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Getting hot........so Iamafinegirl and bwambasolomon are the characters in this tales by moonlight!

Tales by moonlight?

The posts are looooong!

Jeromejnr:
What of your wife?

People say these things because of the kind of relationships they have.

Most relationships these days are just transactional, selfish and lacking depth.

I don't know where you social media People meet your women or men. Because with many advise I see on here and on Twitter on a daily, I cant relate.

@bold:

Well said.

netmillionaires:
That only happens in the southern part of nigeria. They don't do shit in the north.

I served in Gwanara, Baruten LG, Kwara in 2013. I went to visit one of my hausa student who owns a tea shop there. While teaching him, I heard some of the people who came to the shop talking about some deposits of gold in the area. What caught my attention was when one of them states that some are white, blue, green etc. I wondered how gold could have colours other that shiny yellow, so I asked for pictures. What I saw on their phones are ruby, emerald, sapphire and diamond.


A corper and I arrange with some students to take us there on their bikes hoping to get our hands on some fortune. When we got there, we Ouldn't believe the crowd. It was just like in OP picture. Some people came from Oyo and as far as Benin republic. So many people with pickaxe, shovel and other tools. They make lines to separate each person's alloted property to avoid quarrel. We just stood there looking at 6 feets deep holes that goes as far as Onipan to Anthony.
As we could not get a piece of the land to work on nor have the tools to work with, we requested to see the extracted products. One guy showed us his. We saw emerald, sapphire and ruby but didnt get to see the diamond. I couldn't snap it because the village has no light and the only place to charge is at a network tower so I already left my phone to charge before leaving Gwanara.



The only thing the government say is that once the people moves out, they would take over the place. In the southern part of Nigeria, the government will just move in with the military and start shooting people calling them different evil names.

What do the villagers do with them afterwards?

ensamy:
We can also stop crude oil and petroleum products from going to the North. Just lock the pipeline that carry the product to the North.

When the North is the Government in power.

All these stunts of 'we would boycott meat, stop this' etc are initial gra gra:

For the South (Yoruba & Igbos) to 'win' this 'war', we need long term strategy.

For instance, they have entrenched themselves as part of the ecosystem in Lagos that if they all receive a coded message to harm everyone they are close it, more than 75% of the population would be harmed or dead.

Rossnitti:
Their ethnic hatred of Hausa-Fulanis won't let them admit they actually need those Hausa-Fulanis they hate so much.

This is where I started suspecting you.

Narrowing down this issue to 'hatred for Hausa-Fulanis' exposes the kind of person you are.

Ride on!

After the first divorce, others become easier.

If Kanye feels Kim is/was bluffing and told his friends, what did/have the friends done to mend their rift?

GeneralPula:
Business, not only love joined them together..

Don’t compare Beyonce with Kim oo..

They are world apart.

jaxxy:
I knew something like this was happening bt couples shudnt provoke each other unnecessarily and compromise is both ways for it to work. Nobody shud feel more important than the other.

If Kanye thinks she’s bluffing so he can go ahead and act like he don’t care Kim will Be forced to do it. Just Ask jayz what Beyoncé showed him.

What did Beyonce show Jay Z?

EgunMogaji2:
“Irreconcilable Difference” is the catch all that we use in the USA.

Not the Nigeria one that is “she slept with landlord”, “he beats me whenever he’s drunk” nonsense.

omojesu202:
so if I need 40k I'll simply ask for 200k. simple arithmetic

Zanxx:
Anytime I talk about moving out, the emotional blackmail starts. You will be surprised by the number of people who call to talk me out of it.

Move closer to your place of work.

3:30 everyday is not healthy for you except you sleep around 8pm especially as a woman.

Just get a little space and move out: nothing to discuss.

Your physical and mental health is very important. God forbid you break down.

100trillion:
He told them. But they said if he ain't get no money, that he should not bother taking their daughter home....

Iyawo buruku se fe, ana buruku o se ni.

Spiritfun:
I have a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman. She's a complete spec of all I ever wanted in a woman. She's extremely beautiful, kind, supportive... She doesn't hesitate to buy me gifts even in her moment of lack.

I'm convinced beyond all doubts that we're SOULMATES. Our love story is very interesting and we're truly in love. Time will fail me to discuss US in this thread.

However, we both agreed mutually to have sex only after we're married but she has a very ugly memory that's hunting and hurting her emotions so much that we really need find a solution to it before it causes us a great damage.

