₦airaland Forum

I agree. Relationships not working doesn't necessarily mean one person is a bad person.

caprini1:
When i,m 50,i will like to adopt 2 children,i already started a savings policy at AXA MANSARD for it.May God keep us to fulfil our dreams.

Amen!

Gerrard59:
You are writing such to someone whose signature is: "Chase a cheque, never chase a bitch"?

TMTR is on an ulterior motive. It was a big mistake for the orphanage to allow him to adopt a female child as a lad in his mid-20s.

I saw the sig. That was actually what prompted me to drop him that message. Lol.

Let's just hope his intentions aren't malicious. There's no need to think the worst.

It's funny the OP somehow believes men make more compromise or tolerate more in marriage. We all know that if married women decide to create threads to share the things they've had to put up with cause "that's how men are", Nairaland would crash. Anyway, I suggest he speaks for his uncle and not "married men".

Mindlog:
I will want to believe children within the custody of registered orphanages in Nigeria are expected to have their details lodged in a family courts and when there is a request for adoption, officials from the state ministry responsible, their social workers and the family courts get involved.

The magistrate is the one who gives final order for the release of the child to the adoptive parent/parents, which is a long and windy process but in Nigeria, some orphanages are into runs.

Accross the world, there is a huge skepticism when it comes to a single male wanting to adopt a girl child as it is usually rejected, the psychologists involved in the process usually do not approve such an arrangement as the request is usually met with raised eyebrows.

It is not just an issue of having a dirty mind or not but the most important thing is how it will help the child to be exposed to less risks and adjust better in life, going forward.

Good morning.

You know the picture you shared is almost useless without context, right? No heading, no link, nothing, just a subsection of a text that could be from anywhere. Please, guide us. Thanks.

Meanwhile, I believe if the OP followed the required steps, I see no issue here. Don't get me wrong, the skepticism is well understood. For example, the OP is barely an adult himself. He still goes around saying things like "leave bitches, "simp", "Bleep them", etc. Things fathers - especially those with daughters - shouldn't say. But that's not a deal breaker nevertheless. Even some married fathers still behave this way. Raised eyebrows shouldn't also be a problem provided there's eventually nothing suspicious found on the man's part. In Nigeria, single or not, people are generally skeptical about the entire adoption thing anyway.

As for the rest of the world, laws vary but many allow it and it has become even normal in some countries. In Canada, single men adopt kids often including gay people. In the US, it has been legal for long but used to be uncommon back then. Now, it's also very common. I know it's not easy to tell someone not to make thier kids but settle for adoption. But those who can do this should be encouraged. There are millions of kids out there looking for a place to call home. Let's just hope the authorities did thier assignment well.

If she allows you and eventually gets pregnant, all of you will still gather here to call a shameless olosho. Someone above is already suggesting you rape her. Hhmm..

platido:
After he has cash out his own...left the people to face the merciless lord (Taliban's)...fear human.

Same thing will happen in Nigeria with all these traveling of medical check up... after syphoning the money...carry their family members japa Uk and leave Una to Wail with Bandits and kidnapping

Lol... when it's a man, we say "fear humans" but when a lady is involved, we focus on thw gender.

MrPristine:
Attached below is the real cover of the book, the 3D cover used above is for promoting the book.

Oh... nice.

Antoeni:
If penis was for one woman, it would have been called Peni

Ladies Know this and know peace

Godispeace:
But your sister gave it to him na !!!

Patrioticman007:
What's wrong with Igbo women & Adultery ?.

DeHorus:
Your sister an Olosho, sorry

humilitypays:
No crime committed here. Madam go back to your kinsmen and settle this issue amicably, stop distracting us from focusing on Annie and Tonto dramas

Awise09:
You left your sister with your husband to take care of while you went on lifetime hush

chiedu7:
is ur sister a mumu?

Even without opening this thread, I already knew people would still side the man. These guys above didn't deem it necessary to even admonish the man who broke his marriage vows. Regardless of the story, the default reaction is to blame the woman. Somebody said "but your sister gave it to him nah" as if that automatically justifies the married man who vowed to stick to his wife. Did she tell she's happy with the sister? What was shared with us what she told the court and that's apparently because there's no legal case against the woman the man slept with. Isn't this obvious? Reverse this case and all you'd be seeing here is "fear women". Even tribalists are more logical than sexists. Sexism makes even the most intelligent minds seem dumb.

I know it's a marketing strategy but I kinda find it odd that the name of the person that forwarded the book is bolder than that of the author on the front page.

