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thebosstrevor1:
Complain master.

Students do their assignments from their own personal funds and savings.

My friend's liitle cousin, has something for Engineering, he is just in primary 5, but then his imigination is very sharp, he knows how to get rotors, magnet and small electrical equipment for free, do you know what he does, he goes to repair shops and gets what he wants, he even asked for soildering iron. This boy never complains about lack of equipment but does things that will make you amazed. He doesn't need wifi or data, he uses his imagination to create things.

But look at you complaining about everything.

If you are good intellectually in your field you don't need inspiration to build anything, you build things according to your imaginations and by obeying the principles of mechanics

Before wifi and modern technology. Were people not doing research....aeroplane,tv, fax, train was invented before the internet was created.

You don't force intelligence, you either have it or not. It's obvious you lack comprehension and logical reasoning. Stop arguing and learn from people with superior knowledge.

She's right, most men will find her attractive and want to sleep with her. The issue is how many will want to actually have a long lasting relationship?

Men ain't stupid, they know what they want, even the thirsty ones and the ones who waste money on women. At the end, we want a women who will give peace of mind, the beauty will become stale.

There are many beautiful women who are receiving so much attention from men right now, don't get carried away, they just want sex. Look beyond the attention and focus on the seemingly serious one.

Some people never take responsibility for anything, always blaming others. A woman who doesn't want kids would have done some form of birth control, either temporary or permanent.
As for the man, he should have kept to his agreement. No point raising a child whom one partner doesn't want. There will always be inner resentment.

It's never easy to judge a matter like this without facts. Why is Premium Times reporting on a personal matter and even calling the parties involved?
Everyday I get to learn that it's a thin line between love and hate.

Guys don't use the word 'bestie'

Shortyyy:
Oh please! Like men don't ask for money also? If someone asks you for money and you can't afford it, you move on along! That doesn't warrant insults and name callings.

Imagine your irrelevant excuse. Someone asked for money, therefore she should be insulted.

If you can't afford it, kindly cut the person off, no need to be bitter about it.

It's mostly broke men that won't cut their coats according to their sizes that will be whining about this like babies.

Beggars ain't treated right in any part of the world. When you carry yourself well, people will respect you, that's a fact. It's not about whining, it's simply the truth. No one likes a liability, I'm sure women also disrespect men who beg for money. Heck, even women call their husbands 'useless' when they can no longer provide.

Ardar:
The society has been designed to favor mails so when things don't go their way, they whine and throw childish tantrums against women. Unlike we women that are used to their shenanigans and take their stupidity like bosses.

Plus the ratio of mails to women here is like 8:2 hence their hatred and craziness is more pronounced.

What are mails?

Men bash women because they meet so many women without self respect and values.
For me, my wife is the best thing that has happened to me. My female friends and relatives are all really decent and nice. I wouldn't bash women because women in my circle are decent. I can't speak for other guys though.

I hear of urgent 2k, no one has ever asked me for urgent 2k. I can imagine if a man is disgusted by constant demands of 2k and recharge cards. I can understand why a man will be disgusted by a crass woman and a woman without self respect. These thing are a matter of perspective, same way some women will never see anything good in men because of the type of men in their circle.

I believe the OP is disappointed. She actually expected men to say they wouldn't and would rather prefer a flashy and worldly woman.
Men like flashy slay queens for dating but don't actually want to marry them. All that makeup and rag women put on their head doesn't actually impress men, it only impresses little boys who haven't come of age.
Men want a morally upright woman who can instill good morals in their kids and help them become better men. Men want a helper, a support system and one who believes in his dreams. A woman who prays for her family and has good morals. Men ain't asking for too much.

It's difficult to explain but a man can love a woman very much and still be cheating on her. That's why most married men cheat but yet, they still end up being good husbands and fathers. Very few men run away with the side chic.
I'm not justifying cheating but just stating a fact. Cheating breaks a partners heart and I don't support cheating. Most men can sleep with women without knowing their names or having feelings for them. That's a reality.

That's a 2.5 million naira house in Lekki.

Slightly burnt turkey and messy package and then poor lighting, that's the only difference. please eat your food in peace, not everything is social media worthy.

Whilst this may not be news, it is heart warming to see a young lady being proud of honest work. This generation would rather, steal or beg just to keep up with the Joneses. If everyone can go back to appreciating hard work our country will be better off than it is now.

