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Congratulations! Though I don’t understand why people say late Mr & Mrs invite you.....I mean they are dead & can’t really send an invitation. I think it’s better for the couple to just put down their own names as the people sending out the invitation.

sammy329:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/corpses-in-our-hospitals-from-cultists-hoodlums-killings-not-lekki-lasg/%3famp=1

Since they don’t want to release the bodies, let them eat them . Stupid people. What a lawless country!

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

Nawa ohh, sorry you sound like a jelly fish. No backbone & I despise your kind of person for a man. I can’t stand a man that I have to tell what to do. That aside, I think what you saw growing up affected you. In the real world, men are leaders especially in their homes.They are decision makers and together with your girl, you should sit & decide. I think you need to talk with a therapist who will help change your thinking & correct the wrong. Read books on leadership also & how to be a man. You can also find good men to mentor you. Goodluck.

CalliDora1:
Long post. Please bear with me.

This trait seems to be common among some Nairaland men (with apologies to all the men here though) cos I never really experienced such attitude with men ive met offline. So don't know whether they have a nairaland men's association (not the red pillars or mgtow kinda thing though) where they agree to behave likesome. The way they reason sometimes just baffles me.

Ok. So, I met someone here as a friend and I wanted it to stay that way. Along the line, he wanted more than just friendship but I just kept dodging because I don't want any issues as he's a good friend (a born again) and I like our friendly chats and all that. So didn't want anything serious that could jeopardize that but he kept pressing on and stressing until I naturally began to feel relaxed (against my wish) you know how that constant checking on someone tends to make one want to compromise their Stance. So I sort of got trapped.

Now here's the issue. He would always want to know about my biz and job. If I went or not. So I decided to test him. He would always call and ask if I've eaten. So that day, I said no (was fasting) but didn't want to divulge it to him that I was fasting. He called later in the day and asked again, I said I've not eaten, he dropped. I now felt he prolly thought I wanted him to feed me huh??.. I observed he reduced his calls. Third day he called and asked again, I said no. And he said "na wa o" I was like why, he said I'm sorry I can't help. Huh?? I don't remember asking him so I decided to play along. He called in the evening, I still said I've not eaten ( cos I had not broken my fast then) and he said I'm sorry ( I was just laughing within). I asked him, for what? he said because he couldn't help. And since then he stopped calling only to chat after a week to ask if the biz I was pursuing was through. I ignored him and for two months no contact.

Just last night he chatted me up again asking if I've resumed work and I said yes. he then asked if he's free to call me bla bla. And since last night hes been trying to keep up chats but I'm kinda cold towards him and he asked why I'm so cold. Acting like nothing happened.

Now, this is what I feel. so if someone is truly dying of hunger (God forbid) you'll abandon the fellow? or that they can't date someone who's biz is shaky or has not resumed work due to a global crises that affected everyone? I'm not saying anybody should carry someone else's burden ( there was really no burden anywhere as God has been faithful.) but I don't understand what actually played out there and why he's all of a sudden interested again after learning I've resumed work. I don't just understand because I don't want to be rude. Was that a right thing?

I'm really confused here because.. I mean.. I never asked you to help me with anything but being there would have been enough. Calling and chatting would have helped me scale through the bordom I felt that period of compulsory break from work and biz but he went into Oblivion even when I never placed any demands on him.

I bow to men and the way they reason o.

That’s the kind of BS I don’t want in my life. Every year, I re-evaluate my friend list to decide who stays & who goes. I took some classes with a few Africans. I’d always get to work late & lie to my boss that class ended late. Truth is that I was the only one driving & had to drop them off at their homes before going to work. One was a fellow Kenyan so we kept the communication even after the training ended. My family suffered two losses within a short span of time. Each time I messaged this so called friend, there’s be no response.In normal chats, he sees my messages but during loss, he claims not to see. Probably because we Kenyans usually contribute money. Even if he didn’t give me money, I’d have understood he was a student, but ignoring me at times of loss, that’s not a person I can call a friend, so I cut our friendship. On the other hand, I recently chatted with a guy who started borrowing money. Gave him twice & then blocked him. He could have been afraid of being exploited, but if you two were already dating, then I don’t think he’s worth keeping because it shows he’s a fair weather person.Want to enjoy the good times but, don’t look for him in your time of trouble because he’ll have taken off. If your boyfriend can’t support you in your time if need, him being in your life is a big mistake.Can’t be trusted.

