper life young girl about a month ago. She was about 23, good looking and has an innocent air around her. Last week thereabout we met up and made out after weeks of chatting. In the process, my contraceptive broke and it happened raw for a minute or two before I replaced it.

Now one week later and I having strong symptoms of HIV exposure. Had I known, I would have gone for Pep. I am 75% sure of infection at this point.

I'm home now and I don't want to touch my wife who is constantly on my neck since I returned. I don't want to infect her or my child....and I can't come to terms with telling her everything right now.

This is someone who is so faithful and she has expressly stated that she will not entertain any hint of infidelity.

I'm so done for, I need advice

Extremely dumb people all over cyber space.
Really?
One week after unprotected sex, and you are having symptoms of HIV?
Yours is most likely brain damage.
If there are actual symptoms just a week later, then you are already immuno compromised.
You are merely being paranoid.
I don't have kind words for you.
You were exposed, you didn't think to go for HIV screening to confirm, neither did you think about seeing a physician for post exposure prophylaxis.
All you can think of is to come online to wail. For what exactly?
I'm not blaming you for commiting adultery. Anyone can fall for that
I'm blaming you for refusing to use your God given brain the right way after the sex.

Hamachi:
My brother's girlfriend stole her father's money to support my brother business and the business is growing

Should my brother marry her?

Did your brother send you to make this foolish enquiry online, or you are too dumb to think?

Omihanifa:
Old news.

Even the present governor of osun state heavily criticized the aregbesola administration for wasting almost 5billion naira on the project with nothing to show for it

Ok. Old news. Good thing you didn't say it is fake news.
Does being old make it irrelevant?
Bottom line, the billions meant for the airport has been swallowed by politicians. In a reasonable country, it doesn't matter if the case is 100 years old. The thieves should be serving prison time by now.

BadRadio:
its hanging on my oesophagus bro... I m choking... can barely breath... help !!!

This one is not serious.
You are choking (an emergency) and the only thing you can think about is to type and post online

You didn't think about seeking medical help?

Remember to type RIP to yourself if you eventually choke to death.

smatt1711:
This act is not really good , killing innocent children and women, but my best advice is this ,when you get a signal that your host community don't want you again, why not go back to your place , why is that too hard for the Fulanis to do, call your people and retreat , move back and leave this people to there lands , you need to see the way igbos are begging there brothers in the North to leave north , we have ethnic intolerance and that is a fact , so everyone must try to live where they can feel safe. May God in heaven accept there souls , is terrible to kill innocent women and children.

You know what's disgusting about this people from the north?
They move to a certain place in the south, and will never integrate with the locals.
They look for an empty land isolated from residences, clear it, build their guys and occupy the place.
They won't buy land or build house or even rent a room. They still operate like they are in the middle ages. Their primitive ways point them out like outcasts.
Northerners who blend with the civilization down south, live among the general populace, rent or own their own houses and do their normal business hardly face any such antagonism from members of the public. You won't actually recognize them as Fulanis

I absolutely regret the killing of their women and children, and any unarmed member of their groups. It is sad and barbaric. Igbos shouldn't descend to their level of bloodlust. Better to expel them than kill them.

Gjrich:
Nigerians on social media have reacted to a viral photo of a couple, presumably security operatives who wedded holding a gun.

In the photos that have become an internet sensation the couple who are yet to be identified as at the filing of this report were pictured sharing a kissing while holding who looked at a loaded guns.

The couples who were both dressed in white and black wedding attire were seen sharing a kiss after tiying the knot with a gun. The photos have however generated a lot on reactions.

Simple use of English, you couldn't.
Proper sentence construction, you can't.
Mash finite terms with the infinite, make ridiculous simple spelling mistakes...

Next, you'll get mad if you're called semi illiterate.

spyder880:
TO AVOID "DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?"

We were ready to cast a decking one morning, the crew that will mix and cast this decking are a bunch of street boys who are better off in the motor parks than handling headpans and shovels. I have had reasons to raise my voice with them a couple of times that morning for trying to turn the processes upside down. But we commenced the work nevertheless.

Too much noise, too much distractions and just too many work stoppages has kept me and them busy all day. The matter still causing a problem was their refusal to pay the food vendor that they are here food, she tried to block them from working and was slapped twice, I had to intervene, and later paid the lady, telling them that i will deduct the money from their pay.

