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ahnie:
Sorry to asked....are you married?Cox you could still save like 10k monthly from that money.except you spend on frivolities!

It depends on where he is staying and if he has dependants.

jidobaba:
My point exactly. A younger me was positively pinning(excuse the pun) for sex. I would announce it proudly. But with a little bit of responsibility/enlightenment, it is something academic now. Like driving your car daily - kini big deal? But it is like you women have gone the opposite direction and want to drag us willy-nilly. This is what ruined the black USA. The women/men reducing every dream, every goal, every aspiration, every conversation - to sex!

Well, like they say....

Everything in life is about sex apart from sex.

I agree with you that this public announcement except you are a sex therapist isn't edifying.

Anyways, we do not know the lady enough to judge.

She might have simulating discussions 28 days a month and have 2 days for cray discussions.

All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

Ryan03:
I cannot advise you o, i earn 45k, feeding money nor dey there cause i get money daily from work (500-1500 daily), i Dont transport to work yet i'm not finding it easy o. I can barely save 10k monthly, some months i wont be able to save a dime. This country is hard, if you are not earning a good six figure salary, just Forget it

What are you doing to improve your earnings?

Ryan03:
Not until the bride price is returned, court paper wont hold. That is the main reason i hate it, but for me, i wish to pay for my wife

Woaw!

Has your sister tried to engage her husband towards a better relationship?

ayobarmy:
Thanks So much for your advice Boss, I swear to God I don't have any other thing taking money from me aside those that i have mentioned, I am a very quiet life kinda person, Infact 2yrs ago we moved out from A Room and Parlour self Contain, to a single room in a face me I face you compound with public toilet, just so we can cut our expenses, but I must confess this move affected my kids in ways I can't even be saying here..... I just don't know what else to do....

What are you & wife doing to increase your income?

Sometimes, there is no evil and the salary is not just enough.

@OP:

You do not have a problem.

Since you have found a way to survive on the N20k, save all your allowee and at the end of your service year, you would have gotten enough capital to start your mini importation business.

You can tell your bank to do auto-deduction into another investment account or join mutual benefit/low risk investment plans so the money is not lying fallow else you would be tempted to spend/expenses rise to meet your income.

Goodluck.

jidobaba:
Honestly there must be something in the water. It used to mildly annoy me but now I can't bear it. Ironic. When you consider that it is men who 'should' be the horndogs.

Tell me more.

Only Men should enjoy or crave sex?

I have issues with what turns her on. I have issues with making it public.

prof2007:
Some women might have been married for "donkey years" but still have that element of insecurity about them, and they display their insecurity in different ways.

A woman was agitated when her husband got invited to a Bachelor's party; she couldn't stand it, so she came up with a list of things her man cannot do at the party.

It is a pretty exhaustive list. Here are her rules - what do you think?



SOURCE: https://www.gist mania.com/talk/topic,390769.0.html

Why would a married man go for bachelor's eve except if they are godly?

@OP:

Before dowry was abolished in Britain, wives gave their husbands yet they were maltreated.

In India, wives still pay dowries yet their husbands treat them like crap.

@cancelation: it was symbolic and part of the rites of marriage and building up another family with the husband as the head.

Ryan03:
Some in-laws are so greedy that they see bride price as a means to cripple the would be couples financially. It will be better if they abolish it, men will learn to respect their wives more. I have a married cousin who is being battered by her husband on a regular basis, after reporting the matter to family, all my greedy uncles could say was that "marriage is not a bed of roses" simply because they Dont want to refund bride price and she can never leave that marriage without doing that. If she do, she can never marry another man or even have sex, the laws binding married women of the land still binds her.

So even if she gets a formal divorce, the laws still binds her?

That's bondage.

Good celebration and I particularly like the emphasis on faithfulness for married couples.

And Mr. Nwoko is married to only Regina.

Everyone is free to make their choices as long as they are willing to face the consequences.

When Regina is just a 40yr old woman and Ned is 79, her choice would be clear.

Anyways, she might have spent happy 20yrs married to himwhixh some women married to their mates might never have.

essenceplus:
This generation n fvcks sha. No wonder the country,sorry continent is stuck in mediocrity. I crave and yearn for sex but not to have an overdose of sex related issues thrown at my face everyday. Please its time we start using our brains and not just our organs. Let's get creative today

Amen somebody.

Very true.

tydi:
They should shun technology? So why is he using a phone to snap those fresh asses and why is he also on Instagram.. ? Why? If only everybody could comment with why? Why?

Characteristics of deceivers.

This Cultist is enjoying o.

Perhaps he shows the blood thirsty ones this way.

Masterchief the christ?

This na really anti-christ.

fieryy:
Any woman who abandons her career for marriage is just extremely stupid.

