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Please she should explain, how do we make sure a boyfriend doesn't stop us from meeting our husbands?

Acidic rain?? ??
Nigerians have suffered in the hands of politicians

santos876:
if you been a feminist will remove Buhari from seat then continue

The fact that he launched this in Liberia though.

ola12:
Missraine, thats not the way to do things, you're getting quite emotional. The ideal thing is to backoff at that moment, if the mil is a mad woman you dont need to drag yourself to her level at that point. Not saying you should tolerate nonsense like a househelp, but slapping her back in that particular moment would cause more harm than good. If you married a real man(not all these wussies claiming mama's chewinggum and protector), he should be able to handle the situation better and even get her to apologize to you and prevent reoccurence.
Your MIL didnot behave maturedly by slapping you, that does not make you any less matured and you should try to act maturedly at that point. You have no idea how much respect your man and mil would have 4 you if you just do the right thing.

And in such a hypothetical situation, so what if she was emotional? she is allowed to be emotional, she was slapped, assaulted. And What is the right thing to do? SMH. If she wants to drag herself down to the MIL level, and so what? Please.

It's quite irritating to see people try to tell a victim how to react. Keep the maturity, ideal acting and right thing to one side. If she was slapped, anyhow she reacts is ideal and is the right thing to do. It's that simple, you don't see someone get attacked and then give the person attacked, rules and guidelines on how to react. You just try your best to handle the fallout

Furthermore, the purpose of the slap is to cause harm. What else? The husband in the equation will DEFINITELY also handle the situation, get her to apologise and prevent reoccurrence, after I have slapped her back if I so wish to do so, MIL can be slapped back and can also be told to apologize. The 2 are not mutually exclusive events.
After all if MIL knows that not only will she be slapped back if she tries any nonsense but she will also be handled and told to apologize, she will think long and hard before doing any rubbish next time.

And PS,
MIL can shove her respect up her ass. The moment i get slapped, I lose all respect for MIL so therefore I also lose all interest in whether or not I have or will have her respect in future. MIL's problem will be how to get my respect back, not me caring about how to get hers. Afterall, for her to raise her hands to slap me shows she has no respect for me.

WizKid what about your kids?

I love her first question, why are some freaks always imagining violent conflicts like this between wife and mother, why?
I wonder if some of them get off on women fighting or having violent conflicts with each other.

Some freaks really hate women, why marry or think of marrying or dating women in the first place? your wife is assaulted by your mother, you don't defend her or do anything. yet don't want her to defend herself, if she tries it she will be beaten and thrown out. And fools are rushing to like and support such a stupid comment, SMH. After she is assaulted she should meekly accept the assault or face the risk of another assault. And you fools really expect women to accept this or at the very least have wet dreams about women accepting this kind of disrespectful behavior. SMDH, Such hate for women.

Some (or most) Men need to start marrying themselves and leave women alone, there is no absolutely reason to marry from a gender and to marry someone you obviously have no respect, regard, love or value for. Nope, no reason at all to even date a woman. Such Men need to be gay. Leave women TF alone.

Any body that throws hands should be ready for whatever comes next. You don't see someone hit and dare tell the person hit not to hit back because of stupid reasons like she is my mother or she is old. Nah. If you can dish or out, then you are very well prepared to receive it.

MissRaine69:
So in a nutshell your mother can cross boundaries and hit someone but if she retaliates then she is the one at fault? My own mother does not slap me we converse like adults and if I have erred I make amends but your mother thinks she can slap me and all will be well?
Right this is what I will do
I will knock you and your mother out......knock both out cold! Whatever happens after so be it!

shizzle1:
Ooh! Sorry..

Misogynists already clarifies that (since you mentioned it) cos not all men are misogynists, so you actually correct....My bad

It's all good

Magnifik18:
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For my gender, you'll have to come closer so I can ;

You can whisper it here.
Don't worry,
no one will hear you, (apart from me of course)

shizzle1:
Sensible comment
....but please next time use 'some men', cos not all men think like idiots. Just like some girls here blaming Binta but I can't because of that say girls are stupid, selfish, idiots, wicked etc Cos I know Daeylar doesn't think like them.

Tankiu don menshun'

Thanks,
I don't understand your point. I should use "some men" where?

Amberon:
Its a tragic situation. Having Nigerian mentality is the nearest thing to full blown insanity honestly. The Nigerian mentality which most of those taking sides with wizkid have, is a very toxic and radioactive one.

There is no hope for them anymore.