The owner of the work turned up around noon and wanted to climb the deck to inspect the work, i immediately saw trouble looming. I tried to advice the client to please not go onto the deck but he wouldn't have any of it, he insisted on going to see the work, and he had this very crisp white "agbada" traditional wear with matching cap. How can I prevent this trouble. I told the workers to wait downstairs while we went up with Oga on the shaky temporal stairs used in casting concrete. We were busy inspecting the work while Oga was asking questions

I was so shocked when it happened, out of the corner of my eye, I saw a shadow and before I could turn and stop him, too late, this boy has thrown his full load of wet concrete on the other wet concrete on the deck, shooting off heavy splatters in every direction, Oga and his white clothes were caught in the shooting sludge and well sprayed, his left eyeglass even caught a sizeable stain from the wet concrete! Chai!

I rushed the guy, I screamed at him, nearly pushed him, but he knew what he did, and with a satisfied grin on his face, he was saying a hypothetical "sorry Sir"

I apologised to Oga, and offered to fetch water so we could scrub off the stains, but Oga said, no problems, he will head back home and change.

As I was escorting the client past the boys, they were talking among themselves, but very audible to us. They were saying that important people shouldn't be coming upstairs on a decking cast, in their words " TO AVOID, DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?"

Why did you go ahead to allow those boys work at the site?
They are security risks, in the short and long term.

PoloG:
very stupid and inferior people.. Who knows igbos for anything in Africa apart from crime..
Fools

The very fact that you jump into a thread created for people you regard as very stupid and inferior to gnash your teeth and wail shows that you are in anguish
The best thing you could have done was to ignore the thread. Ignore igbos and all they stand for...
But I know this will be an absolutely impossible task for you.
Keep dying in installments.

PROUDIGBO:
Anyone else thinking of Boniface Offokaja? That debate in which he shone and made black Africa proud was just 18 years after this statement was made!

Out of the blues, YouTube recommended those videos to me.
I was very impressed with his poise and level of informed argument he presented on those debates.

horsepower102:
When they start the construction of the Obeaku Seaport, I will gather some investors within my friends and family to buy land in this area. I am just waiting patiently.

I read your comment without checking who posted it.
Then I saw it was you, and I smiled.
See, the potentials in Alaigbo is so huge, in a few short years, there's going to be a massive increase in middle class population with it's attendent development.
I've had this same thought about the seaport and the development it is bound to bring on this axis. Since the past 7 years, I have gradually began divesting of properties I have outside SE, and have been eyeing emerging opportunities within Alaigbo.

We will get there.
Nigeria is dead to me.

We are getting there.

criuze:
am hoping this recognition goes to the oduduwas too

Not necessary.
Once the international community supports the call for referendum, not only Oduduwa will be recognized, all other regions of the middle belt and south south that wants to go their ways would be represented.
There's no way Biafra will exit and the rest of Nigeria remains.

Nigeria.
The only country that chases rats while it's own house is on fire.
So, 144 policemen were dispatched to Somalia to "help stabilize" the situation there... because nigeria has already achieved security stability?

How can anyone offer something they don't have??

Idiota Lai

Every politician, those presently chopping, those who have chopped, and those who are hoping to chop....all know that seceding is the next big thing that will take the country by storm.

We the masses are asking that they make it peaceful, but they threaten us with bloodshed.

Like, do they think this country built on injustice, lies and deceit will continue indefinitely?
Every passing day brings the inevitable day of reckoning nearer.

It is people like Lai Muhammed and his fellow APC marabouts that will actually run away first

They have stashed millions of dollars overseas in readiness for their japa.

kktbm:
Make this guy give me the road map from Spain to naija

Make me sef go on relocation too

The road is not hidden.
The road easily opens for him due to the power and respect in his international passport.
Use your Naija passport

Pavore9:
What is invalid about the baptism of a baby?

The concept of baptism requires that you make the decision to be born anew in Christ.
Babies can't make such decision. Baptizing babies (as done by the Catholic Church) is merely symbolic.
The baby didn't make the decision.

Hehehehehe

Those "forces" travelled back into the past and created a video of you debating with boko haram founder, right?
Those "forces" went into the past and took hold of your tongue to make you say that you support al qaeda and isis and you admire Osama bin Laden and Al Barnawi the terrorist?

Have you ever seen anyone in this govt who admits to their fvckups and accept the blame for what they did wrong?
Somebody else has to take the blame for all their wrongs.
From Buhari, down to the lowliest personal assistant to the personal assistant of a junior minister's assistant.

When the head is rotten....

MickzyDonald:
let my 2025 car key drop inside that water and see if i won't swim in and out of it

For a car key that u could simply call the manufacturer and they would send u a replacement?
Moreover, brand new cars come with two keys. Why would you kill yourself over a spare key? Na so ya life worthless reach?

