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I've heard of someone telling her husband that if he dare taking a second wife or engaging in extra marital affair, she'll kill him and the woman involved. She said it with so much conviction, i fear for the man.

jmakinde:
Check for Al-Rahman Montessori School, they have one around ketu/ojota axis aside from the prep school in Magodo CMD

So U're still around. You've abandoned your thread for some time now.

alimat 2:
@ Muslims,

Why don't u just ignore every irritating post and continue with a nice thread without derailing.
If u continue replying every post then u wont achieve that aim of the thread.

SECONDED.

I think it's better for couples to sleep in the same room even though each of them may have his/her room where they keep their things and wardrobe. Sleping in the same room fosters closeness and intimacy between them. It even enhances love.

But as someone said, whatever works for a couple should be adopted but it won't be too good if one wants to share the same room and the other refuses to share. This can create  a vacuum in the relationship.

My opinion.

mukina2:
Amin

triplets for my sister Zayhal

LOL. Then you should be ready to come down to Nigeria to baby sit one of them.

@Ify

May Allah grant you safest delivery and bless the babies. Having twins is a very wonderful experience. I always pray to have them, at least, a set.

ok Muhsin, la mishkila.

@uplawal

You sound a bit

Lagosboy:
I dey here o abeg i was a bit busy and not on NL. Accept my apology 

Now to books on veils , that book you layed your hands on i beleive is a good book on veil and there are a few others which i willtry to dig out for you inshallah. However , i would suggest to you to thread on a line of caution and read on other aspects of islam and concentrate a bit more on developing a strong love for God, purification of the soul and learning the basic "fiqh" to practise the five pillars of islam for a start.

The reason why i said this is i have seen some new muslim convert who fell unto the hands of some over zealous muslims and these muslims made them concentrate on outer appearance (niqaab,beard, clothing etc) alone and in the end sisters started to cover their faces without really understanding the other basic fiqh of islam like ghusl. In the end after few months the sisters got choked and took off not only the niqaab but even the hijaab. Some even turned their back  on islam . The bulk of the blame was on the muslim handlers who did not develop them un the love of Allah , islamic spirituality before the other super ragatory acts like niqaab  etc.

The veil as we all know is not compulsory on muslm women but what is compulsory is the hijab and not wearing figure hugging and tight  clothing. Let us concentrate on the fiqh of salah, ablutuion, purification, practical women issues like mensturation etc  and the seven conditions of the shahadah and we keep stepping up the knowledge inshallah.

As regards names there is an hadith that says the two most beloved names to Allah are Abdullah (Slave of allah) and abdul Rahman (Slave of the most Merciful). However any of the 99 names of Allah or other names are all good.  If you wish you could name the twins Abdullah and abdul Rahman  as Allah has showered on you the greates mercy he can to anyone  which is guidance. Also the prophet was called by Allah "mercy to mankind".

In as much as what you have said may be true and correct, I'd still say that you shouldn't discourage Ify on her inquiry about the veil.

We can never compare a Muslimah who wears the veil to those who don't just like we can't compare a Muslimah who wears the hijab to the one who uses only the headcover. If one wears it (veil), sincerely to seek Allah's face, then I'm in no doubt that she'll surely find it.

Moreover, wearing the veil doesn't prevent one from gathering more knowledge about the deen. The two (seeking knowledge and outward appearance) can and in fact, should go hand in hand.

@Ify

Abdullah and AbdurRahman,
AbdurRahman and AbdurRaheem
Habeeb and Khubabyb
Mudathir and Muzammil
Miqdad and Muadh

Lagosboy:
Gratitude to Allah SWT who guides whomever he so pleases to his light and may his peace and blessing be upon the noblest of mankind PBUH. About 10/11 months ago IFY's curiosity started with "what is islam " and months later she is researching into the use of veils. Ify, by Gods mercy pronounced the shahadah in the blessed month of Ramadan, she accepted islam and now a full blown muslimah. Words cannot describe my joy and may Allah reward all those who made this thread a success. Special thanks to Jarus who kept this thread sane and pure. May this thread also serve as a means to illuiminate the hearts of others and guide them to the light of islam.

May Allah accept the service of his humble slaves in the service to islam.

I'm touched.

muhsin:
Well thought and said. Yet every human has a feeling, thinking, view, etc towards everything. That was just mine.

And those were just hers

Some Nigerians are simply gullible and barely use their senses. Even a child who sees those pictures will know they're stunts.

People just display their gullibility for the world to see, all because they hate. Pity.

