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chaircover: To the garden centre

;Dhaa haaa haaaa LOL
Garden werin, CC don turn oyinbo finish.In this miserable weather.....pls dont tell us you probably shelved an owambe for that

Efemena_xy: Why na?

After all that grinding work, Mon - Fri, + sch runs + everyone dodging housework in the name of 'homework' or 'earning money'...

Ah! I'm sooooo loving my Saturdays! Oga and his sons are downstairs doing 'back-breaking' work, I and my princess are upstairs chilling! (well, she's taking a nap now)



Lol!

Dami, at what age did you start taking her to the saloon? I simply do five or six simple plaits (pig-tails), tie some colourful bubbles (ribbons) at the top and plastic clips at the bottom. Though I do this every morning except weekends jare.

She only sits and lets me do it as long as we're in front of the telly. At one and a half, her hair is long o! My pride and joy

Re: WAI...did you get to form orderly queues at post offices and bus stops?

I used to do that bubbles thing till she was like 3 but her hair is soooo long that the it gets rough so easily and my corn rows are not as neat as I would like them to be.Its not a saloon per se the lady does hair at home and she has kids her age.No drama no fusss she just sits still that I cant believe its the same child.

This single plaits I almost fainted when I went back to pick her.I told the lady its me you are punishing with this tiny thing (it was not that tiny) but I know my child and the drama she would pull when it's time to take out . She proved me right so never again, she will do single plaits when she is old enough to help in taking it out.

State of origin does not really apply for stuff I need to do here BUT I will claim MY state of origin which is Lagos.My kids will claim their father's state of origin.Origin means where I originated from and my origins are different from his.

Its like saying the ethnic origin of a caucasian woman changes cos she is married to a black man.She would always be caucasian.If there is however a clause which gives room for marriage ehen but if not, I dont think a woman should claim where her husband comes from.

Efemena_xy: Lol!

My dear, the 'terrible two's syndrome' even starts before they hit age 2!

Bottom line here is understanding your child. Be firm with them but loving and understand what they want and need.

(sigh) I just lurrrrrrve kids!

Tell me about it*sighs*.My 18 month old is already throwing strops cos he wants to brush his teeth and feed himself swallows and I wont let him.But who wants to be scraping dried okra for days .

That said lil kids try anyone's patience and distraction is the best remedy.

Hello all....just checking in.Finished my house work and taking my daughter to get her hair done.We just finished taking out braids and this will be the first and last time she is having single plaits, the girl was crying like I was slicing her with a knife .Corn rows all the way.Thank God I have one girl, I don't have strength for all this hair wahala jare

Glad to see thread reopened.

Efemena_xy: ^^ Nor mind CC.

Ever so disciplined. Na Buhari's pikin.

But Roy, dem never born you around that WAI time na! So how you take know?

Haan haan efe there was a refined WAI in the nineties, War Against Indiscipline and Corruption (WAIC) so even if we no see buhari we see that one.

r231: The Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) Thursday reopened cargo warehouses belonging to the Skyway Aviation Handling Company Limited (SAHCOL) and the Nigeria Aviation Handling Company (NAHCO) Plc.

The warehouses were shut nine days ago to enable them put in place facilities for Customs officials to inspect goods and cargoes imported into the country.

The NCS spokesperson at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport (MMIA), Ikeja, Lagos, Mrs Thelmas Williams, made the confirmation in a message sent to aviation correspondents.

Also, the spokesman of SAHCOL, Mr. Basil Agboarumi, and the Head, Corporate Communications, NAHCO, Mr. Sanya Onayoade, confirmed the development in another message.

“This is to confirm that the SAHCOL warehouse is now opened.
“All differences has been reconciled, and business has resumed at the import section of the warehouse.

“The outcome of this will lead to better services to all importers and exporters using the SAHCOL gateway,” Agboarumi said.

He added that the management of SAHCOL appreciated the understanding of their customers during the closure.

Onayoade said that his company, together with the Customs Area Command, had agreed on the execution of a Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) to guide the operation of all stakeholders in the cargo business.