Make poverty mentality no kee my Naija peeps o.

dat9jaguy:
Mr Obaseki the question is did the FG print money as alleged by you?
No word on that. You are just blowing hot air, as usual, in response to being called out.

You have a point.
Was expecting Obaseki to produce some evidence as to his claims, but he didn't.
On the other hand, check out the weak response the central bank gov and minister of finance gave in response to the allegation.
If it were a false accusation by Obaseki, these people would be firing from all cylinders by now to blow up Obaseki's lie.
In fact, DSS would have invited him for questioning by now.

Bundaweber:
the world is not sunshine and roses. If someone had told those of the sixties that Nigeria would devolve into this mess they would have laughed themselves silly. I view anyone that thinks about forming a new nation as a coward that is not ready to take up a challenge. what happens when the new "nations" follow the path that Nigeria is taking? are they then going to call for another " break up". look up the Balkan countries and the other countries that broke up and ask them sincerely if they would have prefered to be part of the Union. I believe that solving Nigeria challenges is easier than founding a new nation. All it takes is political will, equity and fairness of just a few of our leaders and Nigeria will blossom again. Even buhari can turn this country around if he and his team decides to show this trait. but instead the elites that will still be a part of this new "nations" would rather continue to amass stolen funds as if they are going to bribe angel Micheal and Gabriel in the afterlife

You are wrong in every way.

Nigeria as a country has no will to correct the ills it is plagued with. Don't know how old you are, but it seem you haven't realized that since the war ended in 1970, every single politician keep talking about solving the problem of the country, yet none of them is ready to look the problem in the eye.
All they do is pay lip service, and 50 years later, we are still running around in circles
You wanna tell me that 50 years isn't enough to solve a country's problem and place it on the path of speedy development?
You're playing the ostrich here. You also have that political mentality that when people ask for restructuring or secession, they are looking for trouble. Else you won't be talking about solving a problem the country has absolutely refused to acknowledge, much less taking steps to resolving it.
Put this into perspective: if there had been restructuring 20 or 30 years ago, we wouldn't be discussing this shít right now.
We would be talking cutting edge technology and competing with advanced countries in the areas of science, ICT, medicine and robotics rather than creating Ruga and cow colonies.

NigeriaIsZOO:
What the Nigerian government relied on to "win" the war was the blockade and aerial bombardment of civilian population. Take this two out of the equation and you will see that the war would have continued for ages with no side winning despite the massive support Nigeria enjoyed and availability of massive arsenals.

Now, if IPOB/ESN is pushed into war, it can only be a guerilla war, thus aerial bombardment of cities, schools, markets etc won't happen and blockade will also not be possible. Then how would Nigeria expect to win?

The war may drag for 1, 2, 3 or even 5 years but ultimately, it will end in a referendum which everyone knows Igbos will overwhelmingly vote to go their way.

What gives you the impression that aerial bombardment won't happen?
Nigerian govt has no moral qualms with killing civilians. This was recently demonstrated with bombing of IDP camps.
The air force has bombed certain locations where they thought terrorists/bandits have their hideouts, without reliable intelligence gathering. This resulted in many civilian casualties.
What about the incident of a few days ago where the army went to a community in Benue State to kill scores of civilians and burn down an entire village because soldiers were killed?

Here's a country that never apologized or show remorse for the brutal killing of millions of unarmed people during the war, and you expect that it can't do it again?

Know your enemy. That's the first rule.
You need to operate with the mindset that if given the chance, FG will indeed sanction aerial bombings of civilian locations. What you need is to put in place a deterrent to that.
An adequate defence or even an offensive strategy to put such cowardly move in check.
They did it before. They can do it again.

FatherOfJesus:
This post is going to assume that Ondo, Abia and IMO state are not part of Nigerdelta, however for purpose the name they call it, Nigerdelta republic, I’m sticking to it.

First of all, I’m from Rivers state, specifically Omuma, an Igbo speaking part of rivers state. Personally I think Nigerdelta republic only exist on paper and will most likely not come in to fruition. The diverse nature of the region is stable because it’s under Nigeria, if Nigeria splits today, Nigerdelta will cease to exist.

There are so many tribes in that region with different agenda, we Omuma would mostly like want to join my kinsmen rather join another multiethnic wahala. In Nigerdelta, groups do not agree, the Nigerian Government is trying to foster peace in the region just for the purpose of oil and gas exploitation by using all means including settling traditional and political leaders against our people. I do not think for example, Ibibio and Efik people really want to be in a sole country with IJaws and binis, these tribes hardly share anything in common and forming another country will be another Nigeria-like chaos. In essence, we in nigerdelta, we know that we cannot agree and it’s laughable that IJaws are trying hard to push for another overly multi ethnic nation.

