"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col 3:19

It certainly isn't right, morally or spiritually. There is no honor in deceit / treachery. I'm a married man and speak humbly, not from my "soapbox".

Its a daily struggle, and one can only look to The Lord JESUS CHRIST, to GOD for help, because without HIM one can do nothing. What you see also coincides with the world becoming more wicked and perverse (new trends in homosexuality, etc). I'm not here to judge anyone. GOD alone is the judge, just stating facts. What one should do is "Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." - Matt 26:41 (watching = reading the holy word of GOD, The Bible).

"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge" - Heb 13:4

GOD answers prayer.

"Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." - Phil 4:6-7

"For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." - Heb 4:15-16

GOD answers prayer.

"Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life." - Prov 6:25-26

Depends on the man.

"For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the Spirit of God" - 1Co 2:11

"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?  Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven." - Matt 18:21-22

your situation is not permanent.

"But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.  A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away.  For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.  He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts." - Prov 6:32-35

"Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all is vanity." - Ecc_1:2

"Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"-Col 3:5-6

"Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same: For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil. Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake. For for this cause pay ye tribute also: for they are God's ministers, attending continually upon this very thing. Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour." - Rom 13:1-7

My brother, steer clear and leave well enough alone,

" Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." - 1Co 7:1-2

"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." - Heb 13:4

Though, take your time. Marriage is for life and thus a very serious decision.

"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends." - John 15:13  -

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.  For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved." - John 3:16-17

"And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him." -1 Jn 4:16

"So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God." - Rom 10:17

"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD." - Proverbs 18:22

Pray for wisdom - "be anxious for nothing but by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving make your requests mae known unto to GOD, " Phil 4:6-7

@op, please, there is to be no divorce for any reason. "For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband." - Rom_7:2

Whatever you situation, continue to read the holy word of GOD and pray. With this in mind and by GOD's grace, work it out. - "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." - Php 4:6-7. GOD's holy word is true.
"be careful = be anxious for nothing".

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"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. - Matt 19:6

@op, brother, you must absolutely continue to read the living, holy word of GOD and remain in prayer for GOD's intervention, in considering that there is to be no divorce for any reason. "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." - 1 Cor 7:27. It is "for better or for worse" until death do you both part.

We husbands are commanded to love our wives unconditionally (and vice versa). "Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." - Col_3:19 (Also Ephesians 5:25-33).

May i suggest that you try, by the grace of The Lord JESUS CHRIST, to show her unconditional love, forgiving and forgetting her past sins, "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." - Eph_4:32. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of GOD;” - Rom 3:23

The unconditional love you give, which includes teaching her all you can, including teaching her proper diction, can positively influence her. May GOD bless, guide you and heal your marriage and all.

@op, i tell you truly, there are consequences to these actions and more. Cease and desist immediately and be faithful to your wife and most important, obedient to GOD.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” – Heb 13:4

“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” - Galatians 5:19-23

^^^ I humbly quote the holy word of GOD, (seldom using my own words) "For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart." - Heb 4:12 and “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.” -2 Timothy 3:16-17

I didn't respond to the op in judgment, GOD forbid (for all have sinned and have come short of the glory of GOD", but rather in love, humility and in truth.

"And it came to pass, that, as he was praying in a certain place, when he ceased, one of his disciples said unto him, Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples. And he said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth. Give us day by day our daily bread. And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil." - Luke 11:1-4

"Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matt 19:6

@op,

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” - Hebrews 13:4

As for husbands leaving their wives, and vice verse, it is wrong.  Vows were made to love each other, "for better or for worse", until death do them part; all this before GOD, in the presence of witnesses.  This love is unconditional, but only GOD can help, thus prayer and remaining in the word of GOD are necessary.  

If you are not ready to marry, you do well to stay single, but be mindful of fornication, etc, i.e. stay well away therefrom - "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." - 1 Co 7:12

humble, yet very true advice, swag = vanity

"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." - Prov 31:30

"Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price" - 1 Pe 3:3-4

gentlemen, relax - "Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids." - Prov 6:25

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"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised." - Prov 31:30

@richy, it most certainly is applicable to dating. Physical intimacy / sex is only for the marriage bed, anything outside out it comes with consequences, physical and especially spiritual, truly.
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"Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"- Col 3:5-6