THISDAY gathered that the reopening was a relief as the airport had become congested with uncleared imported cargoes due to the closure.

Thank God let me call my mum.She is always saying me that I am in the UK always finds out stuff before them in Naija.

yellowpawpaw: I claim that o!

Dami, is ur gal celebrating?
U didn't tell us!

R231 has entered the wrong motor today!
Una no c me o!
( Grabs my popcorn and seat)

No not today, its next thursday but this whole month has been declared Bebe's birthday month .Everything is my birthday, my party (in my mind am saying which party you are OYO.after u cut cake shikena I don't have strength ).

Good morning my neighbours

Happy birthday to Stillwater and YPP olowo ori (yeah yeah iv come again YPP it means the one who paid your bride price ).Many many more years in God's glory.

My bebe is a bit down this morning, she kept us (ok more her dad cos me I was so tired ) up all night.I dont know what it is with school and the girl,I guess cos in nursery they are all up in each other's faces so germs breed faster.Sha keeping her home today. I told her birthday girls dont fall ill o so feel better quickly.

It’s getting gloomier and colder small small*sighs*.I guess its time to start getting out the jumpers, boots and coats.My husband is always teasing me that I never gree that summer is over till october .

R231 has the nahco saga ended?My mum is being badly affected, she is just moaning each time I call her that this people want her to miss ileya sales .

Thank you for oldies BB and Bellong.Come I oga biola I can't remember you introducing yourself which kain gatecrashing be that?

thanks for the beautiful prayer.

Have a peace filled friday (the theme of the month in my church is Divine Peace) so I pray that the Peace of The Lord that surpasses all human understanding be with all of us and ours IJN.

r231: make sure you have your pillow ready for your back and if you have long legs...hmmmmm dont have a solution to that one yet

So true, back in my kukere days I was givenmoney for a virgin train ticket to manchester.One of my stingy koko friends convinced me that Megabus was waay cheaper so why waste money besides the coach station and Manchester Picadilly were not too far apart.

The savings was about 60 odd quid but all I can say is Never again .My back was not the same for days. Worst part was I could not even voice out to say I took the coach

Ended up being pennywise pound foolish cos I ended up paying the price of my return ticket for a one way trip back to London

bellong: @Damiso,

I hope you are teaching her Yoruba? You can add a flavour of french or spanish to make her multilingual

Yes we are.People are even shocked at the amount of yoruba she understands.This morning it was a full on yoruba tirade , Jo ma fi ejo pa mi mi o pa iya mi iya mi lo ma ri to o ma kin wa tim ba ti fi ejo pa o ni ma ri. Phew meaning Pls dont kill me with talk abeg I did not kill my mother with talk, its my mother you see that comes to visit, if I had killed her with talk you wont be seeing her. ; . The poor girl looked at me like whats she on about .But seriously that girl can ask questions. Very very inquisitive.

She says ekaro ma/sir to most black adults just to be cheeky.People just burst out laughing.And we bought her this Muzzy(Language DVD) in spanish cos she has a spanish classmate and also loves Dora.

Royal Roy: Damiso....lolllz....you and proverbs!!!
Interesting!!

Abi you be Baba Oyo Sister ni?

Ehen you think so .And I think my written yoruba is awful. .......Baba Oyo is in a different league o, me I speak lagos yoruba not ijinle

Dont mind me, these days I just like speaking yoruba (to think in the past some people actually thought I did not speak yoruba at all with me always blowing fone english ).I remember some of my coursemates used to call me ajebo cos if you spoke to me in yoruba I replied in English

I guess I miss home, I speak yoruba all the time now. This morning my daughter still said mummy can you say that in English please

I want to be remembered as that person who touched the life of people I met along the journey in a positive way.Not necessarily in a grandiose or large way but in little ways that might mean a big deal to the other.I also want to leave not just accomplishing here but in readiness for the hereafter.