MY FIANCÉE WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED AT A VERY TENDER AGE BY A RELATIVE WHO LIVED WITH THEM. She was molested uncountably by this monter of an Uncle who took advantage of her who found pleasure in defiling a primary school pupil.

I've tried so much to counsel her but somehow, I still believe she's not totally free from that trauma. I was a victim of sexual abuse, as well but I found the courage to heal on time but my Fiancée is still battling with this horrible experience.

I hate to see my woman in pains cos I truly and genuinely love her.

I Need help urgently on how best to help my woman heal from this ugly encounter. Please, anyone with practical experience should advise me on how to handle this situation and save my fiancée from this trauma.

Mods, kindly help me reach a wider audience.

1. What stage of life are you guys? University, working, NYSC, Job seekers etc?

2. Where did you meet? What age did you meet?

3. Are you saying she has not had sex or been in a relationship since the abuse?

3b: if no, why her decision to abstain before marriage in your relationship?

I want to clarify some things first.

lekki1444:
Okay so I am an extremely generous person though you may not know it on Nairaland only because I just never give money to faceless people on internet forums. There has to be face to face human interaction first before I can give you my money. I just do not give money to strangers online and I never will so please dont ask. But in my extreme acts of generosity i must have given many beggars on the street and several gatemen up to 300,000 naira in the past year. Like christmas day i gave all the gatemen in my estate 2000 each. there was like 7 of them.

Anyway I digress. So there are two funny incidents that happened to me with Nigerian women. First of all let me say i stay clear of women, period. i guess you can say i am partially redpill. i dont chase them, i dont have the stamina for woman problems or woman wahala. So i pretty much keep to myself most times. So in the estate there is this woman. Beautiful. Owns a shop in the estate. She in a weird way made my acquaintance when i bumped into her in the shop. i was using a tailor in the estate shop which the tailor happened to be her friend. anyway we exchanged numbers because she said she owns a barbing salon too ettc etc. And next thing you know she is calling me her brother all the time i see her. Then one day she sent me a message and said covid has destryed her business and she is stranded at home and has no money to come to work and can i help her. Now yu have to understand that this women looks like a sophisticated middle class woman, and she owns two shops, so i was confused and dint want to insult her by sending her 2000 naira,so i sent her 4000. she thanked me. only for her a week later which was christmas to see me and somewhat angrily ask me that why didnt i give her something for christmas. and am looking like ? are we related ? am i your boyfriend ? i have only seen you like 5 times in my life and not on any intimate level so what is this nonsense ? anyway I just jokingly played it off and moved on. I try to avoid her anytime i see her now

the other scenario. I go to spar a lot and there is this woman who serves me. and i know the indians who own spar dont pay the workers very well so when the woman finishes serving me i ask her what she wants in the food section that i will pay for it. she usually picks bread, and so i pay for it and move on with my day. and so one day i saw her outside of her job at another supermarket and she called me,and we said hello. it was a hot day so i put my hands in my grocery bag and offered her a chilled mineral drink. anyway she said she had quit her job and is looking for another one. she asked for my number and i gave it to her. the next day she hit me up saying she has a job interview on the mainland and does not have money to go and i should give her 2000 naira. i tried to see if she was genuine, i said listen i have a car i will take you to the job interview but she said shewill not want me to drive that far.i asked her are you not married ? then i sense that she got very angry in the way she replied me. she said ' why aare you asking me that question ? do i look like someone who is married ? and in actuality she doesnt look like a single woman. anyway i just decided OK enough with all these trying to be friendly with humans because they take your friendliness for weakness,so i blocked her on waassap

so the question is am i tripping or are these women entitled ?

The question should be: Why are NIGERIANS entitled?

Answer: I honestly don't know. I don't get why the average Nigerian thinks he/she has a right to your resources. However, it is coined black tax.

Marriage ceremony happens every weekend.

If they are the best fit is another discussion.

crackhaus:
People tend to forget that a lot of the laws in these countries were handpicked and fine-tuned from biblical laws.

Humans on our own, left to our own predilections, and without a higher authority to fear/succumb to, will actually behave like animals without restraint.

That's a fact.

On point again!

theFilmtric:
its all the question of official language
Assuming Nigeria was a 2,3,4 language country
It would be the same
Nigeria is just too diverse
That causes us to lean too heavily on English
Those I cancelled have their language as their official language
While India has just 23 languages
Nigeria has 543 only 250 are recognized

theFilmtricsay

Northerners still manage to preserve their culture (good & bad) in this diverse Nigeria.

