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So OP what would you do as a man?

I just read through a thread and a number of female monikers were accused of being males and some of those same monikers are on this thread claiming to be single mothers because there is giveaway involved.

And to think I was sympathizing with some of them.
This is the thread,

https://www.nairaland.com/5610049/average-nigeria-girl-olosho-heres#85431594

In the thread these posters revealed that some people claiming single mother have been outed as men on other sections on nairaland.
Hamachi, Iyatola,steveofu are some of them.

pocohantas:
I don't know why some NL guys like acting stupid. You saw a pick-me post and you ran to send PM. Typical fish brained Naija guy. Be very pro-men and he will think he has found a wife.

Isn't it Iyatolà you sent that PM?

Same person that runs Steveôfu, Lilyval, Hamachî and a host of monikers. A guy hiding behind female monikers to pîmp. Someone that has been busted in sexuality section, before running to Romance section, the section for low IQed non-thinking pseudo-alfa males.

One day they will cut off you guys head for ritual. As una no fit keep prick one place. Let me see if it is feminist you will call to save you.

I don't know how true this is but anyone who intends to send money to these single moms should get concrete proof like video call or something. Don't let yourself get scammed.

Nature is nature. Women will never willingly settle for broke men no matter how many fake stories you tell online. The ones that settled for broke men did it as last choice, because they couldnt get the rich men they wanted. No sane woman will want to be associated with poverty and suffering. if you like accept this bitter truth, if you like reject it, it doesnt change anything.

Thegeneralqueen:
Ladies listen well and listen carefully don't settle for less go for the rich guys all these broke guys opening threads daily saying they can run a family for 30k are all fustrated even their sister's can't marry a man that earns 30k not to talk off friends.......They're all out here looking for who to trap they should go and marry their family members with 30k not us

I love this

Nairaland boys are very mad

They keep shouting "don't marry broke bitches" all over the place but at the same time they want women to marry their broke worthless arses

It's not going to happen.

jakandeola:
I know ur saying dis to get me mad.but I ask is dis right? u will born a baby one day.boy. wen he marry will u like he wash and cook for his wife. u go and visit ur son one day and see him washing his wife pant and bra will u happy.pls say d truth witout been a hippocrate

@ bold, get you mad ke?
I meant what I said, she is a lucky woman. You dont know what kind of relationship she and her husband have. They could still be very much in love with each other and wanting to make each other happy. Maybe she on her part is very loving to the man, maybe she always makes him happy or acts as a good friend and companion to him, cooks his favorite food and so on.
Maybe he genuinely loves her and wants to make her happy.

As for your question about my son. If that is what makes him happy then who am I to stop him? He is an adult and is free to decide how he wants to live his life.

I m grateful for life, good health, financial stability and good luck in all aspects of life.

I am also grateful for those nairalanders who got so butthurt over my comments they have become my fans and stalk me all over nairaland

Wow, that Darlenese is a lucky woman indeed

See how the man pampers her.

uboma:
You are on point. Never hit a woman no matter what she does. If the relationship isn't really working even after several efforts to remedy it, the best I will do is put an end to it.

Words of a sensible man.

freecocoahubby:
You are just too dumb for my liking. How many nigerian wives actually do what you've just listed here? Are you based abroad? because you are clearly oblivious to the fact that wives in Nigeria have househelps to do all this. Which again makes most Nigerian women a useless commodity to their husbands.

Yes, every single married woman in Nigeria has house help assisting her and they are useless commodity to their husbands.

jakandeola:
u are d man of d house u need to proove DAT.how can u have a wife who refuse to respect u and shout at u.do she still Cook or wash for u.do u still sex each oda. u paid her brideprice so u are in control.I think she is wicked she got her own money yet want to keep collecting from u. I think u mess up from d start of d marriage wen u start to collect rubbish from her have u ever dicipline her before? I keep saying it is bad to beat woman but is necessary sometimes. d way I see it she dont respect ur family.guy next time u quarell u dicipline her not too much to injure her did u know as shes crying u walk out for like 10 mins.
then u come back and apologized to her.she will still be forming. u now beg her well.she will accept.explain to her why u beat and DAT u feel sad for doing DAT.u take her to eatry later.and have mind blowing sex wen u get back.ur family will be stronger.pls dont listen to anyone who say u shd divorce ur wife. send ur email bro I wish we can chat inboxly

So she should still cook daily and wash for him and do other things a woman is supposed to do at home and also be providing money for him at the same time as Co breadwinner?