Neither of them ever told me they loved me but they did more than express it. They showered us all with so much love, care and affection. I remember whenever I fell ill, my dad would keep praying to God to transfer the ailment to him rather than allow his daughter to be in pains.

Imagining it now, I think it'll be awkward for either of them to say "I love you". But they showed it in so many ways. Parents of those days regard such saying as 'oyibo stuff'.

toba:
I dnt know y, i like posting on zayhals thread. I think your tactics of this thread worked as abuzola alzarkawi showed up on Nl last week from self imposed exile

You post not only on my thread, you're evrywhere.

As for Abuzola, I really appreciate his return and of those who have heeded the call too, not minding your likes.

@sissy

The girl is going to be 5.

They watch[b] too[/b] many movies in the house. The parents have gone overboard with the idea of not punishing little children. They only pamper, pamper and pamper. Honestly, their situation is irritating.



As an 'outsider', you can't even scold the kids where the parents are, they'll eat you raw. I've talked to the boy though. he promised not to do such again but I'm not convinced. My major aim now is working on the parents.

'Hoe' means a tool fo farming, not w.h.o.r.e.

@topic

The earlier a woman gets married the better for her and her kids. Women who have children at older ages put those children t risks of certain diseases e.g downs syndrome.

I think 21-26 is ok for females

My brother's wife insisted on a court wedding even after doing the religious and traditional wedding. Her reason: To tie the guy down so he won't think of anything funny in the future.

Self-deceit of the highest order if I may say. Court or no court, a man who wants to marry another woman or commit adultery will do so eventually. Is it not Nigeria?

Shinatu:
@zayal

In as much as I do not support the woman's attitude, a man can approach anyone and all you need to do is politely say 'No'(My Church driver asked him to marry him when I was single and I politely told him I was not interested).
I want to ask you -what does the poor man have to offer her? Is he ready to support her at home while she makes the money the way a poor woman would support the rich husband?

or will she expected to carry all the load and die at a young age from 'overburden'?

No. She even confirmed that the guy is very hardworking. He just got a job but he just hasn't 'arrived' yet. She says she can't imagine herself marrying a guy who doesn't have a car. she even feels insulted that such guy could approach her at all. They just don't belong to the same 'class'. So it's not as if the guy is totally poor. he's just coming up so I can't say if he'll want to/be able to do the house chores and all.

Thanks Mukina. Your prayer is still needed though

azharuddin:
I have been in your situation pondering about doubtful matters. Remember this Hadith-


Narrated An-Nu'man bin Bashir:

I heard Allah's Apostle saying,
'Both legal and illegal things are evident but in between them there are doubtful (suspicious) things and most of the people have no knowledge about them. So whoever saves himself from these suspicious things saves his religion and his honor. [/b]And whoever indulges in these suspicious things is like a shepherd who grazes (his animals) near the Hima (private pasture) of someone else and at any moment he is liable to get in it. (O people!) Beware! Every king has a Hima and the Hima of Allah on the earth is His [b]illegal (forbidden) things. Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good but if it gets spoilt the whole body gets spoilt and that is the heart.

[Bukhari Volume 1, Book 2, Number 49]

Thanks for the quote. This is the hadith I was referring to in my earlier post.

ifyalways:
You're welcome.

Go ahead and look good for yourself and hubby.
Zayhal,Mukina,Azharruddin and Lagosboy thanks for your replies.
I intend to do the dreads with my natural hair.

Ibo-made:
@Poster my little niece is the same. She holds the spoon with her left hand, slaps her older brother with left hand and writes with it. My brother was becoming anxious about it and he is always correcting her. He took her to a child psychologist and the Dr said correcting her could affect her Aesthetics    whatever that means   

He guy no listen and now she writes and eat with her right hand and she is fine. Aesthetics or no Aesthetics.

Its all a matter of choice

Believe me, forcing a left handed child to use the right hand and vice versa will hinder the child from reaching her full potentials.

There's  nothing wrong in using either hand to do things. My brother is also left handed but my dad encouraged him to eat and collect things from people with the right hand. He does these two things with the right hand but all others with the left.

If you find out that he's really left-handed, please do not force him to change it as this would mean disrupting his physiological make-up. Handedness has to do with the brain. If you know about the left and right hemisphere of the brain and how they function, it'll help you understand better why some people are left-handed and some right-handed.

If your child is left-handed, it means his hand coordination(among other things) is being processed in the right hemisphere of his brain so if you force him to use the right hand, he won't do well at all and it may even affect his level of intelligence because of the hand-brain coordination that is being altered.