BadBreathBoy:
This guy called bad breath have haunted me all the way from primary school down to secondary and even to my university level.

I am still a young 19 years old guy at the peak of youthfulness but this guy is just ruining everything for me.
My self-esteem, public speaking skills, social life, confidence, in fact, everything has been smashed with a sledgehammer right in my face.
I have turned into an introvert because of this bad sickness but will cover it up with "Money on my mind" shït.

I have tried everything possible guys.
Below are kinds of stuff that I have tried and it is not working.

1. Visiting a dentist.
6 months ago, I took all the money I had to go over to the dentist in search of a solution. Had to wait for hours before getting attended to.
When the doctor came in, she first started with some words of encouragement.

Telling me I might not have bad breath and all, people might be thinking they have it but don't blah blah blah.
(So me that have bad breath I don't know what I am saying right?)
After much talk, she recommended flossing and cleaning.
That exercise where water passing through a tiny hole at high speeds is used to remove plaque from in between your teeth.
I had to shell out a whopping 4k for that plus the extra card of 500.
All the money I saved was gone just like that.
It didn't work!!! Bad breath still held me down.

2. Brushing twice a day. I did this for 1 week straight up without any improvement relative to the hard work put in. So I became less consistent with this. Toothpaste I have tried includes, Oral B, MyMy, Maclean, Close up, name it. Didn't work.

3. Garlic and ginger. Some persons here on Nairaland recommend that ginger and garlic can be used to drive off bad breath. The prescription was to swallow it whole before going to bed at night then brush in the morning to remove the after-effects.
I tried this for one week. Didn't work.

4. Mouthwash: I have wasted more than 4k in buying mouthwash but these things are just 2 hours wonder from the moment of application.
I get fresh breath for the time being but after like 3 to 4 hours, the bad breath keeps on coming back. Still didn't work.

5. Hydrogen peroxide: Someone also recommended I use this to chase bad breath.
It also works for sometime after which bad breath comes back. I even tried to dilute less than normal for maximum effects but the only thing I got was an irritating burn on my tongue. I am so not using this guy again!

6. Walnut: Some said walnut could be my Savior so I had to buy them in large quantity to chew but it didn't have long-term effects.
So I ditched it. I don't have money to waste as I am still a student.

7. Chewing a combination of bitter leaf, scent leaf, and guava leaves: Out of intuition, I decided to try this combination. My common sense inferred that since it was bitter, it should probably have some effects on the bacteria in my mouth. But alas! Bad breath wasn't even impressed one bit. I even had to stuff them in my pocket and chew on them while going to class. This was a big flop.
Didn't work at all.

8. Agnes Nwamma Herbal powder: I don't know what to say about this one, because it was even better that I just didn't brush for that day. Very useless in fighting off bad breath.

The funny thing that leaves my jaw-dropping is that my dad doesn't even brush, he uses a chewing stick but still has a very fresh breath than I that used mouthwash, baking powder, toothpaste and still chew the chewing stick to top that.

9. Chewing gum like Clorets, Methos: I have to be frank about these gums, they kind of aggravates the bad breath. They are simply applying salt to injury so I just stopped using them altogether.

Pls Nairalanders, help me out here. There have been lots of people who found a solution to their problem on here, so I doubt mine will be different.
Pls, I need something else to try that will not dig a hole in my pocket as I am still trying to stand on my feet.
I need a permanent solution not 3 hours wonder.

Lala pls push to the front page so I can get a large set of solutions to fight this off.

I don't want to resume school like this.
I am tired, I am weak, disheveled, exhausted, dejected, depressed, anguished, melancholic, in fact, I have tayad like this.

My confidence and esteem have been crushed by bad breath. Shyness, inability to have streamlined chat with people, playing deaf and dumb, using hand signals whilst communicating, smiling like a peacock when my opinion is required, staying away from girls, snubbing people, rejecting positions that have me talk to a crowd has taken over!!

Pls, abeg, mbok, biko, I need a solution.
A permanent one at that.

I think your problem may not be in the mouth but in the gut. You may have an acid problem which can result into bad breath. It’s good to see a gastroenterologist for evaluation. Another question would be this. Do you suffer from tonsil infection regularly? Tonsil stones which build up in the back of the throat can be a cause of bad breath which would usually be addressed by an ENT specialist.

NaijaOlosho:
Clout

You can do your burial without the notice of the Govt.

