₦airaland Forum

elisha820:
Happy new week everyone.
I decided to bring this up on this platform cos I want candid and lucid advice. I be brief on this.

I am a Pharmacist working with one of the government owned health care centre. There's this girl I've been with for more than 2years now. She is a law student in her penultimate year in university. Like most Nigerian relationships, we started with lot of distractions and lacked commitment but over time it remained just the two of us.

At the beginning of this year 2021 we made relationship goals and decided to be transparent to each other. We shared every secrets, went through each others phone and asked questions where necessary. All went well until last month when I went to check on her in the university, asked for her phone as usual wanted checking her whatsapp. She didn't let me, said till she comes for weekend when we'll have good time for that. I was surprised, had my doubts but let it slide. She later came for the weekend, I acted as if I don't care anymore and that was it.

Similar event happened last night after she went through my phone (whatsapp, facebook, twitter etc) cos she has my password but I don't have hers. I unexpectedly asked for her phone too, she said it's late and we should leave it till am back from weekend call later in the evening. I kept my cool last night but was bent on seeing her chat this morning not until she bursted into tears. I ain't perfect, have my flaws but I am free spirited whenever I am around her. It normal for a lady to have lots of guys in her dm, but I think it's a problem when it becomes secretive to your partner.

Should I play along, start having secrets too or what's your thought guys.

NB: I skipped so many things, decided being straight to the point.

Lalasticla...I remain loyal, hoping you'll do the needful

INSECURE people shouldn’t be in relationships...
If you don’t trust her for any reason whatsoever, then move on.
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Doraty1:
https://punchng.com/breaking-ussd-war-banks-unblock-mtn-reconnect-telco-to-banking-channels/?utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter&amp&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Twitter&__twitter_impression=true

After all that garagara....
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tonye33:
A Twitter lady by name @itsMaya_O this morning recounts her ordeal of 4 years ago with a Nigerian man who supposedly was her boyfriend. She helped him pack his bag for a trip she didn't know was his traditional marriage with another woman.

According to her

https://twitter.com/itsMaya_O/status/1378401823325818892?s=19

Her comment section went haywire with some people sympathising with her and others recounting there's..

FOUR YEARS ago?
ABEGI MOVE THE EFF ON!!

When did folks start observing these sorts of anniversaries?
Life’s setbacks can be a CATALYST or PARALYSIS - the CHOICE IS YOURS!
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dederocs:
Try being among the rich...they are poor people everywhere. 90% of Americans are poor/dependent on welfare.

Abegi, not 90% - not even close...
But a large number are poor or are barely subsistent.
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vineyardfarms:
NO SIR. NIGERIA IS BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED BY GOD. NIGERIA PROBLEM ARE : ROGUE - FOOLISH -GREEDY - EVIL - BASTARD - SPOILERS - WASTERS - DEMONIC - VISIONLESS - LEADERS. IMAGINE A PRESIDENT ON MEDICAL TRIP TO UK AT A TIME WHEN DOCTORS AT HOME ARE ON STRIKE.

So the same “God” that supposedly “favored” Nigeria...
Also put rogue, foolish, greedy, evil, bastard, spoilers, wasters, demonic people there?

How is that a “favor” since PEOPLE are a nation’s best resource?
You folks keep relying on imported superstitions, while the rest of humanity is working hard.
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chianddora:
https://thenationonlineng.net/r-e-v-e-a-l-e-d-weird-things-nigerians-do-in-uk-america-to-avoid-deportation/

What do they do? They LIE of course!
Nigerians LIE to get into the US (and UK), and LIE to remain there.

FRAUD is just a natural way of life for most Nigerians...
It starts with their Nigerian documents and continues from there.
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newdawnlive:
Government is the problem, if refinery is fix or new are built, government wouldn't have problem subsidy the products again, do the needful and stop crying.

Government should NEVER be in the refinery business...
Nigerians who keep campaigning for this (or opposing privatization) are the problem!
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COFFINSELLER:
As long as it's feeding our neighbors, then it's fine. The Bible encourages us to help one another. So what's the cry all about? What shall it profit us if we gain the whole world and lose our souls? Vanity upon vanity, PMS is vanity! All is vanity!