CandidNotes:
Africa is better, BY FAR. In the West, you gain the whole world but you are 99% likely to lose your soul. In Africa you lose the world but keep your soul.

Hehehehehe!

descarado:
Gbam!
I don talk tire.
Western culture no dey my house o.
I don't actually like their culture.
When in Nigeria I introduced my kids to Asian culture. Music, drama etc. West have better culture before but cancel culture has striped them of everything with their yeye feminism( the new religion).

Even prefer some Muslim countries not the radical ones.

Non-fanatic islamic countries/families is on point.

The calmness which is derived from their absolute belief and submission to Allah's will.

SatanicPriest:
not really africa but nigeria. i have been to ethopia and tanzania and for some reason my normal aggressive behavior was about coming out. the way they looked at me like a mad mad eh, no be person tell me to lock up my gra gra behaviour . naija just makes u aggressive . so its more of a Nigerian thing than an african thing. naija is useless.
worst part is that we see it as smartness

Hahahahahahahaha!

crackhaus:
Amazing, isn't it?

You'll see a 10year old son/daughter of first generation Chinese, French, Japanese, Thai, or Indian immigrants, speaking their local dialect so fluently... While their 10yr old Nigerian counterparts can't make a complete sentence in Yoruba, Igbo, or Bini, without reverting to English.

And who is to blame for this?
The same immigrant parents who end up complaining of course. Most have the mentality that anything of Nigerian origin is below par and of no significance, so they end up raising children who have been stripped of all cultural, religious, and indigenous values.

The consequence of the above is that it leaves a vacuum in these children, and makes it easy for them to assimilate what we love to call "western" behaviour.

@bold: correct.

I have seen Yoruba name kids in a way that it is 'easy' for Westerners to pronounce.

As in!

descarado:
Oil dey your head
I wouldn't have explained this better.

Sometimes I'm in complete shock on how black man behaves out there. And u are so correct, the northerners dont have time with this nonsense.
The inferiority complex is too overwhelming. More than how an average income earner bows to somebody he assumes or see that's better than him. Or is it our ladies?

In Nigeria alone we are forming team foreign accent.
Gosh.
An Indian, Chinese etc is in far away America still cruising his accent while in naija, I want to speak English more than the queen.

Ogaa o.

Or translate beautiful native name to English.

Goodluck Jonathan when you are not a white man!

crackhaus:
The earlier that you lots get to understand that most Nigerians of southern origins, generally have deep-seated issues of inferiority complex, the faster you'll understand that the western system is NOT the problem at all.

The same way Nigerians migrate, live and raise kids in these countries, is the same way Asians and Middle-easterners do.
Yet for some reason, those races still breed kids that generally adhere to their ancestral lifestyles and overall behaviour in terms of attitude and disposition, despite living their entire lives in western societies.

The difference in the respective outcomes above, is all the answer that you seek.


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And yup, I specifically alluded to Nigerians of southern origins in my first paragraph, on purpose.
There is something about children raised in Islam (the true tenets of Islam) that makes them remain very well-behaved regardless of where they spent their formative years (Africa or the West).




If anyone said this to me, I would ask him to first go to his Asian/Middle-eastern friends, then ask them what they are doing that makes their own kids respectful and organized.

Very correct especially inferiority complex of the South aka Yoruba, Igbos and South South.

PrimadonnaO:
Perspective is an interesting thing. I had very different views from how the OP analysed this movie.

Oya share na.

I like movie reviews/character analysis.

jieta:
And somebody will say Nollywood is not improving. We are getting there people.

Honestly, we are.

wiki15:
https://heavyng.com/blog/namaste-wahala-review/

Rajesh was a perfect gentleman: assertive, courteous to family, friends in-laws and colleagues, go getter etc all without been rude.

Unfortunately, Didi was the opposite: cheerful and warm at work, combative at home.

How can you drag kitchen with your MIL to be? Was that not an opportunity to learn how to make their dishes? And you rush to serve him Noddles you have served him all the while with his mom?

Like her father noted, her ego was so huge that 1. Her mother had to physically beg her to come back home;
2. Her father had to concede to her before she could make peace with him even if they are on opposite sides
3. Her friend (Raj's cousin) had to convince her aunt to see her in another light.

