₦airaland Forum

Since it’s inheritance, it belongs to you.
If it were earned during the marriage, it belongs to your dad and by extension you.

seniorgozman:
Exactly my point.

right

seniorgozman:
You can't abort pregnancy in a federal government hospital unless it's critical and can cause You your life, so the guy lied. Its either the girl had a miscarriage or that she suffered some violence that affected the pregnancy to enable a government hospital do abortion for you, the girl is likely saying the truth.
Finally they are both from my place, I will hear from their relatives

He’s a dumb liar. Abortions are still illegal in Nigeria hence no federal hospital will partake in it.
If he’s saying the truth, let him name the doctor that did it. Ode

LilMissFavvy:
Does this guy look like someone who can open a pharmacy and poultry business for his babe? Plus plenty other financial commitments? Liar*

This guy in his frustration* of being dumped*, is out to ruin the girls chances of ever finding a suitor that's why he lays emphasis on the "abortion* accusations". According to him she's a pharmacist. Which health practitioner would expose her womb to 3abortions* within 3years when her bride price was paid, introduction done and fiance available?. Since this man is very rich*, why did they date for 8yrs, and wedding plans dragged since 2020 till 2022. There is no truth or correlation in his side of the story.

they just talk nonsense not knowing they can be sued for defamation

Good riddance. He’s dusty anyway

And that’s honestly why I still bother .

Magnoliaa:
Thoughts like that should not be left to go unchallenged on a public forum, nahh..

Shadysen:
shut up,can u walk away everyday?

yes you can

His vile comment got the most likes on this thread. What does that tell you?

The average Nigerian is a misogynist through and through

Magnoliaa:
Okay... here are investigations that have been made, asking questions and then providing answers. If you truly believed so, have you made this research before coming here to type what you just typed? Why did you jump into conclusions and went ahead to pronounce a verdict when you wanted more investigation to be made?

- These are facts about how poverty of women and domestic violence go hand-in-hand:

https://www.safehousecenter.org/the-intersection-of-domestic-violence-and-poverty/

https://cpag.org.uk/news-blogs/news-listings/domestic-abuse-economic-issue-%E2%80%93-its-victims-and-society

- Testimonies shared by victims of domestic violence themselves: REALLY READ IT AND DIGEST and do not go off about something else with me. You asked for findings, right?

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/true-survivor-stories

https://safelives.org.uk/news-views/real-life-stories

- The behaviours of abusers, since you claim no sane man can just lay a finger on his wife without cause:

https://ncadv.org/signs-of-abuse

*

Did you know that the late Minister submitted her salary to her husband? Did you know that this husband controlled her account and was more or less her manager, wielding control over the shows and contracts she gets? Does that look like a woman who is bragging with the small money she has to you?

You also want to tell me that you've not seen people FOR NO REASON, who are wicked and always angry and always bully people? You have never seen an innocent person being assaulted before? You don't see kids get beaten when they've done no wrong... you don't literally see these things, since you claim these things do not happen without provocation?

Okay, okay, if a wife is verbally abusive to her husband, what did the husband do to provoke her to insulting him?

I know my gender, I can vouch for them here. No sensible woman with a correct head will start insulting a man if he didn't ask for it. Every man turns a woman into a beast of an emotional abuser. Check well, the man deserve it. Abi abi you want to tell me that domestic abuse against a woman is caused by a woman, but emotional abuse against a man is not caused by the man? You see how that sounds, yeah?

But if you believe women can be emotional and verbal abusers without a triggering factor, independently, why do you not believe men can be physical abusers without a triggering factor, independently too?

How about traditional, uneducated housewives who believe a man is the head and that divorce is not an option, who still get beaten on top?

These women are completely virtuous and submissive to their husbands and they don't make money, so they don't even raise their voices back at their husbands, yet they still get beaten? What will you say about that?

Oh, or perhaps you will justify the abuses Nigerians face in the hands of police, soldiers and SARS officials. Have you ever been a victim? Have you ever been harassed by someone bigger than you? Someone of a higher authority and you're helpless and defenseless? Boya, we should switch this on you and use you as a case study. I am anticipating your response. Let us see if you have ever deserved the injustice that has ever been meted out to you at one point or the other. Let's know if you're also responsible for it because of your mouth and your behaviour.