I realised recently that I have been procrastinating by sayiing when I am rich I want to give back.No I dont have to be rich, I need to learn to give a little of myself (and am not talking just money)to all those I come across each day.Like Nashville said am I utilising my talents?Am I worrying about the right things? Am I blessing others? Or I am hogging onto the wrong things?

Like my signature says I believe life is not a sprint so I keep praying for the endurance and strength of character to last the whole race (however long or short it might be).

Debrief its nice to hear you will be ok.Thank God for that.I used to be typical naija who just 'prays' not to get sick.My GP would send me reminders for smear test, I wont even open il just bin it.My husband too was the same not cos he was binding illness bit just cos he just hates going to the doctors.But a family friend got diagnosed with a condition that was able to be treated cos it was caught early.Me and my husband have now realised that our kids need healthy parents so we both have had medicals this year.

We really need to change our mindset about illness.People who get ill did not necessarily not pray enough.It can happen to anyone.

Hello jidegirl, hope you are feeling much better.E-cuddles Sometimes all the flu needs is one or two days laid up in bed and you are good to go.

Thank God for the good news .My sister you seem like one of those people who others tend to turn to in times of crisis.Eku ise o ani fi iru san fun ara wa (payment wont be in kind for our non yoruba speaking peeps ).

Seems parties are sheleying left right and centre tomorow.Na Friday the 13th sha (oyinbos sef get superstitions).So touch wood all goes well(if you believe in superstitions)

YPP CC has done justice to your query, rightmove is very good as it brings up important info like schools, crime rate, health amenities etc.He can also check Zoopla.co.uk just to have a varied opinion.Houses in London are too expensive ojare so as CC said the igberikos (suburbs) give better value in terms of real estate etc.But naija people are big sha, them and russian oligarchs no dey do igberikos.
I know someone who just bought a flat in Battersea 900k cash down (no be dem say he is my husband family member and hubby helped with info).But if they are still anbe olorun like us suburbs are better.

Next week is my daughter's birthday. She will be 4 and every sentence is now punctuated with'my birthday'. .I cant believe where all the time has gone I still remember her naming ceremony like yesterday.*sighs*.Oh well,my baby is growing so I better deal with it.Am better than her father sha I don't think she will ever stop being a baby to him.

Chillisauce: Lunch time.



Bole, barbecue chicken and pepper sauce. I love it!

As stated in another thread, ;Dmy familia are plantain lovers so this idea is stolen for dinner.

Thank you chilli for the inspiration

Have you tried it in the grill or is it definitely better in the oven?

Hello everybody.... Its Wednesday so weekend is peeping in.

Congrats O Royal Roy, cracking my brain for one yoruba coronation greeting (you know yorubas have greeting for everything )will be back as soon as it pops up

It is well with your friends family IJN

As an aside CC and R231 hope that TEHN folake lady is doing ok, I just remembered her this morn as I was praying.

May the Good Lord heal all those who are in need of healing be it physical ,mental or psychological IJN.

jay bee: Meanie

I actually was not being mean you know.There was really was NOTHING I could do about it.Its a system thing and he bought the policy from a broker.If I was not at work, I wouldve told him to cancel the policy and shop around himself on price comparison sites. But the truth is you move from say Hertfordshire (area rating 12) to Manchester(area rating 99 the highest we had and that was due to joyriding and whiplash claims) or some parts of SE London in short London in general, from parking in a driveway or garage to road parking, your premium will drastically increase.Me being a fellow Nigerian could never have changed that.

Am sure if he spoke to an oyinbo colleague he won't have been dragging it .I even waived his Excess from £175 to £75.Make person no come koba me jo.One mistake, and we used to give auth code it all comes back on your head.

jidegirl12: That's a lot of criterion to consider .... Where you parked the car? Talk about different policies

Enjoy your jelenke lifestyle jare, you worked for it.

Underwriting is a very varied subject it just that sometimes it gets monotonous so that's why I wanna switch career ojere.I was just an analyst so I sef used to ask seniors the reason for some decisions eg A married person gets a discount as opposed to a single person.The rationale for the discount is that a married person with 2 cars in the household tend to drive the car less which in turn means lesser probability for a claim.