That word barren is quite derogatory. What makes her barren? Not having a child now doesn't give you the right to term her barren especially as you ain't her doctor. Simply ask how is the family or how is your husband and move on. Stuupiid people everywhere.

My own question is this: what's the difference in believing in native doctors or believing in pastors or imams? People who place so much emphasis on the word of 'spiritual fathers' are usually irrational and always take the word of such spiritualists as law.

It's funny how people will blame the guy for listening to native doctors yet they hang on to the every word of their pastors and imam. People who don't believe in any of these so called spiritual fathers are always the easiest to deal with, they are more rational.

Our society has failed us. If our society offered holiday jobs to secondary and university students, most young people will grow up knowing the value of hard work and knowing that with hard work, they can afford to take care of their basic needs without waiting for someone else.

Entitlement mentality is not only a female thing in Nigeria, a lot of men are also very entitled. Most people expect to have a share in your income. They expect you to contribute to their rent, children's fees and their feeding.

I don't exactly agree that women are no longer tolerating abuse and disrespect from men, hence marriages are breaking up more If women are so intolerant, then they wouldn't even want to marry in the first instance, knowing that abuse and disrespect may likely happen at one time or the other.
People are becoming more selfish and are marrying mainly for reasons that will benefit them: status, wealth, sex, looks etc. They end up getting disappointed because there is no substance behind their reasons. Compassion, understanding, empathy, care, selflessness and genuine affection is only what will hold a marriage. They are still a thousand happy couples in this country, they outnumber the unhappy ones but of course bad news always takes the center stage.

The country has gone to the dogs. A school teacher told me that a little girl of about 6 is fond of taking other kids things. The day she tried to tell the girls mother to always search her daughters bag for things that don't belong to her, all hell was let loose.

The mother went to report to the owner of the school that the teacher was calling her daughter a thief. Funny enough the mum owned up that she does see some strange things in her daughters bag. She said it's the schools duty to ensure that the student don't take other children's things.

The irony of it is that the owner of the school also scolded the teacher and told her to let things be in future. Turn a blind eye to the antics of the pupils. This is the country we leave in. I told the teacher to also let things be, any parent that can't train their kids will live with the shame and liability in future.

It's a beautiful car no doubt but be prepared for frequent work on the 'legs'. Apart from that, I've barely had issues with mine in a year plus.
Fuel economy is very good and cost of maintenance is also quite cheap. The efficiency of the aircon is fantastic.

I got a 2006 civic sometime ago. Like most Honda, the 'legs' are an issue. One noise or the other. I bought a camry 3 years before the civic and I've barely worked on the 'legs'.
Apart from that, the civic is a decent ride and fuel economy is good.

You should be thankful you found out about her cheating ways before marrying her. What you miss is just sex and you will get tired eventually.
Relationship is more than sex. Loyalty, faithfulness, care and compassion and such other virtues are what you should look out for. Forget your ex, you are just infatuated.

The reason for paternity fraud is because while women are attracted to wealth, they still love with their hearts. They'll be fvckin the one they love whilst they'll date and marry the one with money.
Men should realize that money will attract women but will not make them love you. Those guys always shouting, go and make money and women will flock round you are digging their graves.
Men should pay more attention to women who love them and not those they love. That's the way to minimise heartbreak.

The reason for paternity fraud is because while women are attracted to wealth, they still love with their hearts. They'll be fvckin the one they love whilst they'll date and marry the one with money.
Men should realize that money will attract women but will not make them love you. Those guys always shouting, go and make money and women will flock round you are digging their graves.
Men should pay more attention to women who love them and not those they love. That's the way to minimise heartbreak.

Follow your heart. It has it's advantages and disadvantages. But know that wetin dey sweet dey kill. Be financially buoyant, perhaps that may foster some sanity in your home.

Ever heard of deoxyribonucleic acid test? That's your solution.

This is a clear example of we love whom we love. That's why some people cheat with their ex, whom they were in love with even though the ex may be half the person the current lover is.
My advise is to find a way to move on. Show some dignity and pride and focus on what you have now.

You are wasting your time. Good women don't reside in church, desperate ones do.
Start socialising and making friends. That's your best bet.

Love is not a conscious act. You sight a dress and you love it. You see your baby for the first time and you love him. You see a guy walk across a room and you can't stop thinking about him.
Bottom line is that love just happens. It's not planned. People who say they fell in love with someone later are not in love. They only just became fond of that person. The person grew on them, just the way some songs grow on you.