Oh, and don't come at me with you said, "some of these women." That's not going to fly with me. And what you will not do is have me believe there are c.r.a.z.y b.i.t.c.h.e.s who run their mouths and are bad, but that there aren't crazy niggas who use their hands and weights.

GboyegaD:
It is normal to be vulnerable. I know how to mask my emotions when need be and know when to be so truthful about them. Na emotion I express, I no kill person.

Thank you

postmann:
Even in the most difficult of circumstances, a mother holds back her tears for the sake of her little children; for fear of not demoralising and making them feel hopeless in that particular situation. Likewise, men are trained to take it in the chin in the most difficult situations, not breaking down and cry (abomination)! What would the followers do, when a leader is given to emotions and tears? It's unmanly as it is irresponsible!

Unlike in a mom’s case, your partner is not your child. If you do your due diligence and select a partner you can rely on, you won’t be afraid that everything will fall apart when you cry. If you lose a parent or a friend or a child, if you are facing a life-changing/debilitating medical diagnosis, if you’re injured in a bad accident, you should be able to cry about it. And your woman should be equipped enough to hold your head and handle issues while you recoup. Even beyond that.

I don't expect a world where women should have a higher suicide rate than men. It can only happen on a planet where the evil forces have succeeded in bridging the gender gap -- and we might as well get there someday with the speed at which we're heading towards the 'equality' goal.

I don’t want that world either. There’s absolutely no reason why successful suicide should be prevalent in one group over another for the simple reason that one group is poorly equipped to deal with emotional and life’s issues.

And yes, men are mysterious human beings with 80% of patents belonging to them. Much of the remaining 20% are joint-gender patents still lead by this mysterious, mostly-bearded, adrenaline-driven warriors who would do anything, not sparing his life, to defend a noble cause.

laughable

postmann:
Wimpish!

There's an ongoing campaign at demystifying men, bridging the gender gap on the emotional, psychological, mental and physiological levels.

Men are not mysterious. Just human

Things like this are why men have a higher successful suicide rate than women.
Also the reason why young boys will die before they talk about their sexual assault at the hands of older men and women. Because they feel they can’t be seen as weak. Whereas it’s nothing to do with weakness.

#thepartriarchyhurtsmentoo

Framed:
No playing super hero when I don't have.

Perfect. There’s need for a balance. There are times to be strong and be the hero and there are time to be vulnerable and let yourself be taken care of. It’s just human.

Use your time now to support a young president

GloriousGbola:
Are you talking to August or to Will tho?

Will knows what he’s into. He agreed and accepts and they’ve been doing their thing.

August is the one who seems to not be getting it. He wants love and exclusivity from someone he can’t get it from. Maybes that’s the appeal. The fact that she’s not emotionally available to him.

They can’t get over the fact that there’s a dude somewhere who doesn’t think cheating should be reserved for men alone.

They wouldn’t be this bothered if Will was the only one who had a side partner and Jada was languishing everyday praying for him to change and come back to her.

Like they said, their marriage is their style and no one else has to do what they do. Not that hard to understand

We4all:
This is getting stale already. She slept with that dude when she and Will were separated. So kini big deal?

Besides, she and Will practice an open marriage so why all the unnecessary criticisms ?

All over the world, spouses cheat on each other in the closet and pretend like nothing happened.

A woman practicing an open marriage hooks up with another man while separated from him. She opens up and suddenly the world won’t let her experience peace. Such hypocrisy!

E remain for Will smith’s side chick/s to come and do their own tell all too. Everyone wanna trend.

August they have an open relationship. You’re probably not the only one she slept with. Get over yourself and stop falling in love with a woman who’s emotionally unavailable to you. You don’t see her other side dudes catch feelings. You’re the only one still hung up on it. It couldn’t have been the best you’ve ever had.

godofuck231:
Over ripe apple or just simply rotten

engrfaruq:
After every Tom Dick and Harry has gotten his share of the fruit, the SIMP is now staking all his life for the seed that's left. Tufiakwa

You people are just vile.