The best bet for Nigerdelta is for Nigeria never to split however If happens to spilt, forget it, no nation can come out of there. It will all come to a matter of alignment and negotiations, the fate of Nigerdelta is that it will split further to aligning with Biafra and oduduwa republic and some might even join Cameroon. Each group in the region will consider their short and long term interests, they will be lots and lots of negotiations and even forceful land ownership.

We in Nigerdelta know this, don’t let us deceive ourselves.

This is probably the first time I have read someone's honest and sincere analysis of how things would shape up in the Niger Delta in the aftermath of Nigeria breaking up.
You are spot on about the Nigeria entity keeping the Delta region as one so far because of the crude oil factor.
And yes, I believe you are right about the various ethnic groups seeking alliances with nearby Yoruba and Igbo nations, as well as neighboring Cameroon. There is no better option, else the region will become a basket case.

One thing that is certain though: if Nigeria doesn't seek peaceful restructuring, then a break up is imminent. No argument.
Which also means that leaders and prominent sons and daughters from the Niger Delta should begin early enough to discuss and weigh their options.

Though in these parts, we tend to leave issues to fester until it is almost too late to make a headway.

Dukeolumidemans:
N1m bro?

I remembered you
You recently sold your S60 and got an S80, right?

You want an S40 too?
You got love for volvo, no doubt

BLOODYSPERM:
Foolish low valued man who wants to save a used Hoe because he's emotions to love clouds his judgement that she's damaged and needs medical intervention

I believe you got fermented shít inside your skull.
This isn't about a ho.
This isn't about wether the girl has a thousand body counts and has done a hundred abortions.

This is about what you should expect when digging for someone's past.
When you ask someone you want to marry to tell you about her past, and you expect the whole truth, at that point you should have made up your mind that her past doesn't matter.
He had already decided she is marriage material, so why drag the past into it?
If you have a girlfriend you got pregnant and she aborted it with your knowledge, would you decide she is no longer suitable for marriage because of that?
What medical intervention does she need here? Where does it say she was damaged? Or don't women recover normally after a medical procedure such as D&C?

Stop being an îdiot.

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

You sound like a pretty fvcking îdiot.
If she didn't open up about her past and you get to find out later, you'd come out crying and wailing and blaming every woman.
Now she told you the truth and you still come online to rant and curse.

Dem swear for you?
What the hell do you want?
You want a lying ass bîtch who would drain you of your life force?

Disgusting piece of shít. You seek the truth, yet you haven't got the balls to withstand it. Now you see why girls would mostly lie about their history. Because scumbags like you haven't got the balls for the truth.
Exactly what Steve Harvey said. Its the same reason why men lie to women. The truth is bitter, truth hurts. If you aren't made of steel, you don't go seeking for it.
Funny thing is, if she had painted a picture of a well behaved girl who only had a single partner in the past, you still wouldn't be satisfied. You'd pester her to give your sorry ass more details, as if it would make your miserable life any better.

spyder880:
The case of the Missing electrical cables.

On the site of one of the beautiful houses I have built in this forum, I got two electricians to wire the house for me, I had bought the very costly Cutix cables for the whole house and knowing the high cost of the cables, which makes them more prone to pilfering, I brought the cables to the site in the trunk of my car and was standing in wait, watching as the cables were being used. I wanted to see what the real cable consumption will be so I can make near accurate decisions in other sites. I had fired two of my previous electricians before hiring these two, those who were fired was because of missing items, especially electric cables.

From the start, the two electricians were not comfortable with my presence and i could see it in their attitude. They seemed to be slowing things down in the hope that i will walk away so they could "act" but I stayed put, taking notes on how many rooms the cables can run. We were working on 2.5mm single core cables.

After about 5 hours of slow work, I decided to go find something to eat, so I brought out 2 cables, and unknown to the electricians, I gave them the cables with a new wrapper, quite different from all the old ones they were using all day. I returned to site after about an hour, by that time they were calling me on phone to come back and give them more cables since they had exhausted the 3 coils I gave them before leaving. I immediately suspected foul play.

So I walked into the site and they were asking me, "is the boot open?" I replied them with "Can I see the wrapper of the cables that just finished?" Meanwhile, I was walking through the remaining rooms to see the coverage of the cables, only one additional room was wired in my absence. Something is clearly wrong here.