Sorry about your daughter but stop chasing clout and respect your girl

It’s very easy to sit & judge someone when you’ve not walked their journey. It’s very easy to yell at the TV when a player loses a game ,because you are not the one on that field playing , you are on your couch. It’s easy to trash your boss because you don’t carry the weight of being an administrator. It’s easy to trash your parents style of raising kids until you become a parent. When you’ve not walked Someone’s journey, it’s easy to throw stones because you do not understand their pain or what they’ve been through.

Vyzz:
I am deeply sorry ma...



At this point let the dead Bury the dead

Hmmmmmm, would you say the same if it was your loved one you were going to bury but God forbid that should be the case?

Afam4eva:
I don't know if i'm the only one who has this.

But i always feel sick whenever i get into most cars. I always feel like throwing up and it has been a problem i've had right from childhood. I don't know what exactly causes it but it makes it difficult for me to travel by car because i get sick throughout the journey.

Has anybody experienced this?

There is medication to treat motion sickness. Just see a doctor.

NNU0000:
Wetin you de talkAbi you be fati2001's twin sister,always making off topic comments.

What exactly is off about my comment?I don’t know what you are talking about.Am not from Nigeria so all this fati twin talk, I don’t understand.

Whiteball:
It's a bit lenghty so bear with me.I'm in my late 30's very very eligible for marriage but still single.Alot of friends in my circle are married but up close and personal stories coming out of their camp and experience av had in d past isn't encouraging ,so i just wanna have a baby mama(These lady's arnt loyal).

Pressure from Family n friends to settle but am not giving in. so this particular friend of mine(now a true definition of born again- i wont mention name) changed my mindset and promised to help me get a 'good wife material' through his fiancee.

I yielded and i reluctantly gave him d permission . I'v never met his fiancee one on one bc she stays in a different city and each time she comes visiting her guy am always busy but we speak on phone.She gave my number to her friend (my hookup) we got talking but i told her point blank that am a christian but not a born again like ur friend fiance -i club i drink socially but i dont smoke,to my surprise she told me same here! (hmmm red flag bc i was expecting otherwise since her friend was a born again). I told her no problem.

This week my guy's babe visited town ,i was very busy still but was able to meet them at d park when she was travelling back. she was already inside d bus when i drove in.
she came down from d bus to greet me since passengers were still boarding ,she's beautiful i must confess with nice curves but was wearing all those long born again gown and holding a bible .I told my guy despite leaving 'd world' for us he still got good eyes,we laughed and joked she told me her friend(my hookup) is prettier i said wow cant wait to meet her.

Something strange happened,i noticed an old time friend in d bus which this babe was boarding we shared pleasantries and exchanged number he asked if my babe was travelling with them i told him she's my guy's fiancee not my babe he complimented her beauty also.

A minute later she said she doesn't wanna travel with this bus which they have already paid for again, she will rather wait for d next bus that her spirit isn't in line with d bus ..
I was confused and asked her to explain she said she doesn't want to go wit this one bc she's having a strange feeling concerning d bus but i should allow my friend inside d bus already to travel with them its fine -It didn't make sense to me,if u think this bus will have an accident i should at least alert my friend to come down too she said i shouldn't worry.

My guy waited for her fiancee to catch d next bus while i left for work.

The next day was weekend and i decided to go visit another friend(lets call him guy B) of mine so we could hangout . It's a big compound with plenty room n parlour self contain.when we were about leaving the compound together i saw an eye catching figure come out from another apartment wearing bump short,transparent shirt that was revealing all her breast going to dry clothes on d ropes...Behold it was my friend's fiancee!!!.

I was shocked bc yesterday nite i called my friend to confirm if his fiancee finally got a bus and had arrived her destination he told me yes and thanked me for showing up and for my concern. Someone that was suppose to b in another part of Nigeria was in another part of d city ? . Immediately she turned and saw me,she was shocked n her clothes fell off her hands. I didn't say a word i just walked straight with my guy B to my car .

She ran towards me and drew me privately and said i should keep it privately she will explain on phone .my guyB confirmed to me that she came in last nite and that's her boyfriend apartment i refused to tell him anything tho.

The reason why she left that initial bus begin to make sense to me now.

I need advise please ,ordinarily i will look the other way but the guy in question is my very good guy and a born again christian engaged to her,weeding is two months away. The lady also according to him is supposedly a born again but this dressing stated otherwise... tho i didn't catch dem 'doing' oh.

