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Chikabel:
Much as this matter is close to being settled, I'll answer you.
She never seized the documents, Sir.
She's the only lady with 2 brothers, one elder, one younger.
As at when the land was purchased and building erected, she was the "supervisor " as per, the only one in the state at that time, her two brothers handed over everything to her for her to manage, while she sends them intermittent reports, which she did diligently as the hardworking woman she is.
Building erected, was still her and her aged mom staying there till she got married and even months afterwards before her younger brother threw her out with her kids, saying she can't be staying with her husband in "his" house, as at this time, she and her husband could not afford an accommodation of their own yet. A house all 3 of them contributed to building, she was even the richest among them then, she got married at 40, so if you can imagine, she was already an independent woman, though business got very bad at some point. Just before she got married.
They quickly put heads together and got a place with the help of my mom, and moved.
Question should be, when did the hunger for power and possession overcome the younger brother? The elder brother, who should have been the one agitating if there was any need for it, doesn't find it worth fighting for.
Family meetings have been set up, and the blame always, I mean, always rests on the younger brother, yet he has decided not to relent, disgracing himself further.
Now, you see how the possession of the documents came about, and since the eldest has insisted she keeps it, it remains so.

If the matter is close to being settled, then there's nothing more to say. But to clarify you on the reason I asked question. The younger brother is aggrieved and from what I've read he pursued it the legal way by involving the police. So I was wondering who the activists would fight against, the brother or the police?

Again, who made the largest contribution in monetary terms to the erection of the house and what is the younger brother's living condition at the moment. Have anybody ever really listened to the younger brother to know why he's aggrieved or because he's the youngest his feelings doesn't matter? Why I'm asking these questions is for you guys to be able to predict how voilent he's willing to get on this matter. If he can go this far, I presume he's done yet. You guys need to be careful.

And the elder brother is not wise at all. If he was he would have kept the document himself.

After telling us that you're beautiful and smart, you forgot to mention that the guy is rich and rich. Hmm! I think that's the only evidence that you're really smart

Chai! Na my papa be this o. The only difference is that he spends money and it must be him that will do the spending. How we survived is what I can't tell

Of course, mothers should teach their sons how to show respect to women but who teaches them how to determine how that respect should be earned?

You can teach a child how to price goods but you can't teach him when to stop pricing. He learns that on his own and his experiences will shape how he prices the next good

Yes. We should also stop Buhari from visiting our country

Married people. Make una pack jor. I no get time for una nonsense today.

By the way, have you bought your coffin today. Woods are getting depleted. By the time you're ready, you might not be able to afford it then. Be smart and invest in your coffins today. Comfort for the dead is our motto

There's a new scheme called 'coffin insurance.' We're working with top insurance firms to marshal out cheap insurance scheme that makes coffins readily affordable for you and your family

If I were the one, I would get him the Iphone.

As I'm giving it to him, I'll add a clause to our agreement. The Iphone will remain his as long as he continues performing. Once he slacks, it would be taken from him.

But being a seven year old kid, he would lose interest in the phone and if he's smart he will demand for something else, which will require him to invent s/th before I give it to him.

Why did she sieze the documents? Was the documents supposed to be in her custody in the first place?

Who are the activists supposed to fight for? The lady or the kids?

Ah! Feminists. I hate them like the Arabs hate the Jews.

Mara and Clara

Any man who has an opportunity to cheat but didn't is either poor, jew or has low sex drive.

As God like praise so, if you stop praising him while your neighbour still does, what do you think will happen?

OP I seriously want to learn how to cook that. I don tire for indomie o

start with the ingredients and step by step process of it's done. You might help to keep someone alive o

The girl is not even smart with her idea. She should have suggested that they build a very big sperm bank, milk the men of their sperms and then kill them all. Also, any mother that gives birth to a male child should kill him too. They would be making use of the sperms in the sperm bank until they figure out a way to achieve fertilization using two female eggs.

With this, all her problem will solved.

The last pic, she look like person wey wan use style fart

fem29:
Hmmm I doubt there is any marriage that you do not have to work on. Open your ears now, marriage is bloody hard work, don't believe fairy tales. No matter how much you love someone, it is hard to be married to them , trust!

Which is why it should be stripped and exposed for what it's trully is. A battle front where there's constant power play. Why desire to keep fighting a battle till one dies?

LordReed:
So you mean the only work marriage requires is during courtship?

Yes.
You don't work hard and enjoy. You work hard to enjoy.

LordReed:
You enjoy marriage while you work at it. As long as you are married there no off switch or close time when you can now say I am no longer working at my marriage now I am relaxing. You work and enjoy marriage at the same time.

If marriage is trully what it's being packaged to be, then you're wrong.

You work to set it up not to keep it. In fact, the moment you realize you have to work or keep working to sustain your marriage is the moment you should find your exit.

In Nigeria, number 6 is a lie
if you have to work hard in marriage too, when are you supposed to enjoy life?

If I tell you will it increase the price of coffin?

edwife:
There is nothing wrong in wanting more, like I said, when wanting more- we should not neglect what we already have.

My grandma used to say If you get a new pot, do not throw away the old pot.