Interestingly, Rajesh's mother tasted the noodles and confirmed it was great; she could not even taste the dish out of curiosity or learning to see what it was like.

Sadly, she is the architype of the 'modern' woman.

I don't know why they can't replicate the male attributes in the females:

Same thing with Jamie and Claire Fraser in Outlander:

Jamie Fraser was humble and teachable to concede when he did not know or understand something; our darling claire knew it all.

Everyone (including a seasoned farmer like Jenny) was willing to learn from Claire (good or bad); Claire never learnt anything from anyone.

@Rajesh's friend seemed dramatic and slow; I liked Didi's friend.

I did not understand the part of Preemo: it was simply unintelligent.

Her part would make sense if she was a relative or mistress to the father.

Queenlovely:
Those who watch movies are using it to pass time, to avoid something they should be doing,

If you have dreams and ambition, you can hardly concentrate on a movie, because your mind is already occupied.

I would rather rewatch Merlin 300 times than watch this stupid movie with a predictable plot

must we put white people in our movies to make it interesting?

People with good movie plot idea don't have money

while the money bags are without ideas

just look at the nonsense movies AY is shooting.

I liked the Indian/Nigerian fusion of the story. It is not putting 'White' people to make it interesting; it is exploring a different face of marriage discrimination based on tribe.

You worked all your life, collected your gratuity, built a house and burnt it in a feat of anger.

Village people are wicked!

@Children: Your father begged your mom to come back, she said no. She wants to come back, daddy said no. Why didn't you guys let him be?

When your mother said no, why didn't you guys 'force' your mum back home?

Besides, a man who can burn his house to prevent his wife from living with him can kill her in a fit of rage.

SanctifiedSista:
There must be the practice of moderation in all Christians.
Now are u sick or in dire straits, find ur way to the living Faith church cananland OTA. Time is 11:45qm today. Bring ur annointing oil and family plus friends. Papa Oyedepo will be anoiting everyone in that service. No.more secret tears. Congratulations

@bold on point!

OP mentioned bone straight hair.... Is it the cost he is disputing? Because none straight hair is just that: a certain type of straight weave/wig.

@cost: it depends on your pocket and back to moderation: Madam Folorunsho Alakija buying a weave of N500k is not same as a regular Jane doing same.

Moderation and ensuring these items don't become idols.

How did Area Boys recognize Bobrisky tattooed on your back?

Let's assume this story is 100% true, what are we supposed to do online?

Come to your area and trace the boys? Jump over your head and report to the security group/Policemen in your area?

Do these people who shame themselves online have real, living families though?

While some men are screaming 'women are scarce', the OP has two to choose from.

This life ehn!

In secondary school, we called it 'if na me'

I don't think it is a 'woman' problem because I have seen men do same on/offline.

'I wash my wife's car because she deserves it's; 'i cook because it is my hobby'; 'I do XYZ because my spouse deserves it'.

They are all married to the only good men and women in the world so going the extra mile for them or being a little patient is worth it.

Somehow, they 'enjoy' doing all the good things that would continually make their spouses happy. Those things are not 'compulsory', they just 'like' to do them.

They are so plenty here that it makes for comic relief when they goad posters into doing what is wrong while they know (from their previous posts/belief system/situation) that they are taking far more or doing something worse.

This generation also has itchy ears so when you assess the stories they bring or tell and tell them the truth, you become a 'man pleaser'; 'anti-feminist'; 'anti-women'; 'simp'; 'woman wrapper'. Etc.

That's why a Beyonce (a woman who forgave a cheating husband and immediately went on to have twins) would wear a bikini and tell girls they 'rule' the world or to summarize 'the future is female'. And girls would listen and project their inner 'Sasha' whom Beyonce left on stage at home.

Or a Chimamanda who dresses like a Pastor's wife would come out to complain 'girls are told to dress decently or cross their legs while sitting' and women would shout 'power to the ladies'.

Or Cardi B would tell women not to buy more expansive gifts for their men aka buy weed when he gives you flowers while she buys the world and more for her husband/baby daddy.

Like you rightly said, some of the people goading you also want to use you as a guinea pig for their fantasies. 'If Shade or Tunji runs it and it works for them, maybe I would try it'.

I believe anyone matured enough to have a relationship/marriage or attain certain positions must have acquired the required skill set and emotional intelligence to maintain them.

If they don't, they should go and learn.