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Image123:
What a kidding. If she merits it fine, not just because of gender. Some laws in the West allow her to change gender or be genderless, so maybe she can consider that if she thinks being a female is hindering her.

Who knew I would see the positive in a terrible situation?

Tell the Baba that the leaves are not complete.

The male contestants should step down for you as what ma?

Can't you study the men before you, learn what it takes to win and modify it to suit your values?

Batman2412:
My mum used to beat me for talking to girls when I was a teenager. After graduation from university, she almost started beating me for not talking to girls

Either ways, you will still chop beating

2mch:
If possible, record her when she is misbehaving and anonymously forward to her own in-laws. When she is busy fighting her own battle, she won’t have time for you. Nobody should disrupt your own home and have peace in theirs.

BrighterThanDay:
Thank you for the advice. I'm in the process of getting another job, though not as high paying as the previous one.
You are right, I saw the red flags from the onset, I have never really been in a lot of relationships, and just as someone pointed out here, I think I'm also suffering from inexperience and the lack of a mother to guide me.
I really wanted to have a happy home, void of pretense and undue tension. Just pure honesty and true love. But I guess not everyone gets what they wish for. I'm smart and hardworking. I'll build my career again and console myself with my daughter. I'll let him do whatever he chooses with his family and not let it get to me. But I won't take any of their insults because I don't deserve them. I don't want my daughter to grow up without both parents. I'll try to stay for her sake, but for my sanity and happiness, I won't give it my all.

What aren't you giving your all?

Your marriage (relationship with your husband) or relationship with your in-laws?

Also, do you live in close proximity to them? If no, you should be able to live your life comfortably without issues with them.

Karleb:
Yoruba people will say, you can marry a bad spouse but never have a bad in-law.

Very true

BrighterThanDay:
The truth is my husband is a good man. He chose me, I chose him, and we are happy together. Aside from the current financial issues and law problems we don't have any other problem.
He stood up for me countless times against his sister and asked her to leave me alone. But whenever he does this, the sister gets so mad and says I've come to scatter their family and she begins to report to elders, who now turn on my husband and ask him to draw his sister close as the father of the house after the demise of his father. If he doesn't oblige, he'll be totally isolated from the family, even if his mother is sick or God forbid dies, he won't be informed, nobody picks up his calls or when they answer they sound so cold. The worse part was when my daughter was born, aside my family, none of them congratulated him. This is what they use to get to him and it hurts him so bad, and he ends up blaming me. I hate seeing him in this mood and I'll always encourage him to go back to them. I'm sincerely tired of this vicious cycle, I don't know how long I can continue living like this. This his sister is married, but she doesn't want any of her brothers to be.

@bold:

Your husband is your problem in this toxity. He is not willing to stand up for your family and bear the consequences.

I am afraid the cycle would continue till you both get tired.

I would advise you get a job, get your finances in order and maintain a respectable distance with your in-laws.

They don't like you; they think you are depriving them of their brother's resources. With families like that, there is no reasoning.

Good luck.

Kukutenla:
We are not terrorists. Not fighting for christ does not mean keeping quiet when his name and works is ridiculed.
CAN did not send a bomb to the hq of peak milk. They only called their attention to the offensive material and asked for a retraction.
Anyone with common sense shouldn't see anything wrong with that. But it's obvious you're not among such people

Well said.

Don't they have Christians in the Marketing Dept that can tell them the meaning of the ad?

Or couldn't they just keep quiet?

No Christian would boycott Peak Milk because FrieslandCampina did not wish us happy Easter. In fact, we would not even notice.

RaySimran:
With a fair and unbias mind, there's not one wrong in this advert/picture.

Really?

Are you a Christian?

If yes, was it Peak Milk that was bruised and pierced for you?

Was it Peak Milk that shed its blood or 'milk' on Calvary? Were you redeemed by Milk?

cerowo:
What nonsense illustration is this

I was wondering how it collaborated with Easter. Or is it the Tin that was bruised & pierced for them?

What happened to 'Happy Easter from FrieslandCampina' if they are clueless?

After all, they run a Ramadan series that is more sensible than this.

NoToPile:
Yeah vanish abi is there any other way to describe holding a management meeting with the individual present, issues were discussed, the person would have contributed oo only for you to hear the person has japaed 3 days later no letter nothing just disappear, the funniest part was now that 3 different peeps in a critical department did it.