Will you see your blind friend about to fall in a ditch & let him fall in it? Ofcourse not. If you are a true friend, you’ll help your guy. Tell him & leave it for him to believe or not to believe. While you do so, know that your friend may either listen to you or may get so blinded by love & stick with his fiancée. Expect anything. Come back with the continuation of this story. Some people are just terrible!

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

As a woman, I don’t understand my gender at all. Many women suffer from the PHD syndrome aka pull her down. They don’t know how to lift each other. Some are fake. Will smile with you & then talk about you with the same mouth. With that said, you owe your ex help in her time of need. You said that she made a huge sacrifice to boost your business. It’s only best you return the favor. You know she went an extra mile that your current GF wouldn’t go for you.She doesn’t want you to help your ex because her loyalty is not in people but in things. She values things more.If you still love her, stop wasting your time & the so called girlfriend’s heart .Try see if your ex is willing to return home & work things out with you, then decide your next move.

Are you serious right now asking us whether you should marry that guy? You’ve stated all the issues you have with him. Do you think he’s worth keeping? You are obviously a spare tyre and the sooner your eyes open, the better for you.1st & foremost, when a man is in love with you, you’ll know. He’ll go extra miles for you. Long distance relationships are not for the faint hearted. As the saying goes that “ out of sight out of mind”, am sorry to say that it’s true for most of them.He couldn’t even give you ordinary food? You had to give money.How stingy can one be? Also you keep giving him money, what has he given you so far? Don’t try to get a man to love you by giving money.Trust me when people are angry, that’s when their true feelings are expressed. What he told you in anger is what he’s been thinking all along. A man who has nerve to grab your phone & delete data has all the hallmarks of an abuser. If he’s lacks the traits of a good husband now, marriage won’t bring them. Use not just your heart but your brain also.

juliabobly65:
Hello nairalanders, I need your opinions on this matter.

My boyfriend of 3 years who is now my fiancee (we are talking marriage already) is constantly talking to his ex girlfriend (who is now married).

They discuss all manner of things, ranging from how she misses him and wished she had waited for him.

Trouble started when he told her he was planning to settle down (I still wonder why he told her) ever since she's always coming up with pots of lies against me. She claims someone told her so many things about me.

She fabricating lies isn't my major concern because I know once something good is about to happen the devil comes in many ways than one to destroy it.

I've told my man all about my past life and everything in it, recently he accused me of withholding some information of my past. The ex girlfriend had a chat with and told him things I don't even know about.

Nairalanders this lady is married, why is she poke nosing into our affair?? If she loved him that much, why did she marry another man?? Why is my man giving her audience Is he still in love with her I know she's obsessed about me. Her constant chats with him, makes him accuse me of things I've never done in my entire life.

I told him we should suspend the marriage until he's done with his investigation since he doesn't believe me cos he said if he finds out something I did in my past in the future and I didn't tell him it will be a problem.

Admins pls push to front page.

Are you sure that you still want to go ahead with the marriage? From your story, what I see is a man that hasn’t matured to the level of settling down in a home. When you want to marry someone, you should already see a husband/wife in them before exchanging rings. If you don’t see it in them, a ring will not make them become it. A husband is supposed to be a protector. He should protect you from external attacks whether from family or other sources. This one seems like he values gossip more than you. It also seems like there’s still emotional attachment with his ex girlfriend that he hasn’t let go. This is walking on hot charcoal because it will be only a matter of time before you hear there was an extra marital affair. He has some growing up to do before he can be able to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage. Trust is huge in marriage. If you marry someone who’s always suspicious of you, you’ll never have peace. If I were you, I’d rethink my decision, weigh the good and the bad before boarding that ship called marriage with him.

One thing you need to know about the US is that they require a license for everything. Should you be a mechanic or go into data science, you’ll still need to go to school here in order to be able to practice in that field. However if you work with African clients for most part, there are skills that can earn you money even if you choose not to become licensed. Something like hairdressing, you can do this from home especially braiding which won’t require a lot of money to start. Catering or what they call culinary arts basically cooking especially if you specialize in certain dishes. I know someone who bakes for African events. Many people usually order cakes from American bakeries but if you are good at making different kinds of cakes, you’ll get customers.Makeup Artistry, African in the US like to party.If you are good at makeup especially bridal makeup, you can make anything from $70 per person. The other is events decor. If you know how to make those center pieces and to decorate, you can offer to decorate for a baby shower & from there you get clients to do even halls. These are things you can do without having to go to school here & make money unless you choose to become licensed and advance your knowledge academically.

