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oh! CONGRATULATIONS. so so happy for you.

zeeleso:
Well summarized,
To harness my academic knowledge and channel it towards an Islamic cause. I keep toying with ideas daily on how i can affect the deen with my skills. Its one dream that i really hope to achieve and i constantly keep thinking about.

yes. That'll really be fulfilling.

God help us.

Toothbrush, toothpaste, soap and sponge, towel, boxers, car, shaving kit, t-shirt and in short, anything sharable.

MRbrownJAY:
what about getting a cat?! i heard the scent of the cat will drive them away in a second.

you're right there. the presence of a cat scares rats away. But then you'll have to deal with feeding the cat and packing its faeces. Another disgusting exercise. And then the consideration of allergy is there. Some people are allergic to cats.

When she's ready for marriage.

To be an honorable daughter to my parents

An outstanding and the best mum to my children

The best friend and confidant to my hubby.

Sellit:
Brother /sisters, please stay away from participating in the pull asking if gay Nikah should be permitted, Nikah is Ibaadah in Islam  and Ibaadah are strictly by revelation as thought by the prophet  (s.a.w), there is no room for common sense  and hence no room for the pull. Participating in the pull is a mockery, and the initiator should desist from setting up pulls for issues of Ibaadah as this is also a mockery.

The initiator isn't a muslim. I don't think any muslim would ask such question or put up such poll.

Blazay:
0% trust. . . .especially in Nigeria.
But someone has to do the job.
You pick and keep the very best from the very worst that's all.

Treat them well, tolerate their genetically-unfavorable, m0r0nic, gene pool and avoid any form of domestic abuse. NEVER YELL AT THEM OR HIT THEM!!!
Familiarity breeds contempt. Do NOT make them your friends or buddies. Keep educating them on the need to improve their lots, while you educate your children why they cannot degenerate to such levels on the other hand. Learn to keep both worlds apart even where you want to take them as 'extended relatives'. This can never be a 'same but different' situation.

If it is a nanny, make your children understand the role being played as a NANNY in your home for they can't be 'friends' either. Keep it absolutely professional and rarely personal.


I have learned to tolerate the stealing, so my family can be spared the other horrors.
Like my mother always did. . . you always live a little something for them to steal and pretend you are a fool. . . .it is called a BONUS.
Keep lots of food around the house too and NEVER lock up your refrigerator. Let them keep eating and drinking away their senses thinking they are smart.
You find these all over the world too.
But the WORST cases are in Africa.

Well, you do your best and live the rest.
I escaped all these. . . my children will too.

If this helps.
Your best bet is to get people who have been in the family for years, or have worked for your other siblings or relatives. . . and you have observed for yourself. You know their parents. . .siblings. . .and all that kind of stuff.
Most of the people you should employ are people you know their socio-economic backgrounds. . .not total strangers in this day and age.
When things go bad. . .you know how to track them or their relatives.
The best referees you can get are those they have worked with in the past. . . .not 'fake guarantors'!

Your extended relatives are often the best sources of demestic helps. . . you can help each other that way.
Why employ a total stranger when an extended relative can benefit from it all?


Rule of thumb?

THE DEVIL YOU KNOW IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN THE ANGEL YOU DO NOT KNOW. NO SURPRISES.

I do not employ 'born-agains'. Period! Never!
Give me a witch. For I already know he or she is a witch. . . not a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Never knew I could agree with you on anything, but here, I agree 100percent

The worrld is indeed coming to an end.

Seeing and hearing all manner of rubbish.

what!

Mobinga:
According to her, she was a virgin till marriage. A trait which is non existent among Nigerian girls.

You shouln't generalise like that. Your generalisation is even wrong. A lot of Nigerian girls are decent and would remain virgins till their wedding nights. It depends on the kinds of people you move with.

rokiatu:
The person who is right.

Investigate.


You do not take sides in family, you investigate and settle scores.

why did u speak my mind?

Should I just press those keys at the same time or one after the other?

denzel2009:
and it could also be malware problems.

