₦airaland Forum

maasoap:
Lol. There was no effective and proper diagnosis before. Though, it affects whites more than blacks.

Actually there is not enough data to prove that since most whites have access to proper diagnosis and most black people outside of advanced countries hardly ever go for check ups. You can't record what you don't detect

The 49-year old Juwonlo studied Banking and Finance as first degree before he went for his Masters in Business Financing and had worked many places before he started his own business as a freight forwarder, which eventually collapsed due to the economic situation in the country.

If you still believe Buhari is the only problem of this country then you are beyond redeemable. From the highest to the lowest person in government to your fellow neighbors and community leaders, WICKEDNESS is inbuilt. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE I dey beg una, for the sake of your future and that of your kids, DO EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER TO JAAPA! Even if you get 5 million Naira for this country, before you know it, FIAM e DON FINISH .

simplesearch:
But if it was the other way round it won't be injustice. People who can't be less than muslim just recked unquantifiable havoc on the people of Benue state for not surrendering their land to them, slaughtering women and children in cold blood. That's okay because they subscribe to the same brutal ideology, but Israel defending their land against demon possessed religious fanatics who threw thousands of missile into their land are heartless,but wait they don't understand is that the battle between Isareal and the Palestine is purely a military affair. And in war nothing is fair, cos the winner takes all the spoil.

Do not confuse the failings of your country to the world at large. Christians are living in Saudi, Malaysia, Dubai etc, none of them are crying of prosecution. If your government has failed to value your life over that of cows, blame your government do not blame religion for the wicked acts of those you elected.

Nigeria is not a place fit for animals not to talk of humans. It is not enough that these people have the guts to set another human ablaze but they stood there with the bruning flesh and the horror, emotionless as if na normal occurrence.

Let's not kid ourselves in this country, there's no remedy, majority are beyond redeemable. To call us animals would be a kind gesture, we are way worse!

Quelme:
The US and their allies do same every now and then. Nothing new.

When the US or their allies do it, they say is democracy. When others do it, they say tyranny.. The West and their hypocrisy!!!

Did you even bothered to read? Hijacking a public flight in the air and endangering all passengers just to get one journalist, can't remember when any sane nation has done such a thing, even Russia wey get fire for head has never tried it.

It will never happen, not only would it make English teams in teh competition weaker but it would set a precedence that all an opposition team has to do is start a brawl and points could be deducted as punishment. Even when Cantona dropkicked a fan, points were never deducted, in fact FA would rather fine the team 5 million pounds than to deduct point and have Leceister in the Champions League over Chelsea, money over ethics....It's the FA way

cococandy:
All the excuses

Keep the same energy when it’s women jumping from one partner to another

Nothing is wrong with that as long as the woman is looking out for her own mental health. No one should be forced to be in relationship or marriage, man or woman we all deserve an unforceful relationship.

[quote author=cococandy post=101972114][/quote]Not necessarily, some men have phobia of commitment, some were traumatized by their parents polygamy/abusive relationship.....Life ain't black and white

Some men can't jjust live with women and their ways. They prefer pay as you go rather than a lifetime subscription. My guy nothing do you, as long as you have kids and your kids know you are there for them when they need you, no shaking. Go forth and multiply....May the force be with you

If everyone bothered to read the story well well, you would see that this case is a mixture of poor parenting, poverty and frustration. The man definitely has a point but why would you let anger take away any chance of you having a life at all? The wife, her mother were just not worth it, not only have you killed someone but now your freedom and life might end soon.

LESSON TO YOUNG MEN OUT THERE? THE WOMAN YOU SEE, FELL IN LOVE WITH IS ONLY IN LOVE WITH YOU BASED ON CONDITIONS. Once those conditions are not met, you will discover her true colors. The remaining question is whether you'll react in bad and crazy way or behave in a logical yet smart way......May God help us all!