The oga patapata who came back from this same UK himself and was appointed to head was like there are ways to do these things you don't spoil this ground because you are seeking another ground, you tidy up properly because you never can tell.

That's really poor work ethics.

juman:
I have seen cases where some nigerians applied for asylum in european country on the basis of security reason.
The country authority said security in nigeria was better than their country.
They told them to move to the safe side in the southern nigeria.

😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄

peacettw:
I can see Banky's wife in that poster and that seals it for me. I won't be watching this movie.

Why?

🎊 👏 💐 🥳 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 🎊

Congratulations ladies

sukkot:
people are not japaing because they are suffering, people are japaing because they are greedy. The real poor people cannot afford to japa

Hmmmmmm

NoToPile:
Lots who have jobs with good govt agencies are japaing without tidying up at their offices, I don't understand why a level 16-17 officer will just vanish without any paper work, at least apply for sabbatical leave.

This is so funny!

Vanish Kwa?

1Sharon:
They called Africans savages for being nude, now they desire it.

Perhaps they want to have a taste of savagery also.

Zallotti:
Nigeria and BRICS

https://guardian.ng/opinion/nigerias-membership-of-brics/

When would Nigeria be deemed valuable enough to join the table?

BRATISLAVA:
You killed off 3 of your children, according to your tale.

Murder isn't something to be proud of and party to.

Abortion is now murder

dangotesmummy:
exactly.women don't know how irritatingly annoying slander is until they give birth to sons and someone falsely accuses their son of what they didn't do

If I was the mother of that boy even if my son say overlook,I no go gree and peradventure if the girls parents has money and want to manipulate the case, social media must hear it,her pictures will be spread to all bloggers and I'll make sure bloggers drag her and feast on her very well sotey men go begin stay away from her so they don't fall into the same trap

Just wait till you have a son that you've invested your money, emotions,time and efforts to raise right and one daughter of Delilah wan drag am,you go see raw rage.if anybody come beg for the girl sef he/she go collect

@bold:

Nothing begins to reset a woke woman's mind than having a son she loves.

Then she realizes that women are not angels nor are men demons.

yeyebrity:
People can only accuse you of rape if you give them a reason to. They might have slept together at some point but the guy didn't enjoy it. She may have wanted more than just sex but he called it quits. I am just thinking out loud.

E de beeru Olorun!

According to the OP, the girl is apologising for trying to tarnish his image yet you are still looking for a wiggle room.

purples25:
Great! He can have the best of her body and soul, and she can have the best of his too!

No need to go around sleeping around and having nasty experiences! Also have kids on time and she will heal faster and look so very okay after child birth. Her body will snap back in an instant!

Better to go through all this marriage wahala early. No matter how you postpone it, or prepare for it, you will still experience the same stress. Better to do it now that they are still young and agile.

It's not every time people should wait until the man has slept with everything and lost all his charm and looks and is going old (same for the woman). It mustn't necessarily be like that. I think young couples can have a lot of fun.

This post is 100%

The parts in bold, 1000%

BRATISLAVA:
People married to the same person for 75 years, at what age do you think they got married? 40?

It's only in Nigeria that men at 40 go around proudly crawling in the pants of 20 year old girls looking for marriage with the girls. The rest of the world are married at 19 even as guys.

Once they're committed to growth they'll last longer than 10 years.

Congratulations to them, God bless their home.

Vyvyanvyvy:
Hello fams just want to keep you updated , son messaged his father on Saturday he had attached a picture of him and his sister , he didn't get any response , so on sunday son called again through facebook video call he picked up and told him he is on his way to church he will call back later. He hasn't call back yet and son wants to call him back again today but I've told him to not call he should be patient he will call him when he's less busy. Son is desperately waiting to hear back from him and Hopefully he will call back anytime soon

How did the apology date go?

Today is Wednesday, any contact yet?

fortyishcouga:
I saw a thread where a lady was sharing her marital issues and a number of people wondered why she couldn't simply walk out.

They didn't get her reluctance. But I do.