Why?

breakerofchains:


Kiss your husband's ass for a "happy" marriage

Abandon your career for a "happy" marriage

Submit to your husband for a "happy" marriage

Slave away for a....

You already know.

What's your reward...

"She had a Happy Marriage"

Congratulopia

So much emphasis on "happy" marriages; so little emphasis on happy people.

Hahahahahahaha

liberalchick:
Hahaha me too, I was expecting to read “now that he sees, he thinks his wife is ugly” lol

Hahahahahahaha

He is a clown.

When I read the problem started when he travelled...

I was like 'here comes the accident'.

Happy seeing, OP.

Maybe he just go back 'blind'

AmazonTopaz:
A guest of Tvc your view.
Mr praise fowowe says this on the programme that since grown up men cannot change women including men should start by training their sons to be better men.
Thanks for your input

That is the only way.

If sons are raised better, by the next generation, the bad eggs would be outliners.

Till then, we are in it together.

I however think that the quality of men are improving.

You are welcome.

crackhaus:
Unless you've not been entirely honest with yourself.
Too many of your opinions have religious undertones, so are you saying that's all an act?

It's not too late o, I can still change my mind and say it's money that makes you submissive, not biblical principles.

I am same everywhere, no acting.

I wouldn't say religion makes me submit else I would have married nay one with the tag Christian and just flow because we are Christians.

I would say love.

To me, that is all that is actually needed for a marriage to work.

I am a Christian so my values would be based on that.

crackhaus:
The three options are coming from the woman, not the man. Either one, or a combination of two, will make every woman submissive without a fight.

The husband is the one bring the qualities to the table.

Ol

AmazonTopaz:
I am writing this based on some of the comments I read on this forum by males as regards female issues.
The african society focuses on training females more than males. They teach girls how to be good wives and mothers and they forget to train our boys on how to be good husbands and fathers.
I believe the average Nigerian man (some) are insecure, have low self esteem and lack self confidence hence why they derive pleasure in insulting women. Sometimes I wonder who raised these boys that they believe their manhood is validated by a woman subjecting herself to him and allowing him be the alpha and omega of her life. That is why a lot of them are obsessed with the word "submission", "captain" and "head of the house title".
A man with confidence, high self esteem would not be obsessed in wanting to control a full grown woman in 2019 who basically has the same rights as he does.
It is insecurity, lack of self esteem and self confidence that makes a man feel intimidated by a sucessful and independent woman.It is due to lack of self esteem that they want to feel on top or over a woman.
They believe their gender or sex makes them lord over every woman. They are obsessed with authority, power and do not know how to be leaders.
They feel it is okay to slut shame sucessful women call ladies despicable names and you wonder if these men have sisters or mothers.
They feel it is okay to lord over a full grown adult and that such adult(women) cannot be a partner but a subordinate.

I believe some of these men raised in Nigeria have personal issues that they need to deal with on their own before bringing an unfortunate woman to share in such misery and clean up their mess.
I blame society's double standard that fails to hold men accountable as much as women are held accountable maybe then this self entitlement mentality, the view of women as commodities and superiority complex would be a thing of the past.Our men need exposure and enlightenment. I hope we raise better boys to become good men in the future and not just women alone.

My answer is always constant.

Women, choose the right men and train up your sons to be same.


I have seen a lot of women complain about their husbands and train their sons to be replica of their husbands.

It seems the qualities most of them seek in husbands they do not want replicated in their sons.

donbachi:
discussion 4 another day...or bring it up as a thread..how 2day market?hope sey u sell d rice and beans finish.

The day just started na.

Ewuro4:
This submission topic again in 2019, if you like submit, if you like don’t. You’re the one in a relationship. As you lay your bed you lie on it.

Don’t bother quoting me, you prolly won’t see this handle again for a while. Ciao!

@bolded:

Jist did,.

When you return, you will see it.

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

Same Bible talks about a husband loving his wife.

etibaba:
If he truly touched her where she claimed he touched her, then it's not just a case of being a pervert. There may be spiritual connotation.

Very true.

quivah:
Reverse is usually the case.
See the thing is, a session/round of sex is usually measured by the number of times a man ejaculates.
Once he ejaculates, one round! And he goes straight to refractive mode(loss of erection). Even if second round go dey, he will need to start over again from the stages of erection and arousal levels. If he's successful, then second round go dey. If not (which is usually the case), he goes straight to the resting stage- loss of erection, exhaustion and even regrets and that's the end of sex for that moment(he might try other ways to please his woman tho). So yes, you can ejaculate and 'still continue' with sex but it is by starting over. You will have to stop to start over again.


