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Slynation:
As long as you ain't married to such person...Forget it, it ain't Cheating.....!!

lol are you supposed to just walk up straight to a girl stranger and propose to her then , is marriage your criteria for cheating?

the thing isn't about forgiveness it's about forgetting which I can assure you may never come hence the need to part ways. you must understand th3 core of every good relationship out there is trust forgiving doesn't bring it back forgetting does and that my dear doesn't come cheap.

AfroKnight:
Thank you for your answer. The context is strictly heterosexual relationships though.

I think it is unfair to charge that guy with rape. If he was deemed unfit to drive, how then was he fit to give his consent, as he had also suffered impaired judgment? What if he had charged them with rape first, would the judgement go the same way?

We all handle intoxication differently. 3 bottles of beer may be too much for you and 5 straight bottles may be my warm up. The amount of drinks taken will be an unreliable factor, because some people are more susceptible than others.

Anyway, I’m glad you responded. Thanks again.

you're welcome it's true people handle intoxication differently like I don't even dare drink at all the least is usually too much for me but the idea is if you were able to drive home and then get them in the room and then take turns with both of them it doesn't really help his case , remember the drink and drive rule :

impaired judgement is usually the most cause of drink n drive and not just even causing an accident, you also remember that their speed limits which on a normal day anyone can easily get a ticket talk less of Been drunk and am not so sure a 3some helps him.either way can we say he got so drunk he was able to scale home two ladies, get them in his room , uncloth them and had his way with them while heavily intoxicated?

I think even i myself would lean on a guilty verdict on this one too and thanks for the sound and meaningful reply.

pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

firstly dear I am so sorry about your current condition but I can assure you that the legal system is solidly behind you.

revenge porn as it is called is a crime and yours is also a case of potential rape .


I am an investigative writer and I can sense alot of things going wrong from your explanation to be frank I think the supposed rapist and your boyfriend may actually be cohorts if I am not mistaken, a typical black mail doesn't work this way hence my suspicion your boyfriend might be the Brain behind this crap.

firstly a typical black mail would have the rapist be the one trying black mail and not your so called boyfriend.

secondly how on earth did he get his hand on those videos doesn't that hit you like how did he get it because am sure if your boyfriend has it then perhaps it's already online but from what I think it's not online yet meaning the video is still with the prime suspects( your boyfriend and the rapists)

thirdly I bet you your boyfriend is scared as hell to release that first of all he is a student like you meaning if an investigation is launched after the release he too would go in for it, secondly this is he just black mailing by scarring the crap out of you so you won't leave him clearly he knows you would scurry to him once he does this but he has no idea he has also exposed himself.

fourth dear be brave and pursue the legal means, you have to be strong he knows your weakness yes but you can show him your strength, we all get into all sort of crap and this is no different I don't care if this was rape or consensual on your part your boyfriend is dabbling into the illegality of this act, he believes you would never stand up for this because of course it's sex and such comes with some sensitivity but there is nothing to be ashamed of, it's not just your education that is threatened now but you so act fast get the school authorities involved take the first step.

it's important you take the first step, people won't listen to your story if that coward dares such which I can assure you he won't, in my head he is just bluffing and enjoying the moment, that accident of yours may have been paid for which is why I urge you to take the first step, don't let him treat you like some slave or prisoner, take control get your friends who you can trust and share with them, there is no shame in sex so please take the first step, like I said remember the law is on your side, be brave and stand strong.

AfroKnight:
He took advantage of you when you were unable to give consent? That’s rape. Your boyfriend wants to leak the tape? Your lawyer is going to kill two birds with one stone.



I have a question though. Somewhat Unrelated to the thread.
A man and a woman are both drunk. They have sex. Who took advantage of whom? These days, consent is defined by the woman. Why?

well to your question it's definitely the one who is more drunk , a case of this happened in abroad about two ladies who accompanied their male neighbor to a party all three got drunk but the male was able to drive all three back and had sex of both 'em he was still charged with rape because he was the least drunk of all trio .

about consent ehmm well dear friend I don't think it's usually the woman remember men get raped too and even in the cases of homosexuals and bisexuals.

consent is not defined by either gender, it is what it is.