Bawal:
Due to some challenges, I and my wife are staying in one room self con and her 30 year old sister has been staying with us for some months now, my wife is older than her by three years.

Making love has been challenging since then even though the sister puts bed on the floor and sleep,most time when we assume she is asleep and engage in the act, i will later observe that she is not sleeping. Though she will maintain as if she is sleeping and this is constituting an uneasy environment.

In fact most time she knows when we are doing it. We are very uncomfortable over the act and she is not moving out from the house soonest. Though she is an adult that such may not sound strange to her, but indirectly seeing or hearing the sound on when i am performing duty on her elder sister makes us feel uncomfortable especially when we see one another in the morning after the act.

Please whats the right way to manage this situation. Advise please.

Let me ask, why are you even housing someone when it’s obvious you and wife are not financially okay? Assuming her sister wasn’t married to you , wouldn’t she she still have a roof over her head? If you don’t set boundaries with in-laws , some will take advantage of you. Are their parents living and if they are, why is she staying with you? What kind of parent would frustrate a married daughter by sending a sibling knowing well they live in a single room? Is there a possibility you can send her back to her parents and help her from there? If not, does she stay home all day? Because the other option would be for you and wife to try fix time during the day when you two can sneak at home and enjoy your marital rights. Weigh your options and see what works.

eleojo23:
Kai...

Just to stand and watch, he couldn't bear, what of the woman doing the pushing and screaming na?

The energy for labour was given specially to women, men no fit drag that one with them.

No matter how strong you are, if your wife is in labour, you will be agitated and you can even cry with her or faint like this guy. A friend said he had to go far away from the ward to avoid hearing his wife's screams because he couldn't bear it.

God bless all mothers out there.

Based on the doctors attire and how the lady’s hair is all covered up, plus the smile on her face, seems she was delivering through Caesarean. Otherwise a woman in intense labor cannot afford that kind of smile .

Worldbest281:
I really love this and really touching

Thank you.

TAMUSIC:
You’re right Beey. You’re seeing them because we decide to upload them on such platforms. Also, there are snakes in every part of the world. Nigeria specifically has places that are yet to develop, and in such places, you easily see long grasses. However, there are nice and beautiful places you’ll visit and you wouldn’t be scared.

You are right that there are snakes in every part of the world. I didn’t grow up in an area with snakes though.I only saw those things at the national park and I don’t like them. Where I live, I’d see people bringing them into the park as pets. I’d just grab my bag and leave.I pray one day I make it to Nigeria. Thanks for all the kind remarks.

Melodriod:
This is my first reasonable post on nairaland �... I don't really know what the comments would be like but man gotta do what he gotta do �

So here's the story, I'm a single guy and I've been putting an eye out there looking for someone to love and call my own, so i met this really beautiful nice young lady a month ago and its was more like love at first sight kinda of thing...but i just had to maintain so i don't appear being desperate and all... But truth is am madly in love with this girl, we've been talking ever since then and so far we are becoming more closer as each day passes.

I still haven't asked her out to be my girlfriend but I'm really hopeful that she will say yes to me considering how close we have become lately, we talk about everything and anything.

So to the main gist, currently her smartphone is bad so we can't do things like chatting, whatsapp calls, video calls and the likes... And i feel like getting her a smartphone would greatly be helpful to her as well as get us to communicate more often, so I'm thinking....Is it wise to get her a phone at such an early stage into our relationship (friendship) considering the fact that i haven't asked her and she hasn't said yes to me....

I just feel like she really needs a smartphone and I'm thinking if i should get her one... I've not really made up my mind yet, might sound crazy but I'll really like to get opinions on this..

I don’t know how much experience you have in dating. When you are in love & butterflies are moving up and down, you really want to impress your partner. Truth though is that the grass on the other side is not always as green as it seems. What are you getting back in return? If you keep giving and getting nothing back, know if that relationship came to an end , the other person would have nothing to lose because they didn’t commit. Commitment demands giving in terms of time, material things and availing yourself. You on the other hand would be counting your loses. Self control is important, to learn someone before investing heavily in a relationship. If you give, make sure you also receive at least something close to the value of what you gave. Don’t let a stranger start enjoying wife privileges when she’s not even a girlfriend. Better spend that money on your mother who’ll always be by your side.

TAMUSIC:
Good morning Nairalanders, I’m posting the picture of this snake I killed last night so anyone who knows the name can say it.