For no reason too

Kobojunkie:
Yes, greed!
Assuming of the above in fact true, then she wanted recognition and sacrificed her safety, along with that of her 4 children, for it. In that case, we can say that Religion didn't kill but her greed did.

It’s easy to victim blame in situations like this. But you have to understand it’s never easy to abandon the familiar, her beliefs and her source of livelihood for the unknown.

Of course she should have left but let’s not underestimate the power of indoctrination. Especially the ones that started young. So instead of focusing on what she didn’t do, I would rather blame the systems that made this situation happen.

Everyone that’s talking about her now would have turned their noses on her if she left earlier.

“A dirty sub-human divorced woman who couldn’t sustain her marriage? Eww. Let’s not reward divorce by encouraging anyone to think they can have a normal life after leaving a bad marriage.”

This here above is the rotten thought process that permeates our society and is the reason why a lot of women do and will die in terrible marriages.

If he loves the kid that much, he wouldn’t need years to go by in order for him to show it

yuping:
I wanted to take you serious but I later saw that you are just bittered, how can you imply that a father will harm his own child in a lawfull country, if you want to keep the child just say it, don't point out danger haba, A man you claim you love want divorce suddenly he is evil and can harm his own child SMH. If you want to score point with the child shame on you but I know if the wife is getting married after divorce to a white man she is going abroad with the kid. Don't be selfish think about the kid future, a future with you or a future in an environment that can make the child grow.
On the house part the wife should be compensated and she deserve it, everything in Nigeria self should be given to her if possible she has been managing i, all this while.

Kobojunkie:
Religion killed her or greed?

greed??

Another interesting take on this

Everybody has turned to marriage counselor because she's dead, I'm still in Shock, but I just have been so worried, sick and uncomfortable with this whole issue since the night I heard of it, well, it's best we know this facts, it might not please some of us but it's the truth..

No man killed Mrs Osinachi, Religion did. No matter how much she was warned and cautioned, she would never have left that marriage because of the kind of behavioral standards expected of her calling as a minister.

No ministry would have invited a single, divorced mother to come and minister, no one would fall under any form of anointing if she got up to sing, she would not have been recognized and acknowledged in women forums and gathering of her own parish not to talk of those on the street. Those of you here today shouting why didn't she leave would have been the first to scorn and look down on her being the hypocritical lot we are in this part of the world.
She obviously would have been suspended and given a back seat if it were to be some commission that I know today..

Religion killed her and will still kill many others, but you all are not ready for this conversation.

May her soul finally find peace I pray�
I personally miss u too much, I don't post about dead people too often but yours is too painful to ignore �

-Gospel Minister, Edwin Alex

Any day nairaland men are not crying about girls and women, is that even a real day? Did the sun even rise? Always super obsessed. Eesh

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
my sister has agree to separate but the custody of the child after all he has not been communicating with her for over 5years

custody of a child he doesn’t know? The nerve of some people sha.

LifeSolutionsTe:
Cococandy, do you have a food blog or website?

No.

Check out pocohantas page, she has one

LifeSolutionsTe:
Oh... So touching.

Cococandy, I love you and all that you do on here too.

Thank you!!!

100

Romanoff:
Until we stop shaming single mothers or divorcees, there are people that would rather stay in abusive relationships and be praying and watching war room than to leave with their lives intact just to avoid the backlash of the society.

"She no fit stay husband house", "na waka waka dey hungry her".

Etc.

Throwback:
Affleck is a simping weakling for going back to a woman who accepted his proposal but kept giving excuses why the wedding had to be delayed.


Now, after 2 further failed marriages to add to her first, she has again accepted the proposal of a weakling that never moved on.

I only hope the fool did not waste money on another talk of the town diamond engagement ring.

If she is a Catholic, he should have just got her a ring rosary. Jenny from the block has got enough rocks to fool the world.

You’re upset because?

Angelfrost:
Jenny has truly been passed round the Block!

I guess she is finally ready to settle down with the man she always loved or never stopped loving!

But... That's some serious Body Count!

BBBricks:
Could remember how Wesley Snipes fxxked this woman for that American Movie back then


Her name in that movie was Officer Santiago


I have forgotten the title of the movie!


Women, they fxck and thrive!
Men, they fxck and rot!