I can tell you have already made up your mind and honestly i will advice that you let her go, you know why because i don't want her to suffer in this marriage. You will never be satisfied with her unless she becomes what you want her to be.It is not going to be sudden but you are not patient enough to wait until she does.

You don't love her, there is something special when someone loves you the way you are without trying to change you.She doesn't need it and she definitely doesn't need YOU.I wish she could read this and move on.It will hurt but it will also save her from a loveless marriage,nagging and resentful husband.A life full of agony.

You're wrong. He loves her alright. If not, considering the kind of person I've percieved him to be he would have left a long time ago and the fact that they live far apart would have made it easier.

This kind of people make logical decisions in everything they do. And he won't think twice about dumping her if he doesn't think he would work something out. That is what he is doing, trying to work something out and you guys shaming tactis won't work. All he needs is practical solution.

Marxxx:
Ambitious ?yes I am. And I want her to be too. Looking at where I came from and where I am presently I become more ambitiously daily. The change I want from her is for her sake and my kid's. If she will give me support it should be a support that will motivate and inspire me. My interviewer 5yrs ago and I are currently on the same rank on the vertical chain. It takes a minimum of 12yrs of rise that fast. Only most Chinese, Indians/Dutch rise as fast as I did (under 5yrs). Where I am now, there is glass ceiling if you are not extra smart that is where you end. I am competing with crazy Chinese and Indians that bags additional degree per sec....Check the current MD of Frieslandlandcampina, that Indian guy is a donkey; same thing happens here. I can't be striving at the front only for me to come back home and start discussing futility. I have asked her to stop working and relocate to lagos. I will be open minded and if at the end of the year I am not convinced I will move on...If I can get this far staying in my shell.....dude I think it's best I barricade the shell

Okay.

It's a good thing you said you'll keep an open mind. While you are it though, have it in mind that the same way you're comfortable in your shell is the same way she will be in hers. It's been six years since she graduated, it won't be an easy task for her. And this kind of thing normally works when the role is reversed.

At this point I have nothing else to say. You're smart. So I trust you'll figure something out.

Well, you guys aren't married yet, so technically I have not broken my rule.

OP, if I'm to get you completely, she has become water to your fire. It can be demoralizing when the person you are supposed to spend eternity with (subject to debate in my book) doesn't share the slightest glimmer of the fire of ambition burning in you. And no matter how strong a fire is it loses its potency when it comes close to water. I presume this is what you are afraid of and trying to prevent.

But the alternative offers lesser hope, even exacerbated by your extremely introverted nature. If not, I would have suggested you pay her off and look for another. But that is going to be a herculean task for you. Worst, because you're inexperienced in that aspect, you might make the biggest mistake you will ever make.

That girl did good by you bro. No matter how ambitions you are, loyalty to such a girl shouldn't be relegated. I would never advice it. I know it's going to be difficult as you can't see her as sophisticated enough to give you the kind of advice you will require from your partner occasionally but rest assured you will always have her support.

I suggest you come out of shell and seek for at aleast a friend operating in the same wavelength as you or even higher who you can listen to when you need to. Complement that with the support from your woman and you're good to go. At least that's what I will do if I'm in shoes.

Lastly, talk to her to be less quarrelsome. That is very important.

Bros I know sey I mad but OP you mad pass me.

But you know what they say, mad people sometimes see the uncommon sense in things while the supposedly sensible people see the common sense.

HaneefahRN:
One word 'speak for urself'.
Ok, tht was three

Ah! I should have known

Unbrother him I guess

HaneefahRN:
Yh yh, women are always to blame. Let's all blame the women, they are the reasons their husbands av weak erection, premature ejaculation or just lacks any sexual imagination or doesn't care abt their satisfaction other than penetrate, release, then sleep, etc
Yes, let's continue blaming women, men are infallible beings, women shld always be at fault

Lies. Blatant lies. Truthless lies.

The sexual imagination in every man's head is overflowing. In fact they can give the creator a run for his money with it. But 98percent of the time the women are unwilling to try it. The women also won't even suggest one.

You are unwilling to try out a fantasy. You won't suggest one either and yet you expect sexual satisfaction. Who does that?

The solution is simple: don't cook with onions.
I've often wondered what's the work of onions in food?

All these quack Statisticians wey full nairaland sef

By the way wetin consin OP with another person forgiveness. It's his forgiveness. He can choose to do with it as he likes

If it's in the same room that the baby sleeps, it's very bad o

The baby has an acute sense of smell and might get used to the smell of your sperm which might lead her chasing after sperms when she grows up.

You will know I'm right when the baby starts to ignore the mother's breast even when she shoves it into her mouth

kristen12:
Depends on what you mean by "pick your brains", but I would have really loved to. I don't want to derail someone else's thread.

If that's you on your DP, what you understand minus 's' is most likely the right one. That's ok. Afterall, threads have destiny too, even the ones yet to be created.

kristen12:
How do you know he's dead?

lol. Nice lady wants to pick my brains. Hope you have a long fork cos it's too deep?

kristen12:
Lwkmd Seriously, you need Jesus!!!

Why would I need a dead man?