I never knew the creepy thing was above my head. I stood beneath it (for about 5 minutes) as it kept observing me.

I normally pump water at night. So at 10:47pm, I came outside to lock the tank. After locking the tank, I saw my brother coming out to get water. (he too was standing beneath it without knowing), I left for my room but I didn’t really know what brought me out again, maybe I felt like talking to him some more. As I came out, I saw the snake hanging close to my roof, at the top of where I was standing before. Then, I told my brother to move away quickly before we killed it. I know Lala probably won’t be happy that I killed it!

I love Nigeria and Nigerians. It’s been one of the countries on my bucket list. However, I must admit that am so scared of snakes. Every other day, people will share stories of how they killed snakes. This has given me the impression that Nigeria has a lot of snakes and some are very big in size. That part does scare me, I’d probably be having sleepless nights if I visited your country.I am terrified of snakes!

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

I am lady and can say that you are a wise man. The evil you tolerate today, you’d not be able to question it tomorrow. Some women are so evil. An innocent child born to your only late sibling and she’s treating her as if she’s her rival? I am glad you didn’t let her evil plan work. You set the standard for how you want people to treat you. Put an end to the BS or forever hold your peace.Women need to put themselves in the place of other women. They need to ask themselves how they’d want their children to be treated if they were in a vulnerable position.

1TRUEEGOD:
HERE IS ANOTHER MOUTHPIECE, GOOD.

I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH NOBODY, JUST TELL YOUR BOSS @Righteousness89 TO STOP SPAMMING MEANINGFUL PHYSICAL THREADS WITH SPIRITUAL AND MEANINGLESS RELIGIOUS COMICS.

SAY NO TO RELIGIOUS COMICS SPAMMING.


PEACE

My boss? Funny you. This is laughable. Lovely rest of the week.

1TRUEEGOD:
IF YOUR GOD AND BIBLE CANNOT SAVE OR DO ANYTHING WHEN THE WHOLE WORLD NEEDS HIM/HER FOR COVID-19.....FVCK YOUR GOD AND BIBLE.

Y'ALL SOUNDS MORE FOOLISH EVERYDAY WITH RELIGION, YET THE PHONE YOU'RE USING IS COUPLED TOGETHER IN CHINA BY A PRIMARY SCHOOL BOY AND YOU'RE HERE IN AFRICA CRYING AND WAILING ON AN IMPORTED RELIGION.

YOU'RE NOT IN CHAINS PHYSICALLY, BUT YOUR MIND IS IN SHACKLES. NOW ITS YOUR CHOICE TO FREE YOURSELF OR STAY FOOLISH IN SHACKLES.

This level of disrespect is always among Africans because they lack they tolerance to accommodate each others beliefs. They don’t know how to live and let live. I didn’t see you coerced into believing in their God. Why then must you respond disrespectfully? You are also not in chains and it’s true we are using Chinese products. Why haven’t we heard about your wealth or factories where you manufacture products because you are so smart? If you choose not to believe, it’s all good, everyone has a right to choose. However, don’t disrespect other people’s faith simply because you don’t share their faith. Be you & let them be them.

Yoighaman:
Nice one.

@OP: You can choose to play all the pranks in the world but if it ever gets to this (DNA), just know that you are scr*ewed....Think very well before you act.

If he fails a DNA test, he’ll be banned from ever stepping foot into the UK.

dayoige:
Real quick!
I have a uncle in the UK who is a citizen and he assured me that if I can change my surname to his, he will fly me over to the UK.

I'm a 300L student studying economics here in Nigeria, and my name is .... ( This is the name I have in all my documents) and the surname my uncle want me to change to is 'Richard' so after changing my name it will look like this "Dayo Richard".

I want to apply for a change of name (to address the surname)

After doing the change of name I want to also apply for my National Identification Registration with (NIMC) which definitely I will have to do a new Birth Certificate with my new name.

Now my problem is this :
Will the change of surname affect my travelling documents if I want to apply for a visa, since the surname I have on my academic documents is different from my new surname?

What do you think I can do to balance everything?

Thanks

If you change your surname, you may have to change name on other documents as well. The biggest of all is DNA. Just pray they don’t request a DNA like US embassies do sometimes.I hope the UK are a bit laid back and won’t request a DNA test. Can your uncle try to get you there through more legit means like school? If they request a DNA and find out that you lied, you’ll never step foot into the UK.

chaarly:
My first time in a club was in my 300level, 2nd semester after Evol fashion show in Uniben. After the show, they said there was an after party in town, me, some guys and some girls got a cab and headed down.. it was around past 11pm.