I remember one man who wanted to chop my head off cos his premium went up like £500 cos he got divorced and moved to a different area .As soon as he heard Dami (na naija) he started scoping like there was anything I could do.After he saw that there really was nothing I could except reduce his excess to £75, next thing was can I speak to your manager, I told him I dont have a manager, all analysts have underwriting authority so my senior go say same thing.Next thing I knew na yoruba o Awon omo ti won to ro pe british lawon yii, ti won ma ju ti oyinbo lo (all this children who think they are british their own is worse than oyinbo ).I just said is there anything else I can help you with and told him to speak to his broker. Maybe its me that told him to get a divorce or move from Area rating 27 to area rating 70something mtschew
Forgive my rant peeps...

jidegirl12:

I'm going home jare.. This flu is going around now..( weather change ) .. I have sore throat already. I'll go and drink pap and boiled eggs too.

Ewwww pap and boiled together iyanma.
I hate pap, associate it with illness cos I used to have stomach ulcers and that was the only thing I was allowed to have.

Pele I don dey dread the change cos my oga must have his yearly 'man flu' where he gets to be my 3rd baby for five days .

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Hello all, been extremely busy.Hope everyone has been ok.As for women drivers they are more cautious and generally safer but in some circuits, safe is not the same as good.I used to work in motor insurance underwriting and taking alot of other considerations into account, a 35 yr old woman would almost always pay a cheaper premium than a 35 yr old man.EU laws were about to change that before i left on mat leave ie gender neutral pricing but so many other UW factors like CC stated No claims bonus earned, points on license, type of car(having some kain optional extras pushes your premium up and some men having mid life crisis would decide at 45 to have rear and front spoilers ), postcode and some other things women would often still pay cheaper premiums.

The company I worked for were so risk averse that we would even not insure a 22 yr old male.It would be declined on some kain flimsy excuse except you want to pay £5, 000 premium on a car worth £1, 200

If you cant log in to NL for a few hours does that mean you were banned .What did I do naa?

Anyways good night good people of the fun room,absolutely knackered.But today will save me about 2 weeks of cooking.My husband had to ask are we having a party I don't know about .I made like 3 soups, stewed beans, moi moi, chicken stew,meat stew, boiled loads of meat and put them in freezer bags.All the accompaniments eg rice, swallows are not time consuming and can be done by my husband if I am very busy.
@Taryour safe delivery by His Grace and to all other expectant mothers. At the beggining of this year I had 6 people who are dear to me expecting and I was praying for them.5 had drama free relatively straightforward births the last is due anytime soon, so I claim that for you and her by His Grace.

Good night again peeps.

chaircover: I heard it will get warmer again next week . . . . Dont worry, you will be fine
My boss was wearing boots yesterday . . I said ha ha kilode

I saw people wearing Ugg boots in 29 degrees.

MMotimo: @ damiso and deols

Now you're making me feel bad for saying my age group with your "Ma". If we met, you would be sorely disappointed because ain't nothing Ma-ish about me . Most people that know me well know my age, it's not something I hide so it was just natural to say it on here

Yellowpawpaw, thank you for your kind words. I'm more active in a few other sections, I haven't been in this section in quite a while. The threads were getting wilder and I really didn't feel comfortable with the things I was seeing and hearing. Marriage is work but it is not LABOR.

My courtship/marriage was in the 90s when there were no buttttt pads, makeup was simple, husband and wife were not watching each other like cat and mouse, breassss-ts weren't falling out of clothes, "Aristo" was not in the vocab and being a Sugar daddy's gal was not something you flaunted as a way of life. For a man "to love and to hold" meant something. Times have changed tremendously and the experiences are different today, sometimes it's hard to relate.

The only thing I know to advice is simple - know whom you are marrying because prevention is better than cure. All the best to both the married and unmarried. May we get the spouse and marriage we deserve.