TMTR:
Lol, I am not sure if I am ever going to get married , but I know where you are coming from, my younger sister is so fond of her, she spends school holidays with her abroad so she is covered so don't worry.

Getting married is a choice and if you don't want to, it's perfectly okay. However, whatever you do, don't be a wayward father. The child's self esteem will stem from how you treat women. Let her know that there's more to life that being a good wife. Tell her that regardless of her gender, she can be anything she wants to be in life. Tell her that it's not cool to refer to women as "bitches", "vagina people" or "that gender" cause they are human as we are. Tell her to always voice her opinion even in a society where it doesn't seem to count. Tell her to look beyond the stigmatization of Nigerian girls and pursue her dreams head-on. Tell her to be careful with the boy child but know that he's not an enemy.

HRHQueenPhil:
c its not only nigeria dear.even western countries no matter your sexuality,dey want two people in a partnership esp marraige . its poor countries like ethopia DAT bend d rules becos she get money And was helping the children. Its he LPs d child to not rely solely on u,but there is anoda help In d life of the child..backyard adoption is easier but too risky . jail time sef if things go south

This is so not true.

Great! You have contributed your part to making the world a better place. Nigeria should encourage adoption. A lot of babies out there looking for somewhere to call home.

Now, do your part to make the world a safe place for the girl child.

Humanoid01:
How did you even comprehend what he wrote sef?

Hehe... it was a puzzle.

And you think the North I'd Nigeria's problem.

bmdmix11:
proberly consuming it self internally, since it looks like a left

Did you read the write-up?

APCNig:
Yes, he is.

Buhari will clear all road blocks for the Jagaban. The lifeless terrorist does not break his promises, that's why he won't stop supporting Bandits = Boko Haram = Fulani herdsmen. They are his boys.

Jagaban is Nigeria's best hand after Professor Emeritus Charles Chukwuma Soludo the undoubted Solution.

Jagaban will create jobs, raise leaders and expand the economy. Though we may all be working for him, but there will be jobs and money in all households. His leadership skills are not in doubt. After the politicians of the First Republic who are our founding fathers, no other Nigerian has the leadership skills that Bola Ahmed Tinubu the Jagaban Borgu has.


I am just saddened with the fact that he is an unrepentant treasury looter,a prolific thief and a devilish power monger. I am still trying to figure out how much a human will have before he will say "thank God for this blessing, now I want to serve mankind".

Your campaign strategy is quite idiosyncratic. I'd like to see how the opposition will approach. Observing.

Ammishaddai:
Child abuse but no one is saying anything .

You assume she was underage because she was a JAMB candidate?

So this thread was created and pushed to the front page to mock those who refused to participate in examination malpractice? Lol... the things you guys promote in Nigeria are just mind blowing.

Wow... culture.

Thinking about it, I have absolutely nothing against polygamy (which comprises of polygyny and polyandry). It's all about transparency and consent. The only issue is when you started off promising monogamy and then switch to polygamy halfway. That's a breach of contract and illegal (except the one you're already married to divorces you or consents to it).

Meanwhile, the idea of marrying a new wife and making her the first wife is illogical.

Same story everyday. Please, men, let's start holding each other accountable. Should we now say "fear men"?

WibusJaga:

Any music that inspires you to commit sin is satanic.

Lol... the Songs of Solomon

I don't think one needs a reason to like a particular form of entertainment. Some people like apple, others like orange. Some people like football, others like wrestling. Such is life.

Meanwhile, I never knew a particular gender likes wrestling more.

Queenslander:
Yeah,. It's out!
The fifth and final season of Money Heist premiered today. Friday, September 3 2021. worldwide.

Great! That's my next show once I'm done with Blind Spot.

Queenslander:
❤️

Is this year's season out? Can't remember the season numbers. Lol

Blind Spot.

donforeign:
Baba go watch film jare...
Which one be spoil

But the other guy killed the suspense. Why say what happened at the end?

Aren't all jobs remote now?

zealadjay:
And u have sister or sisters abi

Not sure you understood my post.

EmekaA125:
We usually say women are useless because Nigerian ladies have conditioned their minds to think that vagina is the only thing they need to show appreciation to a man, pay debts or show love to a man. They practically see vagina as one big favour being done to a man.

Spread love, not hate.

Tomahawk99:
To the chinese it's just business nothing personal...but you're right Afghanistan provides a platform for the likes of Russia and China to take a piss against the US.

You boldly said this as if you're part of the Chinese government. Lol