However with orgasm, you can have orgasm(single, discrete, continuous, multiple, or whole-body orgasm) in one session (without any break) so long you don't ejaculate. That is, a man can orgasm many times in one round of sex, so long he doesn't ejaculate (it is known as nonejaculatory sex).
So, ejaculation is actually what stops a sex session, not orgasm.
In simpler term Ejaculation is the end of male sex but ejaculation isn't orgasm. If you practice nonejaculatory sex, you don't even need to ejaculate and sex can go on for as long as you and your partner want. However, you will orgasm in between(the number of times and the type will depend on you and your partner). It is better, refreshing, healthier and more satisfying.

And yes, indeed there's a thin line between orgasm and ejaculation. They aren't just the same thing.

PS; there are men who continue thrusting even after ejaculation yes! but they are actually starting the process all over again. They are mostly soft at this stage and continue thrusting using a technique known as the SOFT ENTRY, but until they get hard, they can't ejaculate. So, they are either continuing just to satisfy their partners or they are going on to see if they can resume 'sex' (round two) which in most cases doesn't happen.
That's why second, third rounds are usually longer than the first round of sex because they are starting sex all over again - arousal to erection (5 stages in between).

With orgasm however, you can still orgasm many times sef even with a soft d.ick in one round.
You don't even need round 2, because all your satisfaction is gotten from 'round one'.

If you learn non ejaculatory sex, you will understand better why and how ejaculation isn't male orgasm.

And why it is what a man should give his partner (after he must have learned her body and soft spots o- who wants a 10 minute nonejaculatory sex when you can't even help me orgasm lol, sex is a two way thing- we both have to help each other to orgasm, many times if possible).

#signs out

Mama D Mama!

Sumk:
My husband and I have had arguements before where he hits me and I hit him in return as well. This time around I was pregnant by 4 months and went out to see museum with one of my good male friend(husband knew he was in town and was to be invited over for dinner) without telling my husband.He came to know about this 4 days later when he checked my bag and find the receipt. Instead of discussing the same like matured adults, he was waiting to hit me and started slapping me continously and kicked and punched me and thrashed me to the floor. And he even started saying nasty things like child is not his and started using bad words for me which made me more mad.I was lacking any strength to fight him back and said if he didnt stop I will call the police to which he said u can call the cops, so I did as I was bruised all over.......I am still not able to understand what kind of a man would hit his wife at such time............Please help

@OP:

Your story is one where we do not need hello from the 'other side', your post seems detailed.

From your account, you admitted that
1. You and hubby communicate by fighting so expecting a different form of communication is pretentious. He hits you and you hit back and you both of have not landed in the hospital. It is safe to say you both are aggressive and fighters because a truly abusive man would beat you to a pulp if you touch him except he knows you will over power him.

2. You went out with a mutual male friend without informing him. My sister it is disrespectful on your side. You are married and accountable to your husband. It is akin to sneaking behind his back. I know you feel 'he did it and I didn't bat an eyelid so what's the fuss?' Well, the fact that you are cool with it doesn't mean he should be cool with it. Ideally, it is disrespectful on both ends however if you do not mind been disrespected, he has shown you he minds. So going forward, you must tell him before going out whether he does or not.

3. The only reason why you did not fight back in this episode is because you did not have the strength to due to pregnancy. Yes, he is wrong to have hit you because you are pregnant as it shows he lacks self control. It could be that he used that opportunity to teach you a lesson since you couldn't fight back because he knows when you are stronger, you will wire him back. It could also be that he thought you are cheating and pregnant with another man's child hence the more aggressive beating. You called the cops and what happened?

When every thing is calm, apologize for going out without his knowledge and tell him you feel bad he beat you with mercy in your condition. Go for more checkups to ascertain all is well.

Use this opportunity to cure the madness of you both fighting when you have issues. A baby is on the way and you don't want to teach him/her that the only conflict resolution skill is fighting.

It is well with you both.

crackhaus:
Your idea of submission is based on religion. So yea, maybe.

Religion ke?

Go and rescan again

Kudos to the father for providing.

This is however not healthy in the long run so that the baby doesn't start to think that any sex can suckle a child and become an homosexual.

crackhaus:
Blank I'm not stupíd.
Of course there are always exceptions to generalizations, which is why they are called exceptions or outliers.
The existence of these outliers don't disprove the existence of the alternate majority.

Although I know you're implying I shouldn't have disbelieved the poster who said that, but then, what if I told you that I have a very special superpower?
It takes me just one conversation with a person(male or female) to decode their personality and mindset. I didn't just wake up one morning and knew how to do this, I worked on it and trained myself on it. It's not 10/10 accurate all the time, but the margin of error isn't enough to be a complete fail.

So yea, that particular person saying money cannot buy her submission, is blehhhhhhhh...
Maybe if Bukatyne said that, I would be more inclined to believe it.

@bold:

Interesting.