This is heavy @bold

CHoccolaTE:
Daeyler report this post for him calling you a fool. I hope he gets banned.
You accused another person of being sentimental and emotional but you have no problem with getting emotional and hurling insults at her.

Thanks dear

Bollinger:
Lol. He never wanted a baby but had unprotected sex. How old are you?

Lol
Exactly what I wanted to say (Except the age part. )
no condoms, no vasectomy. Yet he says that wizkid never wanted to have a baby lol, By wizkid's actions he was eagerly looking forward to a baby and he got one

Cc ontarioissauga

So wizkid is 28 almost 30 and he is still this foolish.
I thought this guy was 23, 24

Almost 30 and still acting a foolish hoe all around town.

Nonsense.
She should keep quiet when wizkid is being a deadbeat dad because others kept quiet. So she should condone something that is wrong because others condoned it Just imagine the rubbish you're spitting out.
Mtcheww

As long as that child is wizkid's child, she can continue to force him to take care of his kids. He shouldn't even have to be forced, but since he has decided to be useless she will deal with him that way.

Their responsibility which they are facing is making sure that their child's father wizkid cannot escape his responsibility as a father to their kids.

Look at how you had power to tell them to face their responsibilities yet you didn't have the strength to tell wizkid to face his responsibilities as a father.

Women like you with internalized misogyny. SMH

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skarlett:
Have you seen the receipts to know that he's not paying their fees or taking care of them? And if thats even the case, can't they pick up the tab for the kids they carried for nine months and stop making noise? there are many women with deadbeat baby daddies, even celebrities but they've picked themselves up and are taking care of their kids with minimal noise. These ones should stfu and face their responsibilities squarely!

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Many of the posters on this thread just extremely stupid misogynists

The woman clearly states that she wants wizkid to be a good father to his child.
Yet here are people hell bent on showing their misogyny by bashing any woman at any chance they get, are busy yarning dust talking about she wants money for herself. Foolishness.

See people attacking her for calling out wizkid on being a deadbeat father.

No wonder wizkid is so proud of his foolishness and continues to display it. He looks around and sees fellow fools like him who have no problem with his actions, then he also knows no matter how wrong he is for not taking care of his children Misogyny will make sure people ignore his wrong doings and look for a way to attack his babymamas while they make excuses for him.

"money hungry hoes".?
Truly wizkid is a Kid. SMH
What are binta and the other baby mama doing. It's time to deal with this shameless prostitute of a man. They should stop playing.

Wizkid is out here Fukcing and dropping babies left and right like it's an achievement. Baby daddy to 3 different women. Deadbeat dad to 2 of his kids. Yet still thinks he can call someone a hoe.

I thought Kemi agreed to leave Linda Alone?
This woman get wahala

Magnifik18:
Since time immemorial, nairaland is association of BROKE boys aka misogynists...

Most of the stories here about women are lies / wishful thinking.

Lol

My dear, enjoy your day cos for as long as we log in, this is what we will continue to see for entertainment.

Enjoy your day also
Are you male or female?

Absolute trash.


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Yambee:
And a bastard is born.

A bastard is defined as a child born outside wedlock. For those females that look up to Linda Ikeji as a role model, may you all go ahead and start having bastards as children.

For those responsible ladies out there,may you continue speaking against the likes of Linda Ikeji, who encourage Oloshoism,sleeping around, single motherhood,baby mamaish,and bastards bringer into the world.

Even Tonto Dikeh had a child inside wedlock.

This Linda Ikeji is a disgrace to all responsible women out there. And its official Linda, you have the most popular BASTARD in Nigeria now.

Truth is truth. Bastard is Bastard.

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Magnifik18:
I believe one small girl rubbed OP'z bald head, made away with his hard earned 3k and played him "the more you look, the less you see" hence his frustration ...

2mr, after they settle, he will change his mind & topic will be " all older women 22- 30 years are oloshos. avoid them like plaques"

Clueless bunch I tell you

LOL!!


They should fix their misogyny and joblessness so we'll stop seeing all these funny topics

They nothing but stupid misogynists. doing nothing but looking for reasons to insult women,
Today it is women who are 18-24. Tomorrow they will face older women and start calling then names.
Very confused misogynistic bunch who can't Look for something useful to do with their lives. Following woman matter left and right.
Shey na all these mods dey help their ministry, dey carry all these kind yeye threads come FP.

Magnifik18:
Confused.kom.

Today, it's don't date young girls, 2mr it will be don't date mature ladies... lolz

Some men are 100% certain that they are 0% sure of what they want.