To know more about how the brain controls handedness and like issues, read more about it.

Goodluck with your son.

azharuddin:
Inshallah, You will score good in the exams.
May Allah make everything easy and give you a cool head for the exams.
Ameen.

Aameen. Jazakumullah khayran.

mdsocks:
zayhal, dont worry success is already yours,

But just check out this dua

“Rabbiy ishrah li sadri wa yassir li amri (O my Lord, expand my chest and make things easy for me).”

and before leaving for the exam hall recite this dua:

“Bismillaah, tawakkaltu ‘ala Allaah, wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa Billaah. Allaahumma inni a’oodhu bika an adilla aw udalla, aw azilla aw uzalla, aw azlima aw uzlama, aw ajhala aw yujhala ‘alayya (In the name of Allaah, I put my trust in Allaah, and there is no strength and no power except with Allaah. O Allaah, I seek refuge with You lest I should stray or be led astray, lest I slip (commit a sin unintentionally) or be tripped, lest I oppress or be oppressed, lest I behave foolishly or be treated foolishly).

we will also remember you in our prayers ,

Stay blessed 

I appreciate the prayers. Please I'd like to have the arabic texts. I know the 1st one is in the Quran but I'm not sure about the other one. Will I find it in 'Hisnu Muslim'?
jazakumullah khayran.

mukina2:
Yeah, your natural hair is being twisted with gel until it takes the shape of the twist .

something like this
https://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/8028/2184/200/babydreads.jpg

and then it grows longer and longer.

I don't see anything wrong with this o if this is the so-called dreads. It doesn't prevent the water of ablution from penetrating and doesn't really look like the rasta's to me.

As Lagboy rightly said, we need to be careful about rulings on imitation. We can't stop putting on skirts because the non-believers put it on or forego bracelets because certain deviant groups wear it.

Mukina

Can it be done with the natural hair? Sorry my question may be a bit out of place but I don't know much about dreads.

I have some serious exams to write in a few days. Dear brothers and sisters, please pray for me for a resounding success in these exams.

Ify, I had refrained from answering your question because I was hoping that one of the more knowledgable ones here would answer it but it seems no one is forth coming, yet.

I'd refer you to the site islamqa.com. The question you asked is one that has some controversies about it. My take used to be that any form of attachment to the hair is haram for a Muslimah until Lagosboy gave a contrary opinion in one of the threads sometime ago.

My initial stand was based on the hadith of the Prophet that states that the one who has attachments on and the one who does the fixing shall be punished on the day of resurrection.

Though I am still asking about it, I have long laid off any form of attachment for the Prophet's saying that the right things are clear and the wrong ones are clear and whatever is in-between is doubtful, he (pbuh) encouraged us to leave the doubtful matters.

_{But then, the dreads you talk about, if you can do it with your natural hair, I don't think there is any harm in that.}

And Allah knows best.

And with all of their evil plots, Islam has been prevailing and will continue to prevail.

The truth will always stand. No matter what people say or do.

As for me, I don't get much worried for I believe in Allah's promise to uphold the religion. We only need to pray well and be steadfast.

The boy isn't my son. It just appauls me the way parents go about it, blaming themselves that it's probably because they hug!!! and peck!!! in the presence of the kid that's why he does that.

This to me, is too weak an excuse to give the child. That child does not hug and peck the sister but goes all the way. Till now, no one of them has called the child to correct him. Each time he does it, they blame themselves and say nothing to the kid.

netotse:
do you think he understood the gravity of what he was doing? if he did then some punishment is in order(if na me na some serious cane be that). . .of course after explaining why what he was trying was wrong. or you could warn him sternly, depends on what you think is best.

if he didn't/doesn't understand the consequences, then sit him down and explain why playing such play is only for adults and even when you're an adult you're not allowed to play like that with your family. . .dont get hysterical or anything, he wont understand why and it'll only confuse him more. You could tell him you'll have to punish him if you catch him doing anything like that again.

it's important you are calm and serious when discussing it with him so he doesn't read the wrong meaning cos if your emotions tell him something different he might start to wonder "what's even in this thing that mummy is fussing over?"

I think he does understand it because the report is always that he takes the sister to a corner in the room when no one is there and speaks to her in low tones not to make a noise. He's been caught thrice now.

ok.

LOL= laughing out Loud

OR

LOL= Lots of Love.

Depends on usage and context.

No. Nigeria. Why?

@mdsocks

LOL at your age and profile pix.