As for the rest of your post about beating women, I hope you give your daughters husband the same advice.

eni4real:
Vicious Circle??

Yes, exactly.

And for the men shouting "what about the wife"
"What is the wife bringing?"
And the ones saying marriage will work if a man earns 30k and wife also earns 30k (I saw one of them even saying wife should be earning 45k while husband brings 30k )
I hope while your wife is doing 50% of breadwinning you as the husband are also prepared to cook alongside with her in the kitchen?
Hope you are prepared to clean and sweep the house and take care of children and go shopping in the market just like she does?


Foolish entitled broke men

Is it not in this same Nigeria people marry when earning peanuts, hoping God will turn them to millionaires overnight but decades later they are still struggling and now they have turned their hopes to their innocent children and are now hoping the kids will make it big and take them out of poverty in old age.

All the guys telling lies about how someone they know married his wife with 15k salary but is now earning 10x that in a multimillion multi national company, una wehdone oooohh

Eku story telling

Ariza:
Hain! Ogini why are you wicked like this. 2 weeks torn panties? Lol.



Jokes apart, I don't think so. I read Ubuntu convincing him not to deactivate on the first page.

@bold
See how you gave him a new name.

The way many nairaland guys take him as role model you would think he is some sort of genius but look at what he is writing here.

Tufia!!

Funny thing is that this topic is in "trending topics" section but only three of them support this ridiculous mindset that everyone has moved on from since 100 years ago.

Marry an illiterate woman but be prepared for the embarrassment of your life when your friends or family come visiting and she exposes her ignorance.
Or be prepared for dumbass children that will barely speak correct English or that will inherit her ignorance
How will the two of you even connect mentally? Or is mental compatibility not necessary in marriage?
Then that one is talking of raising his daughter to act dumb and hook a rich simp. What if her rich husband is one of those men that treat women like crap because the women depend on them and have no sense?


Ridiculously archaic mentality on display

CanadianNaija:
The bolded is so true. They will now take 40 years anniversary picture, and people will use them as an example of a good marriage.

No one will know that it was 40 years of suffer and dry fasting, spent fighting off imaginary enemies for the woman.
Madam will be alright last last.

Lol
So true
You will see them posting pictures on social media like one kain role model couple
Other people will look up to them and envy them
The man sef will be advising young up coming couples like say him be better person

fieryy:
Girl, you're right. I do have a crush on the beautiful ladies who agree with me

I love y'all ❤️❤️❤️

Especially CHoccolaTE

Haha
I love you too fieryy

24kmagic:
Truly, it's a man's world.
I just cannot stop thanking nature for making me a man.

Imagine a wife having to suffer for her husband's indiscretions?

The more I try to be a faithful man, the less I can, knowing fully well that my woman will always be there to clean up my mess.

Chai!

To be a man is truly a blessing

Later they will say what are feminists fighting for

So the two lovebirds know each other outside nairaland
More details are unravelling little by little
I always knew he was a huge influence on her style on writing
So cute....

fieryy:
Lmaooooo!!! Oh my gosh, I totally got it wrong! Loooö

Now it all makes sense

See, I knew you were a sharp babe

fieryy:
Those are just silly women because women should not be trying to impress their crush at all. That's you showing green lights, which means you are giving him the permission to rape you. In fact, you should not even smile at your crush. That could also be you sending green light signals.

Let those who have ears hear o

Lol
You didnt code me well

There is also one woman on Nairaland who writes all sorts of funny stuff when her crush is around but never mind about that now

fieryy:
What a way to blame the victim.

Fierry are you seeing something!

Tell me why is it that when women have a crush on a guy they start uttering crap to impress him? I was just wondering about it because of something that happened in my school before

bukatyne:
I wanted to draw this statement out of you.

I know you don't care about the man's consent; all you care about is the woman's consent.

Except the modern definition of rape has changed, rape is sex without consent.

If they are both drunk irrespective of the degree of drunkenness, they 'raped' themselves or sensibly had drunken sex.

Whether they have buyer's remorse the next morning is a different thing.

If a lady wants to avoid the situation above, the solution is to avoid getting drunk outside the comfort of safety.

Why do people think such things are enjoyment and fun anyways?

The bold is me thinking aloud.

All these snearios are taking away a woman's capacity to think and make the right decisions for herself.

Which is back to where we are all trying to run from:

That women are beneath men.

