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dustydee:

Does the vow also include "forsaking all others" ?

They intentionally overlook that part. Lol

@op,it's called omugwo and not omugo,or omugur or omu ogo.

It's an igbo tradition which involves the mother of a new mother to imidiately go over to take care of the new mother (especially),for at least the first three months after childbirth.

Any igbo family knows that omugwo is not the duty of the husband's mother,that doesn't mean she can't go to see the new mother and her grandchild whenever she wants. But the omugwo roles fall naturally on the wife's mother.

@OP, please do your research properly before putting up public posts. Nollywood has given the igbo tradition so much bad publicity that what ever is potrayed on these so called movies is taken as the norm.

ogawisdom:
Marriage is till death do u part. Manage ur husband as he is n pray for him while loving him with every cell of ur body. Some women wud gladly ve ur husband n thank God. So posssess ur possession

All die na die. Even when it's death by STD contracted from a spouse,then it becomes a case of 'if only she/he had known'.
Possess your possession MFA!

aisha2:

How will you understand? You are an "Internet wife" Fight oh, it doesnt matter if the man wants you or not you must fight and fight and fight both seen and unseen to keep him and ya home. Blows and STDs are minor, a "home" is what is most important more important than life itself

Probably if ebola was sexually transmitted,she'll understand. Aids still gives you a chance to repent or at least show some remorse.

It's well indeed.

aisha2:

Am sure this was abroad, here the case go turn on her for exposing her husbands "secrets"she will become the bad wife who wont protect and "fight " for her home. She will end up kneeling down and begging the adulterous man.

Na we do ourselves, if we have standards and stick to them rather than excuse pathetic mediocrity no be wetin we go dey face. Shebi she dey beg the man since. Na she dem dey cheat on na she dey beg. Leave matter

Yeah,it happened abroad but the relatives are here in Lagos. She made sure they all saw the bull**t their brother was up to. And she has a well paying job as a physiotherapist so its not about financial dependence.

Where dem go see am to turn case around. Her people have gone to return bride price sef..

Aids is real,abeg. No time!

This is hilarious!

Reminds me of a lady who had to divorce her hubby because someone sent her an annonymous video of her husband recording a sex scene of him and another lady. His face was hidden cos he was the one recording.

How did she know it was her husband? Aside from recognising her husbands body parts, he wore his wedding band and he kept spewing rauchy words throughout the act.

What did she do? She sent the video to every relative of the guy she had on her BB list and filed for a divorce. Dem no even get mouth to beg or plead with her.Even the judge didn't have much to say apart from asking for the upkeep of the daughter.

That's how to deal with stewpid husbands!

rattlesnake:

they said HES AN AMERICAN ooooooooooooo check this website

www.google.com

Ok. I knew him personally.
But if google says he's American (by virtue of possession of citizenship),then so be it.

#amjustsaying#

rattlesnake: An American brought Ebola to nigeria

Late Patrick Sawyer was not an American. He was full fledged,Liberian. He was part of those who fled Liberia to US during the Liberian war.

His ex-wife and 3 daughters live in US and she works with TMZ in US. Sawyer lived in Monrovia with his girlfriend and other kids before he passed on.

Just correcting a misconception.Nothing personal.

I don't mean to burst your bubble @OP. Nice remix though!

The groom was my senior in secondary school. Lovely bride senior Mario.Congrats.

@Tonychristopher,kindly bury your head in shame. Your pride,ego and chauvnism won't get you anywhere. And good luck in your search for a 'humble and submisive wife' ..

@safarigirl, weldone girl,your posts are quite educative and informative. Sky is your limit. Go girl!

Please correct me if am wrong, Governor Sullivan Chime was a widower before he married Clara.

So who snatched who from who? NL NL..

bishopjoe02: How gøod is your character and how often do u have sex with ur husband, Trust me gal, no man prefer his friends, drinks and clubs more than his wife. U need to check yourself, there is something wrong with your wedding.

Oga joe, with all due respect, if you have no useful advice to give, just STFU (excuse my greek). Read matured advice from matured minds before typing crap.

Every time a man misbehaves,it must be the woman's fault abi.

Chai!

@ OP, cool down, nothing do you or your guy. He'll grow out of it soon enough. Royal boy has given the most practical advice here.

Some can read but cannot understand,some understand but cannot read..#singing in my primary school voice#

Pray tell my fellow NLers,where did OP write that the wife compalined of pain during sex? Eh?

The woman sheds tears during lovemaking with her HUSBAND. To me that more emotional than physical.
Learn to read,my people. No wonder we turn the bible teachings upside down. We read something else and comprehend a different thing entirely.
Jeezus!