MightyFortress:
The uncomfortable words you keep repeating in your comments just show that you are another deluded and opinionated individual, closed to reason. Words like hatred, bigotry, unpatriotic elements, etc... You sound just like some of the military leaders of nigeria's yester years. So many failures of the present administration have been pointed out to you, and the fact that Nigeria is heading towards a failed state where anything goes, and you are here spewing trash about patriotism. Please define patriotism for us. You want patriotism in a country where no one is safe, a country with galloping inflation, crime and other serious issues? Listen to your sad self sounding like a broken record repeating the same words over and over again. Who told you that everyone criticizing the government is asking for secession? So if we ask for better leadership, it's now tantamount to unpatriotism and secessionist tendencies? You ask for objective solutions, have you proffered any yourself? You can't even give satisfactory responses to the questions posed to you in earlier comments.. Just ranting about patriotism and whatnot. It's a shame.

It will take true patriots to start a revolution or fix this country. Either it gets fixed or we divide and go our separate ways, it will not come by keyboard warriors and social media professors. Nigeria is f*cked, we all know this but every problem has a solution, are you willing to put your life on the line? Look at Egypt and look at the USA. Different countries but same revolution, the people when they felt they've had enough rose up and took what was theirs; one in 1700s and one in 2010, they did not hide behind a nameless forum. I like your viewpoint but don't discard what the other person is saying, it will take true patriots to give us what we want, either a fully functioning country for all people or several countries born out of dissolution of Nigeria.

naijaking1:
When a democratically 'elected' president singles out a so called 5% who did vote for him for punishment, deprivation, and elimination that's all the crime you need to understand who the real enemy of a united Nigeria is, truly.
Well, unless you are blind, and or motivated to be economical with the truth.

You mean the 5% no get Governor, Senators and Reps.? You mean they didn't receive allocations? Perhaps you meant the SW and most areas in the country are not feeling the effects of hunger, kidnappings, banditry and terrorism? You mean Yorubas are enjoying and only the 5% are suffering? I would believe it is high time to leave this victim mentality and realize Buhari is a disaster for all of Nigeria. Even the North that voted for him has not known peace since he took over, it is not everything we must fight and attack ourselves over.

9jaRealist:
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Disgusting to see that Nairaland is so full of insecure and mostly uncouth MISOGYNISTS.

Here’s simple counsel for broke insecure men...
Don’t feel compelled to spend what you don’t have.

Fortunate for dude, this was an uncivilized African country...
In a civilized nation, running out on your bill is a CRIMINAL offense.

It’s not by force to say you can’t afford...
Unless you are INSECURE, or just a petty CRIMINAL OR FRAUDSTER!
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In advanced countries, the girls would have still be subjected to ridicule or at least the cops called. stop trying to diminish Africa as if these things do not happen abroad. The difference abroad is that most women have their own money or a credit card. Most women are not totally useless, most women can call someone to transfer them money when all else fails, let's stop normalizing rubbish!

OP - Can you guaranty tomorrow? Look at those saying it is not enough, can they say without a doubt that their 150k or 200k job will be there tomorrow? People are sacked everyday, people face unforseen hardships all the time, do not allow the fear of the unknown cause you to live a life of uncertainty. It is okay to marry, it is even okay to work towards having one child but be smart about it. Majority of the girls out there are leeches, the ones that can actually contribute financially are looking for someone making more money than them so pick a woman that is not only resourceful but content as well. Pick someone that is not only God fearing but comes from a well trained home, reason I say this is simple, even if you hit the jackpot and marry someone understanding, if she comes from a greedy home with lots of siblings, the demand and pressure on you will be too much.

Be smart, lower your expectations and do not rush. You still have a good 2-3 years before anybody should be pressurizing you about marriage. Use this time wisely to think outside of the box, find a way to make extra 10-20k per month, it can come from work opportunities or using your knowledge to help someone out . I know someone that bought a land for very cheap price of 100k and started poultry and farming, guy has now seen back his initial investment times 10. Just an example of things this generation overlooks but are money making avenues for those who sabi....Relax, never ever panic!