This thread is going too fast, I won't be able to keep up but will pop in once in a while. I don't think I saw any fighting, that is impressive indeed for a 15 page thread in this section, no hidden posts either. Good job, Royal!

@ biolabee, u try with that KSA. I leave you with a line from another KSA track:

"Ori ade lori mi, mo ti mo, mo ti mo, lati orun wa mo timo" (I came from heaven, born with a crown on my head, this I know)

Sorry ma Its just that my mum drilled it into me that I must respect my elders.Its a very hard habbit to break, my husband is always joking that I use ma/sir for everyone even people he suspects am older than. .Am just a razz yoruba girl. ; .Funny though that I have friends who are in that age range cos as I said I am not waaay younger (that's my husband age group) .Its just you talk (abi is it type ) with such wisdom, you CC and a couple of other people that I can't help using ma.

Hello people, happy saturday all.Mine is filled with cooking, promised someone efo elegusi so I have to get cracking on.Bobo is sleeping in with daddy I feel like pouring cold water on them cos now me I am awake.

My baby is teething and we just managed to get him to sleep after he has been crying and being clingy and cranky.Now I just feel like sleeping Its just my sleeping pattern has been messsed up by having kids if I sleep earlier than 11 for sure I will be up by 4.Oh well,its all good.

Hello people......

crystalballs: Naija Men do all and more than these with the wrong woman, not with their wives.

Things have fallen apart...he don tey.

I don't like generalising but this is true for SOME Naija men : .Sad but true

I remember in my job hunting days after NYSC, someone sent me to one big honcho in one of this new generation banks.Its job we went for na another thing he dey talk.Thank God I was not omo ojuorolari but the next thing was do you have a passport? I said yes he said Ok I can cut the week short next week lets go to SA for the weekend we leave on Thursday and come back on Sunday.This is someone who later told me (he became like a big bros after I refused to date him) that he does not have time to go on summer vacations with the family, so its just his wife and kids that travel, all his trips were solo with handbags am sure.He was always like my wahala is too much but me I used to tell him God is watching you.So sometimes this people can make time for side runs but not their wives.

Nice thread debrief.I kinda get Chilli's point, I guess you live in Abuja but Lagos is a very mad place to live in (I still love it though ).That said everything in life is about priorities and if you make something a priority you will definitely find time for it.

I thought there was something going on with me but I too kinda see going for functions as a chore these days, if we cant find a baby sitter the thought of running round to find my 18 month old under the table cos he is bored just turns us off.Sometimes my husband just says you go il stay home with Bobo (good excuse for him ).I used to be an owambe expert but these days id rather just go for a quiet dinner with hubby or go on the River Boat from Westminster to North Greenwich (my mum says o ti ronu bi oyinbo meaning you are beginning to think like oyinbo ).Even naija kids parties are a chore cos I don't know which kain 1 yr old birthday we are doing that we are taking aso ebi and starting at 4 pm to end at 2am .It definitely is not for the baby.I prefer oyinbo kids parties though by the time you drop the child it better to hang around cos 1 to 3 means 1 to 3 .

In Lagos, you can get an extended lunch like once a month(hard sha cos naija employers are just slave drivers) have a lunch date with your spouse,people do these things as boyfriend and girlfriend so why not your spouse?There is just too much traffic but you can organise trips at the weekend to places like whispering palms.For those who can afford it and have slightly older kids I think there are loads of other fun vacation spots to go on holiday than the Uk esp London.Short breaks to Obudu, Ghana, Gambia and so many other serene places.

Me and hubby watch football together (not applicable for most couples though as not all women like football), we like almost the same kind of programmes so we have our own time when the kids are in bed which is latest 8.30pm.I know I go on and on about it (in caribean tone) let dose chile go to bed early mon. .Its necessary.