Try this anyway

Fn + SysRq or Fn + End keys should normally correct the problem.

thanks. I've tried scrlk, it ddidnt worrk. I'll trry this one.

tanx. I'll trry it and get back

mr.man:
To all the guru's in the house, 3 keys stoppd working on my computer this mornin. d keys are R Y U. i am using a sony vaio laptop . please help me oo, it's frustrating typin without those keys

similar problem I have here. Initially some keys stopped working but after some days, they started 'overworking'. Now if I press e, r, f, x it'll type 4 or 5 of the letters no matter how soft I press them. It's really frustrating.

While some sisters are very shy to make the 1st move, a new trend is going on now where some sisters are throwing caution to the wind.

Recently, I got info about a sister who proposed to 3 different brothers at the same time and one of the brothers is even married. This to me is going overboard and is against the nature of a woman let alone, a muslimah.

Amin

ifyalways:
You go first,what do u have to say or want to know

trust Ify has a lot to teach us here. Now people, fire in your questions.

Btw

Ify how's our baby doing? Hope you're on exclusive breastfeeding. It's the 1st best gift a mother can give.

yommyuk:
Are u a mind reader? Exactly what I am trying to achieve

And what do you want to achieve from that?

If a man goes on like that with all sisters he comes across, he may end up not getting married and if people come to know him for that, any interested sister would just put up a good saintly act for him on their 1st meeting, and if he falls for it, then he'll see her true colors after the wedding.

We shouldn't be too strict or uptight in our selection of spouse. And shouldn't be cunny or pretentious as well. Let there be moderation in everything.

Nice read, good lessons.

But you see, some people are not good at answering questions spontenously. The line of thinking of the woman could have been different from that of the man. for example, in the 'who do u love most question', the woman might not be thinking spiritually, she might be thinking that the brother just wanted to have an insight into her life, to know her best friend/confidant or something.

Though the woman shouldn't have flaired up, but we are humans. let's be realistic. It's rather impolite of the man to tell her he's got proposals from more beautiful women, and on their 1st meeting!

The guy clearly had a purpose for the questions whereas the girl was caught unawares. Left to me, I wouldn't judge that girl as being bad based on the described scenario.

Siena:

You're not a professional Marriage / Family Counsellor, yet you want people to bare their family issues to you? Counselling isn't a joke, or trial-and-error, it's something that one needs to be qualified for. I'd suggest you look for a different vocation, rather than risk messing up troubled people's lives.

abi o.

Poster, are you married yourself? how old are you, how old is your marriage? what makes you think you can give marriage counselling?

These people self

Sad, pathetic but very true.

mutter:
Legally you will have little or no chance. The property is not in your name.
I think your best bet will be to try and seek an amicable solution, That way he will hopefully help to maintain his child.
Bitterness,anger and hate will do both of you and the kid no good. Far more important than the inheritance is a child having contact to his father.
Work on maintaining a good father and child relationship and the rest will come on it`s own.
A man that loves his child wil always take care of that child with or without an order of court.
Sorry, you had to find out the hard way.

Busy_body:
Men are now the weaker sex with the fragile ego abi, arrant nonsense and utter tosh, mschewww, typical,  shior

Don't mind them

I noticed kanmi has reviewed her 1st post to 'none'. What's up?

saintneo:
From a critical point of view, I think marriage certificate should be replaced with marriage contract which specifies the KPIs of the parties involved in the marriage and the conditions for divorce.

IMHO

Seconded

naijafrend:
@ OP
WHICH, abi

yes WHICH!
LOL

It's not thee best to go into marriage without yourr parrent's consent. Try to find out what the reeasons for their objection are. If it's valid, then look for someone else, if it's not, find ways to convince them to accept your girl.

if your parents do not consent and you go ahead with the marriage, it will cause a strained relationship between your wife and them and they'll continue to find faults in your woman.

@topic

Its my healer, my comfort.

kola oloye:
I think the statement should read: May the Peace of Allah be with you.Amin

agabaI23:
She is still learning the ways of Islam for your information

Would you have complained if she used Chineke, Olorun? What is Allah in English? She typed in English so the use of 'the Lord' naturally falls in place.

Much ado about

In Nigeria, if you get married before your NYSC and wants to be posted to the state where your hubby is, a marriage certificate must be tendered.