Nothing dey this life...

You are using one-third of all of Nigeria’s forex expenditure to SUBSIDIZE imported petrol, then smuggle it to neighboring nations...
So we are using our scarce foreign currency reserves to subsidize FOREIGN refineries, their FOREIGN workers, and FOREIGN countries. SMH
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dre11:
https://dailytrust.com/how-smuggled-petrol-from-nigeria-floods-niger-cameroon-benin-togo

We all know this has been happening for DECADES...
We have been using our scarce foreign reserves to SUBSIDIZE West Africa.
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Northurmate:
www.katsinapost.com.ng/2021/04/03/made-in-katsina-technician-constructs-bicycle-with-engine-in-katsina-pictures/

Well into the 21st century, and Nigerians are celebrating the building of a bicycle...smh
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okeychris:
By Okechukwu Onuegbu
Awka

The Catholic Bishop of Awka Diocese, Most Rev. Dr Paulinus Ezeokafor, Saturday, feted over three hundred less privileged members of the society with some food items.

The beneficiries who came from across religious and ethnic drives, received bags of rice, tubers of yam, some onions, monetary cash, among other food items.

Distributing the items at St. Patrick's Cathedral, Awka, Bishop Ezeokafor, explained that the Easter package were to enable the downtrodden enjoy the celebration as well.

According to him, Easter is the greatest celebration in the Christendom, because it was a season to reflect over the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

“We are giving back to the society out of what we received from the spirited individuals. We want the less privileged to feel impulse of the season. We want them to enjoy the Easter celebration like others.

"This is our annual ritual and we shall continue as long as we keep receiving from others. We do it every first Thursday of the month. But this one is specially organised every Easter season. Last year, we did same at the Christmas due to the impact of Coronavirus.

" Easter is season of love. It is when we remember how our Lord Jesus Christ came to the world, suffered, died for our sake and resurrected. We should reflect over our own live and ensure that after our suffering on earth, we shall enjoy the eternity. So, I charge all to work for our salvation," he added.

In an interview, one of the beneficiaries, Mrs Bridget Nwachukwu, who hails from Abia State, thanked the prelate for the gifts assuring that would live their lives for Christ.

Is the bishop feting them or is it the diocese?
Where would a catholic bishop get such money from?
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Joysticks:
When the new buyer takes over they will tell the staff to reapply for employment and they will start afresh.The employees understand their employer tricks.

Abegi, quit comparing this to your local spare part shop...
It’s a corporation. The ownership has changed, but the corporation has not.
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grossintel:
So one of my clients wanted to transfer 100k to me for a subscription fee, for some reasons I didn't want him to send it to my main account so I told him I'll send him an account to send the money to.

My girlfriend was with me, so I asked if I could use her account and she agreed. (PS: I use her account number a lot and we've been dating for a long time so I trust her with such amount) . So I told her to send me her account number, but she was watching a movie and requested I check my bank app beneficiaries. I checked and reluctantly copied the account number without checking properly seeing the account name had her surname on it, I didn't check the rest.

My client transferred the money and almost 24hrs my girlfriend still didn't receive the money so I contacted him and he sent a screenshot of the transfer which I forwarded to her. Immediately she saw it she shouted! That's her dads account number, I know I used to send her money through he's account some years back so I saved he's account details. She quickly called him and that's when she heard the shocker.

He said he thought it was he's friend abroad, so they used the money to buy food stuff and what is left is 40k or less, her mom was even pleading if they can send the 40k. My GF has been crying and begging that I should give them time to raise the money or I should sell her phone. Her entire family members have been calling me and I refused to pick, I just want my money back complete.

How can you use money you didn't verify the source in less than 24hrs? Her Mom is a pastor and Father is an elder but this is stealing! Did you call your friend abroad to ask before using the money? Her dad is retired without pention so I know for sure they don't have a way of raising the money.

After much pleading I asked her to tell them to send the 40k and send the rest before the week runs out, that's when they told her they can't do transfer and it has to be on Tuesday. At this stage, I just concluded they spent all that money, I'm trying to stay calm but at the same time not be foolish. My friend is asking me to involve the police but this will certainly hurt my relationship. Please how should I follow this matter, I need mature advice please. 100k is not something I can dash anyone right now.