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hah lolz I dey sweat on top phone wow and to think I came second in scramble this year for school chai dear brain we have alot to talk about , MY SHOUT OUT TO THE ENGLISH DEPARTMENT happy SUNDAY to you all

ogbuefi677:
lolz.
All these abokki and talk.
A quarter of the abokkis you see are from Niger republic and Chad and the indigenous Nigerian abokkis love it that way,so where them wan start?

ogbuefi677:
lolz.
All these abokki and talk.
A quarter of the abokkis you see are from Niger republic and Chad and the indigenous Nigerian abokkis love it that way,so where them wan start?

those ones are special immigrants who are usually given special visa once election period is coming.

xpool:
Her mother was stupid, but the way one of the teachers pulled and pushed the girl's head, just to film her face was too bad. In civilized world the teacher should be facing a case of child abuse now, you don't bully a child because you want film her face and show to the whole world. Imagine the everlasting stigma. In Nigeria we assess issues with unnecessary emotion, the fact that she fixed eye lash to school though not encouraged, is pure youthful exuberance. Girls do it. During holidays, many parents excessively beautify their daughters in the saloons and change back when it is school time. It is not a taboo. Why did the teachers not show were the shameless mother was pushed by the security man. He who comes to equity must come with clean hands.

to know a guy typed this is worth celebrating, nice one.

Alono78:
I hope they won't expel her too

from the school 's statement about her cooperation and remorse I doubt it besides she did more damage to herself thanks to her wonderful mom.

DonBenny77:
Leaders of tomorrow that never comes

DonBenny77:
Leaders of tomorrow that never comes

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Ariza:
I read a thread here sometimes ago where Men were advised to marry and learn to love those who love them and only use and dump those they love.I asked how does one learn to love but my question was left unanswered, the ones who tried to answer only danced around it. No procedure or How to was provided and I laughed. How men bask judiciously in so much ignorance amuse me! They believe women learn to love so they can do it too.But only the wise one would ask how women easily divert this so called love on their children as soon as they are born neglecting the fathers. Was the love ever there?


The truth is you can never learn to love, you can only learn to appreciate.Love is not something you can create but Gratitude, you can. The misconception comes when people mix up love and gratitude. Contrary to what we see movies like a man learning to love the woman he was force to marry, No! he only learned to appreciate and live with the woman after his brain has been reconfigured by a terrible situation that might have caused him to lose the Good woman.

Op, you can't learn to love. You can only learn to appreciate, learn to be with and learn to accept your Man. In this case, look at the positive sides of things, compare his good qualities to what others do not have and accept him. I wish you luck.

finally!!!! wow you must be out of this world I was about to say something like its impossible to learn how to love and then your comment offered me more than I could imagine, thanks for this one you're 100% right on this

me am still wondering how I dated one of the most beautiful girl in my school when my mirror will refuse to reflect my image then I remember say hustle be dey pay steady, my hands and my brain were not ugly likewise you my guy no dull focus on your work, earn good and watch fishes fly into your net lol but seriously bro


trust me I no fine reach you oh but the idea of been beautiful or handsome is a personal decision and choice in other words if you think you are ugly, you will act like one, think like one, do like one and let people treat you like one which is bad.

beauty is in the mind of the owner and eyes of the beholder, first is what you think of your self, trust me man, there is one chick just somewhere around the corner waiting for you plus get working on your personality, improve that, be the Alpha male you should be, act like one and do like one, work and earn money and relax your mind.

good luck dude and never never ever feel like you're ugly, money might bring the ladies around truly but the ones who stay at the end there is something else you will have to offer to them and that is something I want you as a guy to work on, that something is you yourself.

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

hey sweetie I know you are going through alot right now so please do read my advice up above I am not a relationship expert but I have emotions and feelings and I can understand how it feels at this crucial moment of your life.

there is something they say about pain

"by anticipating our pains , we hurt ourselves the more "

in truth you are hurting more than you are likely to once you get this off your mind so please no more tears, read my advice and if you want to talk just tag my comment.

I know how you feel... wait I don't know how you feel I have only dated once lol but hey I know you're in a panic mode right now which is something I can relate to, I can imagine how restless you must be right now hopefully you get to read this and take an advice.


firstly don't let anyone get into your head saying all sort of trash about you dear you're human and I can assure you, we may even do worse if we find ourselves in your position.


secondly you are not guilty of anything, the relationship was off meaning you too went your separate ways and trust me the first two to three weeks of a break up is usually a bit messy, we do All kind of shit just to get away from the hurt it doesn't matter whose fault is it, it happens , it's a reason among many you could have slept with your guy's friend and even if that ain't the reason trust me when I tell you that you did nothing wrong.

thirdly you have to talk with your boyfriend's friend and for what it is worth because I don't know about this friend of his but I am human and a guy myself and we like to take advantage of situations please dear don't let any one take advantage of you I know you're at a desperate and confused stage right now but relax take a breath and tell yourself it's okay, talk to him find out what he wants if he hasn't told your man already then something is up and three things are involved here, one he wants to keep this a secret or he wants you to tell your man himself or he wants to take advantage of the situation which I fear the most but here is something you are not seeing he has alot to lose as you do if e tells your man the truth maybe you have more of the lose but definitely he too has a part of it.