They went and got me the old wrappers as the ones they just used, I laughed and told them that their trap just caught a useless smelly rat today. That's how the search for the new wrapper started. Two hours, and they were still up turning everything and searching for the wrappers they just used.

They gave every reason in the book why the wrappers varnished, but I insisted that except they produce the wrappers, they are going to the nearest police station from the site. I started calling policemen in the station to come to site and make the arrest. Me and other workers all joined the search, for hidden coils of cables this time around. It took another one hour or more before one carpenter climbed into the ceiling and onto the roof, from there he found 2 brand new unopened cables, plus another 1.5mm cable all neatly hidden in the roof, away from our eyes. The electricians later admitted to hiding the cables in the ceiling. I just gave them transport money to return to Enugu same night, because I can no longer tolerate their presence in the site.

Things do happen in sites o

Just lost my appetite as I read this

Wow!!!
Just wow!!

Eval123:
please I need advice.

Am a young guy age 28 currently in my final year hoping to graduate this year by God's grace. Am in a relationship in with a gal I love so much and the love keeps growing day by the day. She is 30 years old and just graduated this year but she is talking of waiting for me so we can serve together. The thing now is that I wish to get married to her but am not ready now. But she says she can wait for me if only I won't disappoint her. Now am confuse, if she waits for me for 5 years she would be 35 by then and am not sure if it's right getting married to someone 2 years older than me and someone at the age of 35 or above.. to add to it, she doesn't look her age, even if someone sees us, there won't believe she is my senior.. pls am really confused, have never dated someone who understands me like she do.. Note: she never knew my age, she thought we were age mate cause of my voters card she saw which doesn't carry my real age..

You may not take this advice seriously because it hasn't got anything to do with your post, but I'll say it anyway.
The first word I saw when I wanted to read your post was "Am"
As someone who passed through primary and high school, and has already spent a number of years in a university or polytechnic, this shows poor learning.
Your language of instructions throughout your schooling was English, right?
You ought to have learned the difference between "Am" and "I'm"

Don't be one of those who give the excuse that English isn't their mother tongue, because such people can't even write or read in their native language if they couldn't comprehend a language they used (English) all through their school years.

So, instead of using "am", the proper thing to write is "I am". "I'm" is the short form of "I am"
"Am" does not stand alone. It is not proper.

Finally, to your dilemma. You claim you love the lady, and she has decided to wait for you, despite the age difference. She being a woman knows her biological clock is ticking, but is ready to wait. Means she has more to lose, right?

So, you lose nothing by going along with her. Just take the added precaution of letting some older and trusted members of your family and hers know what you two have decided. Let them know she promised to wait for you, and you didn't force her to make this decision.
This is just in case things don't work out, and she turns around to blame it on you for wasting her time. Women can be fickle like that.

If she is worth the wait, reward her patience by being true to her.

I'm a few years older than my wife. We met in the university, and even though we both had time on our side, I felt some pressure because suitors were bombarding her and her family on the daily.

After she kept trying to persuade me to go meet her family, I sat her down and looked her in the eyes and told her, she will have to give me X number of years to put my acts together. We were both fresh graduates (we graduated same time) and waiting for NYSC call up.
Told her after 1 year NYSC, I need to be employed, get my own apartment, and be financially stable before I get married. If she feels she can't wait for that number of years I asked for, then she can go get married to anyone of the dozens of men forming a queue in front of her father's house. And I would try to not let her decision piss me off

Next came her emotional blackmails with endless weeping: that I don't love her as I claimed, that i want her out of my life, bla bla and more bla
Bottom line, she was willing to wait, but was scared that while waiting, another chic could capture my heart.
Her parents were also on her neck because the queue of suitors was getting longer, and they are getting tired from entertaining so many suitors, and time waits for no one, not even for the hottest spinster in town.

Long story short, we got married, but a little beyond the time I gave her. Things don't always go according to plan, but if both of you work towards a shared goal, nothing is impossible.
The age difference is no issue.
Good luck.

Good day, somez

Your services are available in Abuja only, or anywhere in Nigeria?

sapphiere:
Dear mothers, by no means should you leave your girl child in the custody of a man be it her father.

Your father must have been a terrible, terrible man. I feel pity for you.
He obviously violated you so much and made you his little penìs receptacle, you now feel a lot of animosity towards men in general
But then, you should realize that not all men are like your father.
I'm a father too. And I will protect my kids with the last drop of my blood.
If yours failed you, it wasn't your fault. He also failed himself.
I advise you seek medical and psychological counseling.
It is well with you.