With all due respect...
YOU ALL SOUND LIKE SCAMMERS!

You don’t want money sent directly to your account...
Your girlfriend has several accounts, and you have her dad’s account details.
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harizonal123:
That lady is 40 years old according to her instagram page and don jazzy is here claiming 38years

Many Nigerians abroad marry OLDER foreigners....
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KallmemrB0:
She looks way older than him.....

Awaja:
Oh
You married your sugar mummy

dinggle:
Don jazzy be like kidnapped victim on the wedding pic.

thorpido:
For real! He obviously rushed into marriage then.20yrs...smh.

Green card...
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valentineuwakwe:
https://punchng.com/ussd-war-mtn-snubs-banks-links-77-million-subscribers-to-fintech-platforms/

EXCELLENT! The advantage of technology...
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BruncleZuma:


An Islamic country, identifying and celebrating what butters their bread without the encumbrances of fake religious piety

They are battling military insurgency by Islamists in the Sinai region...
As well as political ‘insurgency’ from the Muslim Brotherhood and other Islamist parties.

The only reason the Egyptian government can do as it pleases is military AUTOCRACY...
Backed by the US, Israel and almost all of the rich Gulf States (more terrified of Shiites).
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This extravagance is somewhat understandable...
Because tourism is to Egypt what oil is to Saudi Arabia (or Nigeria).

Nonetheless, it is still somewhat vulgar in a POOR heavily-indebted nation...
Not sure why many NLers are praising ostentation that we would rail against in Nigeria!
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oyeb15:
What I don't like about Egyptians is that they don't like Black People. You can't sit with them or eat at their table. You can't even be their servant in any way.

That's why you hardly see our excapees running there.

Why do you want to be servants to people who themselves are servants all over the Gulf?
Never thought I would live to see the day that Nigerians would become virtual slaves to Arabs.
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extol1:
this is a system that is working. we didn't hear will or to or shall in it. I think what they believe in is do and talk.

Shellsploit:
See custom made vehicles..

Some country cant even afford this for presidential inauguration

If it was in Nigeria, people will complain that money is being wasted to move dead bodies around...
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Funjosh:
Too much money

Egypt’s foreign debt is about $115 billion (some estimates are $125 billion)...
That’s more than THREE TIMES Nigeria’s external debt - with HALF the population of Nigeria!
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Focusmind:
How I found myself in this place is still a mystery to me. The annoying thing is that our so called leaders will jet out to Egypt to witness the parade, praise the country and come back to continue in their rudder less leadership in Nigeria

starbuck:
A country where everything works
The living and the dead are valued
Culture and Tourism is respected...

Kai, I still don't know the heinous crime i did in my past life for God to punish me by sending me back to this hell

cyojunior1:
this is what we call a working country , not some kinda shithole person dey

Some Nairalanders seriously need to get out more...smh

10 million Egyptians are economic refugees seeking work in foreign countries...
That is, about TEN PERCENT of the entire population of about 100 million Egyptians.

Meanwhile, with about only half the estimated population of Nigeria...
Egypt’s foreign debt estimated at $115-125 billion is more than THRICE that of Nigeria.

Let’s not even mention the political system which is a military dictatorship in all but name...
With the mass murder, trials and summary imprisonment of activists, critics and dissidents.

Finally, just like us, they have been fighting insurgency in the Sinai region for over a decade...
Nigeria has its myriad issues, but the notion of Egypt as “working” is TRAGIC COMEDY!
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happiness32:
Aside many completed road projects by the Governor Yahaya Bello administration, here are some of the ongoing road projects in rural areas across the state

Road works in lokoja, okene, Idah, Kabba etc
Hospital works at Gegu, Isanlu Idah okene KSU lokoja Eganyi
School work at kogi poly hostel, new university Osara and medical school of KSU
Gegu General Hosp

HILARIOUS PROPAGANDA...
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Ikillbrokehoes:
Not this generation of women and wives, some don't provide for their family, was it not a girl here that said that she will never support her husband but will rather spend his money, so what would you call someone like her? the fact that some little percentage of women help their husbands doesn't mean others do the same thing.