Only children or mentally impaired people are expected not to think their decisions through and take responsibility for their actions.

What you asked me before

bukatyne:
I wish it were a competition; it is not.

A drunk man forcing himself on a drunk woman is what?

So even though the drunk man has enough clarity of mind to force the woman we should still blame the woman for raping him? Even when she was forced?

Na real wa ooo

You yourself mentioned on this thread that a drunk person who commits murder can't be absolved of murder became they were drunk so I dont understand how a man who forced a drunk woman, the man in this situation being the initiator and perpetrator of forced unconsented sex,

how is he the one being raped?

bukatyne:
I wish it were a competition; it is not.

A drunk man forcing himself on a drunk woman is what?

It's still rape naaa

If the woman was too drunk to give consent and the man had enough self awareness to force a woman who can't consent then it's rape. The man is the one performing the sex acts in this situation so he is the rapist.

Na wa o

OK bukatyne I have agreed

A man forcing himself on a drunk on woman is not rape

A woman being forcefully penetrated after visiting an admirer is not rape too

You win, Buka 2 : Choco 0

whitelotus:
I swear, I cant remember her username. This was months ago that i saw her post in the religion section.

Is it Janette?

bukatyne:
1. I am sure your question is wrong.

2. Consent goes both ways. If a man and a woman is drunk, who should give whom consent? If that drunk person kills, do we absolve them of murder?

3. Everyone has inbuilt self preservation. When a man wants to sleep with a woman, she knows and IF she is NOT INTERESTED, the onus is on her to ensure it doesn't happen. A guy signifies his interest in sleeping with a woman and said woman visits this guy or sleeps in his house and claims not to be interested; does she have a single digit IQ? The one I find most baffling is when the lady says she is no longer interested after they have started romance.

If a man doesn't want to sleep with a girl, he will run away from her at all costs.

Hmmm

Having sex with a drunk person is wrong naaa, haba mama, no wa o.
I dont get your analogy of absolving drunk people of murder, if a woman drinks and passes out or is unaware o:her surroundings and a man has enough consciousness and self awareness to have sex with her without her approval it's rape.
Nothing else but rape.

And also,
Many women are forcefully penetrated when they visit men, regardless of whether the man indicated interest in them prior to that. Some men indicate interest others just force the women because the situation presented an opportunity. It's still rape, whether he indicated interest before ooo, whether she is single digit IQ oooo, it doesnt matter. Forced, non consensual intercourse is rape.

TonyeBarcanista:
That passage was about the issue of divorce. I don't want to lay more emphasis.

Same Jesus talked about a groom that is to be married to 10 brides (virgins)


Logical reasoning and that is why the wife should perform her wifely duties so that he won't have justification to seek alternative

As for the Bible part I do sabi that one. I always see Christians saying polygamy is not part of the religion except for very few sects of Christianity

Second paragraph:
You men always claim to be leaders and heads so if you see your wife defaulting in her duties, approach her with love and try to solve the problem together instead of seeking alternatives.
After all una sabi claim leadership position so as a good leader make sure your followers are always happy and satisfied, don't run from problems like Nigerian politicians.

TonyeBarcanista:
Marriage comes with responsibilities. And yes, people marry up to 5, 10 or even 20 wives.


Which passage of the scripture forbids polygamy? New or Old Testament please

Which one permits it?
I am not a Christian but I always see this verse being quoted about
Men shall take a wife (not wives) and two shall become one (not 5,6 7 or 20 shall become one)
By the way marrying more than one wife with the way the global economy is just cos of sex is very senseless and stupid, no matter how much you try to justify it. Even in the past when it was rampant men did not do it simply for sex, there was status in having lots of children and many farm hands.

TonyeBarcanista:
If a married man decides to take a second wife to meet his bedroom and other needs, is that infidelity? Is it adultery?

BTW paying dowry and meeting other marital rites is not an ordinary thing to do as it comes with its own significance and brings responsibilities on the man. If you disagree, you can sue the ancestors, including Abraham

Men are funny

So your sole reason for getting another wife is just to have sex?
You would deliberately take on the permanent financial and emotional burden of polygamy because wife locked shop for sometime? What if the second wife also withholds sex?
Will you keep filling your house with wives instead of solving the problem that made her withhold sex in the first place?

By the way I thought Christianity forbids polygamy? What is all this talk of ancestors and significance of bride price?
Where was polygamy stated as the significance of bride price in the Bible?