Martinez39s:
SMH. A man with 80k per month shouldn't be thinking of marriage. How people bring children into this world without any huge inheritance for the children and money to afford them options and comfort is beyond me? Why do most men like perpetuating suffering? Most men will just marry and start families at their own financial detriment just to feel they have achieved something in life, even when it's not advisable to do so. They excuse this vanity with "I just have to spread my genes" and "I just want to continue my legacy and family name." See how OP is contemplating whether he should weigh himself down financially and perpetuate poverty to the next generation. What nonsense is this?

Look around you, no one cares about your genes and family name. If a disaster wiped out your entire bloodline, as it did others, hence putting an end to your family name, the world will move on and heaven won't fall. Also, what legacy are you leaving with 80k/month and suffering in the new generation? Most men that are rushing to marriage to "continue their legacy" can't even take their children to a good secondary school or give them three good meals per day, yet they are talking about legacy.

Hustle and establish yourself. 80k is too small. Marriage is not by force. If you die single or get married, the universe doesn't care and the world will move on whether or not you continue your family name. So take it easy and hustle for more money per month.

Almajiris everywhere, economic hardship everywhere, an overwhelming population, so much competition and vices, yet people are still giving birth without restraint when they are struggling financially.

How much was your father's income when he had you? Imagine if he had waited 10 or 20 years later with the belief of saving more money. Human being speaking in the definitive yet we can't control 50% of the things that happens to us. Inheritance kor, debutant ni, children are owed three square meals, proper upbringing and education, anything after that is just extra. This is why the Asians despite their wealth would rather not leave anything to their children, their reasoning is simple, they've given them everything they need to be competitive in this world. A man earning 80k can definitely marry as long as he does his due diligence, marry someone that can be financially and morally supportive, use the little savings to add extra income per month and so on. Someone was making less than 60k 4 years ago is now making over 180k, I also know someone that was making over 200k 5 years ago reduced to someone making less than 90k, keep waiting for the perfect situation wa pe leti omi

All this one na noise, the U.S government knows fully well the difference between the Nigerian government and a regional government based on Sharia. The Nigerian government has conceeded its authority to the Sharia based communities in the North hence any form of blasphemy is looked upon through the eyes of Sharia.

Now we all know in a sane country this isn't right but even Obasanjo and Jonathan allowed this to materialize so what do we expect of a clueless president battling dementia? Like I said the U.S is full of noise and unfortunately Bubu does not like noise

The truth here is that it is damn too early. From what you've written, you loved your wife so much and even in death you still find yourself holding onto her memories. Women in general loves to put their imprint on everything as quickly as possible, from the women's perspective, if she does not make you forget about your dead wife then she will never win your heart and she does not want to settle for second place.

Now listen, she has a very valid concern but foundation is key to any relationship. You need to sit her down and really communicate, set some ground rules. Forget the needs of the kids for just a minute, WHAT DO YOU NEED? In situations like this one, it is okay to be honest, it is okay to let it all out and everyone knows where they stand than to stick to what you know is doomed to fail. She can be nice and caring to your kids but do you know what they call initial gra gra? Women, especially those who are divorcee or widows will often hide their true colors till they've cemented a place in the home either through marriage or childbirth.

The ball is still in your court, if you truly love this woman and do not see her as just a temporarily replacement or nanny for your kids then you must open up to her, find a way to get what you want without dismissing what she wants. Be a step or two ahead of her by losing the little stuff in order to win the big ones. Remember she's risking just as much as you, so be fair in your dealings with her; don't only think about right now but 5, 10, 20 years from now, do you truly know enough about her? A good mom is not necessarily a good wife and a good wife is not necessarily a good mom, balance the equation!

richnankar1:
Buhari is like an unrepentant soul. He has the opportunity of writing his name in gold in the in the history of the country but has squandered it through sheer religious bigotry and nepotism.
This is the only government with the least opposition, if it were a southerner or a Christian that is at the helm of affairs and all these events are playing out, this nation would be on fire by now.
History will never forget Buhari in a hurry, woe to Buhari and all the people supporting the activities and agendas of the evil regime

Who is more senile, an old man with dementia thinking he can rule a confused country like Nigeria or we the masses who brought him to power? Truth is that we have nobody to blame but ourselves, Buahri this Buhari that, what do we have planned for 2023? Install another Buhari? or go back to Jonathan? Na we dey do ourselves

People are just panicking for no reason. They are used to buying fuel for less than $3 per gallon so with the pending increase in cost to about $4 or more, the greedy fools will start hoarding and taking unecessary risks. It happened in 2010 and 2011 and it is happening again, no biggie!

femi4:
You must be a joke

Nah bro, I just live with a trained OBGYN and have family members who are doctors and psychologists but what do I know, continue giving them lamba

femi4:
5mins sex and a real man should not be in the same sentence.