I have been hearing about clubbing clubbing clubbing so I said lemmi go and see o. We got there around past 12am. I have forgotten the name of the club. but it's in Benin, GRA side. Party dun start, omoh see groove, we dey dance, dey dance dey go, dey rock.

girls choke, music was very louddddd, people were smoking, drinking, some lodge for upstairs. I rocked a particular lady till I messed up myself. choi. we dance, dance, dance till around 4am. some Yahoo boys show and were spraying money. I wanted to rush and pick but I con remember say I fit go surrender my destiny in the process I really needed to #500 mint notes for my tp back. lol. but I lockup, bone, just dey look.

we just dey dance dey go. at a point I couldn't hear clearly again. my ears were ringing. My God! the music was too loud. To be honest I couldn't hear clearly for about 2weeks.

When I got back home, I con dey reason the matter like.. so na so club dey? just to dey dance from like 11pm till dawn, drinking and smoking and doing all manner. I vowed never to return to any club again in my life.


I later got to realise that there's no reward for all that fam. And that it is better to sing praise and dance to the Lord. I have been doing that instead. There was this particular day I was singing and dancing to Ron Kenoly's lift him up Live concert. My God, the power of God came very strong. I couldn't stand. I was on the floor screaming JESUS!

PS. The presence of God is better and greater than any club or disco hall. "Better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere" psalm 84:10.

Psalm 150
Praise the Lord!
Praise God in His sanctuary;
Praise Him in His mighty expanse.
Praise Him for His mighty deeds...


All praise, honour, worship & glory belong to our God.
Praise ye the Lord!

*sorry for any typo. my brother's wife birthday is today and I'm in charge of the kitchen

Also, if you see anything wrong with this post, you need to repent & give your life to Christ.

Shalom!

Flesh and blood did not reveal that. . Better is one day in the house of the Lord than a thousand anywhere else.

hashtagged:
Dont be silly, you think 3 pastors will say no by coincidence, they saw something bad in her get a clue

You need to be delivered from putting your trust in flesh & blood. When the curtain in the temple was cut into two, we were given direct access to God. Pastor doesn’t have the final say, Jehovah has the final day. A pastor can advise but the final decision is between the person In question and God.

awoo47:
which verse is dat pls?

Acts 17:11

Miracle7998:
Brethren this is the reason I always tell people to always be on alert and be vigilant so that you will know what kind of things the enemy brings to your house, this is a bat that the enemy sent to my home this night around 10:40 pm and glory be to God we killed it.

You have to stand and fight your enemies we are in the last days

You sound like a member of all these churches that always attribute everything to the devil including God’s innocent creation. Your kind sees demons in everything. People no longer read their Bibles, they stick with twisted doctrines introduced to them by virtue of being born in a certain family or they are introduced at some point in life. It’s so sad. That’s why Paul said the Berean Christians were more noble than those in Thessalonica because they read the scriptures to see if what Paul had preached was the truth.Stop killing innocent animals because of crazy doctrines.

T4kbaba:
All days are for the thieves, one day for the owner. After successful operations by armed robbers in the First bank in Okeho, Oke Ogun part of Oyo State, the vigilante group took courage to intercept them and brought all of them down. Kudos to people of Okeho!

When will Nigerians stop this madness??Are those who killed the robbers any better than them? How does one sleep at night after taking a life away? What then is the use of having police and courts when people keep taking laws into their hands. The level of lawlessness in your country is alarming. My country is not perfect because it seems like all African leaders were bewitched, but am glad this kind of killing is illegal in my country. Criminals parading as law abiding citizens who end up committing murder.

solite3:
Are you a supporter of the devilish religion called Islam?

Islam is a violent and satanic religion that is the true face of Islam.

It’s an evil religion. They won’t comment here.

saaron:
Don't misunderstand the person you quoted. His post is just the basic illustration of Islam - Killing, Slaughter and Genocide in the name of allah for the propagation of Islam.

DIVISION OF NIGERIA WILL SAVE LIVES FROM ISLAMIC TERRORISM. SUPPORT IT.

Evil people corrupted by twisted teachings. They are the same lot giving us hell in Kenya because the crime we committed was opening our borders and taking in our Somali neighbors who were refugees.