She is very very creative and hard-working though! And a very very good musiccian too!

#ItIsWell!

PraiseGodNoTime:
A demon of fame goes side ways with sexual immorality, they are never tired of sex till they die physically.. She is still active and won't be retiring soon.. Again, they don't or can't stick with one man or woman if I lie ask Davido, wizkid, Timaya. All of them that play noisy sounds as music

Bridget95:
She gat to keep up with the hunt for dicks

GODPUNISHALABI:
this girl don use Spanish toto hijack batman

iamyemiakins:
Okafor's Law of Kongodynamics

The pussy is finally back to the real owner, after several wandering knacks

Poleski:
Jennifer Lopez can't live without having a d*ick in her pussy regularly. She has had many relationships and three failed marriages.

What's wrong with this woman? Why is she so desperate to have a husband? One could be single and happy!

Do you guys ever stop obsessing about women’s bodies and who/what goes in them?

Klass99:
At the bolded . Your yeye full ground no be small.

it’s almost as if their god doesn’t like us

They are coming for your head

Kobojunkie:
The Christian religion in Nigeria is founded the doctrines and traditions of men(and their church organizations), wicked individuals, and not on Jesus Christ and His Truth.

She did indeed die at the hands of her Mr.
it’s all over the internet. Regardless, I feel very bad for what happened to her, while knowing that her being a cautionary tale won’t sway anyone who thinks like that.

I read comments where people praised her for sacrificing her life to obey God’s command to avoid divorce.

You know all those kinds of people who only remember the word of God when they want to punish a woman. But they are radio silent on what God expects from husbands

Kobojunkie:
If she indeed died at the hands of her abusive husband, then I am afraid is nothing but a cautionary tale to all the other sit-tight wives out there who refuse to run away from their abuser because in their heads marriage and that Mrs title is the way into the Kingdom of God in their delusions.

Jesus Christ said your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 - so those who chose to stomach abuse in marriage do not do God any honors or favors by their foolishness.

Those who submit to an abusive partner do so, not for God who never commanded submission in marriage to begin with, but instead for their personal lust and desire to Han tight onto their Mrs status.

According to story, all this woman here has done is abandon/leave behind 4 children in her bid to hang tight onto a Mrs title..

On Osinachi..

Now here's the problem - I see a lot of religious people saying she should have left the marriage.

Let's be honest...

Osinachi's selling point was her assumed 'Holiness'. I said assumed because the so called religious holiness is a mere assumption. If a woman dresses religiously, everyone believes she's Holy. If she wears sexy wears, y'all religious people call them unholy.
Since 'holiness' was her selling point, to be honest, divorce was not one of her options.
Many pastors wives and female ministers are on this table - Y'all equate the MARRIED status to holiness and consider DIVORCED people as potential sinners. Please don't argue this because y'all know how you discriminate against single moms and divorced sisters in your leadership structures. If Osinachi divorced, 90% of the churches in Nigeria wouldn't invite her to minister again. So to grow her ministry, she chose to die in marriage.

I didn't want to comment about this sad death because I know y'all are not ready for the truth...

But here is the truth - the fake religious standards about marriage has killed more Christians than the imaginary devil would ever kill. Argue with the depressed wife of your secretly polygamous Papa.

I became a free man the day I dumped religion and started living my truth. As you see me now, ALL MY DECISIONS ARE MADE BASED ON MY REALITY. Not based on your standards. You can't force your Religious standards on me nor my family - we are unique individuals. A little bit of house party could be the fire in my home but your Religious standards may frown at it forcing me to live in hell on earth in anticipation of an after life bliss. My partner may need some 'Head' in a naughty place to get the feel of good sexual life but if I allow religion into my home, I'll live with a pretender and fight imaginary demons.

The church must stop trying to control marriages with blanket doctrines. Teach the principles of individuality and people will start living their truth Which includes working away from toxic marriages without fear of being shamed by the Religious moral police.

The world has lost a great gift. While we blame the guy Frank Edwards described as "unreasonable", let's also blame the religious system which hasn't been reasonable enough to stop forcing fake standards on real people with real issues.

Maranatha.

…Charles

Hmmmmm