Many men passed through this stage as a newly wed man. It arises as a result of still wanting to conquer or not fully grasping the concept of marriage yet.
Some get over it and realise it's not worth it whilst some never stop and continue till it destroys them.
The question is which category will your husband fall into?

Interesting piece but it's your personal opinion and experience. There are decent families and women out there. A person is shaped by his or her experiences, especially from childhood.

The only thing I agree with is that men should be firm, not overly show their love for women anyhow. Be mysterious and let a woman always wonder if you love her, not blabbing about how you love her every minute.

Men should be street smart, you should know if you are being played. I wonder how a man will not know he is raising another man's child. If my kids don't look exactly like me, I will wonder and probably do a DNA. The case of that guy is absurd, the kids looked absolutely different from him and his wife.

Men should never place a woman on a pedestal, no matter how beautiful she is. Never make her feel she is different from an ugly woman, always let her know she is still a woman and women are women. Women still bleed from same place every month, nothing special about her shape or face.

Provide for your woman and treat her with respect but never worship or adore her if you want to keep your dignity as a man. Women are not like men, give them an inch and they would want a mile. Give them the world and they'll still think you haven't done enough. Be wise.

Gerrard59:
You have to change the kind of ladies you date. If you date a lady working in McKinsey or Seplat, you won't create this thread. However, for you to date such a lady working in either companies, you have to be a man of immense value.

You are who you date. EOD!

I have dated a lady who worked in a more prestigious firm and yet she was stingy. I believe giving is a function of upbringing and orientation. I once dated a corper who wouldn't stop giving.
Most women don't like giving. I work in a decent organisation and even my female colleagues still look for who will buy them lunch, both the married and single. Some even ask you to give them money even though the earn very well and have husbands.

Even as a married man, I know that sex isn't at the snap of a hand. Women will still not give you sex 24/7 even if you buy them a private jet. They will still claim to be tired or sick or stressed out not in the mood. If you like get 4 wives, you wouldn't get sex 24/7. Funny enough, the only time I ever had unlimited sex was when I dated a girl with a high libido. She never ever said no. Then again, we weren't living together maybe that was why she always provided it when I asked.

The question is what do you gain from women? That question should go beyond sex and gifts. For most men, the answer is nothing. For others it could be emotional support, acceptance, ego etc.

Interesting piece but it's your personal opinion and experience. There are decent families and women out there. A person is shaped by his or her experiences, especially from childhood.

The only thing I agree with is that men should be firm, not overly show their love for women anyhow. Be mysterious and let a woman always wonder if you love her, not blabbing about how you love her every minute.

Men should be street smart, you should know if you are being played. I wonder how a man will not know he is raising another man's child. If my kids don't look exactly like me, I will wonder and probably do a DNA. The case of that guy is absurd, the kids looked absolutely different from him and his wife.

Men should never place a woman on a pedestal, no matter how beautiful she is. Never make her feel she is different from an ugly woman, always let her know she is still a woman and women are women. Women still bleed from same place every month, nothing special about her shape or face.

Provide for your woman and treat her with respect but never worship or adore her if you want to keep your dignity as a man. Women are not like men, give them an inch and they would want a mile. Give them the world and they'll still think you haven't done enough. Be wise.

youngmo001:
My ex broke up with me since October 2019, since then u cross my heart not to date any girl again still am ready to marry..the only thing I do is to invite girls to my house, we fvck then u go ur away...all this love love stuff...I don't want to do it for now...tho...wen my ex broke up with me..I was so happy bcus...I will be able to save my money and focus well..and no girl will disturb me for money.
Then last year 2020, November...I mean one girl...she is 18 years old..tall, fair skin and beautiful..her cute face catch a clip of my eye....I didn't want to date this girl...all my target was chop and run....she start coming to my huz everyday..tho she is learning fashion design...I started having love feelings for this girl..we fvck almost everyday...she doesn't have a phone but I told her..I won't buy any phone for u...ooo..make u no use my phone call other guys.... this girl has manipulate my brain with love...am trying to drive my brain off from her...but I don't know how to make her to stop coming...

am scared of.. grooming her..., then she will start following other guys...so I just want her to stop coming to my huz...I don't know how to start..
Though I will be leaving for service on February or March for fresh batch 2021. consider the months I will spend in another state..she will Bleep here....

I just want to end everything now..but I can't...the last time I jokingly told her not to come to my place again..she cried..

Guys...how will I get off the hook.

My only interest is which school did you graduate from? This country has gone to the dogs.