If you do 5mins, you need to see a doctor cos it takes an average of 15mins for a woman to reach climax not to talk about multiple climax

Stop giving people bobo....average sex lasts anhywhere from 3 to 10 minutes especially for married couples, pre-intimacy on the other hand can be 10 minutes to even an hour. Most women cannot climax from sex alone, they need stimulation that comes with pre-intimacy, what most women do is FAKE it. While you're busy hammering her like say your life depends on it, a real pro would have kissed or licked the right spots and get her to climax much more quicker.

fredoooooo:
No wonder your own dey nack ya friend cos you no fit handle her wella ... if i handle her once oga you go dey the list of divorcee straight

Oshey ja bed ja bed dickson........Your matter just dey make me laugh, I refer your matter to Desmond Elliot

fredoooooo:
You can't even handle a woman with your guts and broom D

Been married over 5 years now but i wouldn't mind chopping your own too if you want to dash me as offering

fredoooooo:
Oga leave cum smash or whatever , so far i don come she can go and get hers at your place ...
You all attach nonsebse to been romantic ,how many women are financially worried too but still cum .. oga be a man , don't be an emotional slave.
You can't win it all though

It's wonderful to know that you would allow yoour wife or future wife to get hers at my place, such a generous man, appreciate it bro

JAZZY sha no follow am go anywhere blindfolded..... No talk say I no warn you o......If you know you know

fredoooooo:
Emotional need , oga a rẹ you a psychiatrist ? You're emotional master while someone somewhere is the se*X master ..
These type of men sef ..

You think you can make a woman cum everytime without massaging her heart as well? Imagine a woman that is financially worried or having troubles at work and all you offer is SMASH SMASH SMASH

The difference between a saint and a sinner is often perception. The sinner allows you to see his or her vulnerabilities while the saint hides his or hers. When it comes to cheating, only those who are caught gets to explain themselves, for without exposure the cheating man or woman has no remorse.

For men who believe cheating is just physical, I wonder how your belief would change if you knew it would lead to a divorce and the court granting custody of the children to your wife including ownership of the house you built and 50% of your wealth? Would your prick still dream of another woman, if this country imposes real consequences for cheating?

For women, it is status quo, you cheat, you lose everything....shikena!

Now to the topic: Can you love someone and still cheat? YES YES YES but don't make the mistake that cheating is just sex. People cheat through emotional attachment, people cheat by bonding with admirers outside of marriage, even long before sex the seed of infidelity was planted. Any man can carry olosho, any man can have a one night stand but what we have nowadays is men having steady girlfriend that not only satisfies the sex part but also cooks, discuss life and so on, in short, men no longer have girlfriends, they have ASSISTANT WIVES. It is not whether the man loves his wife or not, it is more about this generation of men being weaker and less satisfied than previous generations. A man can love his wife so much but still find himself longing for more, it is a human condition called GREED!

Yet if she gave it up so easily then you will call her easy and cheap. The problem with most Nigerian men is lack of equilibrium. We either are too aggressive or too soft, finding the right balance is the key to getting the woman you want to do almost anything for you. We all have needs, women especially have needs that goes beyond physical, their emotional needs often outweighs even the physical whereas men often focus more on the physical such as sex, food etc.

For women, does she really feel bonded to you? Do you make her think about more than just the present? Do you give her confidence and make her feel valued? It is only when a woman has complete trust in your physical and emotional capacity that you can start to manifest yourself in her heart.

Caveat: This is only for women interested in love or meaningful relationship, for other types of women, pasa pasa lapoopoolala