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@ Joey82,
How could you be so sure?

It's unfortunate that sometimes we make mistakes at a very young age that hunts us forever. You have fallen in love with the wrong person. My friends call it wrong emotional investment.

She's not particularly a wrong person though but for the fact that your brother had it with her makes it totally wrong for you to marry her or even have it with her at all.

Fact is that you'll never be able to trust her with your brother as well as anything can happen in your absence. There's always going to be that perculier familiarity between your brother and this lady. It's going to be like they share the same secret as you share with her.
So, for the health of your future family, sit this lady down, have a good talk with her and both of you should see that it is totally wrong for you to be in this relationship. It's unfortunate but she has also been not so wise. Now two brothers would have slept with her and she can't have non of them. The loss is hers.

Quite an age.

Sorry you didn't start looking earlier, maybe like 10 years ago. Anyway, better late than never.

I wish you the best. Guess you'll meet yours sometime soon.

Only on the condition that your friend has met this girl one on one, studied her and she has studied him too and they are both sure this is what they want.

If that is the case, where they met doesn't really matter. But if they've never met, if it has always been an internet thing, then, I wouldn't advice this.

Pictures, mails and phone calls could be deceptive. They can never be as thorough as meeting one on one.

Truth is that you can not really judge an individual based on his nationality.  _{though i could be a little racist or even tribalistic myself}
Study the guy for a while and if he's the kind of guy you like, don't let his being Jamaican spoil a good chance of having real love. Go for it but with both your eyes  wide open.

Interesting!
I know that feeling, could be real sweet but sorry sista, no telling

yimilet!  That is what I be 

Very interesting story.
Some guys are simply creative. 

But no, there's is no point trying your partner. You can never really tell; just like the guy in the story, you may end up getting it all wrong, either possitively or negatively.

Boy!
This is one of the most terrible things that could happen to a man.
I thought these things only happen in movies and novels.
I'm sorry bro, shit happens.

To begin with, there is definitely no way you can accept your ex-girlfriend back, the relationship is yesterday. It's totally over.

But I don't think avoiding your family  will solve this problem, this is something you must look straight in the eye and end the rubbish once and for all.

Leaving the house for a while is ok, so you can cool off and think right, lest you do something you'll regret for the rest of your life, but you can pick your parents' calls while you think of what to.

when you finally feel a little peace within you, you must call a family meeting and address this issue.

Your brother and your girlfriend were totally wrong, but your brother is still family and you must try to accept him back. It's going to take a while to love him again like a brother but this is something you will have to work on.
Subsequently, keep  your relationships and your brother apart, since this is not the first time. Make sure he never has anything to do with your subsequent relationship and well, no matter what, LIVE GOES ON.

Sorry Bro, Shit happens.

which one? mental, physical or emotional handicap

Please specify

Please move to entertainment.
I'll read and make my contributions there.

ariblaze:
i heard they said richard had sex with that nigerian girl

@ ariblaze,
Please get your fact right before you make contributions.
Richard and Tatiana had sex together and not our own Nigerian Ofuneka.

I hate any topic that has to do with BBA 2 and will have passed by but I'll hate for anyone to think Ofuneka stooped low enough to have sex with Richie.

The ban will have been a good idea if it had come in earlier. A week or two to the show would have been appropriate but as a poster rightly said, this is medicine after death.

The story sounds interesting but badly written.
Please edit.

I agree with iice and Rhino

Please adopt the child legally now or the biological father might come from the blues one day and lay claims to him.

Happy birthday girl
Happy many returns

@ A.K. Moor,
What is not realistic about that?

What do you want a lady for?
To disvirgin you?
Only God will see us through in this world of ours. Is it a crime to remain a virgin at 25?
What if you wait till marriage? is it a taboo? Obviously, you're the type that will get a girl pregnant, deny her and run away.
Face your cafe business and school if you're not done with that. Getting disvirgined shouldn't be your priority now.

@ Poster,
Start by making friends with ladies. Just friend, take your time to know them and narrow your friendship down to one finally. That is the one that you most feel comfortable with. Then, ask her out when you're sure she's the one.

There's actually nothing like a totally good person, neighther is there anyone that is totally bad. There must be some qualities you want in your lady. If you find up to 70% in one, hook up with her.

@ debosky,
Don't spoil this thread with those names. But. . . wait a minute, you could be right, those guys have made something out of what is suppose to be a problem. _{Their size!}

This is NA WA

Why not?
you can conveniently do without sex in a relationship if both partners agree.

If you're married, it's not advisable unless on religious grounds, but if you're not, both partners will have to discuss it and agree that their relationship will exclude sex.

It's usually difficult for the guy and even the lady but much easier if they are both virgins. If one of them is a virgin, it will be easier for him or her and she might be able to help the other partner to have a relationship without sex.

At the long run, it boils down to understanding.

eezeebone:
@Yimiton
Hi, remember me?

@ eezeebone,
Not really. could you ginger my brain please?

@ sholeee,

sholeee:
how can u know a real woman?i learnt we have terrible girls that can do everything for u and reeive anything frm u,but their heart will be far from u
i hate girs that double date

Fear is a terrible impediment. If you don't try, you'll never find out.
Just as there are lots of bad girls out there (as well as guys at that) there are good girls too.

It's your first post and you're complaining about never having a girl friend!

Nobody can tell why you never had a girlfriend but maybe:
You were probably too busy with academics to think about it or your religious background as well as upbringing discouraged it.

On the other hand, maybe you had a lot of female friends and they all thought you were dating the other girl and you ended up being 'just friends' with all of them.

As a growing child I thought the world of Bill Cosby. Then, I fell in love with Wole Soyinka and Sidney Sheldon but today, Opra Winfrey is my role model. I love where she's coming from, where she is and where she's going to.

I love her strength, her personality even after all she passed through as a kid.

@ poster,
It's normal to dream of anyone you keep thinking about for a long time. Weather thoughts of good or of evil.
work on your mind and on your relationship with her.

@ poster,
work on your mind and on your relationship with her.

Good idea.
Candies, I like the beads- on- your- waist -thing. I wonder where you got the idea. very very creative.

It's not ususally healthy for the family but it's usually inevitable.
It's not a planned thing. Even if a parent has a favourite, it's necessary not to make it conspicious otherwise, it will cause a lot of jelousy and trifts between siblings.