@HRMKZ,I never wrote that he should send her away,pls read again and stop assuming. He needs to get his wife to fall in love with him. Obviously,having 3 kids hasn't made either of them happy,has it?

The most important people in a marriage is the couple. They need to start again. Forever is a long time to keep patching things.

See what lack of love costing the poor dude. Hope de doesn't take someone's advice of going to UniLag.

@op, If I married someone I didn't love,I would never initiate love making,I would 'submit' to his sexual advances just to keep the marriage, I would see love making with him as rape thereby crying and feeling sad when we are at it.

How does your wife feel about you cos from one of your posts above,you know people marry for different reasons.Is your wife 'truly' in love with you?

I think you should find that out,then take it from there?

I read this thread from the very first page and all I see is an e-cult clash between pirates confraternity and eiye/bucca/any other sick cult.
If this wasn't an online forum,maybe we would have been talking of deaths and injuries resulting from the clash already.

#readb btw d lines people#. It aint just about wole soyinka and patience jonathan.

There's a difference between walking away for things to cool down and shutting someone off for months. For me that's wickedness.

@Silvia and afam, hope you guys sort things out soon.

We dated for 6 years. He called me one day and said,'my people are coming to see your people on sunday'.. That was all the proposal I needed. We knew we would like to get married pretty early in the relationship,hence we strived to make it work.

We had talked about it all,planned and looked forward to our lives together as a married couple. I didn't get an engagement ring,till date I don't wear "double barrel" rings.

Its not always all about the "hollywood style" proposal.

We do,once in a while. Did last night..got back around 3am and what followed is just left to be imagined. Fantastic,I must say.@ OP,you should try it.

Where I come from,even if you co habit for 50years and have 40 children,you are not married.

Na this kolo character make the man no marry am for 17 years. Same madness which makes some men regret marrying their wives in the first place.

The man has every right to seek happiness abeg. Having children or even bearing Mrs somebody doesn't make him your emotional prisoner for life.

Has anyone seen hausa marriage list before? You go fear list.

:scam.

[quote author=Confusion]
People like you r surface readers with no depth otherwise you would ve read btw the lines and tell his kind of person
Pls go back n reread all his post n responses and stop behaving like the average nairalander[/quote

True. Surface readers abound on Nairaland.

I like this OP. Who has noticed how calmly and maturedly he has handled all the criticisms from all angles and all the e-insults thrown at him just for coming to an anonymous forum to vent.

It shows one thing IMO,he's really an emotionally matured person,and from his responses,I feel (not assuming) that its madam who is actually going ahead with the divorce instead of saying sorry and quenching the fire.

Don't worry,OP,do what you have to do. You'll be fine.

Honestly,I feel your pain@ OP. Its obvious you love your wife and you don't want to let her go.

I want to believe( not assuming) you have tried to make her change her mind and at least apologise for putting you both and the kids in such mess.

I think you should make one last effort on reconciliation by apologising to her and sincerely pleading with her. I don't think there's any harm in that,at least for the kids sake. Eyaaa.. (Hate to see a grown man cry).

Well,for me one of the binding forces between me and hubby is the fact that we both support the same club. Yep,I love the beauriful game too.

So,at least no one bothers about food till the match is over and if am lucky and our club turns out victorious, Chinese restaurant all the way.

So OP,chillax and don't sweat the small stuff.

omonnakoda:
I don't think she is mad but there are some key things that stand out

Problem with almost all her siblings
Problem with neighbours
Problems in previous adressess
Suspicious about "diabolical things"
All those 4 issues without talking about the marital issues suggest an individual with certain personality traits .
The assumption of course is the OP has told the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
The next question that comes to mind is WHO does this person get on with?
If the story is true then she has personality problems just as one would say that a thief or liar does.That is NOT "madness" but then if someone writes personality problem and the reader reads "madness" perhaps that is an "education" issue.People should educate themselves better.There are people who quarrel with everyone,have no friends and are difficult to get on with . We all know such people.No one calls them "MAD" but such things do exist

I know she's not mad and am not particularly saying anyone called her mad. My point is that she's probably always have been who OP is seeing now,but never addressed it then.

Some people are naturally difficult to live with. A lot of people,both men and women, actually have the same characters OP described.Like I said,the hubby either didn't see those traits or just chose to ignore them.

Abeg,is OP the only man who works offshore? Do other guys on the rig go home to wives who nag them? So should he leave his work and stay by her like some posters suggested.

Am sure OP too has his own level of "Craze" but is downplaying it for the sake of the marriage.

Some women are just plain difficult to live with,even from some posts here on NL,you can tell. (No be me talk am o) lol!!