four, it hard to see a relationship crumble sweety but trust me it's bitter and hurtful if you go into this union with such secret, this is not some random guy this is your man's friend , my only relationship of four and a half years came crashing because I couldnt tell the truth it came back to hurt me even when I thought it was all okay, don't let your man find out for himself, be brave, pray, be confident and reassure your self that you did nothing absolutely wrong and go talk with him, trust me part of the restlessness and desperation you are feeling now is because you are already anticipating what he would do if he knows the truth.

don't make a mistake now, I know what marriage and even been with the one you love means but no relationship can succeed truly without the truth remember this : YOU GUYS BROKE UP WHEN THIS HAPPENED ANY SENSIBLE GUY SHOULD AND WOULD UNDERSTAND this.


another thing I have up in my head is what if this again is some set up I mean do you think this is a coincidence, yes it can be but I want you to sit it out and think about it again what if something is wrong here with this whole drama you're in, your man can be playing a smart one with his friend too but then again I am just thinking out loud.

whatever your choice is I just want you to know you are not guilty of anything here and don't for any reason let anyone treat you like that.

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Starboyyy:
lol....these guys sha,my type of niggers ....when you have loved ones around, you can feel free..... fvck forming!

asin eh... thats the good an healthy life

what my guy doesn't know that he could be the next victim of a 1000 ways to die #civil explosion

now his news has hit FP

okenwa216:
Ho wait, that’s practically not possible to me. I am a guy. And I was once a child. No amount of sex can make a guy bleed. Or does he have p***y. I am even surprised when they say a guy can be raped. How does his thing get erect without being in the mood ?

wait your comment doesn't make any sense but perhaps this is sarcasm at its best or a badly thought out joke.

The actress revealed in an interview with Zionflex that she stopped
going to Church because of the level of hypocrisy there


this is a stupid reason for quitting church hopefully not the religion , I myself am agnostic but I live by the moral laws and just idealism religion has installed in me.

making. the sa6mistakes my dad did

hisgrace090:
Only foolish people act or move without proper investigation,

I still can't believe a landlord would do such or act in such a stupid manner like really, you have the decency to build such a modern and nic3 apartment but lack the decency to make formal enquiries as to how the rent is been paid or managed mehn in U.S. omoh e will not only pay but go to jail for assault infact attempted threat to life make the guy go police tell them say na robbers enter e house jhare the landlord go eat Christmas beans for jail

talk2oxii:
Dear Nairalanders,

Please help me find simple but deep(meaningful) matching names for my boy and girl twin.

hey check the above names and congratulations

Deon and Dawn
Harry and Harley
Adrianne and Adrian
Divine and Dillian
Darren and Dorine
Nathaniel /Nathan and Natasha
Lucy and Lucian
Marvin/ Mervyn(male) and Marvel (unisex)
laura / Lory and Larry
Samuel /Samson (Sammy/sam) and Samantha (Sam)
Troy and Treasure
Daniel and Daniela
Ava and Alvin
Joel and Jewel
Cherish and Cedric / Clarence
Cynthia (cy) and Cyril (cy)
Michaela, Michele, and Micha and Michaela, Michele, and Micha.

Annie001:
Everything is wrong with being black
I can relate
My next life I want to be given birth to in obodoyinbo sometimes I don’t blame the white because all this yeye bleached African slay mama look down on people with normal black skin, see them as ugly beside if you can bleach your skin to look like them you are also a racist
Drops mic

this is stupid.

sometimes I look at the wickedness of some people and I just ask myself, are you sure this people have blood in their veins or is it mirinda they have in their veins?

DRPAIT123:
Now, you just called her the name of one of the best movies and TVs Review site in the US

RT is over hyped bruh, people hardly pay attention to their criticism this days with consistent and familiar faces constantly criticizing movies over and over again, I think RT is starting to look like those judges on AMERICA IDOL.

that journalist has Mirinda ..wait she has Pepsi running in her veins.

Richy150:
That's what they called love, real love.

not everyone understands what that word means dear friend .

1kbusiness:
Wow. This your story get plenty twist. When I thought I knew where it was going, bam, the story took another turn.

Now you've taken my joy away.
Was just ready to bash someone really hard.

Anyways, permit me to look for small money here.
I convert people's logos to a 3D format logo that they can use for their social media pages for just 1k oh.

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mehn reminds me of me back then perhaps I may share my misfortunes someday.

efembaba:
I didn't believe this until I watched d video.. Mehnn.

I recently read of the woman who had a rocket launched grenade In her face, the doctors put their life at risk just to get the live grenade out of her chin without shaking the grenade ,they did that operation under the sun, see I can say it's all God but I have to give a part of that credit to the brave men and women out there risking their lives to help others, it's not easy, they're the true heroes and heroines