When the issues are not life threatening or DV related, it is a tough to take that step. Yes, it could guarantee a woman's rest of mind, but at what cost? For instance, leaving a marriage because you have both grown apart mentally and emotionally would be tough when you think of how it will affect the kids both now and in the future.

I feel most people who throw the word divorce around with ease are not married themselves and do not get the complexities of marriage.

Depends on their moral code.

As a Christian, divorce is only allowed if:
1. A partner commits adultery
2. If they willingly walk out of the marriage without you pushing them out (abandonment)
3. Case of abuse that can lead to loss of life (my insert)

Even remarriage under the above circumstances is debatable.

How old is she?

Vyvyanvyvy:
1. You are bitter and judgemental you have accused me for something which I don't wish to be in the nearest future.

2. Yes I know that I am a very overprotective mother nobody has told me that before but I know I am which sometime can not be healthy but with time I will adjust.

3. also calling my son a ungrateful human being was out of anger I had expected him to keep quiet after telling him no but he kept on begging and begging that's why I called him that ,which i regretted later , I owe him an apology which I will do tommorow when I will give him the permission to speak to his dad, the word came out of anger and it will never be repeated.

4. For your information I have a life outside of my children , I am in a new relationship with a widower and I am enjoying life to the fullest ,

5. I hope you are now happy to hear that I have a life outside of my children and you will not accuse me of anything else.

1. Sounds like bigger and better 😜 Even students who did not read in school wish to pass.

2. 💯

3. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. Point two says you are working on it so it's fine. Anyways, you have an apology date tomorrow. Top it off with his favorite food.

4. Fighting 💪

5. If you don't want me to accuse you of anything else, send N200k cash in new notes to me. You know cash is currently king, queen, princess and prince join. I prefer denomination of N1,000 with a sprinkle of N500 so a lot can fit into my purse per time.

I am glad my posts have made you introspect birthing points two & three.

Good luck 🤞

Kobojunkie:
1. knowledge! Intuition.

2. Needed polarity between men & women? What in the world is that abeg?

1. Knowledge comes from where? Intuition comes from where? Knowledge & Intuition, Training & Personality yada yada is still pointing to Nature & Nurture. Knowledge is gotten from what you learnt (Nurture); Intuition is part of Nature.

2. This one na 15 units course mbok.

Kobojunkie:
1. Are they merely complaints or women voicing what is confirmed reality out there for them? Marriage has from its beginning been a choice, not a mandate. And the way I see it, people are finally accepting the reality of the institution and looking to find alternative ways to occupy their time. Why make it seem as though by doing so, they are to be looked down on or something.

2. Marriage is first and foremost an agreement between a man and a woman, so rightly, they ought to want it on their own terms and should not be willing to settle for anything less than that. So where marriage is not possible for them, there is absolutely nothing wrong with them exploring possible alternatives or maybe moving on from it completely, or is there?

3. Yeah.... none of what you said there rings a bell with me. My peace and quiet make way more sense to me than any of that. Does that mean I am not human at all?

1. For women to complain that there are no available quality men, it means they desire marriage. Marriage is a choice and not a mandate; agreed. No one has gone to hell for staying single. The problem is that they want the benefits of marriage without the 'responsibilities'. People don't look down on Reverend sisters & fathers, monks or people known to be engrossed in their business or calling.

2. I have not asked people to settle for less: 'Can two work together except they be agreed? Amos 3:3' I was buttressing the point that a lot of people still want marriage irrespective of the demonization the institution has received.

3. Maybe, Maybe not 😂😂😂😂

Kobojunkie:
1. And I am instead saying that rather than nature and nurture, it instead has to do with the personality of the individual, the choices made by that individual.

2. Not being "equipped" to handle heterosexual relationships —whatever that means by the way— is something else entirely. I am not certain what you mean by that. Are you insinuating that homosexuals don't have masculine features as a result of being homosexual? Or are you saying you have never met a butch before?

1. And what informs our choices apart from our nature & how we were nurtured? Nurturing is not only by the immediate family; the whole society does the nurturing. Nobody makes a choice out of a vacuum.

2. I am referring to the needed polarity between men & women for a heterosexual romantic relationship to work between them.

AY wanted to do live comedy.

Night club without smoking?

He should created non-smoking areas instead so that people like him & his wife can stay there.

Or he has a saloon attached to the club so that women can wash their wigs on their way home