These women are really angry with wizkid.

Wizkid, stop being a useless man, take care of your kids. This isn't about wizkid vs Binta, nor binta wanting him or his money, as misogynists here are trying to make it seem like.

This is about wizkid's refusing to take care of his child for whatever useless reason he deems is right.

There is no excuse for WizKid's Actions towards the child. He can be angry with binta all he wants. But he has to take responsibility. He created that child. He owes that child the world, irrespective of who the mother is.

Nairalanders need to stop applauding deadbeat dads

alterswerve:
No I haven't.

You didn't see the point in the question. Let me spell it out in pixels:

Money worked hard for is hardly spent anyhow;

and by anyhow, I mean, for only the show of it, and not for value.

You think money worked hard for, should be spent according to your standards so when money is spent out of your standards you then feel such money is spent anyhow so therefore such money cannot be one which was worked hard for.

My point is saying you can't say they didn't work hard for it because they spent it the way they did, people spend money on what they want, regardless of how hard or not they worked for the money.
you also said the way they spent money is not creating value for them. it's making them happy, making their friends happy, that's value for them. That showing off you call it, is what made them happy and that makes it valuable to them. Their money, their value.

Also, this is just a party, you nor the op knows what else those guys do with their money, they may just have decided to splurge and spend a bit since it was their friend's wedding yet you and op are using that to judge how they make their money and make all manner of assumptions. You're jumping the gun a bit. That's why I asked you if you follow all those people you mentioned around, who knows what they spend and how they behave when they go to a friend's wedding??

Yeah, they are not the standards, accepting your stance..

Now my thoughts.. I don't even get the purpose of your post. Please spell it out!

The purpose of my post was to tell you that you don't know how those men live their lives since you don't follow them on a daily basis around, so you can't really use them as examples.
Also. It was to tell you that those people aren't the standards so just because they spend their money in a certain way, it doesn't mean that people should look up to them to decide how to spend their money. (They can, but it is not compulsory)

Leave girls alone !!!!!!
How do you, (A boy, for that matter) know what a girl is thinking not to talk of knowing what all girls are thinking, and at what specific age.
Some boys will just sit down somewhere jobless, spend all their time thinking about women, then after doing that foolishly think they know everything about women and come and start spilling their bs as facts.
Leave women matter, Tell us about the hoe phase of men and how long it lasts.
I just hope you won't be among the guys that will jump up and shout not all men, when a girl says men are scum.
Mtcheww
misogynist.

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EggSauce:
Dating a girl 18 to 24 is purely wasting of time and emotions... because girls at that age bracket thinks everything revolves around their waist and beauty... they're in what I termed "Hoe Phase" at that point in their lives.. all they want and think off at that moment is having numerous boyfriends... kings save yourself the stress u can't change them at that phase ... they must pass through that phase.

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alterswerve:
One question..

Have you ever seen Bill Gates, Dangote, Jack Ma, Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, any child of the Rothschild family, any child of the Walmart family spray money like that?

Your question is ridiculous and has no point at all.
Have you gone with each of those men/women to every single occasion or event they have attended to know if they spray money or not? So why are you asking op that question?
And even if they haven't, and so what?
When did those guys become the standard? Who cares if they spray money or not?

maxxy:
@OP,

Legitimately earned money is usually not "sprayed" like that. There is a way that seems right to a man, but the end of it is destruction.

Stay true to your legitimate hustles.

And how do you know?

You and op sha.

People sprayed money, next thing op tagged them as wire wire boys.
You implied that their money is illegitimate money.

You and op, flying into conclusion.

Yet op is the one looking for legitimate source of income so he can act like them,

Then if he gets the income that enables him to act like those guys, I wonder how he will feel about being tagged as wire wire the same way he did those guys

I really want to have and spend money like those guys, what legit online stuff are you doing that is paying very well that you would advise that I learn and do?

While in Nigeria, I had sex with church ministers who would come in the open to preach against homosexuality as though it was the reason why Nigeria never had constant electricity.

Hmm
It's not a small thing.
I don't support it, if the wife is not happy about it. Don't be a part of the reason why another woman is in pain.
However, if what the man and the woman have is different from the typical marriage arrangement, and the wife of the man doesn't mind. Probably has her own arrangement (side diçk) and this is just how y'all role.
Carry on.

If you know She'll mind, stop causing another woman pain.

LadySarah:
The link pls
I want to save it for reference purposes .

At your service
https://www.nairaland.com/4042701/caught-husband-red-handed