Try enlarging your circle...
If you always find yourself with certain types of females, it’s says as much (or even more) about you as it does the women.
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Akuruoulo:
Seems u want all those useless threads abi ? I love the way it pops up and am sure some women will learn somethng frm it

It’s not either/or...
There are literally millions of threads on social media that do not deal with “useless” subject matter. Both are not mutually exclusive.
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NoToPile:


Oyel dey your head.

Besides is it today women started contributing or even being sole providers? Shame doesn't let a lot of women admit they are sole providers, they still try to protect the husband by covering up.

Even women that are not being treated right contribute pay school fees etc, some even carry the major expenses, I have seen 2 of such threads of women being the bread winner very recent on NL

I am not surprised it has turned to another female bashing thread.

They are all shouting ahh, a woman should take the stress of a man, for some women if the man doesn't take the stress out of them, she will ensure you self are stressed out financially , I have seen this happen .

For some men its only in financial contribution they will need their wives after that her opinion doesn't matter in anything.

Nairaland Men should choose a side and stick to it.

You want to be traditional and sole provider, go all the way.

You want equal contribution and her to support financially then you too support her in the home.

Its only when money is involved some men remember they have a partner,their own partnership doesn't extend to anything else. The financial partner only gang.

Early nomination for Comment of the Year!
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Akuruoulo:
This is an advise to the women , and it should be here on social media

It not an advise...
It’s a personal decision that should have been kept personal.

Each person’s INDIVIDUAL circumstances are peculiar...
Eg, someone married to a jobless drunk, gambler, abuse and/or womanizer would be ill-advised to turn over her paycheck to him.

Life has never been one-size-fits-all!
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toxtimmy:
You know denzani or wetin be her name... Former oil minister?.. her looting was first class and was she a transgender or female?

Honestly, the future is female only when dey stop wearing fake wigs... Inferiority complex must stop by Nigerian women as in if you cannot accept your hair and treat it as you were created but to use relaxer to look like Barbie or oyinbo woman... By the way how many of the politicians when they kill Nigerians everyday dem mama don call out?... Nada

To summarize the future is you.

Do you barb your own hair? Why not leave it the way it was created?
Hopefully, you don’t wear Western clothes, like suits or blue jeans or Oyibo shoes.

It’s bad enough you write in English like “Oyibo” instead of using your native language...
Let’s not even mention abandoning our traditional talking drums to use Oyibo computers and Internet.

Crude misogyny like yours would be dismissed as tragic comedy if it wasn’t a symptom of the sort of toxic insecurity that leads to abuse. SMH
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Several of the comments here so obviously completely misunderstand feminism....
Feminists believe in the EQUAL RIGHTS of women to FREELY make their own decisions!

What one thinks of a freely-made decision in itself is substantively IRRELEVANT...
Accordingly, this case would only trouble feminists if the husband FORCED the lady to hand over all her salary.

Best wishes to the couple...
Here’s hoping they enjoy a happy and consensual matrimony..
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Yxxx:
Everything now is on social media.
Why must the whole world know when you support your husband?
It's a good act but I don't think the husband will like the fact that the whole world knows she offered him her salary.
Truth be told women have been doing this for ages.

When he does his part, does it come out on social media?

Anyway wetin be my own na their mata.

Bless you...
It’s obviously clout chasing or a socio-political statement.
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JidennaJason:
While I wait for the Nairaland Feminist demons to slam this sensible married woman,

I will use this opportunity to wish my brother Nwaamaikpe a happy new month and thank him specially for something he did.

Cc; Ikillbrokehoes, Kriss216.

Kriss216:
The feminist demons of Nairaland chapter will avoid this thread like poverty, obviously.

This woman and few others like her are the reasons I still have 0.58746% trust in women generally. I strongly believe sooner or later, they'll come back to their senses and realize how foolish they've been all these while.

God bless this woman massively for me.

You obviously completely misunderstand feminism....
Feminists believe in the EQUAL RIGHTS of women to freely make their own decisions, regardless of personal opinions of the decision itself!
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EFULEFU1:
I think Algeria, Tunisia and Egypt will be real hard nuts for the super eagles.

Aside these, which team/s could pose a danger to the eagles?

Morocco, Cote D’Ivoire, Senegal and minnows ( ) Ghana...
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