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Ok let me add my own 2 kobo.
Not condoning the girl asking you for money, my belief is a girl SHOULD not ask her boyfriend for money, not saying gifts cant be given but it should not be on the basis of you are my boyfriend you must take care of me.I dont even believe in asking husbands for aso ebi money not to talk of boyfriend.As for sister, you want a 20 yr old who obviously has no source of income on your bridal train you pay for her outfit (my sister was my maid of honour and I paid for everthing she wore cos she no dey work).

That said you too dey over analyse sha.As ify pointed out, , when you love someone you build up the person.Yeah I agree that aso ebi bridal train bla bla is frivolous BUT have you tried talking to her on ways to make money? Her parents obviously are just managing to provide the Basics so she has to look for ways to make money for extras.Encourage her to look inwards, all this your critique is really not indicative of someone who truly loves her.Yeah you should look for someone who adds to you BUT love means giving and sacrifice sometimes.Its lil gestures (not aso ebi o so dont get me wrong) that shows how much you care.

MMotimo: @ OP

This is refreshingly different

My username is from a KSA track. I'm in the 35-40 age group, happing married with a couple of kids that make us proud. I'm not your typical Naija woman/wife/mother and we live a fairly simple life, emphasis is on the memories we create together and after God, it's my spouse and kids

People that know me would describe me as a li'l crazy, humorous, old school in many ways and take-no-nonsense type. I also happen to laugh a lot and always up for funny Yoruba comedies when I have time. Minds interest me, the deeper, the better.
I am no fashionista but have a full grasp of the concept of appropriate clothing and style that flatters though I only wear PJs when I'm at home with no guests . I believe your greatest fashion accessory is your body, it will show off style better than any amount of displayed flesh ever will.

P.S. here's a call to all to bring back the glory of the family section. So many need to know it's not all doom and gloom. A good marriage starts with courtship. Spouses that change 180 degrees after marriage are a tiny minority, the chances of a happy marriage remain high with adequate due diligence during courtship.

Good to see MMotimo, welcome ma love your posts.And for your info I love KSA too (and I am younger than you not too much though emi naa ma ti dagba niyen)

jidegirl12: Nothing dey happen but back to school back and forth again! I'm pooped!!

Nice to see you Dami.. Viv phew ..

Good job RR

I really cant say which I prefer, 6 weeks of trying to entertain a 4 yr old or school and activity run .Now madam says she wants to do ballet, thank God the nearest school I found said they only take from 5 .E ku ise jare

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r231: I am R231, Shegs or B.O.S.S (Built On Self Success) which ever one you are comfortable with lol

Born and bred somewhere but I am Yoruba and naija sha and from one bush in Ekiti

As an Ekiti boy, Pounded yam with Egusi on point for me with nice cold stout

I stay in UK but have to juggle back and forth between UK and naija as its not easy to manage business both ways

Single for some reason but blessed with a daughter mini me who is going to be 11yrs in couple of weeks time and she is taxing me heavily alrdy.....you don't even want to see her list of demands

Thats all!!

Oga Shegs pls how was R231 coined .And you have to give in to lil madam's demands or how else will you spend all the pounds you are raking in....

As an aside R231 is the only person I have met on NL in person.And he gave me a generous discount and superb customer service so am doing free advert (RR no vex ) if you ever need to send kusin sia from the Uk to naija pls patronise R231 .

Royal Roy: Welcome Mrs Damiso!!

Your contributions on family nairaland are appreciated!!

First born ladies to me are a blessing to most families!!
Most are responsible, loyal to the family & avhieve greater heights than a male first born!! (my opinion).

Wishing u a "cold free winter"!!!

Amen o although we know that aint gonna ever happen .Ecclesiastes says there is a time and season for everything so we wey enjoy summer make we brace up for winter .Not looking forward to it though and its not even the cold but the fact that everywhere is grey and depressing.On the bright side though my birthday and Christmas are in Winter so yay (these days though Christmas sef is becoming a chore )

Amen as well to the blessing bit.My prayer is not to blessed per se but for God to make me a blessing.

Royal roy you have a way with words sha, ehn those girls are in trouble Your toasting no go get part 2.You remind of one my friends in University.