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Another educating thread by Chakula. Jazakallah khayran. I hopee we'll all benefit from this.

dominique:
This one nominee rule sef . Would have voted for nopuqeater but i'm going for ZAYHAL. Hoping a lady eventually make it to the polls.

Sister, we should check those criteria put up there before nominating a person o. Zayhal doesn't meet even one of them criteria. The brothers are doing very well here and one of them should get it.

FayeZik:
Very trueI read this over and over, then ponder. A real food for thought.

You just drop by these days. How are you ma?

Oh Allah. Guide me unto the right path, the path of those whom you have shown your favour, not of those whom you're angry with, nor those who have gone astray.

Oh Allah, guide me towards a lifestyle that will lead me to Aljannah, and save me from the punishment of hell.

Amin. Amin. Amin.

I love these quotes.

aisha2:
@ Poster, my friend faced a similar situation recently, so i understand what you are going through. People see things in black and white but life is never black and white, we marry for different reasons and sometimes end up in hell. God does not hate you but hates what you are doing. However am not here to judge you. You have divorced your husband, start afresh, forget your married boyfriend, build your own life and build a future for your son. Work hard and propbably start a business dat will take your time. Raise your son right, dont worry, you will pick up your life and rise again. My friend is doing great. Her experinece was worse, her husband abdoned her for years and she started sleeping with someone else who was also married. I got her to break it up, leave her husband and start her life, she did some months ago and she is glowing, happy and getting back on track.

Good for your friend. Not everyone gets that lucky.

Pregnancy, child-upbringing, maintenance of the home are very huge tasks for the woman. these are much more demanding than the job of the man to give financial support to the family.

No one is opressed. Allah in His wisdom has done the division of labour in the best ways.

No one should complain.

dwelt:
My wife just called me were and further said Baba nla were ni e, 
Please tell me, on what ground is it right for a woman to call her husband by that name.
Meanwhile, we eat together at night, wake up & here we are.  Please i need some directions.

Men and the way they present their stories! Though it's very wrong to call one's spouse that, I think you still need to be more explicit. Did she just wake up and called you that? Something must have transpired between you two for her to call you that. You know anger is a small madness. We do and say things we wouldn't say or do ordinarily when we're angry so maybe you wife is angry with you.

It's obvious that your lover is not interested in marrying you. He has his own family to protect and even begged you not to leave your husband. He is not going to marry you. For now, he'll continue to be hot and cold and sooner or later he'll be tired of you and show you the exit or his wife will get to know of the affair and deal with you.

You have never been faithful to your husband so it's easy for you to see his faults. You say he wasn't there for you during your pregnancy, do you mind telling us why? Look, if your husband is willing to take you back, you'd better run back to him before it's too late. Otherwise, you'll lose both ways.

But have it at the back of your mind that nemesis will soon catch up with you. Just like you're sticking to someone's husband. Some girl will always 'love' your husband too.

My sister-in-law's brother.

My brother's wife's brother.

Simple.

waiting . . . .

Sisters in the house. This is to show that we've not been doing well enough. Can you imagine, there isn't been any female nominated! Too bad

Wake up sisters, contribute more positively to Islam._{[sub] Including you Zayhal.} [/sub]

I'm a muslim. I'm certain malu brain isn't. No muslim will send his wife away because he wants to marry another. It doesn't make sense. Malu brain is plain ridiculous or another mumu seeking attention on NL.

No Usisky, you never got me confused but you'd have got some people confused here. I'm on the straight path already, masha Allah. I abide by the quran and then, the teachings and practise of Muhammed (pbuh). I'm ok with that.

Ify, your sense of humour is fantastic.

@poster

You no get work.

malu brain indeed.

Even a malu is better than you in thinking.

usisky is back again. where have you been? I hope you'll make matters clear now and not throw people into confusion.

Ify, before nko, who you for nominate?

But really lagosboy is also someone we can't do without here. I've learnt a lot from him.

A lot of Islamic oriented fora address these issues. Organisations like MSSN, MICA, Ansarud-deen Youth Association and the likes organise programmes that are specifically addressing social issues.

Have you tried MICA's leadreship forum? Infact, so many Islamic programmes are there to learn from, where you'll een have interactive sessions.

men breastfeeding?

can a man ever lactate? the child will just get frustrated sucking the empty nipple.

Nothing that one won't come about on NL.

Btw, what's in the award, really? Is it just someone emerging winner and we put up the name here and congratulate the person or are there gifts or the like for winners? Just curious.

Jarus, why don't you want us to nominate more than one person now. For me i have three people I'd have nominated.

anyway, since you want only one, I nominate ,

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He's level-headed, has a lot of positive contributions to the thread, is very stable, hardly gets angry even when provoked. I'm not sure about this but it seems he's the most regular in this section this year.

Alien,

how's Islam in d alien city? hope u propagate it there? Are there hijab wearers there too? I wonder.

stranger, thank you. May Allah love you too.

When are you going for service?

@mdsocks

Jazakallah khayran. thanks for asking. It all went well. I just did my viva 2 days ago and it's all over now.

I thank everyone who has prayed for me. May Allah make all our affairs easy in this world and not let that be a hindrance to our gaining entrance to jannah. Amin.

@Stranger

Just put your trust in Allah alone. You'll make it insha Allah.

Asalam alaykum,

barka jum'a all.

uplawal:
@zayhal,why reporting instead of making peace,anyway,its been settled,we all disagree to agree,the best is to come interms again,and thats done,so dnt come and start igniting it again

far from it sister. My intention was never to ignite. I just felt very bad that you two went on like that and I was sooooo busy to contribute to the thread at that time. I only read through. It would have taken more time to contribute than to call the Mods in then.

Alhamdulilah it's settled. That's our wish. Salam.

jarus, it really saddens me when i read the things uplawal and Mukina posted on ify's thread. They've corrupted that thread now!

I suggest you delete all of their posts or open a new thread for them. Ify's thread is too good to have it messed up like that. People have been coming in to comment and comment the thread and it'll be just shameful to have it all spoilt at this point.

So sorry to hear about this. death is a debt we all owe.

May Allah let us die as Muslims and count us and the dead Muslims among the inmates of jannah.

lagosboy, take heart. You have a lot to be thankful for. Your dad was a muslim, died on a friday, wasn't ill and giving you guys the trouble of looking after him, etc etc. Alhamdulilah.

The issue with your marriage is more than you're letting on here. You opened a thread sometime ago about your husband physically abusing you or the like. Now he doesn't spend on you. It seems there are so many issues with you and your husband but unfortunately we can't hear from him here.

Are you a full-time house wife?

Do you live in Nigeria or outside?

How old is your marriage?

Are you certain your husband is spending on girls outside or you merely suspect him?

Me just have a feeling that you're just giving us one side of the story. You always paint yourself as a saint. If you're that good and your hubby is in his right senses, then all these shouldn't be happening to you.

Please don't get me wrong, not trying to blame you for anything but maybe if you let us in more, we'll know how to really give advise.